ANYBODY USEING YOU

                             ARE YOU FEEL USED AND MANIPULATE ?

         WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE WHO WHAT TO USE ME, MANIPULATE OR CONTROL ME? AM I TO SURRENDER TO THEM?

                  THEY ARE CUT OFF FROM BEING, SO THEY UNCONSCIOUSLY ATTEMPT TO GET ENERGY AND POWER FROM YOU. IT IS TRUE THAT ONLY AND UNCONSCIOUS PERSON WILL TRY TO USE OR MANIPULATE OTHERS, BUT IT IS EQUALLY TRUE THAT ONLY AN UNCONSCIOUS PERSON CAN BE USED AND MANIPULATED. IF YOU RESIST OR FIGHT UNCONSCIOUS BEHAVIOUR IN OTHERS, YOU BECOME UNCONSCIOUS YOURSELF. BUT SURRENDER DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE USED BY UNCONSCIOUS PEOPLE. NOT AT ALL. IT IS PERFECTLY POSSIBLE TO SAY, "NO" FIRMLY AND CLEARLY TO A PERSON OR TO WALK AWAY FROM A SITUATION AND BE IN A STATE OF COMPLETE INNER NORRESISTANCE AT THE SAME TIME. WHEN YOU SAY "NO" TO A PERSON OR A SITUATION, LET IT COME NOT FROM REACTION BUT FROM INSIGHT, FROM ACLEAR REALIZATION OF WHAT IS RIGHTOR NOT RIGHT FOR YOU AT THAT MOMENT. LET IT BE A NONREACTIVE "NO" A HIGH-QUALITY, "NO" A "NO" THAT IS FREE OF ALL NEGATIVITY AND SO CREATES NO FURTHER SUFFERING.

             I AM IN A SITUATION AT WORK THAT IS UNPLEASANT. I HAVE TRIED TO SURRENDER TO IT, BUT I FIND IT IMPOSSIBLE. A LOT OF RESISTENCE KEEPS COMING UP.

         IF YOU CANNOT SURRENDER, TAKE IMMEDIATELY, SPEAK UP OR DO SOMETHING TO BRING ABOUT A CHANGE IN THE SITUATION- OR REMOVE YOURSELF FORM IT. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR  YOUR LIFE. DO NOT POLLUTE YOUR BEATIFUL, RADIANT INNER BEING NOR THE EARTH WITH NEGATIVITY. DO NOT GIVE UNHAPPINESS IN ANY FORM WHATSOVER A DWELLING PLACE INSIDE YOU. 

         IF YOU CANNOT TAKE ACTION, FOR EXAMPLE OF YOU ARE IN PRISON , THEN YOU HAVE TWO CHOICES LEFT, RESISTANCE OR SURRENDER. BONDAGE OR INNER FREEDOM FROM EXTERNAL CONDITIONS. SUFFERING OR INNER PEACE.

      IS NON RESISTANCE ALSO TO BE PRACTICED IN THE EXTERNAL CONDUCT OF OUR LIVES, SUCH AS NONRESISTANCE TO VIOLENCE, OR IS IT SOMETHING THAT JUST CONVECERNS OUR INNER LIFE?

       YOU ONLY NEED TO BE CONCERNED WITH THE INNER ASPECT. THAT IS PRIMARY OF COURSE, THAT WILL ALSO TRANSFORM THE CONDUCT OF YOUR OUTER LIFE, YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, AND SO ON.

        YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE CHANGED PROFOUNDLY BY SURRENFDER. IF YOU CAN NEVER ACCEPT WHAT IS, BY IMPLICATION YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ACCEPT ANYBODY THE WAY THEY ARE. YOU WILL JUDGE, CRITICIZE, LABEL, REJECT, OR ATTEMPT TO CHANGE PEOPLE. FURTHERMORE, IF YOU CONTINUOULSY MAKE THE NOW INTO A MEANS TO AN END IN THE FUTURE, YOU WILL ALSO MAKE EVERY PERSON YOU ENCOUNDER OR RELATE WITH INTO A MEANS TO AN END. THE RELATIONSHIP-THE HUMAN BEING-IS THEN OF SECONDARY IMPORTANCE TO YOU, OR OF NO IMPORTANCE TO  YOU, OR OF NO IMPORTANCE AT ALL. WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP IS PRIMARY-BE IT MATERIAL GAIN, A SENSE OF POWER, PHYSICAL PLEASURE, OR SOME FORM OF EGO GRATIFICATION.

             LET ME ILLUSTRATE HOW SURRENDER CAN WORK IN RELATIONSHIPS. WHEN YOU BECOME INVOLVED IN AN ARGUMENT OR SOME CONFLICT SITUATION, PERHAPS WITH A PARTNER OR SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU, START BY OBSERVING HOW DEFENSIVE YOU BECOME AS YOUR OWN POSITION IS ATTACKED, OR FEEL THE FORCE OF YOUR OWN AGGRESSION AS YOU ATTACK THE OTHER PERSON'S POSITION. 

           OBSERVE THE ATTACHEMENT TO YOUR VIEWS AND OPINIONS. FEEL THE MENTAL-EMOTIONAL ENERGY BEHIND YOUR NEED TO BE RIGHT AND MAKE THE OTHER PERSON WRONG. THAT'S THE ENERGY OF THE EGOIC MIND. YOU MAKE IT CONSCIOUS BY ACKNOWLEDGING IT, BY FEELING IT AS FULLY AS POSSIBLE. THEN ONE DAY, IN THE MIDDLE OF AN ARGUMENT, YOU WILL SUDDENLY REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE A CHOICE,AND YOU MAY DECIDE TO DROP YOUR OWN REACTION-JUST TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS. YOU SURRENDER. I DON'T MEAN DROPPING THE REACTION JUST VERBALLY BY SAYING "OKAY" YOU ARE RIGHT, WITH A LOOK ON YOUR FACE THAT SAYS, "I AM ABOVE ALL THIS CHILDISH UNCONSCIOUSNESS". THAT'S JUST DISPLACING THE RESISTANCE TO ANOTHER LEVEL, WITH THE EGOIC MIND STILL IN CHARGE, CLAIMING SUPERIORITY. I AM SPEAKING OF LETTING GO OF THE ENTIRE MENTAL-EMOTIONAL ENERGY FIELD INSIDE YOU THAT WAS FIGHTING FOR POWER.

           THE EGO IS CUNNING, SO YOU HAVE TO BE VERY ALERT, VERY PRESENT, AND TOTALLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF TO SEE WHETHER YOU HAVE TRULY RELINQUISHED YOUR IDENTIFICATION WITH A MENTAL POSITION AND SO FREED YOURSELF FROM YOUR MIND, IF YOU SUDDENLY FEEL VERY LIGHT, CLEAR AND DEEPLY AT PEACE, THAT IS AN UNMISTAKABLE SIGN THAT YOU HAVE TRULY SURRENDERED. THEN OBSERVE WHAT HAPPENS TO THE OTHER PERSON'S MENTAL POSITION AS YOU NO LONGER ENERGIZED IT THROUGH RESISTENCE. WHEN IDENTIFICATION WITH MENTAL POSITION IS OUT OF THE WAY, TRUE COMMUNICATION BEGINS.