COMMITMENT

                                           TIME TO MAKE A COMMITMENT

                          NOW, LET'S ASSUME YOU HAVE A GOAL IN MIND. THE NEXT QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IS, AM I WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO ACHIEVE THIS GOAL?.

                         IF YOUR ANSWER IS," I'LL DO JUST ABOUT ANYTHING, EXCEPT THAT I WON'T DO------- ," THEN FRANKLY, YOU'RE NOT COMMITTED. AND IF YOU'RE NOT COMMITTED, IT'S LIKELY THAT YOU'LL BE DERAILED AND NOT ACHIEVE YOUR OBJECTIVE. FOR INSTANCE, MANY PEOPLE START A NEW BUSINESS WITH THIS APPROACH, I'LL GIVE IT SIX MONTHS TO PRPOSPER. IT IF THINGS DON'T WORK OUT AFTER SIX MONTHS, I'LL QUIT', THIS IS NOT A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT LEADS TO SUCCESS.

                        WHERE WOULD NOVELIST DAVID BALDACCI BE IF HE HAD SAID." I'LL TRY THE WRITING FOR ONR YEAR.... AND IF CAN'T SELL ANYTHING, I'LL GIVE IT UP'? HE'D HAVE MISSED OUT ON THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO WHAT HE LOVES HAVE FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE.... AND LIVE HIS DREAM!

                        NOW, I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT YOU JUST BULL AHEAD WITHOUT A PLAN AND HOPE FOR THE BEST. OF COURSE YOU SHOULD SET TIMETABLES. DEADLINES AND BUDGET SO YOU STAY ON COURSE AND SUCCEED AS QUIKLY AS POSSIBLE. BUT THE REALLITY IS, DESPITE YOUR MOST CAREFUL PLANS, YOU DON'T KNOW HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL.... AND YOU CON'T FORESEE ALL THE OBSTACLES THAT WILL CROSS YOUR PATH.

                         THAT'S WHERE COMMITMENT SEPATATES THE WINNERS FROM THE LOSERS. THE COMMITTED PEOPLE ARE GOING TO HANG IN------ AND PREVAIL----- NO MATTER WHAT. AND IF IT TAKES A LITTLE LONGER THAN THEY THOUGHT, SO BE IT. THOSE WHO AREN'T COMMITTED ARE GOING TO GIVE UP THE SHIP WHEN THINGS DON'T GO THEIR WAY.

                            NOW THAT YOU'VE LEARNED ABOUT THE POWER OF COMMITMENT, IT'S TIME TO APPLY THE PRINCIPLE. SO, GO AHEAD. SELECT A GOAL YOU HAVE A BURNING DESIRE TO ACHIEVE. MAKE A COMMITMENT TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO ACHIEVE THIS GOAL. START MOVING FORWARD AND GET READY TO NOTICE AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ALL OPPORTUNITIES THAT COME YOUR WAY. THEN FOLLOW THROUGH WITH PERSISTENT ACTION AND GET READY TO SUCCEED.!

YOUR WORDS

                                           A CLOSER LOOK AT YOUR WORDS

            LET'S TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR LIFE FOR A MOMENT. ARE THERE ANY AREAS WHERE YOU'VE BEEN USING PHRASES LIKE, 'I CANT', I'M NO GOOD AT ----- AND 'ITS IMPOSSIBLE' WE ALL KNOW PEOPLE WHO MAKE STATEMENTS LIKE THESE:

                                * I CAN'T DRAW.

                                * I'M NO GOOD AT MATCH.

                                * I CAN'T REMEMBER NAMES.

                                * IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO MAKE THAT KIND OF MONEY.

                WHEN YOU MAKE THESE COMMENTS DAY IN AND DAY OUT FOR 10, 20 OR 30 YEARS, YOU'RE PROGRAMMING YOUR MIND FOR FAILURE! IT ALL COME BACK TO YOUR ATTITUDE. EVERYONE OF THESE EXAMPLE REFLECTS A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE. AND IF YOU SEE THE WORLD THROUGH A SMUDGED WINDOW, YOU'RE GOING TO USE NEGATIVE LANGUAGE.... AND GET DISAPPOINTING RESULTS.

                FORTUNATELY, YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR WORLDS---- WHICH MEANS THAT YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO BUILD A POSITIVE BELIEF SYSTEM... AND TO PRODUCE THE RESULTS YOU WANT. THE FIRST STEP IS AWARNESS, LET'S EXAMINE THE PHRASES YOU'VE BEEN USING IN FOUR KEY AREAS OF YOUR LIFE---- RELATIONSHIP, FINANCES, CAREER, AND HEALTH.

CHANGE OF LIFE

                                          THE NIGHT THAT CHANGED MY LIFE

                     IN 1980,  I GRADUATED FROM LAW SCHOOL AND THOUGHT I'D BE A LAWYER FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. AFTER ALL, THAT'S WHAT I'D WANTED TO DO SINCE MY EARLY TEENAGE YEARS.

                      AT FIRST, EVERYTHING WENT ACCORDING TO PLAN. AFTER LOTS OF STUDYING THAT SUMMER, I PASSED THE BAR EXAMINATION AND WAS ADMITTED TO PRACTICE LAW IN NEW YORK. MY PERSONAL LIFE WAS ALSO ON THE UPSWING. IN EARLY 1981, I MARRIED DOLORES, LAW SCHOOL CLASSMATE, I WAS ON MY WAY TO MUCH SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS.

                     OR SO I THOUGHT.

                      BUT, AFTER PRACTICING LAW FOR A FEW YEARS, I REALIZED I WASN'T HAPPY AT ALL. 

                    SURE, THERE WERE SOME THINGS I LIKED ABOUT BEING A LAWYER. ENJOYED HELPING PEOPLE RESOLVE THEIR DISPUTED, ESPECIALLY WHEN I COULD SAVE THEM THE AGONY OF LENGTHY COURT PROCEEDINGS.

                    YET, THERE WERE SO MANY THINGS ABOUT BEING AN ATTORNEY THAT I DISLIKE AND THAT JUST SEEMED TO DRAIN THE LIFE OUT OF ME. MOUNTS AND MOUNTS OF TEDIOUS PAPERWORK AND MOTIONS TO BE FILED.

                     CONSTANT DELAYS AND POSTPONEMENTS. IT WAS NOT ONCOMMON FOR A TRIAL TO BE POSTPONED 10 TIMES..

POSITIVE NEWS

                                    BE A SOURCE OF POSITIVE NEWS

                       

             I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT YOU JUST SIT BACK AND IGNORE ALL OF THE PROBLEMS IN YOUR LIFE. HOWEVE, RATHAN THAN COMPLAINING IT'S FAR BETTER TO FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION AND YOUR ENERGY ON THOSE STEPS YOU CAN TAKE TO SOLVE, OR AT LEAST LESSON, YOUR PROBLEM. FOR INSTANCE, LET'S SAY YOUR FEELING A LITTLE TIRED LATELY. INSTEAD OF TELLING EVERYONE HOW LOUSY YOU FEEL, MAKE AN EFFORT TO EXERCISE MORE REGULARLY OF GET TO BED A LITTLE EARLIER.

                   TO REVIEW: COMPLAINTS WORK AGAINST YOU IN THREE WAYS. FIRST, NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR NEGATIVE NEWS ABOUR YOUR ILLNESS AND YOUR PROBLEMS. SECOND, COMPLAINING REINFORCES YOUR OWN PAIN AND DISCOMFORT, SO WHY KEEP REPLAYING PAINFUL, NEGATIVE MEMORIES? THIRD, COMPLAINING, BY ITSELF, ACCOMPLISHES NOTHING AND DIVERTS YOU FROM THE CONSTRUCTIVE ACTIONS YOU COULD BE TAKING TO IMPROVE YOUR SITUATION.

                 IT'S BEEN SAID THAT 90 PERSENT OF THE PEOPLE DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS.. AND THE OTHER 10 PERSENT ARE GLAD YOU HAVE THEM! SERIOULY THOUGH, ALL OF US CAN CUT DOWN ON OUR COMPLAINING. FROM NOW ON, LET'S DO OURSELVES AND OTHERS A FLOVOR AND MAKE OUR CONVERSTIONS UPLIFTING.

                THE PEOPLE WHO DON'T COMPLAIN VERY MUCH ARE A JOY TO BE AROUND. DECIDE TO JOIN THAT GROUP SO PEOPLE WON'T HAVE A CROSS THE STREET WHEN THEY SEE YOU COMING!

HIGH SELF ESTEEM

                        SOME ADVANTAGES OF HIGH SELF - ESTEEM

THERE IS A DIRECT RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PEOPLE'S FEELINGS AND THEIR PRODUVTIVITY. HIGH SELF-ESTEEM IS EVIDENT IN RESPECT FOR ONE'S SELF, OTHERS, PROPETY, LAW, PARENTS, AND ONE'S COUNTRY. THE REVERSE IS ALSO TRUE.

                                                 HIGH SELF- ESTEEM

       * BUILT STRONG CONVICTION.

       * CREATES WILLINGNESS TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY.

       * BUILDS OPTIMISTIC ATTITUDES.

       * LEADS TO BETTER RELATIONSHIPS AND FULFILLING LIVES.

       * DEVELOP A CARING ATTITUDE AND MAKES A PERSON MORE SENSITIVE TO OTHERS NEED.

       * MAKES A PERSON SELF-MOTIVATED AND AMBITIOUS.

       * MAKES A PERSON OPEN TO NEW OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES.

       * IMPROVES PERFORMANCE AND INCREASE RISK- TAKING ABILITY.

       * HELPS A PERSON GIVE AND RECEIVE BOTH CRITICISM AND COMPLIMENTS TACTFULLY AND EASILY.

       * PREFERS LOSS OF BUSINESS TO LOSS OF CREDIBILITY BECAUSE THEY REALIZE THAT ONE CANNOT PUT A PRICE ON ONE'S CREDIBILITY.

MINDSET

                                DEVELOP A MINDSET THAT BRINGS HAPPINESS

                   BITTERNESS IS A SIGN OF EMOTIONAL FAILURE. IT PARALYZES OUR CAPASITY TO DO GOOD. SET YOUR OWN STANDARDS. BE HONEST TO YOURSELF. COMPETE AGAINST YOURSELF. DO THE FOLLOWING:

                * LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE IN EVERY PERSON AND IN EVERY SITUATION.

                * RESOLVE TO BE HAPPY.

                * SET YOUR OWN STANDARDS JUDICIOUSLY.

                * DEVELOP AN IMMUNITY TO NEGATIVE CRITICISM.

                * LEARN TO FIND A PLEASURE IN EVERY LITTLE THINGS.

                * REMEMBER ALL TIME IS NOT THE SAME. UPS AND DOWN ARE PART OF LIFE.

                * MAKE THE BEST OF EVERY SITUATION.

                * KEEP YOURSELF CONSTRUCTLY OCCUPIED.

                * HELP YOURSELF CONSTRUCTIVELY OCCUPIED.

                * LEARN TO GET OVER THINGS. DON'T BROOD.

                * FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS. DON'T HOLD GUILT OR BEAR GRUDGES

                

                                 GIVE YOURSELF POSITIVE AUTO- SUGGESTIONS

       DEVELOP THE HABIT OF GIVING YOURSELF POSITIVE SELF-TALK. AUTO-SUGGETIONS AFFECT YOUR BEHAVIOUR BY INGLENCING YOUR BELIEF SYSTEM. IT BECOMES A SELF-FULFILLING ,PROPHECY EXAMPLE:

                * I CAN HANDLE IT.

                * I CAN DO IT.

                 * I AM GOOD AT MATH.

                 * I HAVE A GOOD MEMORY.

GOOD PERSPECTIVE

                                 PUTTING THINGS IN PERPECTIVE

                        * I'M IN GOOD HEALTH

                        * DOLORES IS IN GOOD HEALTH

                        * WE HAVE OUR OWN HOME.

                        * WE HAVE PLENTY OF FOOD TO EAT AND CLEAN WATER TO DRINK

                        * WE LIVE IN THE UNITED STATES AND ENJOY FREEDOM.

                        * I LOVE MANY LOYAL FRIENDS.

                        * I DRAW STRENGTH FROM MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.

     

                    THIS IS JUST A PARTIAL LIST OF THE BLESSINGS IN MY LIFE. AND YOU KNOW WHAT? EVEN WITH ALL OF THESE WONDERFUL THINGS, THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I START SOME OF THEM FOR GRANTED! BUT I'VE LEARNED TO QUICKLY RE-CONNECT WITH THESE BLESSINGS... AND IT BOOKS MY ATTITUDE AND BRINGS ME RIGHT BACK ON COURSE. 

                      SO, WHAT IS IT THAT YOU'VE BEEN COMPLAINING ABOUT LATELY? ARE THEY REALLY 'LIFE AND DEATH' MATTERS? THE NEXT TIME YOU'RE TEMPTED TO GRIPE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS, PICK UP A PEN AND PIECE OF PAPER AND START LISTING ALL THE REASONS YOU HAVE TO BE GRATEFUL!

                     LET ME TELL YOU, IT SURE BEATS COMPLAINING!...

            REFLECT UPON YOUR PRESENT BLESSINGS, OF WHICH EVERY MAN             HAS PLENTY, NOT ON YOUR PAST MISFORTUNES, OF WHICH ALL                     MEN HAVE SOME.

                                                                                                ---CHARLES DICKENS

 

POINTS OF POWER

                                                    💖THE KEY OF LOVE💖

              * TO USE LOVE AS THE ULTIMATE POWER IN YOUR LIFE, YOU MUST LOVE LIKE YOU HAVE NEVER LOVED BEFORE. FALL IN LOVE WITH LIFE!

               * SEE ONLY LOVE, HEAR ONLY LOVE, SPEAK ONLY LOVE, AND FEEL LOVE WITH ALL YOUR HEART.

               * THERE IS NO LIMIT, NO CEILING, TO THE AMOUNT OF LOVE YOU CAN FEEL, AND IT IS ALL INSIDE YOU ! YOU ARE MADE OF LOVE.

               * TELL THE LAW OF ATTRACTION WHAT YOU LOVE EVERYDAY BY SINGLING OUT THE THINGS YOU LOVE AND FEELINGS THEM.

               * TO CHANGE THE WAY YOU FEEL, OR TO LIFT GOOD FEELINGS HIGHER, MAKE A MENTAL LIST OF EVERYTHING YOU LOVE AND ADORE!

               * YOUR JOB IS TO LOVE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE EVERYDAY.

               * MAKE A COSCEITIOUS EFFORT TO NOTICE AS MANY THINGS AROUND YOU THAT YOU LOVE, AS MUCH AS YOU CAN EACH DAY.

                                             😇THE KEY OF GRATITUDE😇

               * EVERY TIME YOU FEEL GRATEFUL YOU ARE GIVING LOVE.

                 * BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING YOU HAVE RECEIVED IN YOUR LIFE. BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING YOU ARE RECEIVING IN YOUR LIFE. BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE, AS THROUGH YOU HAVE RECEIVED IT.

                 * YOUR GRATITUDE WILL MULTIPLY EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE.

                 * GRATITUDE IS THE BRIDGE FROM NEGATIVE FEELINGS TO HARNESSING THE FORCE OF LOVE!

                 * TO USE THE POWER OF GRATITUDE PRACTICE IT. WHEN ANYTHING GOOD HAPPENS TO YOU IN YOUR DAY, GIVE THANKS. IT DOES'T MATTER HOW SMALL IT IS, SAY THANK YOU.

                   * THE MORE YOU FEEL GRATITUDE, THE MORE LOVE YOU GIVE, AND THE MORE LOVE YOU GIVE, THE MORE YOU RECEIVE.

                   * EVERY SPARE SECOND IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE GRATEFUL AND MULTIPLY THE THINGS YOU LOVE.

ATTITUDE

                                               A DEFINITION OF ATTITUDE

                    THINK OF YOUR ATTITUDE AS THE MENTAL FILTER THROUGH WHICH YOU EXPERIENCE THE WORLD. SOME PEOPLE SEE THE WORLD THROUGH THE FILTER OF OPTIMISM (THE GLASS BEING HALF FULL) WHILE OTHERS SEE LIFE THROUGH A FILTER OF OPTIMISM  (THE GLASS BEING HALF EMPTY). LET ME GIVE YOU SOME EXAMPLES TO EXPLAIN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE.

* THE PERSON WITH THE NEGATIVE ATTITUDE THINKS " I CAN'T".

* THE PERSON WITH THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE THINK "I CAN".

* THE PERSON WITH THE NEGATIVE ATTITUDE DWELLS ON PROBLEM.

* THE PERSON WITH THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE CONCENTRATES ON SOLUTIONS.

* THE PERSON WITH THE NEGATIVE ATTITUDE FINDS FAULT WITH OTHERS.

* THE PERSON WITH THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE LOOKS FOR THE GOOD IN OTHERS.

* THE PERSON WITH THE NEGATIVE ATTITUDE FOCUSES ON WHAT'S MISSING.

* THE PERSON WITH THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE COUNTS HIS OF HER BLESSINGS.

* THE PERSON WITH THE NEGATIVE ATTITUDE SEES LIMITATIONS.

* THE PERSON WITH THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE SEES POSSIBILITIES.

               

                         I COULD GO ON AND ON WITH EXAMPLES, BUT I'M SURE YOU GET THE IDEA. WHEN I TALK TO AUDIENCE ABOUT ATTITUDE, I OFTEN LIKE TO USE WORD PICTURES. THEY HELP PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND AND REMEMBER WHAT I SAID. LET ME POINT THIS PICTURE FOR YOU: YOUR ATTITUDE IS YOUR WINDOW TO THE WORLD.

SUCCESS

                                        DONT COUNT ON OVERNIGHT SUCCESS

                             BEFORE CONCLUDING, I'D LIKE TO CLARIFY A FEW THINGS ABOUT POSITIVE THINKING AND THE POWER OF OUR THOUGHTS. FIRST OF ALL, POSITIVE THINKING DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU'LL ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS OVERNIGHT. IT'S NOT AS IF YOU START THINKING ABOUT MAKING MORE MONEY AND THE NEXT MORNING YOU WAKE UP AND FIND A STACK OF DOLLERS BILLS AT YOUR BEDSIDE. NOT BY A LONG SHOT. SUCCESS REQUIRES EFFORT, COMMITMENT AND PATIENCE.

                            AND SECONDLY, POSITIVE THINKING DOES'T MEAN YOU WON'T HAVE ANY MORE PROBLEMS. BELIEVE ME, YOU'LL HAVE PLENTY OF SETBACKS ALONG THE WAY. HOWEVER, IF YOU CONTINUE TO BELEIVE IN YOURSELF, TAKE ACTIONS AND PERSIST, YOU'LL OVERCOME THOSE OBTACLES.

                           REMEMBER, YOU ARE ONSTANLY MOVING IN THE DIRECTIONS OF YOUR DOMINATE THOUGHTS AND BELIEFS. NEGATIVE THINKING YIELDS NEGATIVE RESULTS....AND POSITIVE THINKING PRODUCES POSITIVE THOUGHTS CAN COME SHINING THROUGH.

                         IT SIMPLY MAKES NO SENSE TO THINK NEGATIVE THOUGHTS... UNLESS YOU WANT TO GET NEGATIVE RESULTS. AND I KNOW YOU DON'T WANT THAT HAPPEN

                          SO, FROM THIS POINT FORWARD, CHOOSE YOUR THOUGHTS WISELY AND USE THIS POWERFUL PRINCIPLE TO GET FANTASTIC RESULTS IN YOUR LIFE!.

POSITIVE MIND

                                     FEED YOUR MIND GOOD THOUGHTS

                JUST AS OUR BODIES NEED GOOD FOOD EVERY DAY, OUR MINDS NEED GOOD THOUGHTS EVERRYDAY. THE KEY WORDS IN THE PRECENDING SENTENCES ARE GOOD FOOD FOOD AND GOOD THOUGHTS. IF WE FEED OUR BODY WITH JUNK FOOD AND OUR MIND WITH BAD THOUGHTS, WE WILL HAVE BOTH A SICK BODY AND A SICK MIND. WE NEED TO FEED OUR MIND WITH THE PURE AND THE POSITIVE TO STAY ON TRACK.

                                               BUILD A POSITIVE SEFT ESTEEM 

                SELF-ESTEEM IS THE WAY WE FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. WHEN WE FEEL GOOD WITHIN, OUR PERFORMANCE GOES UP AND OUR RELATIONSHIP IMPROVE BOTH AT HOME AND AT WORK. THE WORLD LOOKS NICER. WHAT COULD BE THE REASON? BECAUSE THERE IS A DIRECT CORRELATION BETWEEN OUR FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOUR.

                                      START YOUR DAY WITH SOMETHING POSITIVE

                      READ OR LISTEN TO SOMETHING POSITIVE FIRST THING IN THE MORNING. AFTER A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP WE ARE RELAXED AND OUR SUBCONCIOUS IS RECEPTIVE. ITS SETS THE TONE FOR THE DAY, AND PUTS US IN THE RIGHT FRAME OF MIND TO MAKE THE DAY A POSITIVE DAY. IN ORDER TO BRING ABOUT CHANGE, WE NEED TO MAKE A CONSCIOUS EFFORT AND BE COMMITTED TO MAKE POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIOUR PART OF OUR LIVES, PRACTICE HAVING POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIOUR DAILY UNTIL THE BECOME A HABIT.

                         WILLIAM JAMES OF HARVARD UNIVERSITY SAID," IF YOU ARE GOING TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE, YOU NEED TO START IMMEDIATELY". 

THE SECRET

                    YOU ARE MEAN TO HAVE AN AMAZING LIFE

 

               YOU ARE MEANT TO HAVE EVERYTHING YOU LOVE AND DESIRE. YOUR WORK IS   MEANT TO BE EXCITING, AND YOU ARE MEANT TO ACCOMPLISH ALL THE THINGS YOU   WOULD LOVE TO ACCOMPLISH, YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOUR FAMILY AND   FRIENDS ARE MEANT TO BE FILLED WITH HAPPINESS. YOU ARE MEANT TO HAVE ALLTHE MONEY YOU NEED TO LIVE A FULL, WONDERFUL LIFE. YOU ARE MEANT TO BE LIVING YOUR DREAM- ALL OF THEM! IF YOU WANT TO TRAVEL, YOUR ARE MEANT TO TRAVEL. IF YOU WOULD LOVE TO START A BUSINESS, YOU ARE MEANT TO START A BUSINESS, IF YOU WOULD LOVE OR LEARN TO DANCE OR LEARN HOW TO SAIL A YACHT OR STUDY ITALIAN, YOU ARE MEANT TO DO THOSE THINGS, IF YOU INVENTOR, A PERFORMER, A PARENT, OR WHATEVER IT IS YOU WOULD LOVE TO BE, YOU ARE MENT TO BE IT!

             WHEN YOU WAKE UP EACH DAY, YOU SHOULD BE FILLED WITH EXCITEMENT BECAUSE YOU KNOW THE DAY IS GOING TO BE FULL OF GREAT THINGS. YOU ARE MEANT TO FEEL STRONG AND SAFE. YOU ARE MEANT TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF AND KNOW YOU'RE INVALUABLE. OF COURSE THERE ,WILL BE CHALLENGES IN YOUR LIFE, AND YOU ARE MEANT TO HAVE THEM TOO, BECAUSE THEY HELP YOU TO GROW, BUT YOU ARE MEANT TO KNOW HOW TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS AND CHALLENGES. YOU ARE MEANT TO BE VICTORIOUS! YOU ARE MEANT TO HAPPY! YOU ARE MEANT TO HAVE AN AMAZING LIFE!

              THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS, EVERYTHING YOU WOULD LOVE TO BE, DO, OR HAVE, HAS ALWAYS BEEN CLOSER TO YOU THAN YOU KNEW, BECAUSE THE POWER TO EVERYTHING YOU WANT IS INSIDE YOU!

                " THERE IS A SUPREME POWER AND RULLING FORCE WHICH

                   PERVADES AND RULES THE BOUNDLESS UNIVERSE. YOU

                   ARE A PART OF THIS POWER". 

PREPARE YOURSELF MENTALLY

                                                    MENTAL PREPARE

               BY NOW YOU WILL KNOW HOW IMPORTANT WE THINK YOUR SELF-TALK IS, IN ALL YOUR FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOUR, INCLUDING ASSERTION. A CONFROTATION WITH SOMEONE ELSE CAN BLOW UP QUICKLY, EVEN IF YOU KNEW IT WAS COMING, WHICH IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE. YOU WILL FEEL MORE CONFIDENT AND ASSERT YOURSELF MORE EFFECTIVELY, IF APPROPRIATE SELF-TALK HAS BECOME SOMETHING OF A HABIT FOR YOU. IT IS A BIT DIFFICULT TO BLOW A WHISTLE IN THE MIDDLE OF A CONFRONTATION AND ANNOUNCE YOU ARE TAKING A 10- MINUTE THINK BEFORE. 

               SOMETIMES YOU MAY BE ABLE TO DO THIS. IN OUR ADVISE TO COUPLE, WE SUGGEST DELIBERATELY USING TIME OUT FROM AN ESCALATING DISCUSSION TO GIVE THEM TIME TO COOL DOWN AND WORK OUT A CONSTRUCTIVE APPROACH TO THE ISSUE. YOU MAT BE ABLE TO GET AGREEMENT TO TAKE TIME OUT FROM SOMEONE WHO VALUES YOUR RELATIONSHIP, BUT NOT EVERYONE YOU CONFRONT WILL FEEL LIKE THAT AND BE WILLING TO WAIT WHILE YOU THINK THINGS THROUGH.

                LATER, WE WILL SUGGEST SOME BRIEF SELF-TALK YOU CAN USE TO HELP YOU STAY ASSERTIVE DURING A CONFRONTATION, BUT RIGHT NOW WE ARE SUGGESTING YOU DO SOME MORE EXTENSIVE REVIEWING OF YOUR SEL-TALK REGARDING ASSERTION, AGRESSIVE AND SUBMISSION. THIS IS INTENDED TO HELP YOU DEVELOP ASSERTIVE HABITS OF MIND.

             

RATIONAL IDEAS

                                                    TEN RATIONAL IDEAS💗

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                1. I WANT TO BE LOVED OR LIKED AND APPROVED OF BY SOME OF THE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE. I WILL FEEL DISOPPOINTED OR LONELY WHEN THAT DOES NOT HAPPEN, BUT I CAN COPE WITH THOSE FEELINGS, AND I CAN TAKE CONSTRUCTIVE STEPS TO MAKE AND KEEP BETTER RELATIONSHIPS.

                  2. I WANT TO DO SOME THINGS WELL, MOST OF THE TIME LIKE EVERYBODY, I WILL OCCASIONALLY FAIL OR MAKE A MISTAKE. THEN I WILL FEEL BAD, BUT I CAN COPE WITH THAT, AND I CAN TAKE CONSTUCTIVE STEPS TO DO BETTER NEXT TIME.

                  3. IT IS SAD THAT MOST OF US DO SOME BAD THINGS FROM TIME TO TIME, AND SOME PEOPLE DO A LOT OF BAD THINGS. BUT MAKING MYSELF VERY UPSET WONT CHANGE THAT.

                  4. IT IS DISSAPPOINTING WHEN THINGS AREN'T HOW I WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE, BUT I CAN COPE WITH THAT. USUALLY I CAN TAKE CONSTRUCTIVE STEPS TO MAKE THINGS MORE AS I WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE, BUT IF I CAN'T IT HELP NE TO EXAGGERATE MY DISSAPPOINTMENT.

                   5. MY PROBLEM'S MAY BE INFLUENCED BY FACTORS OUTSIDE MY CONTROL, BUT MY THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS ALSO INFLENCE MY PROBLEMS THEY ARE UNDER MY CONTROL

                  6. WORRYING ABOUT SOMETHING THAT MIGHT TO WRONG WON'T STOP IT FROM HAPPENING, IT JUST MAKES ME UNHAPPY NOW ! I CAN TAKE CONSTRUCTIVE STEPS TO PREPARE FOR POSSIBLE PROBLEMS, AND THAT'S AS MUCH AS ANYONE CAN DO. SO I WON'T DWELL ON THE FUTURE NOW.

                 7. FACING DIFFICULT SITUATION WILL MAKE ME FEEL BAD AT THE TIME, BUT I CAN COPE WITH THAT. PUTTING OFF PROBLEMS DOES'T MAKE THEM ANY EASIER, IT JUST GIVES ME LONGER TO WORRY ABOUT THEM.

                 8. IT'S GOOD TO GET SUPPORT FROM OTHERS WHEN I WANT IT, BUT THE ONLY PERSON I REALLY NEED TO RELY ON IS MYSELF.

                 9. MY PROBLEMS MAY HAVE STARTED IN SOME PAST EVENTS, BUT WHAT KEEPS IT THEM GOING NOW ARE MY THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS, AND THEY ARE UNDER MY CONTROL.

                 10. IT IS SAD TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE IN TROUBLE, BUT I DONT'T HELP THEM BY

MAKING MYSELF MISERABLE, I CAN COPE WITH FEELING SAD, AND SOMETIMES I CAN TAKE CONSTRUCTIVE STEPS TO HELP THEM.