ALIGN YOUR HEART AND MIND

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                  DEAR READERS, I SEEK YOUR SPECIAL ATTETION ON THIS TOPIC - IF YOU GET THIS RIGHT, A NUMBER OF OTHER THINGS WILL FALL IN PLACE. THIS IS KEY TO BEING HAPPY IN ALL SITUATIONS.

               WE LIVE WITH OUR FAMILY BUT SPEND MOST OF OUR TIME WITH COLLEAGUES/CUSTOMERS/FRIENDS - IN SHORT, OUR SOCIAL CIRCLE. WE ATTEMPT TO BE NICE TO THEM AND PUT ON A COAT TO LOOK GOOD, SMELL, GOOD, AND BEHAVE GOOD ALL THE TIME.

               FINALLY, WHEN WE ARE HOME, WE SUDDENLY BECOME DIFFERENT CREATURES. WE THINK THAT BECAUSE WE ARE HOME, WE CAN JUST BE OURSELVES - DO WHATEVER WE ARE HOME, WE CAN JUST BE OURSELVES, DO WHATEVER WE ARE HOME, WE CAN JUST BE OURSELVES - DO WHATEVER WE WANT - AND THAT IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO BECAUSE WE WANT TO UNWIND AND RELAX WITHOUT HAVING TO PLEASE ANYBODY.

              GET READY TO FACE SOME UNPLEASANT FACTS. WE WANT TO BE GOOD IN FRONT OF THE WORLD BY TELLING OURSELVES THAT WE ARE GOING OUT AND DOING ALL THESE THINGS TO EARN SOME MONEY, SOCIAL STATUS, AND PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY. THEN, WHEN WE COME BACK TO OUR FAMILY. WE THINK THAT WE ARE DONE BECAUSE WE HAVE ALREADY PROVIDED THE MONEY TO RUN THE HOUSE - WHAT AN IRONY!

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              YES, MONEY IS ONE OF THE THINGS A FAMILY NEEDS BUT MORE THAN THAT, THEY WANT US TO BE A PART OF THE FAMILY. THEY WANT US TO ENJOY THEIR COMPANY, THEY WANT US TO LISTEN TO THEIR STORIES, THEY WANT US TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR LIVES, THEY WANT OUR UNINTERUPTED TIME, AND SO ON. ALL THESE THINGS ARE REVEALED WHEN WE SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH THEM.

             YOU MAY WONDER HOW YOU CAN MANAGE TO DO THAT - YOU ONLY HAVE 24 HOURS A DAY, AND YOU SPEND A GOOD TWELVE TO FOURTEEN HOURS A DAY WORKING, INCLUDING COMMUTE TIME. GETTING READY AND SLEEPING TAKES AWAY NEARLY TEN HOURS - YOU ARE LEFT WITH TWO HOURS, WHAT CAN YOU DO IN THOSE TWO HOURS, NOT COUNTING THE ENDLESS INCOMING CALLS DURING THAT TIME?

           THIS IS THE REASON WHY YOUR HEART AND MIND SHOULD BE ALINGNED - ONCE THE GAP IS REDUCED BETWWEN YOUR WORK AND HOME PERSONALLITY, YOU WILL BE FREED OF HAVING TO WEAR AN EXTRA COAT AND HAVING TO REMIND YOURSELF TO BEHAVE IN A SPECIFIC FASHION AT EITHER WORK OR HOME.

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            ONCE YOU ARE ENJOYING YOUR WORK AND ARE TRUE TO YOURSELF, YOU WILL NOT BE STRESSED OUT. YOU WILL BE HAPPY WHEN YOU ARE AT WORK AND WHEN YOU ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY. ONCE YOU REALISE THAT FAMILY IS AN INTEGRAL PART OF YOUR BEING, YOU WILL NOT HAVE TO FIND TIME FOR IT, IT WILL AUTOMATICALLY BECOME A PART OF YOUR ROUTINE.

          THE WAY YOU PLAN YOUR WORK AND FAMILY AFFAIRS WILL BECOME ROUTINE, AND BRINGO! YOU WILL NOT HAVE TO WEAR TWO DIFFERENT CAPS. ENSURE YOUR LIFE IS AN OPEN BOOK - KEEP NO SECRETS AND MAINTAIN AS MUCH TRANSPERENCY AS YOU CAN IN WORK AND AT HOME - THE LESSER THE BAGGAGE OF SECRECY, THE HIGHER THE PIE OF HAPPINESS. CONSTANTLY REMIND YOURSELF OF THIS MANTRA.

                                          

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                        👀  REDUCE EXTERNAL COATING AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE  👀 

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               I KNOW SOME OF YOU HAVE ALREADY GUESSED WHAT IS COMING, HAVEN'T YOU? I DO NOT KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT I MUST HAVE SPENT ABOUT TWENTY OLD YEARS DONNING A COAT. IT TOOK ME TEN YEARS OF READING, ASSOCIATING WITH SOME HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE, AND LEARNING ABOUT MY OWN SELF TO REACH MY CURRENT STATE OF MIND.

               QUESTIONS SUCH AS WHO AM I? WERE ALSO INCREDIBLY HELPFUL. EARLIEAR, THEY SOUNDED PHILOSOPHICAL TO ME. ONLY LATER, I REALISED HOW IMPORTANT THEY ARE. INFACT, EVERY CHOICE WE MAKE IT DIRECTLY LINKED TO THESE  POWERFUL QUESTIONS OF WHO AM I? WHAT DO I WANT? AND IS IT IMPORTANT TO ME?

             I BECAME AND ENGINEER TO EARN MONEY - RELATIVELY MORE MONEY THAN POSSIBLE IN OTHER JOBS THAT I COULD HAVE DONE. MEDINCINE WAS A PROFESSION, WHICH FOR SOME REASON, I WAS SURE MY PARENTS WOULD NOT BE IN A POSITION TO AFFORD - I MYSELF HAD DECIDED THAT MY PARENTS COULDN'T AFFORT IT.

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               STRANGELY, BUSINESS DID NOT OCCUR TO ME, AT LEAST IN THE INITIAL PHASE, AS A VIABEL OPTION. LIKE MANY OF YOU, I HAD TO START EARNING SOON AS MY FATHER WAS RETIRING, AND I WOULD HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY FAMILY SOONER THAN EXPECTED. THIS WAS ALL SELF-IMPOSED - I DO NOT REMEMBER MY FATHER TELLING ME THAT I NEEDED TO START EARNING SOON AT ANY POINT. ANYWAY I STARTED EARNING AND BEGAN LEARNING CORPORATE LESSONS.

             I SPENT MY INITIAL YEARS HOPPING FROM ONE JOB TO ANOTHER, FIGURING OUT WHAT I COULD DO WELL. SOMEWHERE ALONG THE LINE, I FELT WAS GOOD AT SELLING HIGH - END PRODUCTS OR SOLUTIONS WHICH NEEDS TECHNICAL SKILLS AND COMMERCIAL ACUMEN. I STARTED WITH SMALLER COMPANIES, LEARNT THE TRICKS OF THE TRADE QUICKLY, AND WAS SOON REAY TO MOVE ON TO BIGGER ROLES IN THE CORPORATE WORLD.

            ONCE I ENTERED BIGGER COMPANIES, I SAW THAT I WOULD HAVE TO DEAL WITH MANY PEOPLE AND AN INTRICATE MATRIX REPORTING SYSTEM. VERY SINCERE AND HUMBLE BY HERE, I QUICKLY UNDERSTOOD THAT TO SURVIVE IN THIS COMPLEX CORPORATE WORLD. I NEEDED TO BE NICE TO PEOPLE AND BE IN THEIR GOOD BOOKS. I STARTED PUTTING ON A COAT TO BECOME A LIKEABLE PERSON TO EVERYBODY AROUND ME.

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          THIS WAS ALL FINE - THE ONLY DRAWBACK WAS THAT I WAS NOT EXPRESSING MY NATURAL  PERNALITY AT ALL TIMES. I SOON BECAME EXHAUSED BECAUSE IT WAS NOT A TEMPORARY, COAT AS MOST FOR THE ORGANISATIONS I WAS SERVING. IN THIS PHASE OF MY LIFE, I MUST HAVE SPENT MORE EVENINGS WITH MY CUSTOMERS THAN  MY FAMILY.

           ALL MY EXCITEMENT WITH MY JOB TAPTERED DOWN ONCE I REALISED THAT I WAS BEING DRAWN INTO A SITUATION THAT I HAD NEVER WISHED FOR. I AM A VERY SIMPLE PERSON AT HEART, AND I LIKE TO ENSURE THAT MY SURROUNDINGS ARE ALSO SIMPLE. HOWEVER, I HAD ENDED UP COMPLICATING EVERYTHING AND THAT TOO, WITH MANY COMPLICATED PEOPLE.

          I WAS COMPLETELY ENVELOPED WITHIN A ZONE OF NO RETURN, AND I COULD NOT THINK ABOUT LIFE BEYOND MY WORK. SOON I DEVELOPED A STRONG FEELING THAT IN ORDER TO MAINTAIN MY CURRENT LIFESTYLE, I WOULD HAVE TO KEEP WORKING IN THIS MANNER UNTIL I RETIRE - CAN YOU IMAGINE MY PLIGHT?

                     I WANTED TIME FOR MYSELF, TIME TO SPEND WITH MY FAMILY, PEACE OF MIND, AND SIMPLE WORK WITH SIMPLE PEOPLE - I SOON DECLARED TO MYSELF THAT THIS WOULD NOT HAPPEN UNTIL MY RETIREMENT! THIS HAPPENDED AROUND THE TIME I WAS THIRTY - FIVE OR SO, AND I WAS SO EXHAUSED THAT I WANTED TO RETIRE WHEN  I TURNED FORTY SO I COULD HAVE ALL THE TIME AND PEACE I NEEDED.

                I BEGAN LOOKING FOR OTHER OPPORTUNITIES, AND I CAME ACROSS  THE NETWORK MARKETING BUSINESS. TO BE HONEST., I DID NOT LIKE ANYTHING ABOUT IT IN THE BEGINNING. HOWEVER, I MET SOME GOOD PEOPLE WHO REASSURED ME THAT I COULD ACCOMPLISH MY DREAMS IF I FOLLOWED THE PATH SYSTEM SUGGESTED. THANKS TO MY SINCERITY, I FOLLOWED EXACTLY WHAT THEY ASKED ME TOO, AND GUESS WHAT - I HAD ANOTHER JOB BURDENED ON MY SHOULDERS.

              I WAS ALREADY TOO BUSY, AND ON TOP OF IT, I HAD TO NURTURE THIS NEW BOBY. ANYWAY WITHOUT ANY COMPLAINTS, I MANAGED BOTH "JOBS" WITHOUT LETTING EITHER OF THEM SUFFER. INFACT, NOBODY SUFFERED EXCEPT ME. I WAS COMPLETELY OUR OF TOUCH WITH MYSELF. AFTER INVESTING SEVERAL YEARS INTO THESE JOBS, I REALISED I COULD NOT CARRY ON WITH BOTH OF THEM. HOWEVER, I WAS STILL NOT IN A POSITION TO LEAVE MY PREVIOUS JOB AND MAINTAIN MY LIFESTYLE ON NETWORKING ALONE.

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              I WAS NOW THICKLY COVERD WITH THE COAT OF KEEPING SO MANY PEOPLE HAPPY, I WAS MISERABLES. ENOUGH WAS ENOUGH - I FINALLY REALISED THAT I COULD HELP MYSELF BE HAPPY AND THAT I COULD BE HAPPY IN THE FUTURE ONLY IF I KNEW HOW TO BE HAPPY NOW.

             THANKS TO SOME GREAT BOOKS THAT I READ AND LEARNT FROM DURING MY PHASE IN BUSINESS NETWORKING, AND OF COURSE, THANKS TO MY INCREDIBLE WIFE WHO INSISTED THAT IF WAS MY STATE OF MIND THAT NEEDED FIXING AND NOTHING ELSE, I WAS ABLE RECOVER MY HAPPINESS.

              WHAT WAS VERY NATURAL TO HER TOOK ME MORE THAN TEN YEARS AND READING NUMEROUS BOOKS TO UNDERSTAND. I ALSO ATTENDED A CAMP FOR TEN DAYS AND PRACTIES MEDITATION TO CALM MYSELF. I EVENTUALLY LEARNT WHAT WAS IMPORTANT TO ME, WHAT COULD GIVE ME LASTING HAPPINESS, HOW TO BE AT PEACE WITH MYSELF, AND HERE I AM - WRITING A BOOK TITLED IN PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS.

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