BY IMPROVING YOURSELF
WITH SELF TALK
A TYPICAL EXAMPLE OF THE STORIES I 'M TOLD IS FOUND IN A LETTER I RECEIVED FROM A WOMAN WHO, AFTER ATTENDING A SEMINAR ON SELF-TALK HAD DECIDED TO LISTEN TO RECORDED SELF-TALK TO HELP HER WITH HER "FAMILY RELATIONSHIP"- IN PARTICULAR, HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER HUSBAND. THINGS HADN'T BEEN GOING TOO WELL FOR THEM, FINANCIALLY OR OTHERWISE, AND SHE WANTED TO PUT THINGS STRAIGHT, MEANWHILE, HER HUSBAND WAS SHOWING ALL THE SIGNS OF MAKING A SHOW BUT PREDICTABLE DEPARTURE FROM THE RELATIONSHIP.
THE WOMAN HAD GRADUATED FROM WRITING SELF-TALK CARDS AND READING THEM TO HERSELF, TO LISTENING TO RECORDED SELF-TALK. SHE LISTENED TO A SESSION ON IMPROVING PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS, A SESSION ON SELF-ESTEEM, A SESSION ON GOAL-SETTING, AND ANOTHER SESSION ON TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF. SHE LISTENED TO SELF-TALK EACH MORNING, WHEN SHE COULD DURING DAY, AND EACH NIGHT HUST BEFORE SHE WENT TO SLEEP. TO LISTEN TO THE SELF-TALK, SHE LET THE SESSIONS PLAY ALOUD, BUT IN THE BACKGROUND. ACCORDING TO HER, WHEN SHE FIRST BEGAN PLAING THE POSITIVE SELF-TAKE INT HE BACKGROUND, HER HUSBAND COULD NOT HAVE CARED LESS.
BUT AFTER A WEEK OR TWO, HER HUSBAND TOOK HER TO DINNER ONE EVENING, AND DURING DINNER THEY DISCUSSED THE SELF-TALK SHE WAS LISTENING TO. HE STILL SHOWED EVERY SIGN OF DISINTEREST IN THE SELF-TALK THE NEXT DAY, BUT AS SHE HAD LEARNED IN THE SEMINAR. DON'T WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT THE OTHER PEOPLE AROUND YOU THINK ABOUT YOUR SELF-TALK. JUST KEEP DOINT IT.
BY THE END OF THE THIRD WEEK, HER HUSBAND ASKED HER TO REPLAY ONE OF THE SESSION SHE HAD BEEN PLAYING WHILE THEY WERE GETTING DRESSED ONE MORNING. EARLIER, SHE HAD NOTICED THAT THEY WERE ARGUING LESS, BUT UNTIL THAT MORNING, HE HAD NEVER SHOWN ANY ACTIVE INTEREST IN THE SELF-TALK SHE WAS LISTENING TO EACH DAY. SHORTLY THEREAFTER,THE HUSBAND BEGAN TO EXHIBIT NOTICEABLE PROBLEMS THE HAD BEEN HAVING ON HIS JOB.
THE END RESULT WAS THAT BOTH OF THEM BEGAN TO TALK MORE, STARTED MAKING SOME NEW PLANTS, AND STARTED WORKING TOGETHER AGAIN. HER SELF-TALK HAD THE SAME EFFECT ON HIM AS IT DID ON HER! IT MADE NO DIFFERENCE WHETHER HE BELIEVED IN THE SELF-TALK OR NOT. HIS SUBCONSCIOUS MIND DIDN'T CARE IT SIMPLY ACTED ON THE NEW INFORMATION HE WAS UNCONSIOUSLY PROGRAMMING. HE WAS, WITHOUT EVEN THINKING ABOUT IT, ACCEPTING THE NEW, MORE POSITIVE PROGRAMMING THAT BEING PLAYED AS A BACKGROUND TO THIER DAILY LIVES. INITIALLY, ONE OF THEM, 'BELIEVED' AND THE OTHER DID NOT. IT DIDN'T MAKE ANY DIFFERENCE.
IN YOUR OWN PRACTICE OF SELF-TALK, THE IMMEDIATELY HELPING THING YOU CAN DO IS TO LISTEN TO SELF-TALK. MANY PEOPLE START WITH LISTENING TO THE SELF-TALK SESSION THAT ARE DESIGNED TO HELP THEM REACH THEIR GOALS. THAT'S BECAUSE THE ARE OF GOAL-SETTING AND GOAL ACHIEVEMENT IS WHERE ISTHE EXTERNAL RESULTS OF THE INTERNAL CHANGES YOU'RE MAKING ARE LIVED OUT IN EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR DAY, AND YOU CAN SEE THE FIRST RESULTS ALMOST IMMEDIATELY. SINCE SELF-TALK SESSIONS CAN NOW BE STREAMED DIRECTLY TO YOUR SMARTPHONE OR ANY LISTENING DEVICE, LISTENING IN THIS WAY HAS BECOME VERY POPULAR, AND IT'S ALSO PRACTICAL.
LISTENING TO RECORDED SELF-TALK SESSIONS HAS SOME ADVANTAGES GOING FOR IS THAT ARE AS YET UNRIVALED IN THE SELF-DEVELOPMENT FIELD. THE FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT ADVANTAGES IS THAT YOU CAN LISTEN TO PASSIVE SELF-TALK THAT IS WRITING YOUR BRAIN AND IMPROVING YOUR LIFE WHILE YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING ELSE. YOU DONT HAVE TO FOCUS ON LISTENING. BECAUSE THE SELF-TALK IS BEING PLAYED LOUD ENOUGH TO BE HEARD, AND IT'S CLEARLY AUDIBLE, EVEN IF IT'S PLAYING SOFTLY IN THE BACKGROUND, YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND WILL BE LISTENING, AND IT WILL BE BUSILY PROGRAMMING THE NEW POSITIVE INFORMATION ABOUT YOU WHETHER YOU'RE CONNSCIOUSLY THINKING ABOUT IT OR NOT.
ANOTHER ADVANTAGE TO LISTENING IS THAT DOING SO WITH TODAY'S, TECHNOLOGICAL ADVANTAGES IS ESPECIALLY CONVENIENT - SO ITS A TOOL YOU ACTUALLY END UP USING. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TAP ON THE MENU OF SELF-TALK SESSIONS LISTED ON THE SCREEN OF YOUR SMARTPHONE, SELECT THE SUBJECT YOU WANT TO LISTEN TO THAT DAY, AND START LISTENING. WRITING OUT SCRIPTS OF SELF-BELIEF, READING AND REREADING A BOOK, OR TRYING TO STUDY A COURSE IN SELF-ACHIEVEMENT.
YET ANOTHER IMPORTANT ADVANTAGE IS THAT THE RECORDED SESSION, BECAUSE THEY ARE AVAILABLE ANYTIME WE WANT TO LISTEN OR ANYTIME WE NEED THEIR HELP, GIVE US A "COACH" THAT USES THE RIGHT SELF-TALK TO GIVE US IMMEDIATE EXTERNAL MOTIVATION WHEN WE MINDS WITH A WINNING SCRIPT OF INTERNAL MOTIVATION TO GIVE US LISTENING RESULTS.
ONE OF MY FAVORITE SELF-TALK SESSION SIS TITLED, "BELIEVING IN INCREDIBLE YOU". IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO LISTEN TO THAT SESSION WITHOUT FEELING OF LISTENING. AND WHILE IT IS GEARING ME UP AND GETTING ME GOING, FILLING ME WITH THE KIND OF ENTHUSIASM THAT TURNS AN AVERAGE DAY INTO AN EXCEPTIONAL DAY, IT IS ALSO CAREFULLY AND BUSILY REPROGRAMMING ME TO MAKE EVERY DAY MORE EFFECTIVE, MORE PRODUCTIVE, MORE SELF-FULFILLING IN EVERY WAY.
LISTENING TO THAT KIND OF SELF-TALK SESSION IS LIKE HAVING, A PERSONAL COACH, A BEST FRIEND, STANDING AT YOUR SIDE, ENCOURAGING, MOTIVATING, UPLIFTING, BELIEVING, AND PUSHIBG YOU FORWARD THAT DAY, THAT MOMENT, HELPING YOU EXTRACT AND ACHIEGVE THE BEST FROM YOURSELF.
IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO AVAIL YOURSELF OF ONE OF THE MOST WORTHWHILE METHODS OF SETTING UP YOUR OWN FUTURE TO THE GOOD, I ENCOURAGE YOU TO LISTEN TO SELF-TALK. OF ALL THE WAYS TO PRACTICE SELF-TALK LISTENING TO THE RIGHT SELF-TALK IS THE MOST IMMEDIATELY HELPFUL AND THE MOST ENDURING. JUST TAP THE SCREEN, GO ABOUT YOUR DAY, AND LET IT PLAY. YOUR SUBCONSIOUS MIND WILL BE LISTENING.
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