ABOUT MONEY, RESPONSIBILITY AND SITUATION

 

                         

                                MONEY AND EMOTIONS

                    MANY OF OUR BIGGEST PROBLEMS AND CONCERNS IN LIFE HAVE TO DO WITH MONEY, EARNING IT, SPENDING IT, INVESTING IT, AND ESPECIALLY, LOSING IT. AS A RESULT, MANY OF OUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE ASSOCIATED WITH MONEY IN SOME WAY. HOWEVER, THE FACT IS THAT YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR FINANCIAL LIFE. YOU CHOOSE. YOU DECIDE. YOU ARE IN CHARGE. YOU CANNOT BLAME YOUR FINANCIAL PROBLEMS OR SITUATION ON OTHER PEOPLE. YOU ARE IN THE DRIVER'S SEAT.

                   SO IT IS ONLY WHEN YOU ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR INCOME (WHO CHOSE TO ACCEPT THE JOB YOU ARE WORKING AT?) YOUR BILLS (WHO SPENT THE MONEY THAT PUT YOU INTO DEBT?) AND YOUR INVESTMENTS (WHO MADE THOSE DECISIONS?) CAN YOU MOVE FROM BEING AN "ECONOMIC CHILD" TO AN "ECONOMIC ADULT".

                                           RESPONSIBILITY AND CONTROL

                            

                 THERE IS A DIRECT RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE ACCEPTANCE OF RESPONSIBILITY AND THE AMOUNT OF PERSONAL CONTROL YOU FEEL YOU HAVE OVER YOUR LIFE. THIS MEANS THAT THE MORE YOU ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY, THE GREATER SENSE OF CONTROL YOU EXPERIENCE.

                     THERE IS ALSO A DIRECT RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE AMOUNT OF CONTROL YOU FEEL YOU HAVE AND HOW POSITIVE YOU FEEL. THE MORE YOU FEEL THAT YOU HAVE A HIGH "SENSE OF CONTROL" IN THE IMPORTANT AREAS OF YOUR LIFE, THE MORE POSITIVE AND HAPPY YOU ARE IN  EVERYTHING YOU DO.

                    WHEN YOU ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY, YOU FEEL STRONG, POWERFUL, AND PURPOSEFUL. ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY ELIMINATES THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS THAT ROB YOU OF HAPPINESS AND CONTENTMENT.

                   IN EVERY SITUATION, THE ANTIDOTE TO NEGATIVE EMOTIONS IS TO SAY, "I AM RESPONSIBLE" . THEN LOOK INTO THE SITUATION TO FIND THE REASONS WHY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HAPPENED OR FOR WHAT IS GOING ON.

                 YOUR INTELLIGENCE IS LIKE A DOUBLE-EDGED SWORD. IT CAN CUT IT EITHER DIRECTION. YOU CAN USE YOUR INTELLIGENCE TO REATIONALIZE, JUSTIFY, AND BLAME OTHER PEOPLE FOR THINGS YOU ARE NOT HAPPY ABOUT, OR YOU CAN USE YOUR INTELLIGENCE TO FIND REASONS WHY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HAPPENDED AND THEN TAKE ACTION TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM OR RESOLVE THE SITUATION. YOU CAN MAKE EXCUSES OR YOU CAN MAKE PROGRESS. YOU CHOOSE.

                EVEN IF AN ACCIDENT HAS OCCURED, SUCH AS YOUR CAR BEING DAMAGED IN THE PARKING LOT WHILE YOU ARE AT WORK, YOU MAY NOT BE LEGALLY AT FAULT FOR THE ACCIDENT. BUT YOU ARE STILL RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR RESPONSES, FOR HOW YOU BEHAVE AS A RESULT OF WHAT HAPPENED.

                                       NEVER COMPLAIN, NEVER EXPLAIN

                       THE MARK OF THE LEADER, THE TRULY SUPERIOR PERSON, IS THAT HE OR SHE ACCEPTS COMPLETE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE SITUATION. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO IMAGINE A TRUE LEADER WHO WHINES AND COMPLAINS RATHER THAN TAKING ACTION WHEN PROBLEMS AND DIFFICULTIES ARISE.

                       THIS SENSE OF "RESPONSIBILITY" IS THE MARK OF THE HIGHLY DEVELOPED PERSONALITY. YOU TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE BY RESOLVING, IN ADVANCE, THAT YOU WILL NOT BECOME UPSET OR ANGRY OVER SOMETHING THAT YOU CANNOT AFFECT OR CHANGE. JUST AS YOU DO NOT BECOME ANGRY ABOUT THE WEATHER, YOU DO NOT BECOME ANGRY OVER CIRCUMSTANCES AND SITUATIONS OVER WHICH YOU HAVE NO CONTROL.

                        FUTHERMORE, YOU ESPECIALLY DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE ANGRY AND UNHAPPY IN THE PRESENT BECAUSE OF UNHAPPY EXPERIENCES OR SITUATIONS FROM THE PAST. YOU SAY, "WHAT CANNOT BE CURED MUST BE ENDURED".

                    IT IS AMAZING HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE UNHAPPY TODAY BECAUSE OF A PAST EVENT, SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED MANY YEARS AGO. EACH TIME THEY THINK OF THE NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES, THEY BECOME ANGRY OR DEPRESSED ONCE AGAIN. THE GOOD NEWS IS THAT AT ANY TIME, YOU CAN STOP THINKING ABOUT, DISCUSSING, AND REHASHING THE PAST. YOU CAN LET IT GO AND BEGIN THINKING INSTEAD ABOUT YOUR GOALS AND YOUR UNLIMITED FUTURE. AS HELEN KELLER SAID, "WHEN YOU TURN TOWARD THE SUNSHINE, THE SHADOWS FALL BEHIND YOU".