ALERTNESS

                                                                ALERTNESS

                      LET ME START THIS SECTION WITH A SMALL BUT WITTY STORY ABOUT THE GREAT SCIENTIST SI ISAAC NEWTON. 

                    NEWTON ONCE INVITED A FRIEND TO DINNER AND THEN FORGOT ABOUT IT. WHEN THE FRIEND ARRIVED, HE FOUND THE SCIENTIST DEEP IN MEDITATION.

                    KNOWING THAY THE SCIENTIST SHOULD NOT BE DISTURBED WHILE IN CONTEMPLATION THE FRIEND SAT DOWN QUITELY AND WAITED. SOMETIMES LATER DINNER FOR ONE WAS BROUGHT ON A TRAY. HOWEVER, NEWTON CONTINUED TO REMAIN IN MEDITATION, PULLING UP A CHAIR AND WITHOUT DISTURBING NEWTON, THE FRIEND SILENTLY ATE THE DINNER. LATER, NEWTON CAME OUT OF HIS CONTEMPLATIVE STATE, LOOKED WITH SIME CONFUSION AT THE EMPTY DISHES AND SAID IF IT WEREN'T FOR THE PROOF BEFORE MY EYES, I COULD HAVE SWORN THAT I HAD NOT YET DINED.

MOST LUCKY PEOPLE HAVE UNERSTOOD THAT CALMING THE MIND IS A KEY METHOD TO INCREASE ALTERNESS, MANY YEARS AGO I VISITED IGATPURI TO ATTEND A VIPASSANA MEDITATION CAMP. THE COURSE PARTICIPANTS HAD TO MEDITATE FOR OVER TEN HOURS DAILY AND MAINTAIN COMPLETE SILENCE THROUGHUOT THE TEN DAY STAY. IN THE EVENING WE WOULD HEAR VIDEOTAPED LECTURES BY SHRI S.N. GOENKA , THE FOUNDER OF THE MOVEMENT. IT WAS POSSIBLY THE ONLY HUMAN VOICE WE HEARD DURING OUR ENTIRE STAY. ONE OF HIS LECTURES WAS ABOUT TAMING A WILD ELEPHANT. 

THE METHOD USED TO TAME WILD ELEPHANT IN ANCIENT TIMES WAS TO TIE THE CAPTURED BEAST TO A FIRM POST WITH A STRONG ROPE. THE UNHAPPY ANIMAL WOULD SCREAM, STAMP AND THROW A FIT, USUALLY FOR SEVERAL DAYS. EVENTUALLY THE ELEPHANT WOULD REALIZE THAT IT COULD NOT ESCAPE. AT THIS POINT IT WOULD SETTLE DOWN. THE TRAINER COULD NOW BEGIN TO FEED AND HANDLE IT WITH SOME MEASURE OF SAFETY.

AFTER SOME TIME, THE TRAINER WOULD BE ABLE TO DISPENSE WITH THE ROPE AND POST ENTIRELY.

ACCORDING TO PROPONENTS OF VIPASSANA, THE HUMAN MIND IS LIKE A WILD ELEPHANT, MINDFULNESS IS THE ROPE. AND MEDITATION IS THE FIXED POST.

MEDITATION AND MINDFULLNESS CAN TAME THE MIND, MUCH LIKE THE POST AND ROPE CAN TAME THE BEAST.

CAUSING RIPPLE

                                                     CAUSING RIPPLE

C - CONFIDENT

A - ALERTNESS

U -  UNLEARN

S - SITUATIONS

I - INTUITION

N - NETWORK

G - GOODNESS

R - RISKS

I - INFORMATION

P - POSITIVITY

P - PASSION

L - LEVERAGE

E - EXPERIMENT

* CONFIDENT - LUCKY PEOPLE DEVELOP THEIR CONFIDENT AND COMMUNICATE

* ALERTNESS - LUCKY PEOPLE FIND WAYS TO REMAIN CALM AND THUS ALERT

* UNLEARN - LUCKY PEOPLE UNLERN OLD ATTITUDES AND APPROACHES

* SITUATIONS - LUCKY PEOPLE MAKE THE BEST OF BAD SITUATIONS

* INTUITION - LUCKY PEOPLE LISTEN TO THEIR INTUITION AND DEVELOPE IT

* NETWORK - LUCKY PEOPLE GROW AND STRENGTHEN THEIR NETWORK

* GOODNESS - LUCKY PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THE POWER OF GOODNESS

* RISKS - LUCKY PEOPLE TAKE CALCULATED RISKS, CUT LOSSES, AND LEARN FROM MISTAKES

* INFORMATION - LUCKY PEOPLES STAY INFORMED AND THUS ABSORB NEW IDEAS

* POSITIVITY - LUCKY PROPLES STAY POSITIVE, PERSEVERE AND CULTIVATE A THICK SKIN

* PASSION - LUCKY PEOPLES SEEK WAY TO GET PAID FOR THEIR PASSION

* LEVERAGE - LUCKY PEOPLE LEVERAGE PREPARATION, PLANNING AND POTENTIAL

* EXPERIMENT - LUCKY PEOPLE ARE WILLING TO TRY NEW THINGS

                   THESE THIRTEEN ATTITUDES AND APPROACHES ARE BY NO MEANS EXHAUSIVE. HOWEVER, I BELIEVE THEY ARE THE MOST COMMON TRAITS OF PEOPLE WHO EVENTUALLY SUCCEED IN GETTING LUCKY. WHEN WE EXAMINE THE LIVES OF LUCKY PEOPLE WE MAY ASK, HE IS NOT A NICE PERSON. HOW HAS SHE BEEN ABLE TO GET ANYTHING DONE.?

                   JUST AS A STUDENT CAN COMPENSATE FOR A WEAK SUBJECT WITH A STRONG ONE THE SAME PRINCIPLES ALSO APPLIES TO LUCK. THE NEXT CHAPTER WILL EXPLAIN HOW VARIOUS ATTRIBUTES ADD UP TO A COMPOSITE SCORE, SOMETHING THAT I REFER TO AS ' THE LUCK QUOTIENT'.

BE CONFIDENT

                                                     CONFIDENT

                AWKWARD AND SHY DURING MY TEENAGE YEARS AND ALWAYS OVERWEIGHT. I REMEMBER ATTENDING PARTIES WITH THE NAGGING FEAR OF NOT KNOWING ANYONE, OF HAVING TO SIT ALONE IN A CORNER NURSING A DRINK. I INEVITABLY ENDED UP DONE PRECISELY THAT. 

              DURING MY LAST FEW YEAR IN SCHOOL, SOME TEACHERS FORCED ME INTO ELOCUTION, DEBATES AND DRAMATICS. THROUGH I WAS INITIALLY NERVOUS, MY SELF- CONFIDENT INCREASED WITH EVERY SUCCESSIVE COMPETITION. I EVENTUALLY REACHED A STAGE WHERE I ACTIVELY SOUGHT OPPORTUNITIES TO SPEAK A STAGE ( AND HAD TO BE GENTLY REMINDED TO SHUT UP).

          SO WHAT IS THE SOLUTION TO ACQUIRING CONFIDENT?  ITS SIMPLE. CONQUER FEAR.

           OVERCOMING FEAR- OF ANY SORT- ALLOWS ONE TO OPEN UP TO THE FLOW OF OPPORTUNITIES. BERTRAND RUSSEL, THE BRITISH PHILOSOPHER AND MATHEMATICIAN, OBSERVED, 'TO CONQUER FEAR IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM'.

             CITING THE WORK OF PSYCHOLOGIST DANIEL GILBERT AND TIMOTHY WILSON, SCHWALBE EXPLAINS 'THE IMPACT BIAS'. THE IMPACT BIAS IS OUR TENDENCY TO GREATLY OVERESTIMATE THE INTENSITY AND EXTENT OF OUR EMOTIONAL REACTIONS. THE NET RESULT OF THIS BIAS? WE EXPECT FAILURES TO BE MORE POWERFUL THAN THEY ACTUALLY ARE, SO WE FEAR THEM MORE THAN WE NEED TO.COSIDER LEGENDARY INVESTOR WARREN BUFFET WHO HAD A FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING.

          BILLIONAIRE INVESTOR WARREN BUFFET WAS PETRIFIED OF PUBLIC SPEAKING. HE WOULD PICK HIS COLLEGE CLASSES CAREFULLY TO ENSURE THAT HE WOULD NOT HAVE TO ADDRESS THE CLASS.

         BUFFET JOINED A PUBLIC SPEAKING COURSE BUT NEVER ATTENDED ANY OF THE SESSIONS, I' LOST MY NERVE' HE SAID IN AN INTERVIEW LATER. 

                  HE WAS NOT ALONE. COUNTLESS FAMOUS PEOPLE INCLUDING  BRUCE WILLIS, TIGER WOODS, JULIA ROBERST, ANTHONY QUINE , JIMMY STEWART HAD ISSUES WITH PUBLIC SPEAKING. AT TWENTY - ONE , BUFFET STARTED HIS INVESTMENT CAREER AND REALIZED THAT HE SIMPLY HAD TO OVERCOME HIS FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING.

                    BUFFET SIGNED UP FOR A DALE CARNEGIE COURSE WITH MANY  LIKE WHO WERE SCARED OF GETTING UP AND SAYING OUR NAMES. FAST FORWARD TO THE ANNUAL MEETING OF BERKSHIRE HATHAWAY'S SHAREHOLDERS. EACH YEAR MORE THAN 35000 SHAREHOLDERS DESCEND UPON OMAHA. IT IS BUT OBVIOUS THAT BUFFET IS THE STAR ATTRACTION. BUFFET NOT ONLY SPEAKS, BUT MANAGES TO SING, DANCE AND POSE FOR PHOTOGRAPES!

COMMUNICATION

                                             IMPROVING COMMUNICATION

                                        

         NONE OF US LIVES OR WORKS IN TOTAL ISOLATION. WE HAVE TO INTERACT WITH OTHER PEOPLE SOME OF THE TIME. EVEN IF YOU SET OUT TO BE A HERMIT, YOU WOULD INDOUBTEDLY FIND YOURSELF HAVING TO TELL OTHER PEOPLE TO GO AWAY WHEN THEY WANTED TO EXPLORE YOUR CAVE.

        IN FACT, HUMANS ARE SOCIAL ANIMALS, AND MOSTLY WE WANT THE COMPANY OF OTHERS AND FEEL BAD WITHOUT IT. THIS GIVES A KEY ROLE TO COMMUNICATION BECAUSE IT IS THROUGH COMMUNICATION THAT WE MAKE CONTACT WITH THE OTHER PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES.

GOOD COMMUNICATION CAN MAKE OUR RELATIONSHIP AND INTERACTIONS WITH OTHERS REWARDING AND ENJOYABLE. BAD COMMUNICATION OR A LACK OF COMMUNICATION CAN MAKE RELATIONSHIP UNPLEASANT, INTERACTIONS UNREWARDING AND DIMINISH INDIVIDUAL PRODUCTIVETY. A LACK OF GOOD COMMUNICATION IS A COMMAN STRESSOR.

A LACK OF GOOD COMMUNICATION IS A MAJOR FACTOR IN DISTRESSED RELATIONSHIP, SUCH AS MARRIAGES AND PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS. IF THESE ARE PARTICULAR STRESSORS FOR YOU, WE RECOMMEND OUR MANUAL LIVING AND LOVING TOGETHER, ALSO PUBLISHED BY VIKING O 'NEIL, ALTHOUGH THE PRINCIPLE WE OUTLINE HERE APPLY TO ALL RELATIONSHIPS.

SINCE COMMUNICATION OCCURS BETWEEN AND AMONGST PEOPLE, ITS LACK OR MISUSE NOT ONLY CAUSES INDIVIDUAL DYSTESS, BUT ALSO PARTICULARLY LEADS TO NEGATIVE EFFECTS IN GROUPS OF PEOPLE, SUCH AS ORGANISATIONS OR CORPORATIONS, WE HAVE BEEN STRUCK AS ORGANISATIONS OR CORPORATIONS,'WE HAVE BEEB STRUCK BY THE NUMBER OF INDIVIDUAL WORKERS WHO HAVE TOLD US THAT ONE OF THE BIG PROBLEMS IN THEIR RESPECTIVE ORGANISATION IS A LACK OF COMMUNICATION. IF YOU THINK OF GOOD COMMUNICATION HAS BEEN CONTRIBUTING TO YOUR DYSTRESS, YOU CAN BEGIN CHANGING THAT BY IDENTIFYING WHICH OF THE COMMON OBTACLES TO COMMUNICATION HAVE APPLIED TO YOU. THEN YOU KNOW WHAT TO AIM AT CHANGING, WHEN YOU TRY THE GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS LATER.

 

RELAXATION

                                                                      RELAXATION

RELAXATION IS ONE OF THE "POPULAR" APPROCHES TO STRESS MANAGEMENT, AND MANY OF THE COURSES OR GADGETS BEING SOLD AS CURE-ALLS FOR STRESS ARE VARIATIONS OF RELAXATION, SUCH AS YOGA, MEDITATION, BIOFEEDBACK, HYPNOSIS AND SO ON. THE TROUBLE IS THAT THESE APPROACHES COSIST LARGELY OR ENTIRELY OF PHYSICAL RELAXATION, OR HOW TO RELAX YOUR MUSCLES, YET YOU EXPERIENCE DYSTRESS, ESPECIALLY ITS EMOTIONS, MOSTLY IN YOUR MIND. THERE IS MUSCULAR TENSION COMPONENT OF DYSTRESS FOR MANY PEOPLE ON MANY OCCASIONS, BUT NOT ALWAYS AND EVEN IF THERE IS THIS BODILY COMPONENT IT IS SECONDARY TO THE MENTAL COMPONENT . WE SEE MANY PEOPLE WHO SAY TRY TO RELAX PHYSICALLY OR MAY BE WELL ABLE TO DO SO BUT IT IS NOT ANY HELP BECAUSE THEIR MIND ARE RACING AND HASSLED.  

THE BOTTOM LINE ON THIS SITUATION IS A THROUGH SURVEY OF RESEARCH ON RELAXATION CONDUCTED BY DR NEVILLE KING OF THE PHLIP INTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY, OF NO LESS THAN 197 RESEARCH REPORTS AND RELATED ARTICLES. THER SEEMS TO BE NO CONVINCING SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE FOR THE EFFICACY OF RELAXATION- TRAINING, PROBABLY BECAUSE SUCH TRAINING DOES NOT NOTHING ABOUT WHAT IS CAUSING THE PERSONS TENSION IN THE FIRST PLACE. MANY PEOPLE BELIEVE THAT RELAXATION TRAINING IS HELPFUL. THOSE WHO ARE SELLING IT TO YOU HAVE AN PBVIOUS VESTED INTEREST IN BELIEVING SO, OR AT LEAST IN GETTING YOU TO BELIEVE IT, WHILE SOME OF THOSE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED IT BELIEVE IT, WHILE SOME OF THOSE WHO HAVE BELIEVE RELAXATION- TRAINING WAS HELPFUL BECAUSE IT MADE THEM FEEL GOOD AT THE TIME.

AND THERES THE RUB. AS SO MANY PEOPLE SAY TO US, I FEEL WONDERFUL AT MY YOGA CLASS, BUT ONCE I GO BACK TO WORK, I FEEL TENSE AGAIN. OR I CAN RELAX MY MUSLES FINE, BUT WHEN I DO ALL THAT HAPPENS IS WORRY MORE. A CLEAR EXAPLE OF THIS IS THIS THE FORM OF INSOMNIA WHERE A PERSON WILL TELL US THAT HE CAN RELAX QUITE WELL IN BED, BUT HE CANT SLEEP BECAUSE HE IS WORRYING TOO MUCH. WE BELIEVE THAT EFFECTIVE RELAXATION HAS DOING FOR US...

MEDITATION

                                                              MEDITATION 

MEDITATION IS IMPROVED OUR SELF ESTEEM. ITS SUPPORT THE DEVELOPMENT OF BRAIN STRUCTURES. AND ITS SUPPORTING STUDENTS ABLE TO CONTROL THEIR 

ATTENTION. DOING MEDITATION HELP TO REDUCING STRESS. ITS MAY EVEN MAKE YOU HAPPIER, AND ITS REDUCES NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AND INCREASE POSITIVE ONES.

THERE IS GOOD EVIDENCE THAT MEDITATION CAN IMPROVE WORKING MEMORY. THERE IS HAVE POSITIVE IMPACT ON BRAIN STRUCTURES ASSOCIATED WITH LEARNING AND PROBLEM SOLVING . 

MEDITATION CAN IMPROVE SLEEP QUALITY , ITS HELP TO AVOID NEGATIVITY AND OVER THINKING AND DEPRESSION. IT CAN IMPROVED PHYSICAL HEALTH. MEDITATION CAN HELP TO INCREASE INTELLIGENCE AND CREATIVITY LEVEL OF STUDENTS. AND ITS HELP TO STAY AWAY FROM BAD HABITS AND HELPS TO  GAIN THE CONFIDENTS

TO BEGIN MEDIATATING FIND A PLACE WHERE YOU CAN SIT COMFORTABLE AND QUITABLE. THEN CLOSE YOUR EYES DO NOTHING FOR A MINUTE OR SO. HEAR 

SOME AUDIO ( MANTRA ). AFTER ONE MINUTE AUDIO WILL FADE TO SILENCE. AND REPEAT IT DAILY. AND IMITATE THE MUSIC ( MANTRA ) THIS IS BIGGEST MISTAKE PEOPLE MAKE. MEDITATION CAN MAKE TO HAPPIER AND MAKE U CALMER. 

GETTING THE HABIT OF MEDITATING REGULARLY IS VERY IMPORTANT. THE MANTRA 

OF IPF MEDITATION ARE IN THE SANSKRIT LANGUAGE THAT WAS SPOKEN 3000 YEARS 

EGO. YOGIS IN INDIA HAVE BEEN USING THERE SAME MANTRAS IN MEDITATION.

SINCE THEN THE REASON WE MEDITATE IS TO EXPERIENCE SILENCE AND STILLNESS.

USUALLY DURING MEDITATION YOU NOTICE SOMETHING, FOR EXAMPLE YOU NOTICE AND ITCH OR YOU NOTICE A SOUND AND GETTING TIREDNESS, ITS ALL NORMAL. ONCE IN A WHILE DURING MEDITATION SOME PEOPLE EXPERIENCE BEING IN ITS MOST

INNOCENT FROM DURING THAT EXPERIENCE " YOU " " NOTICE " AND " SOMETHING "

ARE ABSENT AND ONLY BEING IS EXPERIENCED. THE WORD SINGULARN DESCRIBE 

THAT EXPERIENCE WELL BECAUSE THE THREE ELEMENTS - " YOU ", " NOTICE "

AND " SOMETHING " ARE ABSENT AND THE EXPERIENCE CONTAINS ONLY BEING SILENCE AND STILLNESS.

QUOTES

                                                                           QUOTES😘

* VIRUPPAM IRUNDHAAL AYIRAM VAZHIGAL, VIRUPPAM ILLAVITTAL AYIRAM KAARANANGAL , IVAIDHAN VAAZHKAI. !

* AZHUTHTHAM ILLAYEL VAIRAM ILLAI !

          * VIRUPPAM ILLADHAVARGALUKU SAADHANAI SATHIYAMATRADHU !

          * UN MANAM UDAIKAPPADUM OVVORU THANUNAMUM NI                                              URUVAAKAPADUGIRAI , SETHUKKAPADUGIRAAI , ADHANAAL VALIGALUKU

                 NANDRI KOORI, PUNNAGAIYODU NAGARUNGAL !

* VAAZHKAIYIL THIRUMBA KIDAIKADHA THANUNAM, THAAYIN KARUVARAI, 

UYIR, NERAM MATRUM PESIYA VAARTHAI..!

* MARATHTHAI VERRI VITTU ADHIL SEIDHA VISIRIYAI KONDU PULAMBUGIROM 

KATRE VARAVILLAI ENDRU !

       * POGUMBODHU ENNAI RASITHIKONDE POIVIDU, THIRUMBA VARAMATEN, 

IPPADIKU VAAZHKAI !

       * ELLAM THERINJAMARI PESARAVANKIT , EDHUME THERIYADHAMARI PESURAVAN

PUTHISAALI !

       * VAAZHKAIYIN SAMBATHIKA VENDIYA MIGA MUKKIYAMANA ONDRU NAMBIKKAI !

* UN VAAZHKAIYIL NAMBIKKAIYAI IRU ANAAL YARAIYUM NAMBI IRUKKADHE !

      * EDHAIVENDUMANALUM VITTUKODU ANAAL ADHAI YARUKAGA ENBATHIL                                                            GAVANAMAI IRU !

       * THE JOURNEY OF THOUSAND MILES BEGINS ON SINGLE STEP !

* SOMETIMES SOME BAD EXPERIENCE WILL TEACH YOU SOME GOOD LESSONS !

       * WHO YOU ARE TOMARROW, BEGINS WITH WHAT YOU DO TODAY !

       * DIFFICULT ROADS LEAD TO BEAUTIFUL DESTINATIONS !

       * EVERYONE HAS TWO EYES BUT NO ONE HAS THE SAME VIEW !

   * LIFE IS LIKE RIDING BYCLE TO KEEP BALANCE AND YOU MUST KEEP MOVE ON !

       * SOMEONES FAULT IS ANOTHER ONES LESSONS !

        * THOSE WHO DONT WANT TO CHANGE, LET THEM SLEEP !

         * WHEN YOU ARE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE, YOU ARE ALWAYS 

REWARDED WITH MORE. TRY TO STAY POSITIVE AND THINGS WILL GET 

BETTER !

           * NEVER BE A PRISONERS OF YOUR PAST, IT WAS JUST A LESSON, NOT A LIFE 

SENTENCE !

            * ARE YOU REALLY LIVING LIFE OR JUST PAYING BILLS UNTIL YOU DIE !

             * THOSE WHO DIE YESTERDAY HAVE PLANS FOR TODAY, BUT YOU HAVE TODAY !

                * YOU CANT GO BACK AND CHANGE THE BEGINNING BUT YOU CAN START                                                                       

WHERE YOU ARE AND CHANGE THE ENDING !

              * LIFE IS MUCH BETTER WHEN YOU ARE LIVING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT !

* WHEN LIFE GIVE YOU 100 REASON TO CRY, SHOW THEM THOUSAND REASONS

TO SMILE !

* WHEN YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT THINGS, THE THINGS YOU LOOK AT 

CHANGE !

* A QUEEN WILL ALWAYS TURN PAIN INTO POWER !

* SOMETIMES AN ANGEL, SOMETIMES HELL RAISES ALWAYS A STRONG WOMAN !