CHANGE YOUR HABIT
OF THE MANY WAYS YOU CAN USE SELF-TALK ITS VARIOUS FORMS, YOU WILL FIND THAT ALL SELF-TALK SUGGESTIONS OR PHRASES FIT INTO ONE OF FOUR CATEGORIES, HABIT-CHANGING, ATTITUDE-BUILDING, MOTIVATIONAL OR SITUATIONAL SELF-TALK.
MOST OF US HAVE A HABIT OR TWO THAT WE WOULD LIKE TO CHANGE. IT IS USUALLY SOMETHING WE DO THAT CAUSES US PROBLEMS (OR CAUSES OTHER PEOPLE PROBLEMS) THESE ARE THE HABITS THAT GET IN OUR WAY. HOLD US BACK, OR IN SOME CASES, STOP US COMPLETELY - THEY ARE THE WELL-TRODDEN PATHS THAT, EVEN THOUGH THEY LEAD US IN THE WRONG DIRECTION, WE MOST EASILY FOLLOW.
ALL HABITS ARE THE RESULT OF OUR PREVIOUS CONDITIONINGTHINGS WE LEARNED TO DO, AND PRACTICED THEM UNTIL THEY BECAME WHAT SEEMS LIKE A NATURAL WAY TO BEHAVE. THEY ARE NOT NATURAL AT ALL, OF COURSE, WE WEREN'T BORN WITH ANY OF THEM. THEY ARE HABITS - NEGATIVE PROGRAMS THAT STUCK. ANY OF THEM CAN BE REPLACED WITH A NEW PROGRAM.
HABIT-CHANGING SELF-TALK HELPS YOU WORK ON A SPECIFIC PROBLEM. THIS IS THE SELF-TALK THAT DIRECTS YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND TO STOP DOING SOMETHING ONE WAY AND STAR DOING IT ANOTHER . IT IS THE SELF-TALK THAT REPLACES A BAHAVIOR PATTERN THAT WORKS AGAINST YOU WITH A BEHAVIOR PATTERN THAT HELPS YOU SOLVE PROBLEMS OR REACH GOALS BY CHANGING YOUR ACTIONS. LET'S LOOK AT A FEW OF THE MORE COMMON HABITS WITH WHICH ALL OF US ARE FAMILIAR.
* PUTTING THINGS OFF OR PROCRASTINATING
* WORKING TOO HARD OR NOT WORKING HARD ENOUGH
* ARGUING
* IGNORING PROBLEMS
* OVERSLEEPING
* SMOKING
* FORGETTING NAMES OR OTHER IMPORTANT THINGS
* BEING A COMPLAINER
* MAKING EXCUSES
* LOSING THINGS
* OVERINDULGING - EATING OR DRINKING TOO MUCH
* BEING SARCASTIC
* SAYING "YES" WHEN YOU WANT TO SAY "NO"
* NEVER BEING ON TIME
* NOT LISTENING
* BLAMING OTHERS
* INTERRUPTING OTHER PEOPLE WHEN THEY'RE TALKING
* BEING DISORGANIZED
* NOT TELLING THE TRUTH
* WORRYING
* BEING A GOSSIP
* NOT SETTING PRIORITIES
* WORRYING
* BEING A GOSSIP
* NOT SETTING PRIORITIES
* LETTING YOUR EMOTIONS CONTROL YOU
* WASTING TIME
* GIVING ADVICE THAT ISN'T ASKED FOR
* SPENDING MORE MONEY THAN YOU EARN
* TALKING TOO MUCH
* BEING OVERLY CRITICAL OF OTHERS
* NOT TAKING CARE OF DETAILS
* STARTING SOMETHING BUT NOT FINISHING IT
ALL OF THESE ARE HABITS, AND ALL OF THEM CAN BE CHANGED OR IMPROVED UPON WITH THE RIGHT KIND OF SELF-TALK.
WHETHER A HABIT YOU WOULD LIKE TO CHANGE IS AS SIMPLE IMPROVED UPON WITH THE RIGHT KIND OF SELF-TALK.
WHETHER A HABIT YOU WOULD LIKE TO CHANGE IS AS SIMPLE AS INTERUPPTING OTHERS, OR GETTING SOMETHING DONE ON TIME, THERE IS A SPECIFIC KIND OF SELF-TALK THAT WILL HELP YOU DO JUST THAT. HABIT CHANGING SELF-TALK IS SPECIFIC AND DEMANDING. IT REFUSES TO TOLERATE OR ACCEPT THE OLD HABIT WHILE IT CREATES A NEW PICTURE OF YOU ACTING AND BAHAVING IN A WAY THAT PLUS THE OLD HABIT BEHIND YOU, IT PUTS YOU INTO MOTION WITH A PRODUCTIVE NEW HABIT PATTERN THAT REPLACES THE OLD.
