RESPONSIBILITY
IF WE THINK FOR ANY REASON THAT OTHERS ARE BETTER THAN US, WE UNCONSCIOUSLY ASSUME THAT WE MUST BE WORSE THAN THEY ARE. IF THEY ARE "WORTH MORE" THAN WE ARE, WE ASSUME THAT WE MUST BE "WORTH LESS". THIS FEELING OF INADEQUENCY OR WORTHLESSNESS LIES AT THE ROOT OF MOST PERSONALITY PROBLEMS IN OUR LIVES AS WELL AS MOST POLITICAL AND SOCIAL PROBLEMS IN OUR WORLD, BOTH NATIONALLY AND INTERNATIONALLY.
TO ESCAPE FROM THESE FEELINGS OF GUILT AND WORTHLESSNESS THAT HAVE BEEN INSTILLED IN US AS THE RESULT OF DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM IN CHILDHOOD, WE LASH OUT AT OUR WORLD, OTHER PEOPLE, AND SITUATIONS. IN ANY PART OF OUR LIFE WITH WHICH WE ARE UNHAPPY OR DISCONTENTED, OUR FIRST REACTION IS TO LOOK AROUND AND ASK, "WHO'S TO BLAME?
MOST RELIGIONS TEACH THE CONCEPT OF SIN, WHICH STATES THAT WHENEVER SOMETHING GOAS WRONG, SOMEONE IS TO BLAME. SOMEONE HAS DONE SOMETHING BAD. SOMEONE IS GUILTY. SOMEONE MUST BE PUNISHED. THIS WHOLE IDEA OF GUILT PUNISHMENT LEADS TO EVER-INCREASING FEELINGS OF ANGER, RESENTMENT, AND IRRESPONSIBILITY.
AN ATTITUDE OF IRRESPONSIBILITY
OUR COURTS TODAY ARE CLOGGED WITH THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE DEMANDING REDRESS AND PAYMENT FOR SOMETHING THAT WENT WRONG IN THEIR LIVES. BACKED UP BY AMBITIOUS PLAINTIFF LAWYERS, PEOPLE GO TO COURT DEMANDING COMPENSATION, EVEN IF THEY THEMSELVES ARE COMPLETELY AT FAULT FOR WHAT HAPPENED - ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE AT FAULT.
PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY. PEOPLE SPILL HOT COFFEE ON THEMSELVES AND SURE THE FAST FOOD RESTAURANT THAT SOLD THEM THE COFFEE IN THE FIRST PLACE. PEOPLE GET DRUNK AND DRIVE OFF THE ROAD AND THEN TURN AROUND AND SURE THE MANUFACTURER OF THE FIFTEEN-YEAR -OLD CAR THEY WERE DRIVING. PEOPLE CLIMP UP ON A STEPLADDER AND LEAN OVER TOO FAR, FALLING TO THE GROUND. THEY THEN SUE THE LADDER MANUFACTURER FOR THEIR UNJURY. IN EACH CASE, PEOPLE ARE ATTEMPTING TO ESCAPE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN BEHAVIOURS BY BLAMING SOMEONE ELSE, MAKING EXCUSES, AND THEN DEMANDING COMPENSATION.
ELIMINATING NEGATIVED EMOTIONS
THE COMMON DENOMINATOR OF ALL PEOPLE IS THE DESIRE TO BE HAPPY. IN ITS SIMPLEST TERMS, HAPPINESS ARISES FROM THE ABSENCE OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. WHERE THERE ARE NO NEGATIVE EMOTIONS, ALL THAT IS LEFT IS POSITIVE EMOTIONS. THEREFORE, THE ELIMINATION OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS IS YOUR GREAT BUSINESS IN LIFE IF YOU TRULY WISH TO BE HAPPY.
THERE ARE DOZENS OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. ALTHOUGH THE MOST COMMON ARE GUILT, RESENTMENT, ENVY, JEALOUSY, FEAR, AND HOSTILITY, THEY ALL ULTIMATELY BOIL DOWN TO A FEELING OF ANGER, DIRECTED EITHER INWARD OR OUTWARD.
ANGER IS DIRECTED INWARDLY WHEN YOU BOTTLE IT UP RATHER THAN EXPRESSING IT CONSTRUCTIVELY TO OTHERS. ANGER IS DIRECTED OUTWARDLY WHEN YOU CRITICIZE OR ATTACK OTHER PEOPLE.
PSYCHOSOMATIC ILLNESS
NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE THE MAJOR CAUSES OF PSYCHOSOMATIC ILLNESS. THIS OCCURS WHEN THE MIND (PSYCHO) MAKES THE BODY (SOMA) SICK. NEGATIVE EMOTIONS, ESPECIALLY AS EXPRESSED IN THE FORM OF ANGER, WEAKEN, YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM SYSTEM AND MAKE YOU SUSCEPTIBLE TO COLDS, FLU, AND OTHER DISEASES. UNCONTROLLED BURSTS OF ANGER CAN ACTUALLY BRING ABOUT HEART ATTACKS, STROKES, AND NERVOUS BREAKDOWNS.
HERE IS THE GREAT DISCOVERY; ALL NEGATIVE EMOTIONS, ESPECIALLY, ANGER, DEPEND FOR THEIR VERY EXISTENCE ON YOUR ABILITY TO BLAME SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE FOR SOMETHING IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU ARE NOT HAPPY ABOUT.
IT TAKES TREMENDOUS SELF-DISCIPLINE FOR YOU TO ACCEPT COMPETE RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERYTHING YOU ARE, EVERYTHING YOU BECOME,AND EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO YOU. EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT DIRECTLY RESPONSIBLE FOR SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS, LIKE HURRINCANE KATRINA, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR RESPONSES, FOR WHAT YOU DO AND SAY FROM THAT MOMENT FORWARD. IT TAKES TREMENDOUS SELF-MASTERY FOR YOU TO TAKE COMPLETE CONTROL OF YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND AND DELIBERATELY CHOOSE TO THINK POSITIVE, CONTRUCTIVE THOUGHTS THAT ENHANCE YOUR LIFE AND IMPROVE THE QUALITY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND RESULTS. BUT THE PAYOFF IS TREMENDOUS.
