SPOUSE, SIBLINGS AND FRIENDS

                                            WHERE IS IN OUR HAPPINESS

                                                               SPOUSE

                  WHILE WE ALL ARE INDIVIDUAL SOULS, ONCE YOU ARE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIED, YOUR SPOUSE HOLDS THE HIGHEST PRIORITY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP LIST-IT WILL CLASH WITH YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS OCCASIONALLY BUT THEIR IS NOT THE POINT. THE IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER HERE IS THAT YOU CAN MAKE YOUR  LIE A HEAVEN BY CULTIVATING A RICH AND STRONG RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

              THERE COULD BE AN ENTIRE BOOK ON THIS SUBJECT BUT FOR NOW, LET US TOUCH UPON CERTAIN CRITICAL ELEMENTS. I URGE YOU TO CHECK YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SPOUSE RIGHT NOW BY ASKING THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS.

            1. DO YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE FEEL HAPPY WHEN YOU ARE TOGETHER?

            2. WHEN DID YOU LASY SAY 'I LOVE YOU' TO YOUR SPOUSE?

            3. DO YOU MISS EACH OTHER WHEN YOU ARE NOT TOGETHER?

            4. ARE YOU CONSTANTLY LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING AN EXCLUSIVE DAY WITH EATH OTHER?

            5. IS YOUR SPOUSE ON YOUR MIND WHEN YOU COMMIT TIME TO SOMEONE ELSE, WHICH CLASHES WITH YOUR BEING TOGETHER?

           6. ARE YOU CONSCIOUS OF THE WAY YOU TREAT YOUR SPOUSE IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS OR ANYBODY ELSE?

          7. DO YOU STILL MAKE YOUR SPOUSE FEEL SPECIAL EVERY NOW AND THEM?

          8. IF YOU, LIKE ME, DO NOT KNOW WHAT GIFT TO PICK, DO YOU AT LEAST DO SOMETHING THAT PLEASES YOUR SPOUSE LIKE TEXTING HER A FEW WORDS WHEN YOU ARE AWAY OR WHISPERING THOSE ENCOURAGING WORDS SHE NEES FROM NO ONE IN THE WORLD EXCEPT YOU?

              THE LIST CAN GO ON BUT I KNOW YOU MUST HAVE GO THE POINT BY NOW.

              MY WIFE MEANS THE WORLD TO ME-NO MATTER HOW BUSY OR OCCUPIED I MIGHT BE, I CONSTANTLY LOOK FORWARD TO GETTING BACK TO MY NEST WITH HER. HER FEW ENCOURAGING WORDS CAN PUMP ME UP, AND I NEED NOTHING ELSE. SHE KNOWS EXACTLY WHEN TO TAP ME, WHEN TO HUG ME, WHEN TO GIVE ME SPACE, AND WHEN TO BECOME MY FRIEND/PHILOSOPHER/GUIDE. SHE IS THE EPITOME OF BEING NON-JUDGEMENTAL OF ME.

             IN THIS CURRENT PHASE OF MY LIFE. I SPEND MY WEEK ON WORK ASSIGNMENTS IN A NEIGHBOURING CITY AND RETURN TO MY HOME TOWN DURING THE WEEKEND OR HOLIDAYS. THIS PHASE HAS ADDED AN EXTRA DOSE OF ROMANCE IN OUR LIVES- IT'S LIKE WE ARE DATING EACH OTHER ALL OVER AGAIN. WE LOOK FORWARD TO OUR WEEKEND MEETINGS. SHE THINKS SO MUCH ABOUT MY WELLBEING AND TAKES CARE OF EVERY LITTLE THING THAT I MIGHT NEED DURING MY WEEKDAYS - BE IT FOOD, CLOTHES, OR OTHER THINGS I MIGHT NEED. APART FROM THIS, WE ALSO TALK SEVERAL TIMES A DAY.

             WHILE I HAVE SPECIFIED, 'SPOUSE' HERE, I AM AWARE THAT WE LIVE IN MODERN TIMES, AND SOME OF YOU WHO ARE MUCH YOUNGER MAY HAVE DIFFERENT TERM BASED ON YOUR RELATIONSHIPS. YOU CAN REPLACE THE TERM WITH BOY OR GIRL FRIEND, LIVE-IN-RELATIONSHIP PARTNER, WOULD-BE SPOUSE ETC. IN SHORT, I AM REFERRING TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE PERSON YOU INTEND TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH.

              THE ABOVE ARE CHECKPOINTS TO DETERMINE THE STATE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP AT THE MOMENT - I AM NOT GOING TO FIX YOUR RELATIONSHIP - IT IS ONLY FOR YOU TO KNOW WHERE YOU ARE CURRENTLY, CONSIDER IT CAREFULLY, AND MAKE ANY CHANGES/ CORRECTION IF REQUIRED.

                                                                        SIBLINGS

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                TEAM SPIRIT, SHARING, THE FEELING OF BELONGINGNESS, INNOCENCE, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, AND OTHER IMPORTANT ASPECTS OF LIFE ARE LEARNT IN ONE'S EARLY DAYS. I AM SURE THAT ALL OF US WHO ARE FORTUNATE ENOUGH TO HAVE SIBLINGS KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT. FOR THOSE WHO ARE ONLY CHILDREN, YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THESE ELEMENTS IN THE SIBLINGS OF YOUR NEAR AND DEAR ONES.

               I HAVE SEEN THIS IN MY OWN RELATIONSHIP WITH MY TWO SISTERS AND IN MY DAUGHTER AND SON. SIBLINGS PROVIDE UNSPOKEN AND UNCONDITIONAL MENTAL SHELTER TO EACH OTHER. THEY KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE HOUSEHOLD FROM A VERY TENDER AGE, AND EVEN THOUGH THEY FIGHT CONSTANTLY FOR LITTLE THINGS, THEY CLEVERLY TEAM UP WHEN IT COMES TO CERTAIN OTHER THINGS. FOR INSTANCE, PROTESTING TO THEIR PARENTS ABOUT SOMETHING THE DON'T AGREE UPON, WHEN AN OUTSIDER WRONGS ONE OF THEM, OR SIMPLY WHEN THEY SEE THAT THE SIBLING IS LEFT OUT OF SOMTHING.

              RIGHT FROM SHARING OR NOT SHARING LITTLE TOYS, EATING FROM EACH OTHER'S PLATE, KEEPING QUIET ABOUT SOME HOUSEHOLD SECRET THEY DISCOVERED, TO FIGURING OUT HOW TO CHANGE THEIR PARENT'S MOODS - THEY LEARN THESE AT A VERY EARLY AGE IN AN UNSTRUCTURED WAY. THIS EVENTUALLY MAKES THEM STRONGER AND MORE CARING INDIVIDUALS READY TO TAKE ON WORDLY FIGHTS LATER ON.

                 IF, FOR ANY REASON, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BROTHER AND / OR SISTER IS NOT GOOD AT THE MOMENT, WASTE NO FURTHER TIME AND JUST CATCH UP WITH HIM AND / OR HER RIGHT AWAY. I CAN ASSURE YOU THE BAGGAGE OF A SOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SIBLINGS IS HEAVIER THAN THE TEMPORARY DISCOMFORT YOU MIGHT FACE IN RECONNECTING. IT WILL DEFINITELY BE WORTH IT- DO NOT LOOK AND THINK BEYOND THIS POINT, JUST DO IT.

                ONCE DONE, YOU WILL FEEL TRANSFORMED, STRONG, AND READY TO FIGHT WORLDLY BATTLES WITH BETTER CONVICTION. FEEL FREE TO WRITE TO ME IF YOU HAVE DONE THIS AND BENEFIETED FROM IT.

                                                                            FRIENDS

                         MY FAMILY WILL BE QUITE SURPRISED TO SEE ME WRITING ABOUT FRIENDS AS THEY HAVE NEVER SEEN ME SPENDING TIME WITH FRIENDS. INFACT, THEY EVEN WONDER IF I HAVE ANY FRIENDS AT ALL. SO. LET ME CLARIFY HERE THAT FRIENDS ARE NOT NECESSARILY THOSE WITH WHOM YOU SPEND TIME, EAT WITH FREQUENTLY, OR GO OUT WITH EVERY NOW AND THEN.  IF YOU ARE ABLE TO DO THAT, THEN GREAT! HOWEVER, THESE ARE NOT NECESSARILY THE QUALIFYING CRITERIA FOR  GOOD FRIENDSHIP.

                    FRIENDS ARE THOSE WITH WHOM YOU FEEL INSTANTLY  AT HOME, POUT YOUR HEART OUT, SAY ANYTHING WITHOUT BEING JUDGED, AND COMPLETELY BE YOURSELF. YOU GET THAT MUCHNEEDED ENCOURAGEMENT FOR YOUR NEW VENTURES WHEN THE ENTIRE WORLD IS BENT UPON ADVISING YOU TO NOT GET INTO IT. IT IS ONLY TRUE FRIEND WHO ENCOURAGES YOU TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART, IMPORTANT TO YOU HAVE ENDORSED YOUR MOVE.

                 AS FOR ME, I HAVE JUST THREE FRIENDS-MY NEIGHBOURS AND SCHOOL BUDDIES. WE HARDLY MEET- I LOST ONE OF THEM RECENTLY (GOD BLESS HIS SOUL), AND TWO OF THEM LIVE IN DIFFERENT CITIES AND COUNTRIES - BUT, WHENEVER WE DO MEET AND TALK, WE INSTANTLY CONNECT. NOBODY ELSE CAN UNDERSTAND OUR RELATIONSHIP BUT WE KNOW HOW MUCH IT MEANS TO US.

             I AM EXTREMELY PASSIONATE ABOUT MY PROFESSIONAL WORK - IN THE LAST THIRTY YEARS OF WORK  EXPERIENCE, I HAVE WORKED  WITH MULTIPLE TEAMS, BUILT SEVERAL TEAMS, CONDUCTED A NUMBER OF TRAINING PROGRAMMES, FORMED STRATEGIES, AND SUCCEEDED TOGETHER WITH THEM.

           WHAT FOR OTHERS IS A PART OF THEIR WORK IS A MATTER OF ACTUALLY DEVELOPING AND NUTURING FRIENDSHIPS FOR ME. IN THIS WAY, I HAVE DEVELOPED FRIENDSHIPS FOR ME. IN THIS WAY. I HAVE DEVELOPED FRIENDSHIPS WITH THE HUNDREDS OF PROFESSIONALS WITH WHOM. I HAVE WORKED IN THE LAST THIRTY YEARS. WITH EVERY INDIVIDUAL I MEET, WE INSTANTLY CONNECT, RESPECT EACH OTHER FOR WHO WE ARE, AND FORM A SYMBIOTIC RELATIONSHIP THAT HELPS US LEARN FROM EACH OTHER.

             IF YOU LOVE SHARING WITHOUT ANY EXPECTATIONS, I ASSURE YOU THAT YOU WILL BE SURROUDED BY PLENTY OF FRIENDS, AND IT WILL ENSURE THAT EXTRA DOSE OF ENZYMES TO BOOST YOUR HAPPINESS AND FEELING OF SATISFACTION.  GO FOR IT - JUST SELFLESSLY SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FRIEND, LEND YOUR EARS TO YOUR FRIEND WITHOUT PROVIDING YOUR "EXPERT" ADVICE, ENCOURAGE THEM IN WHAT THEY ARE DOING, AND SECRETLY PRAY FOR THEM. YOU ARE OPERATING UNDER A UNIVERSAL LAW, AND YOUR GOOD DEEDS WILL DEFINITELY RETURN TO YOU IN PLENTY.

 

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