THE EMOTIONAL SKILLS
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* IDENTIFYING AND LABELING FEELINGS
* EXPRESSING FEELINGS
*ASSESSING THE INTENSITY OF FEELINGS
*MANAGING OTHERS
* DELAYING IMPULSES
* CONTROLLING IMPULSES
* REDUCING STRESS
* KNOWING THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FEELINGS
AND ACTIONS
COGNITIVE SKILLS
* SELF-TALK - CONDUCTING AN "INNER DIALOGUE " AS A WAY TO COPE WITH A TOPIC OR CHALLENGE OR REINFORCE ONE'S OWN BEHAVIOR.
* READING AND INTERPRETING SOCIAL CUES - FOR EXAMPLE, RECOGNIZING SOCIAL INFLUENCES ON BEHAVIOR AND SEEING ONESELF IN THE PERSPECTIVE OF THE LARGER COMMUNITY.
* USING STEPS FOR PROBLEM-SOVING AN DECISION - MAKING - FOR INSTANCE, CONTROLLING, IMPULSES, SETTING GOALS, IDENTIFYING ALTERNATIVE ACTIONS, ACTICIPATING CONSEQUENCES.
* UNDERSTANDING THE PERSPECTIVE OF OTHERS'
* UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIORAL NORMS (WHAT IS AND IS NOT ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR)
* A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARD LIFE
* SELF-AWARENESS - FOR EXAMPLE, DEVELOPING REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS ABOUT ONESELF
BEHAVIORAL SKILLS
* NONVERBAL - COMMUNICATING THROUGH EYE CONTACT, FACIAL EXPRESSIVENESS, TONE OF VOICE, GESTURES, AND SO ON
* VERBAL - MAKING CLEAR REQUESTS, RESPONDING EFFECTIVELY TO CRITICISM, RESISTING NEGATIVE INFLUENCES, LISTENING TO OTHERS, PARTICIPATING IN POSITIVE PEER GROUPS.
👉 ORGANIZING GROUPS - THE ESSENTIAL SKILL OF THE LEADER, THIS INVOLVES INITIATING AND COORDINATING THE EFFORTS OF A NETWORK OF PEOPLE. THIS IS THE TALENT SEEN IN THEATRE DIRECTORS OR PRODUCERS, IN MILITARY OFFICERS, AND IN EFFECTIVE HEADS OF ORGANIZATIONS AND UNITS OF ALL KINDS, ON THE PLAYGROUND, THIS IS THE CHILD WHO TAKES THE LEAD IN DECIDING WHAT EVERYONE WILL PLAY, OR BECOMES TEAM CAPTAIN.
👉 NEGOTIATING SOLUTION - THE TALENT OF THE MEDIATOR, PREVENTING CONFLICTS OR RESOLVING THOSE THAT FLARE UP. PEOPLE WHO HAVE THIS ABILITY EXCEL IN DEALMAKING, IN ARBITRATINGOR MEDIATING DISPUTES, THEY MIGHT HAVE A CAREER IN DIPLOMACY, IN ARBITRATION OR LAW, OR AS MIDDLEMENT OR MANAGERS OF TAKEOVERS. THESE ARE KIDS WHO SETTLE ARGUMENTS ON THE PLAYING FIELD.
👉 PERSONAL CONNECTION - ROGERS' TALENT, THAT OF EMPATHY AND CONNECTING, THIS MAKES IT EASY TO ENTER INTO AN ENCOUNTER OR TO RECOGNIZE AND RESPOND PEOPLE MAKE GOOD "TEAM PLAYERS" DEPENDABLE SPOUSES, GOOD FRIENDS OR BUSINESS PARTNERS, IN THE BUSINESS WORLD THEY DO WELL AS SALESPEOPLE OR MANAGERS, OR CAN BE EXCELLENT TEACHERS. CHILDREN LIKE ROGER GET ALONG WELL WITH VIRTUALLY EVERYONE ELSE, EASILY ENTER INTO PLAYING WITH THEM, AND ARE HAPPY DOING SO. THESE CHILDREN TEND TO BE BEST AT READING EMOTIONS FROM FACIAL EXPRESSIONS AND ARE MOST LIKED BY THEIR CLASSMATES.
👉 SOCIAL ANALYSTS - BEING ABLE TO DETECT AND HAVE INSIGHTS ABOUT PEOPLE'S FEELINGS, MOTIVES, AND CONCERNS. THIS KNOWLEDGE OF HOW OTHERS FEEL CAN LEAD TO AN EASY INTIMACY OR SENSE OF RAPPORT. AT ITS BEST, THIS ABILITY MAKES ONE A COMPETENT THERAPIST OF COUNSELOR - OR, IF COMBINED WITH SOME LITERALLY TALENT, A GIFTED NOVELIST OR DRAMATIST.
