WHAT IS EMOTION

 

                                   HOW TO LEARN EMOTIONS

                     CHILD DEVELOPMENT PROJECT

                ERIC SCHAPS, DEVELOPMENT STUDIES CENTER, IAKLAND, CALIFORNIA PENDENT OBSERVERS, COMPARING WITH CONTROL SCHOOLS.

                  RESULTS :

              * MORE RESPONSIBLE

              * MORE ASSERTIVE

              * MORE POPULAR AND OUTGOING

              * MORE PRO-SOCIAL AND HELPFUL

              * BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF OTHERS

              * MORE CONSIDERATE, CONCERNED

              * MORE PRO-SOCIAL STRATEGIES FOR INTERPERSONAL 

                PROBLEM-SOLVING

              * MORE HARMONIOUS

              * MORE "DEMOCRATIC"

              * BETTER CONFLICT-RESOLUTION SKILLS

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                       * SELF-AWARENESS  : OBSERVING YOURSELF AND RECOGNIZING YOUR FEELINGS, BUILDING A VOCABULARY FOR FEELINGS, KNOWING THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND REACTIONS

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                      * PERSONAL DECISION-MAKING : EXAMINING YOUR ACTIONS AND KNOWING THEIR CONSEQUENCES, KNOWING IF THOUGHT OR FEELING IS RULING A DECISION, APPLYING THESE INSIGHTS TO ISSUES SUCH AS SEX AND DRUGS.

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                     * MANAGING FEELINGS : MONITORING "SELF-TALK" TO CATCH NEGATIVE MESSAGES SUCH AS INTERNAL PUT-DOWNS , REALIZING WHAT IS BEHIND A FEELING (E.G . THE HURT THAT UNDERLIES ANGER ), FINDING WAYS TO HANDLE FEARS AND ENXIETIES, ANGER, AND SADNESS .

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                     * HANDLING STRESS : LEARNING THE VALUE OF EXERCISE, GUIDED, IMAGERY, RELAXATION METHODS.

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                     * EMPATHY : UNDERSTANDING OTHER'S FEELINGS AND CONCERNS AND TAKING THEIR PERSPECTIVE, APPRECIATING THE DIFFERENCE IN HOW PEOPLE FEEL ABOUT THINGS .

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                     * COMMUNICATION : TALKING ABOUT FEELINGS EFFECTIVELY, BECOMING A GOOD LISTENER AND QUESTION-ASKER, DISTINGUISHING BETWEEN WHAT SOMEONE DOES OR SAYS AND YOUR OWN REACTIONS OR JUDGEMENTS ABOUT IT, SENDING "I" MESSAGES INSTEAD OF BLAME.

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                   * SELF-DISCIPLINE : VALUING OPENNESS AND BUILDING TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP, KNOWING WHEN IT'S SAFE TO RISK TALKING ABOUT YOUR PRIVATE FEELINGS.

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                   * INSIGHT : IDENTIFYING PATTERNS IN YOUR EMOTIONAL LIFE AND REACTIONS, RECOGNIZING SIMILAR PATTERNS IN OTHERS.

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                  * SELF-ACCEPTANCE : FEELING PRIDE AND SEEING YOURSELF IN A POSITIVE LIGHT, RECOGNIZING YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESS, BEING ABLE TO LAUGH YOURSELF.

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                  * PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY : TAKING RESPONSIBILITY, RECOGNIZING THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR DECISIONS AND ACTIONS, ACCEPTING YOUR FEELINGS AND MOODS, FOLLOWING THROUGH ON COMMITMENTS .( E.G. TO STUDYING )

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                   * ASSERTIVENESS : STATING YOUR CONCERNS AND FEELINGS WITHOUT ANGER OR PASIVITY .

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                  * GROUP DYNAMICS : CO OPERATION, KNOWING WHEN AND HOW TO LEAD, WHEN TO FOLLOW.

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                 * CONFLICT RESOLUTION : HOW TO FIGHT FAIR WITH OTHER KIDS, WITH PARENTS, WITH TEACHERS, THE WIN/WIN MODEL FOR NEGOTIATING COMPROMISE.