FRIENDSHIP

                                          EVALUATE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS

                  IT'S CRUCIAL THAT YOU EVALUATE YOUR FRIENDSHIP FROM TIME TO TIME EVEN THOSE YOU'VE MAINTAINED FOR MANY YEARS. TRUST ME, THIS ISN'T A MONOR ISSUE. THOSE WHO OCCUPY YOUR TIME HAVE A SIGNIFICANT IMAPACT ON YOUR MOST PRICELESS POSSESION YOUR MIND!.

                  ARE YOU SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH NEGATIVE FRIENDS AND SPENDING A LOT OF TIME WITH THEM IN YOUR LEISURE HOURS? IF SO, I'M GOING TO ASK YOU TO THINK ABOUT SPENDING MUCH LESS TIME WITH THESE PEOPLE OR EVEN NO TIME AT ALL WITH THEM.

                SOUNDS HARSH, DOESN'T IT? AFTER ALL, I'M SUGGESTING THAT YOU LIMIT OR ELIMINATE YOUR INVOLVEMENT WITH SOME LONG STANDING FRIENDS. WHEN I TELL PEOPLE THIS AT MY SEMINARS, INVARIABLY SOME ONE WILL RAISE A HAND AND ACCUSE ME OF BEING COLD OR UNCARING. THE AUDIENCE MEMBER WILL TYPICALLY SAY, SHOULD WE TRY TO HELP OUR NEGATIVE FRIENDS INSTEAD OF DUMPING THEM?

                 WELL, YOU ARE FREE TO DO WHATEVER YOU THINK IS BEST, AND EACH SITUATION MUST BE DEALT WITH ON ITS OWN UNIQUE FACTS. HOWEVER I WILL FOUND THAT IN MOST CASES, HANGING AROUND THESE NEGATIVE FRIENDS DOES NOT HELP THEM AND IT DOES'T HELP YOU EITHER! EVERYONE GETS DRAGGED DOWN BECAUSE MOST NEGATIVE PEOPLE DONT WANT TO CHANGE. THEY JUST WANT SOMEONE TO LISTEN TO THEIR TALES OF WOE.

                 IF YOU HAVE A STRONG URGE TO SPEND TIME WITH NEGATIVE FRIENDS ASK YOURSELF: WHY AM I CHOOSING TO BE WITH THESE PEOPLE?, CONSCIOUSLY YOU MAY BE CHOOSING TO HOLD YOURSELF BACK, TO BE LESS THAN YOU ARE CAPABLE OF BECOMING.

                 LET ME CLARIFY ONE IMPORTANT POINT. I'M NOT MAKING A JUDGMENT HERE THAT NEGATIVE PEOPLE ARE ANY LESS WORTHY THAN OTHER PEOPLE. I'M SAYING THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES IF YOU SPEND TIME WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE NEGATIVE. WHAT ARE THE CONSEQUENCE? YOU WILL BE LESS HAPPY AND LESS SUCCESSFUL THAN YOU COULD BE.

POSITIVE ATTITUDE

                                 THE BENEFITS OF A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

      THERE ARE MANY ADVANTAGES TO HAVING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE. THE ADVANTAGES ARE EASY TO SEE. BUT WHAT IS EASY TO SEE IS ALSO EASY TO MISS!

                                              BENEFITS FOR YOU

      * MAKES FOR A PLEASING PERSONALITY

      * IS ENERGIZING

      * INCREASE YOUR ENJOYMENT OF LIFE

      * INSPERES OTHERS AROUND YOU

      * HELPS YOU BECOME A CONTRIBUTING MEMBER OF SOCIETY AND AN ASSET TO YOUR COUNTRY.

                                        AND FOR THE ORGANIZATION

      * INCREASE PRODUCTIVITY

      * FOSTERS TEAMWORK

      * SOLVES PROBLEMS

      * IMPROVES QUALITY

      * MAKES FOR A CONGENIAL ATMOSPHERE

      * BREEDS FOR A CONGENIAL ATMOSPHERE

      * INCREASES PROFITS

      * FOSTERS BETTER RALATIONSHIPS WITH EMPLOYERS, EMPLOYEES, AND CUSTOMERS 

     * REDUCES STRESS

SUCCESS RECIPE

                                                 A RECIPE FOR SUCCESS

        SUCCESS IS LIKE BAKING A CAKE. UNLESS YOU HAVE JUST THE RIGHT RECIPE, IT IS NOT GOING TO WORK. THE INGREDIENTS MUST BE OF THE FINEST QUALITY AND IN THE RIGHT PROPERTIONS. YOU CANNOT OVER BAKE IT OR UNDERCOOK IT. ONCE YOU HAVE THE CORRECT RECIPE, WITH PRACTICE AND LEARNING FROM THE OCCASIONAL MISHAP, IT BECOMES A LOT EASIER.

        YOU HAVE THE RECIPE: WHETHER OF NOT TO USE IT IS YOUR CHOICE.

                               A CRASH COURSE FOR SUCCESS

        * PLAY TO WIN AND NOT TO LOSE.

        * LEARN FROM OTHER PEOPLE OF HIGH MORAL CHARACTER.

        * ASSOCIATE WITH PEOPLE OF HIGH MORAL CHARACTER.

        * GIVE MORE THAN YOU GET.

        * DON'T LOOK FOR SOMETHING FOR NOTHING.

        * ALWAYS THINK LONG TERM.

        * EVALUATE YOUR STRENGHTHS AND BUILD ON THEM.

        * ALWAYS KEEP THE LARGER PICTURE IN MIND WHEN  MAKING A DECISION.

        * NEVER COMPROMISE YOUR INTEGRITY.

CHILDWOOD MOVIES

                                 MENTAL MOVIES FROM CHILDWOODE

          WHERE DO THESE PICTURES COME FROM? WELL, BEGIN TO DEVELOP OUR MENTAL MOVIES , EARLY IN LIFE. IF WE WERE CRITICIZED OR FELT UNWORTHY AS YOUNGTERS, WE RECORD THE EVENTS AS IMAGES IN OUR MINDS. BECAUSE WE FREQUENTLY DWELL ON THESE PICTURES, WE TEND TO CREATE LIFE SITUATION THAT CORRESPOND TO THE ORIGINAL IMAGE. FOR EXAMPLE YOU MAY STILL HOLD A VIBRANT IMAGE OF BEING CRITICIZED BY A TEACHER IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, YOU FELT HUMILIATED IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE CLASS. LATER ON, WHEN YOU WERE TEMPTED TO OFFER YOUR OPINION IN SCHOOL OR IN A GROUP OF PEOPLE, YOU HELD BACK AND KEPT QUIET.. ALL THE WHILE REMEMBERING HOW PAINFUL IT WAS WHEN YOU WERE YOU WERE CRITICIZED. THE PICTURE REMAINS IN YOUR MIND AND EXERTS TREMENDOUS INFLUENCE OVER YOUR PRESENT ACTIONS.

           UNFORTUNATELY MANY OF US HAVE NOT UPDATED OR REVISED OUR CHILDHOOD MOVIES, SO WERE CONTINUALLY PRODUCING RESULTS THAT FALL SHORT OF OUR FULL POTENTIAL. WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SOME TECHNIQUES FOR USING THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION TO IMPROVE VIRTUALLY EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE.

DOOR WILL OPEN

                                                    TRY WITH CONFIDENT

          HERE'S ANOTHER MIRACULOUS FEATURE OF THE POWER OF COMMITMENT. YOU DON'T HAVE TO KNOW AT THE OUTSET HOW TO ACHEIVE YOUR GOAL. SURE YOU WILL BE BETTER OFF IF YOU HAVE A PLAN OF ATTACK, BUT ITS NOT ESSENTIAL THAT EVERY STEP BE MAPPED OUT IN ADVANCE.

          IN FACT, WHEN YOU HAVE THE WILLINGNESS TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES, THE RIGHT STEPS ARE OFTEN SUDDENLY REVEALED TO YOU. YOU WILL MEET PEOPLE YOU NEVER COULD HAVE PLANNED TO MEET. DOORS WILL UNEXPECTEDLY OPEN FOR YOU. IT MIGHT SEEM LIKE LUCK OR GOOD FORTUNE IS SMILING ON YOU, IN TRUTH, YOU WILL HAVE CREATED THESE POSITIVE EVENTS BY MAKING A COMMITMENT AND THUS INSTRUCTING YOUR MIND TO LOOK FOR THEM.HERE'S AN EXAMPLE OF HOW A DOOR UNEXPECTED OPENED FOR ME, IN 1989, I STARTED WRITING MOTIVATIONAL ARTICLES. I'D LEARNED ABOUT THE POWER OF A POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND THE OTHER SUCCESS PRINCIPLES, AND I WAS COMMITTED TO SHARING THIS INFORMATION WITH OTHERS WHO COULD BENEFIT FROM IT. BUT I HAD NO IDEA WHERE TO START. DO I SEND MY ARTICLES TO NEWSPAPERS. SUBMIT THEM TO MAGAZINES... WRITE MY OWN BOOK?

        THE FIRST THING I DID WAS SUBMIT AN ARTICLE TO A LOCAL NEWSLETTER FOR PEOPLE INVOLVED IN TRAINING AND HUMAN RESOURCES. THAT ARTICLES WAS PRINTED IN THE SUMMER OF 1990. A FEW MONTHS LATER, I GOT A WRITER WHO ALSO WORKED WITH BUSINESS TO PRODUCE NEWSLETTERS. STUART SAID HE SEEN MY ARTICLES WHILE VISITING THE HOME OF HIS BEST FRIEND AND WAS VERY IMPRESSED WITH IT.

     

GRATITUDE

                                      GRATITUDE IS THE BRIDGE OF LOVE

      GRATITUDE TOOK MY MOTHER FROM THE DEEPEST GRIEF INTO HAPPINESS. MY MOTHER AND FATHER FELL IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER VIRTUALLY AT FIRST SIGHT, AND THEY HAD THE MOST BEAUTIFUL LOVE AFFAIR AND MARRIAGE I HAVE EVER SEEN. WHEN MY FATHER DIED, MY MOTHER SUFFERED FROM ENORMOUS GRIEF, BECAUSE SHE MISSED MY FATHER SO MUCH. BUT AMIDST HER GRIEF AND PAIN, MY MOTHER BEGAN TO LOOK FOR THINGS TO BE GRATEFUL FOR. OTHER THAN BEING GRATEFUL FOR ALL SHE HAD RECEIVED FROM THE DECADEDS OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS WITH MY FATHER, SHE LOOKED FOR THINGS TO BE GRATEFUL FOR IN THE FUTURE. THE FIRST THING SHE FOUND TO BE GRATEFUL WAS THAT NOW SHE COULD TRAVEL. TRAVELLING WAS SOMETHING MY WAS ALIVE, BECAUSE HE NEVER WANTED TO TRAVEL. MY MOTHER DID FULFILL HER DREAM. SHE TRAVELED, AND SHE DID MANY OTHER THINGS THAT SHE HAD ALWAYS WANTED TO DO. GRATITUDE WAS THE BRIDGE THAT TOOK MY MOTHER OUT OF IMMENSE GRIEF, AND INTO BUILDING A NEW LIFE OF HAPPINESS.

          IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO FEEL SAD OR HAVE ANY NEGATIVE FEELING WHEN YOU'RE GRATEFUL. IF YOU'RE IN THE MIDST OF A DIFFICULT SITUATION, LOOK FOR SOMETHING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR. WHEN YOU FIND ONE THING, THEN LOOK FOR ANOTHER, AND THEN ANOTHER, BECAUSE EVERY SINGLE THING YOU FIND TO BE GRATEFUL FOR CHANGES THE SITUAION. GRATITUDE IS THE BRIDGE FROM NEGATIVE FEELINGS TO HARNESSING THE FORCE OF LOVE!

             "GRATITUDE SI VACCINE, AN ANTITOXIN, AND

               AN ATISEPTIC"

TIPS OF POSITIVE POINT

                                                        THE TIPPING POINT

         IF YOU GIVE MOTE THAN 50 PERCENT POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS ISTEAD OF NEGATIVE, YOU HAVE REACHED A TIPPING POINT. EVEN IF YOU JUST GIVE 51 PERCENT GOOD THOUGHTS AND GOOD FEELINGS, YOU HAVE TIPPED THE SCALES OF YOUR LIFE! AND HEARE'S THE REASON WHY.

         WHEN YOU GIVE LOVE, IT NOT ONLY COMES BACK TO YOU AS POSITIVE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT YOU LOVE, BUT AS IT COMES BACK, IT ADDS EVEN MORE LOVE AND POSITIVITY TO YOUR LIFE! THE NEW POSITIVITY TO YOUR LIFE, THE NEW POSITIVITY THEN ATTRACTS MORE POSITIVE THINGS, ADDING EVEN MORE LOVE AND POSITIVITY TO YOUR LIFE, AND SO IT CONTINUES. EVERYTHING IS MAGNETIC, AND WHEN SOMETHING GOOD COMES TO YOU IT MAGNETICALLY ATTRACTS MORE GOOD THING.

         YOU MAY HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS WHEN YOU SAID YOU WERE HAVING A 'LUCKY STREAK' OR YOU WERE ON A ROLL WHEN ONE GOOD THING AFTER ANOTHER HAPPENED, AND THE GOOD THIBGS JUST KEPT HAPPENING. THE ONLY REASON THOSE TIMES OCCURED WAS BECAUSE YOU HAD GIVEN OUT MORE LOVE THAN NEGATIVITY, AND AS THE LOVE RETURNED TO YOU, IT ADDED MORE LOVE TO YOUR LIFE, WHICH THEN ATTRACTED EVEN MORE GOOD THINGS.

            YOU MAY HAVE ALSO EXPERIENCED THE REVERSE HAPPENING WHEN SOMETHING WENT WRONG, AND THEN OTHER THINGS STARTED GOING WRONG ONE AFTER THE OTHER. THOSE TIMES HAPPENED BECAUSE YOU GAVE MORE NEGATIVITY THA LOVE, AND AS THE NEGATIVITY RETURNED TO YOU, IT ADDED MORE NEGATIVITY TO YOUR LIFE, WHICH THEN ATTRACTED EVEN MORE NEGTIVE THINGS. YOU MAY HAVE CALLED TO DO WITH LUCK AT ALL. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION WAS WORKING PRECISELY IN YOUR LIFE. ADN THOSE TIMES, GOOD OR BAD, WERE SIMPLY A REFLECTION OF THE PERCENTAGE OF LOVE OF NEGATIVITY YOU WERE GIVING. THE ONLY REASON THE LUCKY STEAK, OR RUN OF BAD LUCK, CHANGED IS THAT, AT SOME POINT, YOU TIPPED THE SCALES THE OTHER WAY WITH YOUR FEELINGS...

      " IT IS THUS THAT YOU MAY LEAD A CHARED LIFE AND BE FOREVER

        PROTECED FROM ALL HARM; IT IS THUS YOU MAY BECOME A POSI

        TIVE FORCE WHEREBY CONDITIONS OF OPULECE AND HARMONY

         MAY BE ATTRACTED TO YOU".....