SUGGESTING STEPS TO CONTROL OUR EMOTIONS
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HILL : WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST AS THE FIRST STEP TOWARD GAINING SUCH CONTROL OVER OUR EMOTIONS, MR.CARNEGIE?
CARNEGIE : THE FIRST STEP IS TO IDENTIFY THE EMOTIONS SO WE WILL RECOGNIZE THEM, AND TO AID US IN THIS TASK A NOTED PSYCHOLOGIST HAS PREPARED A LIST OT THE MOST COMMON EMOTIONS EXPRESSED IN OUR DAILY LIVES. THERE ARED SEVEN POSITIVE EMOTIONS AND SEVEN NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. I SHALL GIVE YOU THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS FIRST.
THE SEVEN NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE :
- FEAR (THERE ARE SEVEN DIFFERENT FORMS OF FEAR, WHICH WE SHALL DISCUSS LATER)
- JEALOUSY
- HATRED AND ENVY
- REVENGE AND MALICE
- GREED
- SUPERSTITION AND DISTRICT
- ANGER
NOW FOR THE SEVEN POSITIVE EMOTIONS, WHICH ARE
- LOVE
- SEX
- HOPE
- FAITH
- DESIRE
- OPTIMISM
- LOYALTY
IN THESE FOURTEEN EMOTIONS ONE MAY FIND THE LETTERS OF THE ALPHABET OF A LANGUAGE THAT SPELLS EITHER SUCCESS OR FAILURE! THESE FOURTEEN WORDS LITERALLY REPRESENT THE KEYBOARD OF THE MUSICAL INSTRUMENT OF LIFE, ON WHICH AN INDIVIDUAL PLAYS THE CHORDS DISCORDS OF UNHAPPINESS THAT LEAD TO MISERY AND BOSCURITY.
EACH OF THE FOURTEEN EMOTIONS IS RELATED TO MENTAL ATTITUDE. THIS IS WHY I HAVE STRESSED IS RELATED OF MENTAL ATTITUDE. THESE FOURTEEN EMOTIONS REPRESENT NOTHING EXCEPT MENTAL ATTITUDE. THEY ARE NOTHING BUT FEELINGS, OR STATES OF MIND. MORE IMPORTANT STILL, THEY ARE SUBJECT TO ORGANISM, GUIDANCE AND COMPLETE CONTROL BY ANY NORMAL PERSON. HERE IS KEYBOARD OF LIFE, ON WHICH AN INDIVIDUAL MAY COMPOSE THE TUNE THAT HIS SOULD WILL SING ALL THROUGH LIFE.
HILL : IN WHAT WAY HAS THE CREATOR GIVEN MAN CONTROL OVER THIS GRAND SCORE FOR THE SYMPHONY OF LIFE, MR. CARNEGIE?
CARNEGIE : BY GIVING MAN CONTROL OVER HIS POWERS OF THOUGHT. THE ONLY THING INDIVIDUALS HAS TO DO IS TO TAKE CHARGE OF HIS OWN MIND AND EXERCISE THIS CONTROL. THAT IS SOMETHING HE CANNOT NEGLECT OR AVOID, WITHOUT CONDEMNING HIS ENTIRE LIFE TO THE STRAY WINDS OF CHANCE!
REMEMBER, BEFORE WE LEAVE THIS SUBJECT, THAT THE POINT AT WHICH AN INDIVIDUAL BEGINS TO TAKE CONTROL OF THIS OWN MIND- AND THIS INCLUDES EMOTIONS OF COURSE - IS WHEN HE ADOPTS A DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE.
DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE IS THE STARTING POINT OF ALL ACHIEVEMENT. YOU SEE, THEREFORE, HOW DEFINITELY SUCCESS AND FAILURE ARE RELATED TO FAILURE. THE OTHER HALF SUCCESS BUILDERS.
HILL : I DARE SAY, MR. CARNEGIE, THAT ANYONE WHO SECURES A COPY OF THIS LIST OF THE FOURTEEN EMOTIONS AND WHO CAREFULLY EXAMINES HIMSELF IN CONNECTION WITH EACH OF THEM ON THE BASIS OF A DEFINITE SCHEDULE, WILL MAKE TREMENDOUS STRIDES TOWARD GAINING CONTROL OF HIS EMOTIONS.
CARNEGIE : LET US CALL IT ALERTNESS OF INTEREST IN PERSONS, PLACES AND THINGS. WITHOUT THE ABILITY TO FIX ONE'S INTEREST AT WILL ON ANY SUBJECT OR PERSON AND HOLD IT THERE FOR WHATEVER TIME THE OCCASION REQUIRES NO PERSON WILL HAVE AN ATTRACTIVE PERSONALLITY. YOU CAN PAY ANOTHER PERSON NO GREATER COMPLIMENT, GENERALLY SPEAKING, THAN THAT OF CONCENTRATING YOUR ATTENTION UPON HIM WHEN HE DESIRES YOUR ATTENTION. IT HAS BEEN SAID THAT IT IS A GREATER ACCOMPLISHMENT TO BE ABLE TO LISTEN WELL, THAN IT IS TO BE ABLE TO TALK WELL.
THIS IS ONE WAY IN WHICH A PERSON MAY PLEASE OTHERS AND AT THE SAME TIME ACQUIRE USABLE KNOWLEDGE. THE HABIT OF LOOKING IN SOME OTHER DIRECTION, OF FIDGETING WITH SOME POCKET GADGET WHEN OTHERS ARE TALKING, OF FIDGETING WITH SOME POCKET GADGET WHEN OTHERS ARE TALKING, IS AMONG THE WORST FORMS OF EFFRONTERY. THE HABIT OF INTERTING WHEN OTHERS ARE SPEAKING IS AN UNPARDONABLE INSULT! STRONG LANGUAGE, PERHAPS, BUT ACCURATELY DESCRIPTIVE OF AN IMPORTANT FACT.
HILL : ARE YOU IMPLYING, MR.CARNEGIE, THAT LACK OF OBSERVATION OF WHAT IS GOING ON AROUND ONE, AND FAILURE TO NOTICE DETAILS, IS AN ALL TOO COMMON WEAKNESS?
CARNEGIE : PRECISELY THAT. IT IS A COMMON WEAKNESS THAT COSTS PEOPLE A TREMENDOUS PRICE. IF ONE WILL MAKE A CAREFUL STUDY OF ONE'S SELF, WHEN CONVERSING WITH OTHERS, HE MAY DISCOVER THAT HE CAN ADD SUBSTANTIALLY TO HIS OWN PERSONALITY BY TAKING A KEENER INTEREST IN THE OTHER FELLOW'S PERSONALITY.
I HAVE OFTEN SUGGESTED TO SOME OF THE YOUNG MEN WHO WORKED WITH US, THAT IF THEY WOULD BECOME AS ALERTLY INTERESTED IN THE ASSOCIATES WITH WHOM THEY WORK, AND IN THEIR JOBS, AS THEY DO WHEN TALKING TO THEIR SWEETHEARTS, THE RESULTS WOULD SHOW A HEALTHY CHANGE IN THEIR PAY ENVELOPS.
ALERTNESS OF INTEREST IN OTHER PEOPLE NOT ONLY SERVES TO PLEASE THEM, BUT IT ALSO PROVIDES ONE WITH AN EXCELLENT OPPORTUNITY TO KNOW PEOPLE BY OBSERVING THEIR MANNERISM. ONE MAY LEARN VALUABLE LESSONS BY OBSERVING THE FAULTS AS WELL AS THE VIRTUES OF OTHER PEOPLE, AS THIS HABIT CAUSES ONE TO TAKE MORE ACCURATE INVENTORY OF HIMSELF, TO MAKE SURE HE DOES NOT DISPLAY THE SAME FAULTS.
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