SECRET PROCESS

                                                        THE CREATION PROCESS

          IMAGINE IT, FEEL IT, RECEIVE IT.

1. IMAGINE

        USE YOUR MIND TO FOCUS ON AND IMAGINE WHAT YOU DESIRE. IMAGINE ,YOURSELF BEING WITH YOUR DESIRE. IMAGINE YOURSELF DOING THINGS WITH YOUR DESIRE. IMAGINE YOURSELF HAVING YOUR DESIRE.

2. FEEL

         AT THE SAME TIME AS YOU IMAGINE, YOU MUST FEEL LOVE FOR WHAT YOU'R IMAGINE YOU MUST FEEL LOVE FOR WHAT'S IMAGINE AND FEEL BEING WITH YOUR DESIRE. YOU MUST IMAGINE AND FEEL DOING THINGS WITH YOUR DESIRE. YOU MUST IMAGINE AND FEEL HAVING YOUR DESIRE.

        YOUR IMAGINATION CONNECTS YOU TO WHAT YOU WANT, YOUR DESIRE AND FEELINGS OF LOVE CREATE THE MAGNETISM, THE MAGNETIC POWER, DRAWING YOUR DESIRE TO YOU. THIS COMPLETE YOUR PART IN THE CREATION PROCESS.

3. RECEIVE

     THE FORCE OF LOVE WILL WORK THROUGH THE VISIBLE AND INVISIBLE FORCES OF NATURE TO BRING WHAT YOU DESIRE TO YOU. IT WILL USE CIRCUMSTANCES, EVENTS, AND PEOPLE TO GIVE WHAT YOU LOVE TO YOU.

     WHATEVER YOU DESIRE YOU MUST WANT IT WITH ALL YOUR HEART, DESIRE IS LOVE, AND UNLESS YOU HAVE A BURNING DESIRE IN YOUR HEART, YOU WILL NOT HAVE ENOUGH POWER TO HARNESS THE FORCE OF LOVE, YOU MUST REALLY DESIRE WHAT YOU WANT, AS AN ATHLERE DESIRE TO PLAY A SPORT, DANCER DESIRES TO DANCE, AND A PAINTER DESIRE TO PAINT. YOU MUST DESIRE WHAT YOU WANT WITH ALL YOUR HEART BECAUSE DESIRE IS A FEELING OF LOVE, AND YOU MUST GIVE LOVE TO RECEIVE WHAT YOU LOVE!

TOXIC

                                                         TOXIC RELATIVES

                       WHAT DO YOU DO IF YOU HAPPEN TO HAVE TOXIC RELATIVES? OBVIOUSLY, THIS IS A TOUCHY ISSUE. WHAT I'M GOING TO SEGGEST IS THAT YOU DON'T TURN YOUR BACK ON YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. FAMILY TIES ARE PRECIOUS, AND I THINK WE MUST MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO MAINTAIN HARMONIOUS FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS.

                      EVEN SO, I RECOMMEND THAT YOU PUT SOME CONTROLS IN PLACE THAT REDUCE THE IMPACT YOUR TOXIC RELATIVES HAVE ON YOUR LIFE. YOU'RE NOT ABANDONING THEM OR REFUSING TO SPEAK WITH THEM, BUT YOU ARE PUTTING SOME LIMITS ON YOUR INVOLVEMENT WITH THEM.

                      FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOU HAVE NEGATIVE RELATIVES, I SUGGEST THAT YOU DON'T GO OUT OF YOUR WAY TO CALL THEM ON THE PHONE SEVERAL TIMES EACH DAY IF YOU KNOW THEY'RE GOING TO PUT YOU DOWN OR CRITICIZE YOUR EVERY MOVE. WHAT GOOD CAN POSSIBLY COME FROM THAT? WE GET BOMBARED WITH ENOUGH NEGATIVETY AS IT IS---- JUST TURN ON THE RADIO OR TV OR READ A NEWSPAPER. DO WE NEED OUR RELATIVES TO PROVIDE EVEN MORE NEGATIVE NEWS? I DON'T THINK SO!

                      AND HERE'S ANOTHER SUGGESTION THAT WILL WORK EQUALLY WELL WHETHER YOU'RE TALKING WITH A FRIEND OR A RELATIVE, WHEN THE DISCUSSION MOVE TO A NEGATIVE SUBJECT, RESIST THE TEMPLATION TO ACCUSE THE OTHER PERSON OF BEING NEGATIVE. THAT WILL USUALLY MAKES THINGS EVEN WORSE. INSTEAD, GENTLY SHIFT THE CONVERSATION TO A MORE POSITIVE TOPIC. 

                     REMEMBER THAT I'M NOT ASKING YOU TO DISOWN YOUR RELATIVES OR REFUSE TO ATTEND FAMILY FUNCTIONS. THIS IS ABOUT LIMITING YOUR CONTACTS WITH NEGATIVE RELATIVES SO YOU DON'T GET DRAGGED DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL!

FEARS

                         THE BENEFITS OF BACKING AWAY FROM FEARS

                         WHEN CONFRONTED WITH AN ANXIETY-PRODUCING EVENT, MOST PEOPLE WILL RETREAT TO AVOID THE FEAR AND ANXIETY. THAT'S WHAT I USED TO DO. YOU SEE, BACKING AWAY DOES RELIEVE THE FEAR AND ANXIETY THAT WOULD HAVE RESULT IF YOU FOLLOWED THROUGH WITH THE ACTIVITY. FOR INSTANCE, IF SOMEONE ASKS YOU TO MAKE A PRESENTATION WITHIN YOUR COMPANY, AND YOU DECLINE, YOU SAVE AND THE NERVOUSENESS YOU'D EXPERIENCE IN THE DAYS LEADING UP TO THE PRESENTATION.

                         IN FACT, I'VE FOUND THAT'S THE ONE AND ONLY BENEFIT YOU GET BY RETREATING---- A MOMENTARY AVOIDANTS OF ANXIETY.

                          THINK ABOUT IF FOR A MOMENT. CAN YOU LIST ANY OTHERS BENEFITS THAT PEOPLE GET WHEN THEY REFUSE TO CONFRONT THEIR FEARS? I'VE ASKED THAT QUESTIONS OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE, AND NOBODY HAS BEEN ABLE TO COME UP WITH ANY ADDITIONAL BENEFITS, FOR GOOD REASON---- THERE ARE NONE!

                                                  THE PRICE YOU PAY

                   NOW, I WANT YOU TO SERIOUSLY CONSIDER THE PRICE YOU PAY WHEN YOU BACK AWAY FROM THOSE FEARS THAT ARE STANDING IN THE WAY OF YOUR GROWTH, HERE'S WHAT HAPENS:

                        * YOUR SELF-ESTEEM IS LOWERED

                        * YOU FEEL POWERLESS AND FRUSTRATED

                        * YOU SABOTAGE YOUR SUCCESS

                        * YOU LEAD AN UNEVERNFUL, BORING LIFE.

                    IS THIS A PRICE WORTH PAYING FOR THE SHORT-TERM AVOIDANCE OF FEAR AND ANXIETY? MOST OF US ARE INDEED WILLING TO PAY THIS DEAR PRICE, SIMPLY TO AVOID TEMPORARY DISCOMFORT AND POSSIBLE REDECULE FROM OTHERS.

                   TRUST ME FOLKS, THIS IS INSANE! IN THE RUN, RETREATING IS NOT THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE YOUR PROBLEM. YOU'LL NEVER BE HIGHLY SUCCESFULL OR DEVELOP YOUR TALENT TO THE FULLEST UNLESS YOU'RE WILLING TO CONFRONT YOUR FEARS.

       

COMMITMENT

                                           TIME TO MAKE A COMMITMENT

                          NOW, LET'S ASSUME YOU HAVE A GOAL IN MIND. THE NEXT QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IS, AM I WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO ACHIEVE THIS GOAL?.

                         IF YOUR ANSWER IS," I'LL DO JUST ABOUT ANYTHING, EXCEPT THAT I WON'T DO------- ," THEN FRANKLY, YOU'RE NOT COMMITTED. AND IF YOU'RE NOT COMMITTED, IT'S LIKELY THAT YOU'LL BE DERAILED AND NOT ACHIEVE YOUR OBJECTIVE. FOR INSTANCE, MANY PEOPLE START A NEW BUSINESS WITH THIS APPROACH, I'LL GIVE IT SIX MONTHS TO PRPOSPER. IT IF THINGS DON'T WORK OUT AFTER SIX MONTHS, I'LL QUIT', THIS IS NOT A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT LEADS TO SUCCESS.

                        WHERE WOULD NOVELIST DAVID BALDACCI BE IF HE HAD SAID." I'LL TRY THE WRITING FOR ONR YEAR.... AND IF CAN'T SELL ANYTHING, I'LL GIVE IT UP'? HE'D HAVE MISSED OUT ON THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO WHAT HE LOVES HAVE FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE.... AND LIVE HIS DREAM!

                        NOW, I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT YOU JUST BULL AHEAD WITHOUT A PLAN AND HOPE FOR THE BEST. OF COURSE YOU SHOULD SET TIMETABLES. DEADLINES AND BUDGET SO YOU STAY ON COURSE AND SUCCEED AS QUIKLY AS POSSIBLE. BUT THE REALLITY IS, DESPITE YOUR MOST CAREFUL PLANS, YOU DON'T KNOW HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL.... AND YOU CON'T FORESEE ALL THE OBSTACLES THAT WILL CROSS YOUR PATH.

                         THAT'S WHERE COMMITMENT SEPATATES THE WINNERS FROM THE LOSERS. THE COMMITTED PEOPLE ARE GOING TO HANG IN------ AND PREVAIL----- NO MATTER WHAT. AND IF IT TAKES A LITTLE LONGER THAN THEY THOUGHT, SO BE IT. THOSE WHO AREN'T COMMITTED ARE GOING TO GIVE UP THE SHIP WHEN THINGS DON'T GO THEIR WAY.

                            NOW THAT YOU'VE LEARNED ABOUT THE POWER OF COMMITMENT, IT'S TIME TO APPLY THE PRINCIPLE. SO, GO AHEAD. SELECT A GOAL YOU HAVE A BURNING DESIRE TO ACHIEVE. MAKE A COMMITMENT TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO ACHIEVE THIS GOAL. START MOVING FORWARD AND GET READY TO NOTICE AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ALL OPPORTUNITIES THAT COME YOUR WAY. THEN FOLLOW THROUGH WITH PERSISTENT ACTION AND GET READY TO SUCCEED.!

YOUR WORDS

                                           A CLOSER LOOK AT YOUR WORDS

            LET'S TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR LIFE FOR A MOMENT. ARE THERE ANY AREAS WHERE YOU'VE BEEN USING PHRASES LIKE, 'I CANT', I'M NO GOOD AT ----- AND 'ITS IMPOSSIBLE' WE ALL KNOW PEOPLE WHO MAKE STATEMENTS LIKE THESE:

                                * I CAN'T DRAW.

                                * I'M NO GOOD AT MATCH.

                                * I CAN'T REMEMBER NAMES.

                                * IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO MAKE THAT KIND OF MONEY.

                WHEN YOU MAKE THESE COMMENTS DAY IN AND DAY OUT FOR 10, 20 OR 30 YEARS, YOU'RE PROGRAMMING YOUR MIND FOR FAILURE! IT ALL COME BACK TO YOUR ATTITUDE. EVERYONE OF THESE EXAMPLE REFLECTS A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE. AND IF YOU SEE THE WORLD THROUGH A SMUDGED WINDOW, YOU'RE GOING TO USE NEGATIVE LANGUAGE.... AND GET DISAPPOINTING RESULTS.

                FORTUNATELY, YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR WORLDS---- WHICH MEANS THAT YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO BUILD A POSITIVE BELIEF SYSTEM... AND TO PRODUCE THE RESULTS YOU WANT. THE FIRST STEP IS AWARNESS, LET'S EXAMINE THE PHRASES YOU'VE BEEN USING IN FOUR KEY AREAS OF YOUR LIFE---- RELATIONSHIP, FINANCES, CAREER, AND HEALTH.

CHANGE OF LIFE

                                          THE NIGHT THAT CHANGED MY LIFE

                     IN 1980,  I GRADUATED FROM LAW SCHOOL AND THOUGHT I'D BE A LAWYER FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. AFTER ALL, THAT'S WHAT I'D WANTED TO DO SINCE MY EARLY TEENAGE YEARS.

                      AT FIRST, EVERYTHING WENT ACCORDING TO PLAN. AFTER LOTS OF STUDYING THAT SUMMER, I PASSED THE BAR EXAMINATION AND WAS ADMITTED TO PRACTICE LAW IN NEW YORK. MY PERSONAL LIFE WAS ALSO ON THE UPSWING. IN EARLY 1981, I MARRIED DOLORES, LAW SCHOOL CLASSMATE, I WAS ON MY WAY TO MUCH SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS.

                     OR SO I THOUGHT.

                      BUT, AFTER PRACTICING LAW FOR A FEW YEARS, I REALIZED I WASN'T HAPPY AT ALL. 

                    SURE, THERE WERE SOME THINGS I LIKED ABOUT BEING A LAWYER. ENJOYED HELPING PEOPLE RESOLVE THEIR DISPUTED, ESPECIALLY WHEN I COULD SAVE THEM THE AGONY OF LENGTHY COURT PROCEEDINGS.

                    YET, THERE WERE SO MANY THINGS ABOUT BEING AN ATTORNEY THAT I DISLIKE AND THAT JUST SEEMED TO DRAIN THE LIFE OUT OF ME. MOUNTS AND MOUNTS OF TEDIOUS PAPERWORK AND MOTIONS TO BE FILED.

                     CONSTANT DELAYS AND POSTPONEMENTS. IT WAS NOT ONCOMMON FOR A TRIAL TO BE POSTPONED 10 TIMES..

POSITIVE NEWS

                                    BE A SOURCE OF POSITIVE NEWS

                       

             I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT YOU JUST SIT BACK AND IGNORE ALL OF THE PROBLEMS IN YOUR LIFE. HOWEVE, RATHAN THAN COMPLAINING IT'S FAR BETTER TO FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION AND YOUR ENERGY ON THOSE STEPS YOU CAN TAKE TO SOLVE, OR AT LEAST LESSON, YOUR PROBLEM. FOR INSTANCE, LET'S SAY YOUR FEELING A LITTLE TIRED LATELY. INSTEAD OF TELLING EVERYONE HOW LOUSY YOU FEEL, MAKE AN EFFORT TO EXERCISE MORE REGULARLY OF GET TO BED A LITTLE EARLIER.

                   TO REVIEW: COMPLAINTS WORK AGAINST YOU IN THREE WAYS. FIRST, NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR NEGATIVE NEWS ABOUR YOUR ILLNESS AND YOUR PROBLEMS. SECOND, COMPLAINING REINFORCES YOUR OWN PAIN AND DISCOMFORT, SO WHY KEEP REPLAYING PAINFUL, NEGATIVE MEMORIES? THIRD, COMPLAINING, BY ITSELF, ACCOMPLISHES NOTHING AND DIVERTS YOU FROM THE CONSTRUCTIVE ACTIONS YOU COULD BE TAKING TO IMPROVE YOUR SITUATION.

                 IT'S BEEN SAID THAT 90 PERSENT OF THE PEOPLE DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS.. AND THE OTHER 10 PERSENT ARE GLAD YOU HAVE THEM! SERIOULY THOUGH, ALL OF US CAN CUT DOWN ON OUR COMPLAINING. FROM NOW ON, LET'S DO OURSELVES AND OTHERS A FLOVOR AND MAKE OUR CONVERSTIONS UPLIFTING.

                THE PEOPLE WHO DON'T COMPLAIN VERY MUCH ARE A JOY TO BE AROUND. DECIDE TO JOIN THAT GROUP SO PEOPLE WON'T HAVE A CROSS THE STREET WHEN THEY SEE YOU COMING!