HOW OUR EMOTIONAL FEELINGS ARE WORK

 

                             FEELING (EMOTIONAL)

                                         HEART START

                            THE IMPACT OF PARENTING ON EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE STARTS IN THE CRADLE. DR. T. BERRY BRAZELTON, THE EMINENT, HARVARD PEDEATRICIAN, HAS A SIMPLE DIAGNOSTIC TEST OF A BABY'S BASIC OUTLOOK TOWARD LIFE. HE OFFERS TWO BLOCKS TO AN EIGHT-MONTH-OLD , AND THEN SHOWS THE BABY HOW HE WANS HER TO PUT THE TWO BLOCKS TOGETHER. A BABY WHO IS HOPEFUL ABOUT LIFE, WHO HAS CONFIDENCE IN HER OWN ABILITIES, SAYS BRAZELTON,

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                             WILL PICK UP ONE BLOCK, MOUTH IT, RUB IT IN HER HAIR, DROP IT OVER THE SIDE OF THE TABLE, WATCHING TO SEE WHETHER YOU WILL RETRIEVE IT FOR HER. WHEN YOU DO, SHE FINALLY COMPLETES TEH REQUESTED TASK - PLACE THE TWO BLOCKS TOGETHER. THEN SHE LOOKS UP AT YOU WITH A BRIGHT-EYED LOOK OF EXPECTANCY THAT SAYS, "TELL ME HOW GREAT I AM".

                              BABIES LIKE THESE HAVE GOTTEN A GOODLY DOSE OF APPROVAL AND ENCOURAGEMENT FROM THE ADULTS IN THEIR LIVES, THEY EXPECT TO SUCCEED IN LIFE'S LITTLE CHALLENGES. BY CONTRAST, BABIES WHO COME FROM HOMES TOO BLEAK, CHAOTIC, OR NEGLECTFUL GO ABOUT THE SAME TASK IN A WAY THAT SIGNALS THEY ALREADY EXPECT TO FAIL. IT IS NOT THAT THESE BABIES FAIL TO BRING THE BLOCKS TOGETHER, THEY UNDERSTAND THE INSTRUCTION AND HAVE THE COORDINATION TO COMPLY. BUT EVEN WHEN THEY DO, REPORTS BRAZELTON, THEIR DEMEANOR IS "HANGDOG" A LOOK THAT SAYS, I'M NO GOOD. SEE, I'VE FAILED, "SUCH CHILDREN ARE LIKELY TO GO THROUGH LIFE WITH A DEFEATIST OUTLOOK, EXPECTING NO ENCOURAGEMENT OR INTEREST FROM TEACHERS, FINDING SCHOOL JOYLESS, PERHAPS EVENTUALLY DROPPING OUT.

                         THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO OUTLOOKS - CHILDREN WHO ARE CONFIDENT AND OPTIMSTIC VERSUS THOSE WHO EXPECT TO FAIL- STARTS TO TAKE SHAPE IN THE FIRST FEW YEARS OF LIFE. PARENTS, SAYS BRAZELTON, "NEED TO UNDERSTAND HOW THEIR ACTIONS CAN HELP GENERATE THE CONFIDENCE, THE CURIOSITY, THE  PLEASURE IN LEARNING AND THE UNDERSTANDING OF LIMITS " THAT HELP CHILDREN SUCCEED IN LIFE. HIS ADVICE IS INFORMED BY A GROWING BODY OF EVIDENCE SHOWING THAT SUCCESS IN SCHOOL DEPENDS TO A SURPRISING EXTENT ON EMOTIONAL CHARACTERISTICS FORMED IN THE YEARS BEFORE A CHILD ENTERS SCHOOL. THE ABILITY OF FOUR-YEARS-OLDS TO CONTROL THE IMPULSE TO GRAB FOR A MARSHMALLOW PREDICTED A 210 POINT ADVANTAGE IN THEIR SAT SCORES FOURTEEN YEARS LATER.

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                         THE FIRST OPPORTUNITY FOR SHAPING THE INGREDIENTS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS IN THE EARLIEST YEARS, THOUGH THESE CAPACITIES CONTINUE TO FORM THROUGHOUT THE SCHOOL YEARS. THE EMOTIONAL ABILITIES CHILDREN ACQUIRE IN LATER LIFE BUILD ON THOSE OF THE EARLIEST YEARS. AND THESE ABILITIES, AS WE SAW IN CHAPTER 6, ARE THE ESSETIAL FOUNDATION FOR ALL LEARNING. A REPORT FROM THE NATIONAL CENTER FOR CLINICAL INFANT PROGRAMS MAKES THE POINT THAT SCHOOL SUCCESS IS NOT PREDICTED BY A CHILD'S FUND OF FACTS OR A PRECOCIOUS  ABILITY TO READ SO MUCH AS BY EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL MEASURES, BEING SELF-ASSURED AND INTERESTED, KNOWING WHAT KIND OF BEHAVIOR IS EXPECTED AND HOW TO REIN IN THE IMPULSE TO MISBEHAVE, BEING ABLE TO WAIT, TO FOLLOW DIRECTIONS, AND TO TURN TO TEACHERS FOR HELP., AND EXPRESSING NEEDS WHILE GETTING ALONE WITH OTHER CHILDREN.

                                 ALMOST ALL STUDENTS WHO DO POORLY IN SCHOOL, SAYS THE REPORT, LACK ONE OR MORE OF THESE ELEMENTS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (REGARDLESS OF WHETHER  THEY ALSO HAVE COGNITIVE DIFFICULTIES SUCH AS LEARNING DISABILITIES) THE MAGNITUDE OF THE PROBLEM IS NOT MINOR, IN SOME STATES CLOSE TO ONE IN FIVE CHILDREN HAVE TO REPEAT FIRST GRADE, AND THEN AS THE YEARS GO ON FALL FURTHER BEHIND THEIR PEERS, BECOMING INCREASINGLY DISCOURAGED, RESENTFUL AND DISRUPTIVE.

                          A CHILD'S READINESS FOR SCHOOL DEPENDS ON THE MOST BASIC OF ALL KNOWLEDGE, HOW TO LEARN. THE REPORT LISTS THE SEVEN KEY INGREDIENTS OF THIS CRUCIAL CAPACITY - ALL RELATED TO EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

                            👀 1. CONFIDENCE : A SENSE OF CONTROL AND MASTERY OF ONE'S BODY, BEHAVIOR AND WORLD, THE CHILD'S SENSE THAT HE IS MORE LIKELY NOT TO SUCCEED AT WHAT HE UNDERTAKES, AND THAT ADULTS WILL BE HELPFUL.

                           👀 2. CURIOSITY : THE SENSE THAT FINDING OUT ABOUT THINGS IS POSITIVE AND LEADS TO PLEASURE.

                        👀   3. INTENTIONALLY : THE WISH AND CAPACITY TO HAVE AN IMPACT, AND TO ACT UPON THAT WITH PERSISTENCE. THIS IS RELATED TO A SENSE OF COMPETENCE, OF BEING EFFECTIVE.

                        👀    4. SELF-CONTROL : THE ABILITY TO MODULATE AND CONTROL ONE'S OWN ACTIONS IN AGE-APPROPRIATE WAYS, A SENSE OF INNER CONTROL.

                       👀    5. RELATEDNESS : THE ABILITY TO ENGAGE WITH OTHERS BASED ON THE SENSE OF BEING UNDERSTOOD BY A UNDERSTANDING OTHERS.

                       👀     6. CAPACITY TO COMMUNICATE : THE WISH AND ABILITY TO VERBALLY EXHANGE IDEAS, FEELINGS, AND CONCEPTS WITH OTHERS. THIS IS RELATED TO SENSE OF TRUST IN OTHERS AND OF PLEASURE IN ENGAGING WITH OTHERS, INCLUDING ADULTS.

                        👀  7. CO OPERATIVENESS : THE ABILITY TO BALANCE ONE'S OWN NEEDS WITH THOSE OF OTHERS IN GROUP ACTIVITY.

                               WHETHER OR NOT A CHILD ARRIVES AT SCHOOL ON THE FIRST DAY OF KINDERGARTEN WITH THESE CAPABILITIES DEPENDS GREATLY ON HOW MUCH HER PARENTS - AND PRESCHOOL TEACHERS - HAVE GIVEN HER THE KIND OF CARE THAT AMOUNTS TO A "HEART START", THE EMOTIONAL EQUIVALENT OF THE HEAD START PROGRAMS.

THE SECRET OF YOUR GOOD FEELINGS

                            THE POWER OF FEELINGS

                          FEELING IS THE SECRET

                                                                          ---VEVILLE GODARD

                         YOU'RE A FEELING BEING

                       FROM THE MOMENT YOU ARE BORN, YOU ARE ALWAYS FEELING SOMETHING, AND SO IS EVERY OTHER PERSON. YOU CAN STOP YOUR CONSCIOUS THOUGHTS WHEN YOU'RE SLEEPING, BUT YOU CAN NEVER STOP FEELING, BECAUSE TO BE ALIVE IS TO FEEL LIFE. YOU ARE FEELING "BEING" TO THE CORE OF YOU, AND SO IT'S NO ACCIDENT THAT EVERY PART OF YOUR HUMAN BODY IS CREATED SO YOU CAN FEEL LIFE!

                     YOU HAVE THE SENSE OF SIGHT, HEARING, TASTE, SMELL, AND TOUCH, SO THAT YOU FEEL EVERYTHING IN LIFE. THEY ARE "FEELING" SENSES, BECAUSE THEY ENABLE YOU TO FEEL WHAT YOU SEE, FEEL WHAT YOU HEAR, FEEL WHAT YOU TASTE, FEEL WHAT YOU SMELL AND TOUCH. YOUR ENTIRE BODY IS COVERED WITH A FINE LAYER OF SKIN, WHICH IS A FEELING ORGAN, SO YOU CAN FEEL EVERYTHING.

                   HOQ YOU FEEL IN ANY ONE MOMENT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAT ANYTHING ELSE, BECAUSE HOW YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW IS CREATING YOUR LIFE.

                     POINT OF POWER

                     * LOVE IS NOT WEAK, FEEBLE OR SOFT. LOVE IS THE POSITIVE FORCE OF LIFE! LOVE IS THE CAUSE OF EVERYTHING POSITIVE AND GOOD.

                     * EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO BE, DO, OR HAVE COMES FROM LOVE.

                     * THE POSITIVE FORCE OF LOVE CAN CREATE ANYTHING GOOD, INCREASE THE GOOD THINGS, AND CHANGE ANYTHING NEGATIVE IN YOUR LIFE.

                    * EVERY DAY, IN EVERY MOMENT, YOU MAKE THE CHOICE WHETHER TO LOVE AND HARNESS THE POSITIVE FORCE - OR NOT.

                    * THE LAW OF ATTRACTION IS THE LAW OF LOVE, AND IT IS THE LAW THAT IS OPERATING IN YOUR LIFE.

                     * WHATEVER YOU GIVE OUT IN LIFE IS WHAT YOU RECEIVE BACK IN LIFE. GIVE POSITIVITY, YOU RECEIVE BACK POSITIVITY, GIVE NEGATIVITY, YOU RECEIVE BACK NEGATIVITY.

                     * LIFE DOESN'T HAPPEN TO YOU, YOU RECEIVE EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE BASED ON WHAT YOU'RE GIVEN.

                      * WHETHER YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS ARE GOOD OR BAD, THEY RETURN AS AUTOMATICALLY AND PRECISELY AS AN ECHO.

                       * PEOPLE WHO HAVE GREAT LIVES THINK AND TALK ABOUT WHT THEY LOVE MORE THAN WHAT THEY DON'T LOVE!

                        * TALK ABOUT THE GOOD NEWS OF THE DAY. TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU LOVE AND BRING WHAT YOU LOVE TO YOU.

                        * YOU HAVE AN UNLIMITED ABILITY TO THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU LOVE, AND SO YOU HAVE AN UNLIMITED ABILITY TO BRING EVERYTHING GOOD IN LIFE TO YOU!

                      * LOVE, BECAUSE WHEN YOU LOVE YOU ARE USING THE GREATEST POWER IN THE UNIVERSE.

                   POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

                    YOUR THOUGHTS ARE BOTH THE WORDS YOU HEAR IN YOUR HEAD AND THE WORDS YOU SPEAK OUT LOUD. WHEN YOU SAY TO SOMEBODY. "WHAT A BEAUTIFUL DAY", YOU HAD THE THOUGHTS FIRST AND THEN SPOKE THE WORDS. YOUR THOUGHTS ALSO BECOME YOUR ACTIONS. WHEN YOU GET OUT OF BED IN THE MORNING, YOU HAD THE THOUGHT OF GETTING OUT OF BED BEFORE YOU TOOK ACTION. YOU CAN'T TAKE ANY ACTION WITHOUT THINKING THE THOUGHT FIRST.

                   IT'S YOUR THOUGHTS THAT DETERMINE WHETHER YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS WILL BE POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE. BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW WHETHER YOUR THOUGHTS ARE POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE? YOUR THOUGHTS ARE POSITIVE WHEN THEY ARE THOUGHTS OF WHAT YOU WANT AND LOVE! AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ARE THOUGHTS OF WHAT YOU WANT AND LOVE! AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ARE THOUGHTS OF WHAT YOU DON'T WANT AND DON'T LOVE. IT IS THAT SIMPLE AND THAT EASY.

                     WHATEVER YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE, YOU WANT IT BECAUSE YOU LOVE IT. TAKE A MOMENT AND THINK ABOUT IT. YOU DON'T WANT THINGS YOU DON'T LOVE DO YOU? EVERY PERSON ONLY WANTS WHAT THEY LOVE, NOBODY WANTS WHAT THEY DON'T LOVE.

                     WHEN YOU THINK OR TALK ABOUT THE THINGS YOU WANT AND LOVE, SUCH AS, "I LOVE THOSE SHOES, THEY'RE BEAUTIFUL", YOUR THOUGHTS ARE POSITIVE, AND THOSE POSITIVE THOUGHTS WILL COME BACK TO YOU AS THE THINGS YOU LOVE - BEAUTIFUL SHOES. WHEN YOU THINK OR TALK ABOUT THE THINGS YOU DON'T WANT AND DON'T LOVE, SUCH AS, "LOOK AT THE PRICE OF THOSE SHOES, THAT'S HIGHWAY ROBBERY", YOUR THOUGHTS ARE NEGATIVE, AND THOSE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS WILL COME BACK TO YOU AS THE THINGS YOU DON'T LOVETHINGS THAT ARE TOO EXPENSIVE FOR YOU.

                   MOST PEOPLE THINK AND TALK ABOUT WHAT THEY DON'T LOVE MORE THAN THEY THINK ADN TALK ABOUT WHAT THEY LOVE. THEY GIVE OUT MORE NEGATIVITY THAN LOVE, AND IN DOING SO THEY ARE INADVERTENTLY DEPRIVING THEMSELVES OF ALL THE GOOD THINGS IN LIFE.

                   IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO HAVE A GREAT LIFE WITHOUT LOVE. PEOPLE WHO HAVE GREAT LIVES THINK AND TALK ABOUT WHAT THEY LOVE MORE THAN WHAT THEY DON'T LOVE ! AND PEOPLE WHO ARE STRUGGLING THINK AND TALK ABOUT THEY DON'T LOVE MORE THAN WHAT THEY DO LOVE!

                    "ONE WORD FREES US OF ALL THE WEIGHT AND PAIN OF LIVE,

                       THAT WORD IS LOVE".

                                                               --- SOPHOCLES

HOW TO ELIMINATE BAD FEELINGS

 

                                            BAD FEELINGS

                         YOU CAN CHANGE ANYTHING IN YOUR LIFE BY CHANGING HOW YOU FEEL. WHEN YOU CHANGE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ANY SUBJECT, THE SUBJECT MUST CHANGE! BUT IN CHANGING THE WAY YOU FEEL, DON'T TRY TO GET RID OF BAD FEELINGS, BECAUSE ALL BAD FEELINGS ARE SIMPLY A LACK OF LOVE. INSTEAD, YOU PUT LOVE IN! YOU DON'T TRY TO GET RID OF LOVE IN. THERE IS NOTHING TO DIG OUT OF YOU. WHEN YOU PUT LOVE INTO YOU, ALL BAD FEELINGS ARE GONE.

                     THERE IS ONLY ONE FORCE IN LIFE AND THAT FORCE IS LOVE. YOU ARE EITHER FEELING GOOD BECAUSE YOU ARE FULL OF LOVE, OR YOU ARE FEELING BAD BECAUSE YOU ARE EMPLY OF LOVE, BUT ALL YOUR FEELINGS ARE DEGREES OF LOVE.

                   THINK OF LOVE AS IF IT IS WATER IN A GLASS, AND THE GLASS IS YOUR BODY. WHEN A GLASS HAS ONLY A LITTLE WATER IN IT, IT IS EMPTY OF WATER. YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE WATER LEVEL IN THE GLASS BY WAGING WAR ON THE EMPTINESS AND TRYING TO RIP OUT THE EMPTINESS. THE EMPTINESS GOES BY FILLING THE GLASS WITH WATER. WHEN YOU HAVE BAD FEELINGS, YOU ARE EMPTY OF LOVE, AND SO WHEN YOU PUT LOVE INTO YOURSELF, THE BAD FEELINGS ARE GONE.

                                             DON'T RESIST BAD FEELINGS

                    EVERYTHING HAS ITS PERFECT PLACE IN LIFE, INCLUDING BAD FEELINGS. WITHOUT BAD FEELINGS, YOU WOULD NEVER KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO FEEL GOOD. YOU WOULD JUST FEEL THE ONE "BLAH" FEELING ALL THE TIME BECAUSE YOU WOULD HAVE NOTHING TO COMPARE YOUR FEELINGS TO. YOU WOULDN'T KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO FEEL REALLY HAPPY, EXCITED, OR JOYFUL. IT'S THOUGH FEELING SADNESS THAT YOU KNOW HOW GOOD IT FEELS TO BE HAPPY. YOU CAN NEVER REMOVE BAD FEELINGS FROM LIFE BECAUSE THEY ARE A PART OF LIFE, AND WITHOUT THEM, YOU WOULDN'T HAVE GOOD FEELINGS!.

                 IF YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT HAVING BAD FEELINGS, YOU ARE ADDING MORE POWER TO YOUR BAD FEELINGS. NOT ONLY WILL YOUR BAD FEELINGS GET WORSE, BUT YOU WILL INCREASE THE NEGATIVIT YOU'RE GIVING OUT. NOW YOU UNDERSTAND THAT BAD FEELINGS DON'T BRING THE LIFE YOU WANT, WHICH WILL MAKE YOU MORE MINDFUL NOT TO LET BAD FEELINGS TAKE OVER YOU. YOU  ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR FEELINGS, AND SO IF YOU HAVE A BAD FEELINGS SWEEPING OVER YOU, ONE WAY TO DISCHARGE ITS ENERGY IS TO LIGHTEN UP!

               "THERE IS A WORLD WITHIN - A WORLD OF THOUGHT AND 

               FEELING AND POWER, OF LIGHT AND BEAUTY, AND ALTHOUGH

               INVISIBLE, ITS FORCE ARE MIGHTY".

               LIFE IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN! WHEN YOU'RE HAVING FUN, YOU FEEL GREAT AND YOU RECEIVE GREAT THINGS! WHEN YOU TAKE LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY, YOU RECEIVE SERIOUS THINGS. HAVING FUN BRINGS THE LIFE YOU WANT, AND TAKING THINGS TOO SERIOUSLY BRINGS A LIFE YOU HAVE TO TAKE SERIOUSLY. YOU HAVE THE POWER OVER YOUR LIFE, AND YOU CAN USE IT TO DESIGN YOUR LIFE IN WHATEVER WAY YOU WANT, BUT FOR YOUR OWN SAKE, LIGHTEN UP!.

                  TO LIGHTEN UP ABOUT BAD FEELINGS, I HAVE IMAGINED BAD FEELINGS AS WILD HORSES. THERE'S AN ANGRY HORSE, A RESENTFUL HORSE, BLAMING HORSE, SULKY HORSE, CRANKY HORSE, GRUMPY HORSE, AN IRRITABLE HORSE - YOU  NAME IT,  THERE'S A STABLE FULL OF BAD FEELING HORSES. IF I FEEL SOME DISSAPPOINTMENT HORSE? GET OFF IT NOW, BECAUSE IT'S  HEADING FOR MORE DISSAPPOINTMENT AND YOU DON'T WANT TO GO WHERE IT'S GOING. AND SO I IMAGINE BAD FEELINGS AS WILD HORSES  I CLIMB ON, AND IF I CLIMBED ON THEM, THEN I CAN GET OFF THEM TOO. I DON'T SEE BAD FEELINGS AS SOMETHING THAT IS THE REAL ME OR ANYONE ELSE, BECAUSE THAT IS NOT THE TRUTH. BAD FEELINGS ARE NOT WHO ARE , AND THEY ARE NOT WHO ANYONE IS. A BAD FEELING IS SOMETHING YOU ALLOWED YOURSELF TO FEEL, AND YOU CAN CHOOSE TO GET OFF THAT HORSE AS FAST AS YOU JUMPED ON TO IT.

                   IF YOU THINK OF BAD FEELINGS AS A WILD HORSE THAT YOU CLIMBED ON, IT'S ONE WAY TO TAKE THE POWER OUT OF BAD FEELINGS! IF SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU IS CRANKY, THEIR BAD FEELING WILL HAVE FAR LESS POWER TO AFFECT YOU IF YOU IMAGINE THEM AS HAVING CLIMBED ON A CRANKY HORSE. YOU WILL NOT TAKE THIER CRANKINESS SO PERSONALLY. BUT IF YOU  DO TAKE IT PERSONALLY AND YOU BECOME CRANKY FROM THEIR CRANKINESS, THEN YOU JUST JUMPTED ON THE CRANKY HORSE WITH THEM!

                   RESPOND INTELLIGENTLY EVEN TO UNINTELLIGENT

                  TREATMENT.

                                                                                       ----- CIRCA 6TH CENTURY BC

                                                                                          FOUNDER OF TAOISM

                          AND SO WITH ANYTHING IN LIFE THAT I DON'T WANT, I USE MY IMAGINATION TO HAVE FUN AND TAKE THE POWER OUT OF WHAT I DON'T WANT. SOMETIMES WATCHING MYSELF OR OTHER PEOPLE RIDE WILD HORSES IN VARIOUS LIFE SITUATIONS MAKES ME LAUGH, AND WHEN YOU CAN LAUGH YOURSELF OUT OF A BAD FEELING, THAT IS REALLY SOMETHING! YOU HAVE JUST CHANGED YOUR LIFE.

                      SO IF YOU ARE FEELING BAD, DON'T GIVE THATBAD FEELING MORE POWER BY BEATING UP ON YOURSELF THAT YOU FEEL BAD. IF YOU DO THAT, YOU'RE JUST WHIPPING THE WILD HORSE INTO A BIGGER NEGATIVE FRENZY. THE IDEA IS A NOT TO HATE BAD FEELINGS BUT TO DELIBERATELY CHOOSE GOOD FEELINGS, AND CHOOSE THEM MORE OFTEN. WHEN YOU RESIST BAD FEELINGS, THEY INCREASE! THE MORE YOU DON'T WANT BAD FEELINGS, THE MORE YOU INCREASE THEM. THE MORE YOU RESIST ANYTHING IN LIFE, THE MORE YOU BRINGIT TO YOU. SO DON'T CARE ABOUT BAD FEELINGS IF THEY COME UPON YOU. DON'T RESIST THEM AT ALL, AND THEN YOU TAKE ALL THE POWER OUT OF THEM.

                           

                                                          POINTS OF POWER

                     * EVERY PERSON IS SURROUNDED BY A MAGNETIC FIELD. WHEREVER YOU GO, THE MAGNETIC FIELD GOES WITH YOU.

 

                     * YOU ATTRACT EVERYTHING THROUGH THE MAGNETISM OF YOUR FIELD. YOUR FEELINGS DETERMINE WHETHER YOUR FIELD IS POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE AT AY TIME.

                    * EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU GIVE LOVE, THROUGH YOUR FEELINGS, WORDS, OR ACTIONS, YOU ADD MORE LOVE TO THE FIELD AROUND YOU.

                   * THE MORE LOVE IN YOUR FIELD, THE MORE POWER YOU HAVE TO ATTRACT THE THINGS YOU LOVE.

                  * IMAGINE WHAT YOU WANT AS THE SIZE OF A DOT! FOR THE FORCE OF LOVE, WHAT YOU WANT IS SMALLER THAN A DOT!

                * YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TURN THE NEGATIVE INTO A POSITIVE. JUST GIVE LOSE FOR WHAT YOU WANT, BECAUSE THE CREATIVE OF WHAT YOU WANT REPLACES THE NEGATIVITY!

                * SPEND SEVEN MINUTES EACH DAY IMAGINING AND FEELINGS HAVING WHAT YOU WANT, DO IT UNTIL YOU KNOW YOUR DESIRE BELONGS TO YOU, AS YOU KNOW YOUR NAME BELONGS TO YOU.

                 * THERE IS ONLY ME FORCE IN LIFE AND THAT FORCE IS LOVE. YOU ARE EITHER FEELING GOOOD BECAUSE YOU ARE FULL OF LOVE, OR YOU ARE FEELING BAD BECAUSE YOU ARE EMPTY OF LOVE - BUT ALL OF YOUR FEELINGS ARE DEGREES OF LOVE.

               * TO LIGHTEN UP ABOUT BAD FEELINGS, IMAGINE BAD FEELINGS AS WILD HORSE YOU CLIMB ON. IF  YOU CLIMBED ON THEM YOU CAN CLIMB OFF THEM TOO! YOU CAN CHOOSE TO GET OFF THAT HORSE AS FAST AS YOU JUMPTED ON TO IT.

               * CHANGE WHAT YOU GIVE, AND YOU WILL ALWAYS, WITHOUT EXCEPTION, CHANGE WHAT YOU RECEIVE, BECAUSE THAT IS THE LAW OF ATTRACTION. THAT IS THE LAW OF LOVE.