GRATEFUL AND GRATITUDE
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GRATITUDE IS A BEAUTIFUL WORD. GRATITUDE IS A FEELING. IT IMPROVES OUR PERSONALITY AND BUILDS CHARACTER. GRATITUDE DEVELOPS OUT OF HUMILITY. IT IS A FEELING OF THANKFULNESS TOWARDS OTHERS. IT IS CONVEYED THROUGH OUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS OTHERS AND REFLECTS IN OUR BEHAVIOR. GRATITUDE DOES NOT MEAN RECIPROCATING GOOD DEEDS GRATITUDE IS NOT GIVE AND TAKE. KINDNESS, UNDERSTANDING AND PATIENCE CANNOT BE REPAID. WHAT DOES GRATITUDE TEACH US? IT TEACHES US THE ART OF COOPERATION AND UNDERSTANDING. GRATITUDE MUST BE SINCERE. A SIMPLE THAN YOU CAN BE GRACIOUS. MANY TIMES WE FORGET TO BE THANKFUL TO THE PEOPLE CLOSEST TO US, SUCH AS OUR SPOUSE, OUR RELATIVES, OUR FRIENDS. GRATITUDE WOULD RANK AMONG THE TOP QUALITIES THAT FORM THE CHARACTER AND PERSONALITY OF AN INDIVIDUAL WITH INTREGRITY. EGO STANDS IN THE WAY OF SHOWING GRATITUDE. A GRACIOUS ATTITUDE CHANGES OUR OUTLOOK IN LIFE. WITH GRATITUDE AND HUMALITY, RIGHT ACTIONS COME NATURALLY.
GRATITUDE OUGHT TO BE A WAY OF LIFE, SOMETHING THAT WE CANNOT GIVE ENOUGH OF. IT CAN MEAN A SMILE, OR A THANK YOU, OR GESTURE OF APPRECIATION.
THINK OF YOUR MOST PRECIOUS POSSESSIONS. WHAT MAKES THEM SPECIAL? IN MOST CASES, THE GIFT IS LESS SIGNIFICANT THAN THE GIVER. SELDOM ARE WE GRATEFUL FOR THE THINGS WE ALREADY POSSESS.
THINK BACK AND TRY TO RECALL THE PEOPLE WHO HAD A POSITIVE INFLUENCE ON YOUR LIFE. YOUR PARENTS, TEACHERS, ANYONE WHO SPENT EXTRA TIME TO HELP YOU. PERHAPS IT APPEARS THAT THEY JUST DID THEIR JOB. NOT REALLY. THEY WILLINGLY SACRIFICED THEIR TIME, EFFORT, MONEY AND MANY OTHER THINGS FOR YOU. THEY DID IT OUT OF LOVE AND NOT FOR YOUR THANKFULNESS. AT SOME POINT, A PERSON REALIZE THE EFFORT THAT WENT IN TO HELP THEM SHAPE THEIR FUTURE. PERHAPS IT IS NOT TOO LATE TO THANK THEM.
THE STORYOF CHRIST
AS THE STORY GOES, CHRIST HEALED TEN LEPERS AND WHEN HE TURNED BACK THEY WERE ALL GONE EXCEPT ONE WHO HAD THE COURTESY TO THANK HIM. CHRIST SAID, I DIDN'T DO A THING, WHAT IS THE MORAL OF THE STORY?
1. HUMAN BEINGS ARE UNGRATEFUL.
2. A GRATEFUL PERSON IS THE EXCEPTIONAL PERSON.
3. CHRIST LITERALLY GAVE THEM A NEW LIFE AND SAID, I DIDN'T DO A THING.
4. LIKE CHRIST WE SHOULD NOT EXPECT GRATITUDE.
HOW DOES THIS TRANSLATE IN OUR BAHAVIOR AND PERSONALITY? WE FEED OR GIVE SHELTER TO SOMEONE FOR A FEW DAYS AND SAY, LOOK WHAT I DID FOR THE OTHER PERSON, IT IS NOT UNCOMMON TO HEAR PEOPLE SAYING, IF IT WASN'T FOR ME, THIS PERSON WOULD BE ON THE STREET, WHAT AN EGO!
BY THE WAY
WHEN PEOPLE ASK OTHERS TO DO SOMETHING FOR THEM BY USING THE PHRASE, BY THE WAY, CAN YOU DO THIS FOR ME? THEY UNDERMINE THE IMPORTANCE OF DOING OR NOT DOING. I HAVE FOUND THAT IF WE HAVE DO TO ANYTHING FOR ANYONE IT IS NEVER BY THE WAY, IT IS ALWAYS OUT OF THE WAY.
THIS DOES NOT AMOUNT TO DOING FAVORS FROM THE DOER'S PERSCEPTIVE. IF ONE DOESN'T DO THINGS THAT CAN BE DONE TO HELP ANOTHER PERSON, THEN IT SAD. BUT I AM CONVINCED THAT THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS BY THE WAY, IT IS ALWAYS OUT OF THE WAY, AND IT IS WORTH IT.
STEPS TO OPENING A DISCUSSION
1. BE OPEN-MINDED.
2. DON'T BE DRAGGED INTO AN ARGUMENT.
3. DON'T INTERRUPT.
4. LISTEN TO THE OTHER PERSON'S POINT OF VIEW BEFORE GIVING YOUR OWN.
5. ASK QUESTIONS TO CLARIFY. THAT WILL ALSO SET THE OTHER PERSON THINKING.
6. DON'T EXAGGERATE.
7. BE THUSIASTIC IN CONVINCING, NOT FORCEFUL.
8. BE WILLING TO YIELD.
9. BE FLEXIBLE ON PETTY THINGS BUT NOT ON PRINCIPLES.
10. DON'T MAKE IT A PRESTIGE ISSUE.
11. GIVE YOUR OPPONENT A GRACEFUL WAY TO WITHDRAW WITHOUT HURTING HIS PRIDE. REJECTION CAN BE HURTFUL.
12. USE SOFT WORDS BUT HARD ARGUMENTS RATHER THAN HARD WORDS AND SOFT ARGUMENTS.
IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO DEFEAT AN IGNORANT MAN IN AN ARGUMENT. HIS STRONG AND BITTE WORDS ONLY WORDS ONLY INDICATE A WEAK CAUSE.
AN OPEN EAR IS THE ONLY BELIEVABLE SIGN OF AN OPEN HEART.
❤ IN ORDER TO BE A GOOD LISTENER:❤
❤ ENCOURAGE THE SPEAKER TO TALK.
❤ ASK QUESTIONS. IT SHOWS INTEREST.
❤ DON'T INTERRUPT.
❤ DON'T CHANGE THE TOPIC.
❤ SHOW UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECT.
❤ PAY ATTENTION, CONCENTRATE.
❤ AVOID DISTRACTIONS.
❤ SHOW EMPATHY.
❤ BE OPEN-MINDED. DON'T LET PRECONCEIVED IDEAS AND PREJUDICES PREVENT YOU FROM LISTENING.
❤ CONCENTRATE ON THE MESSAGES AND NOT ON THE DELIVERY.
❤ RECOGNIZE THE NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION, SUCH AS FACIAL EXPRESSIONS, EYE CONTACT, ETC. THEY MIGHT BE COMMUNICATING A DIFFERENT MESSAGE FROM THE VERBAL.
❤ LISTEN TO FEELINGS AND NOT JUST WORDS.
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