THE EMOTIONS

                                      POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

                                           THE SEVEN POSITIVE EMOTIONS

  

                               1. LOVE

                               2. SEX

                               3. HOPE

                               4. FAITH

                               5. ENTHUSIASM

                               6. LOYALTY

                              7. DESIRE

                                              THE SEVEN NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

                               1. FEAR (SEE SEVEN BASIC FEARS)

                               2. JEALOUSY

                               3. HATRED (PROLONGED)

                               4. REVENGE

                               5. GREED

                              6. ANGER (TEMPORARY)

                              7. SUPERSTITION

  

              ALL THESE EMOTIONS ARE STATES OF MIND, SUBJECT TO CONTROL AND DIRECTION. THE SEVEN NEGATIVE EMOTIONS OBVIOUSLY ARE DEADLY IF THEY ARE NOT MASTERED. THE SEVEN POSITIVE EMOTIONS MAY ALSO BE JUST AS DESTUCTIVE AS THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS IF THEY ARE NOT ORGANIZED MASTERED AND GUIDED UNDER COMPLETE CONTROL.

          IN THESE FOURTEEN EMOTIONS IS THE "MENTAL DYNAMIC" WHICH MAY LIFT ONE TO GREAT HEIGHTS OF ACHIEVEMENT OR DASH ONE TO THE LOWEST DEPTHS OF FAILURE, AND NO AMOUNT OF EDUCATION, EXPERIENCE, INTELLIGENCE OR GOOD INTENTIONS CAN ALTER OR MODIFY THIS POSSIBILITY.

         HILL : IT SEEMS OBVIOUS THAT LACK OF CONTROL OF THE SEVEN NEGATIVE EMOTIONS MAY LEAD ONE TO SURE DEFEAT, BUT IS IS NOT CLEAR AS TO HOW ONE MAY THE SEVEN POSITIVE EMOTIONS FOR THE ACHIEVEMENTS OF DESIRABLE ENDS.

        CARNEGIE  : I WILL SHOW YOU EXACTLY HOW THE POSITIVE EMOTIONS MAY BE TRASMUTED INTO A DRIVING POWER THAT CAN BE USED IN THE ATTAINMENT OF ANY PURPOSE. I CAN DO THIS BY DESCRIBING THE MANNER IN WHICH ONE MAN MADE EFFECTIVE USE OF HIS EMOTIONS. THAT MAN IS CHARLIE SCHWAB, AND ANALYSIS OF HIS USE OF EMOTIONS IS BASED UPON CLOSE ASSOCIATION WITH HIM OVER A LONG PERIOD OF YEARS.

      SHORTLY AFTER HE BEGAN WORK WITH ME HE MADE UP HIS MIND TO BECOME AN INDISPENSABLE PART OF MY BUSINESS FAMILY, THEREBY DIRECTING TO A DEFINITE END THE EMOTION OF DESIRE. IN CARRING OUT HIS DESIRE HE APPLIED ALL THE PRINCIPLES OF ACHIEVEMENTS MENTIONED IN PREVIOUS INTERVIEW :

          ❤ DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE

          ❤ THE MASTER MIND

          ❤ ATTRACTIVE PERSONALITY

          ❤ APPLIED FAITH

          ❤ GOING THE EXTRA MILE

          ❤ ORGANIZED ENDEAVOR

          ❤ CREATIVE VISION

          ❤ SELF - DISCIPLINE

THROUGH THE PRINIPLES OF SELF - DISCIPLINE CHARLIE SCHWAB ORGANISED THE OTHER SEVEN PRINCIPLES AND BROUGHT THEM UNDER HIS CONTROL. BACK OF THIS SELF - CONTROL HE PLACED ALL OF HIS ASSOCIATES, ENTHUSIASM OVER HIS WORK, HOPE OF SUCCESSFUL ACHIEVEMENT IN CONNECTION WITH HIS WORK, FAITH IN HIS ABILITY TO ACHIEVE, AND BACK OF ALL THESE EMOTIONS HE WAS DRIVEN BY THE EMOTION OF LOVE FOR HIS WIFE WHOM HE WAS SEEKING TO PLEASE BY HIS ACHIEVEMENTS.

THE MOTIVE WHICH INSPIRED HIM TO ORGANIZE AND USE HIS EMOTIONS FO THE ATTAINMENT OF A DEFINITE AND WAS THE TWOFOLD MOTIVE OF LOVE AND DESIRE FOR FINANCIAL GAIN, THESE TWO BEING AT THE HEAD OF THE LIST OF THE NENE MOTIVES.

OF COURSE MR.SCHWAB MADE USE OF ALL THE OTHER PRINCIPLES OF INDIVIDUAL ACHIEVEMENT WHICH WE HAVE NOT YET MENTIONED, BEFORE BE FINALLY ATTAINED HIS GOAL, AND HE CONTINUED TO USE ALL THE PRINCIPLES OF THIS PHILOSOPHY AFTER ATTAINING IT, BUT THE EIGHT PRINCIPLES WE HAVE COVERED WERE THE ONES HE USED AT THE OUTSET.

HILL : I THINK I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU MEAN , MR.CARNEGIE. WILL YOU CHECK ME WHILE I DESCRIBE MY UNDERSTANDING OF MR.SCHWAB'S RISE TO POWER?
  

FIRST, HE DECIDED WHAT HE WANTED, THUS PUTTING INTO USE THE PRINCIPLE OF DEFINTIENESS OF PURPOSE. HE ADOPTED A PLAN FOR GETTING WHAT HE WANTED AND, JUDGING BY WHAT YOU HAVE SAID OF HIM, HE BEGAN CARRYING OUT HIS PLAN BY GOING THE EXTRA MILE,THEREBY MAKING USE OF THE PRINCIPLE OF ORGANIZED ENDEAVOR.

BY WORKING IN HARMONY WITH YOU AND HIS OTHER ASSOCIATES, HE MADE USE OF THE MASTER MIND PRINCIPLE.

BY THE PLEASING,HARMONIOUS MANNER IN WHICH HE RELATED HIMSELF TO YOU AND HIS OTHER ASSOCIATES, HE INDICATED HIS UNDERSTANDING AND USE OF THE PRINCIPLE OF ATTRACTIVENESS OF PERSONALITY.

BY THE INTELLIGENT MANNER IN WHICH HE USED ALL THESE PRINCIPLES, AND BY STICKING PERSISTENTLY TO HIS UNDERTAKING UNTIL HE COMPLETED IT, HE DEMONSTRATED HIS UNDERSTANDING AND USE OF SELF - DISCIPLINE THROUGH WHICH HE SUBORDINATED ALL HIS DESIRES TO THE ONE SOLE PURPOSE OF MAKING HIMSELF AN INDESPENSABLE PART OF YOUR ORGANISATION.

BACK OF ALL THIS ENDEAVOR WERE THE TOW MOTIVES OF LAW FOR HIS WIFE AND HIS DESIRE FOR FINANCIAL ACHIEVMENT THROUGH WHICH HE HARNESSED AND USED ALL HIS POSITIVE EMOTIONS FOR THE ATTAINMENTS OF A DEFINITE PURPOSE.

NOW, DOES THAT ABOUT STATE THE CASE ?

CARNEGIE  : THAT WAS THE PROCEDURE FOLLOWED. AND YOU WILL NOTICED THAT HIS CHANCES OF SUCCESS WOULD HAVE BEEN LESSENED HAD HE FAILED TO USE ANY OF THE PRINCIPLES MENTIONED. IT WAS THROUGH A CAREFULLY PLANNED APPLICATION OF ALL THESE PRINCIPLES THAT HE ATTAINED SUCCESS. THE APPLICATION REQUIRED SELF - DISCIPLINE OF THE HIGHEST ORDER.

IF HE HAD SQUANDERED ANY OF HIS EMOTIONAL POWER IN ANY OTHER DIRECTION WHATOEVER, THE RESULTS MIGHT HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT, A FACT OF WHICH I AM REMINDED BY THE EXPERIENCE OF ANOTHER MAN WHO STARTED OUT TO ATTAIN THE SAME RELATIONSHIP IN MY ORGANIZATION THAT CHARLIE SCHWAB SUCCESSFULLY ATTAINED.

THIS MAN HAD EVERYTHING THAT CHARLIE HAD, A FAR AS ABILITY WAS CONCERNED. IN ADDITION TO THIS HE HAD MUCH BETTER EDUCATION, HAVING GRADUATED FROM ONE OF THE BEST - KNOWN, COLLEGES, WHERE HE SPECIALIZED IN INDUSTRIAL CHEMISTRY. HE MADE HUST AS EFFECTIVE USE OF EVERY ONE OF THE PRINCIPLES MENTIONED AS CHARLIE DID, WITH ONE LONE EXCEPTION, AND THAT WAS THE MOTIVE BY WHICH HE WAS  INSPIRED. HIS MOTIVE WAS A DESIRE FOR FINANCIAL GAIN, NOT AS A MEANS OF EXPRESEING LOVE FOR HIS WIFE, BUT TO FEED HIS OWN VANITY.

HE HAD A LOVE FOR POWER, NOT AS AN EXPRESSIONOF HIS PRIDE OF ACHIEVEMENT, BUT AS A MEANS OF LORDING HIS AUTHORITY OVER OTHER PEOPLE. DESPTIE THIS WEAKNESS, HE CLIMBED STEADILY UNTIL HE BECAME AN OFFICIAL MEMBER OF MY MASTER MIND GROUP. THEN HE TOOK A TUMBLE THROUGH WHICH HE DASHED HIS HOPES AND HIS OPPORTUNITY TO PRICES BY HIS ARROGANCE AND VANITY.

HE WAS REDUCED IN RANK, OUT OF NECESSASITY FOR US TO MAINTAIN HORMONY IN OUR MASTER MIND GROUP, AND WOUND UP FINALLY AT THE BOTTOM OF THE LADDER, RIGHT WHERE HE STARTED. HIS DEMOTION INFLICTED A WOUND TO HIS VANITY FROM WHICH HE NEVER RECOVERED.

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THINK TO BECOME RICH

                                              THE ADVANCING THINKER

        WHAT WAS SAID IN THE LAST CHAPTER APPLIES AS WELL TO PEOPLE IN THE PROFESSIONS, WAGE EARNERS, AND THOSE ENGAGED IN MERCANTILE BUSINESS.

        NO MATER WHETHER YOU ARE A PHYSICIAN, A TEACHER, OR A CLERGYMAN, IF YOU CAN GIVE INCREASE OF LIFE TO OTHERS AND MAKE THEM SENSIBLE OF THE FACT, THEY WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU, AND YOU WILL GET RICH. PHYSICIANS WHO HOLD THE VISION OF THEMSELVES AS GREAT AND SUCCESSFUL HEALERS, AND WHO WORK TOWARD THE COMPLETE REALIZATION OF THAT VISION WITH FAITH AND PURPOSE, AS DESCRIBED IN FORMER CHAPTERS, WILL COME INTO SUCH CLOSE TOUCH WITH THE SOURCE OF LIFE THAT THEY WILL BE PHENOMENALLY SUCCESSFUL, PATIENTS WILL COME TO THEM IN THRONGS.

        IN THE FIELD OF RELIGION, THE WORLD CRIES OUT FOR CLERGY WHO CAN TEACH THEIR HEARERS THE TRUE SCIENCE OF ABUNDANT LIFE. THOSE WHO MASTER THE DETAILS OF THE SCIENCE OF GETTING RICH, TOGETHER WITH THE ALLIED SCIENCES O BEING WELL, OF BEING GREAT, AND OF WINNING LOVE, AND WHO TEACH THESE DETAILS FROM THE PULPIT, WILL NEVER LACK FOR A CONGREGATION. THIS IS THE GOSPEL THAT THE WORLD NEEDS, IT WILL GIVE INCREASE OF LIFE, AND CONGREGANTS WILL HEAR IT GLADLY, AND WILL GIVE LIBERAL SUPPORT TO THOSE WHO BRING IT TO THEM.

          WHAT IS NOW NEEDED IS A DEMONSTRATION OF THE SCIENCE OF LIFE FROM THE  PULPIT. WE WANT PREACHERS, RABBIS, PRIESTS AND IMAMS WHO CAN NOT ONLY TELL US HOW, BUT WHO IN THEIR OWN PERSONS WILL SHOW US HOW. WE NEED ENERGY WHO WILL THEMSELVES BE RICH, HEALTHY, GREAT, AND BELOVED, TO TEACH US HOW TO ATTAIN TO THESE THINGS, SUCH LEADERS WILL FIND A NUMEROUS AND LOYAL FOLLOWING.

           THE SAME IS TRUE OF TEACHERS WHO CAN INSPIRE THE CHILDREN WITH THE FAITH AND PURPOSE OF THE ADVANCING LIFE. THEY WILL NEVER BE OUT OF A JOB. ALL TEACHERS WHO HAVE THIS FAITH AND PURPOSE CAN GIVE IT TO THEIR PUPILS. THEY CANNOT HELP GIVING IT TO THEM IF IT IS PART OF THEIR OWN LIVES AND PRACTICE.

                WHAT IS TRUE OF THE TEACHER, PREACHER, AND PHYSICIAN IS TRUE OF THE LAWYER, DENTIST, REALTOR, INSURANCE AGENT - OF EVERYBODY.

              THIS COMBINED MENTAL AND PERSONAL ACTION IS INFALLIBEL, IT CANNOT FAIL. EVERY MAN AND WOMAN, WHO FOLLOWS THESE INSTRUCTIONS STEADILY, PERSEVERINGLY, AND TO THE LETTER, WILL GET RICH. THE LAW OF THE INCREASE OF LIFE IS AN MATHEMATICALLY CERTAIN IN ITS OPERTION AS THE LAW OF GRAVITATION. GETTING RICH IS AN EXACT SCIENCE.

         WAGE EARNERS WILL FIND THIS AS TRUE OF THEIR CASE AS OF ANY OF THE OTHERS MENTIONED. DO NOT FEEL THAT YOU HAVE NO CHANCE TO GET RICH BECAUSE YOU ARE WORKING WHERE THERE IS NO VISIBLE OPPORTUNITY FOR ADVANCEMENT, WHERE WAGES ARE SMALL AND THE COST OF LIVING HIGH. FORM YOUR CLEAR MENTAL VISION OF WHAT YOU WANT, AND BEGIN TO ACT WITH FAITH AND PURPOSE.

         DO ALL THE WORK YOU CAN DO, EVERY DAY, AND DO EACH PIECE OF WORK IN A PERFECTLY SUCCESSFUL MANNER. PUT THE POWER OF SUCCESS, AND THE PURPOSE TO GET RICH, INTO EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO SO.

          EMPLOYEES WHO ARE MERELY,"GOOD", WORKERS, PERFORMING THE VERY BEST OF THEIR ABILITY, AND SATISFIED WITH THAT, ARE VALUABLE TO THEIR EMPLOYERS, BUT IT IS NOT TO THE EMPLOYERS, INTEREST TO PROMOTE SUCH PEOPLE AS THEY ARE WORTH MORE WHERE BEING KEPT WHERE THEY ARE.

          TO SECURE ADVANCEMENT, SOMETHING MORE IS NECESSARY THAN TO BE TOO LARGE FOR YOUR PLACE.

       THOSE WORKERS WHO ARE CERTAIN TO ADVANCE ARE THOSE WHO ARE TOO BIG FOR THEIR CURRENT JOB, AND WHO HAVE A CLEAR CONCEPT OF WHAT THEY WANT TO BE.THEY KNOW THAT THEYCAN BECOME WHAT THEY WANT TO BE AND ARE DETERMINDED TO BE WHAT THEY WANT TO BE.

          DO NOT TRY TO MORE THAN FILL YOUR PRESENT PLACE WITH A VIEW TO PLEASING YOUR EMPLOYER, DO IT WITH THE IDEA OF ADVANCING YOURSELF. HOLD THE FAITH AND PURPOSE OF INCREASE DURING WORK HOURS, AFTER WORK HOURS, AND BEFORE WORK HOURS. HOLD IT IN SUCH A WAY THAT EVERY PERSON WHO COMES IN CONTACT WITH YOU, WHETHER SUPERVISOR, ANOTHER WORKER, OR SOCIAL ACQUAINTANCE, WILL FEEL THE POWER OF PURPOSE RADIATING FROM YOU, SO THAT EVERYONE WILL GET THE SENSE OF ADVANCEMENT AND INCREASE FROM YOU. OTHER PEOPLE WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU, AND IF THERE IS NO POSSIBILITY FOR ADVANCEMENT IN YOUR PRESENT JOB, YOU WILL VERY SOON AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO TAKE ANOTHER JOB.

         THERE IS A POWER THAT NEVER FAILS TO PRESENT OPPORTUNITY TO THE ADVANCING THINKER WHO IS MOVING IN OBEDIENCE OF LAW.

         GOD CANNOT HELP HELPING YOU, IF YOU CANNOT GET RICH WORKING IN AN AUTOMOBILE FACTORY, YOU CAN GET RICH OWNING AND MANAGING A FAST FOOD FRANCHISE. IF YOU BEGIN TO MOVE IN THE CERTAIN WAY, YOU WILL CERTAINLY ESCAPE FROM THE "CLUCHES" OF THE AUTO FACTORY AND OPEN THAT RESTAURANT OR WHEVER ELSE YOU WISH TO DO.

           IF A FEW THOUSANDS OF ITS EMPLOYEES WOULD ENTER UPON THE CERTAIN WAY, THE LARGE MANUFACTURERS WOULD SOON BE IN A BAD PLIGHT. IT WOULD HAVE TO GIVE ITS WORKERS MORE OPPORTUNITY, OR GO OUT OF BUSINESS. NOBODY HAS TO WORK FOR A GIANT CORPORATION. SUCH FIRMS CAN KEEP WORKERS IN SO CALLED HOPELESS CONDITIONS ONLY SO LONG AS THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE TOO IGNORANT TO KNOW OF THE SCIENCE OF GETTING RICH, OR TOO INTELLECTUALLY SLOTHFUL TO PRACTICE IT. 

            BEGIN THIS WAY  OF THINKING AND ACTING AND YOUR FAITH AND PURPOSE WILLMAKE YOU QUICK TO SEE ANY OPPORTUNITY TO BETTER YOUR CONDITION.

          SUCH OPPORTUNITIES WILL SPEEDILY COME, FOR THE SUPREME  GOD, WITH ALL POWER IS WORKING WITH YOU, WILL BRING THEM BEFORE YOU.

          DO NOT WAIT FOR AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE ALL THAT YOU WANT TO BE. WHEN AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE MORE THAN YOU ARE NOW IS PRESENTED AND YOU FELL IMPELLED TOWARD IT, IT WILL BE THE FIRST STEP TOWARD A GREATER OPPORTUNITY.

         

THERE IS NO SUCH THING POSSIBLE IN THIS UNIVERSE AS A LACK OF OPPORTUNITIES FOR THOSE WHO ARE LIVING THE ADVANCING LIFE.

 

IT IS INHERENT IN THE CONSTITUTION OF THE COSMOS THAT ALL THINGS SHALL BE FOR US AND WILL WORK TOGETHER FOR OUR GOOD. WE MUST CERTAINLY GET RICH IF WE ACT AND THINK IN THE CERTAIN WAY, SO LET WAGE EARNERS STUDY THIS BOOK WITH GREAT CARE, AND ENTER WITH CONDIDENCE UPON THE COURSE OF ACTION IT PRESCRIBES, IT WILL NOT FAIL.

          

PERCEPTION OF MONEY

          MONEY - YOU ARE MANAGING IT, OR BEING MANAGED BY IT?

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             THIS CHAPTER CAN CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE OF MONEY COMPLETELY, IF YOU PAY ATTENTION AND ARE OPENMINDED ENOUGH TO GO ALONG WITH THE FLOW OF THIS TEXT WITHOUT ANY PREJUDICE OR PRECONCEPTIONS.

            FIRST THINGS FIRST - THIS IS NOT ABOUT BECOMMING RICH AND FAMOUS. IT IS ABOUT HOW TO BE HAPPY IRRESPECTIVE OF WHATEVER YOU HAVE OR DON'T . SO, I DO NOT CARE IF YOU HAVE PLENTY OF MONEY OR NO MONEY AT ALL - ACCORDING TO ME, YOU ARE RICH IF YOU ARE CONSISTENTLY HAPPY, FEELING CONTRENTED, "AHA"! FEELING FREQUENTLY IN YOUR LIFE. THAN GOD IF YOU IN THAT SPACE.

           MONEY IN ITSELF CAN NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY, IT CAN DEFINITELY BRING TEMPORARY PLEASRURE AND FLIRT WITH YOUR MIND AND HEART FOR A WHILE BEFORE DISAPPEARING. MONEY IS DEFINITLY IMPORTANT - SO, DON'T THINK I'M JUST PUTTING MONEY DOWN. ALL I AM SAYING IS THAT MONEY IS A MEANS TO BRING ABOUT HAPPINESS AND NOTES AN END IN ITSELF.

    MONEY IS A MEANS TO BRING ABOUT HAPPINES AND NOT AN END IN ITSELF

              FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOU HAVE ALL THE  MONEY YOU NEED BUT YOU DON'T HAVE  HEALTH, INTEREST IN LIFE, A COMPANION, OR FRIENDS OR FAMILY TO SHARE THAT MONEY CAN BUY - WHAT GOOD WOULD THAT MONEY BE?

          I AM SURE MANY OF US WHO HAVE LIVED WITH JOINT FAMILIES IN SMALL HOUSES WITH  BARELY ENOUGH MONEY OR MEANS OF EARNINGS HAVE ENJOYED LIFE. OUR MEMORIES OF THOSE GOLDEN DAYS WILL BE VIVID EVERY TIME WE THINK OF THEM - WE FEEL MOMENTARY BLISS AND WONDER WHERE THOSE DAYS DISAPPEARED TOO.

       IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT WAS SPECIAL THEN, LET ME TELL YOU - THERE WAS NOTHING SPECIAL. WE WERE SIMPLY MORE INNOCENT AND  MORE CONNECTED WITH LIFE AND LESS WITH CLUTTER. MONEY CREATED ENTERTAINMENT BOXES AND GADGET. THEY HAD NOT YET TAKEN OVER OUR LIVES THEN, AND WE WERE MORE CONNECTED THROUGH FEELINGS AND NOT HARDWARE!

        WE HAVE COME A LONG WAY SINCE THEN.A NUMBER OF THINGS SUCH AS TELEVISIONS BUZZING WITH UNCOUNTABLE CHANNELS, INTERNET, SMART PHONES, E -SHOPPING, TAXIS ON CALL, INNUMERABLE APPS, AND SO ON HAVE ADDED SO MUCH CONVENIENCE TO OUR FAST - PACED LIVES. TODAY, WE WONDER HOW WE SURVIVED ALL THOSE YEARS WITHOUT THIS KIND OF TECHNOLOGY AND INTENTIONS.

        YES, WE ARE NOT LIVING IN THE STONE AGE. WE HAVE EVOLVED AND SO HAVE OUR TECHNOLOGIES. WE MUST ADOPT AND AMBRACE THESE TECHNOLOGIES TO SIMPLIFY OUR LIVES. THE ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT THESE INTENTIONS HAVE COMPLICATED THE WAY LEAD OUR LIVES EVEN MORE. WE HAVE LET THESED INNOVATIONS CAPTIVATE US RATHER THAN BECOMING EMPOWERED BY THEM.

         WE  HAVE SIMPLY FORGOTTEN TO ENJOY THE SIMPLE JOYS OF LIFE. WALKING AMONGST AND  APPRECIATING NATURE HAVE BECOME THINS YOU DO ONLY DURING VACATIONS. WE SUDDENLY START APPRECIATING NATURE WHEN WE SEE SUNSETS AND SUNRISES AL HILL STATIONS OR IN SOME EXOTIC LOCATION ABROAD. I WONDER WHY WE DO NOT APPRECIATE THE SUNRISES, SUNSETS, RIVERS, BEACHES, TREES, AND ALL THE THINGS AROUND US WHEREVER WE LIVE.

         THE REASON WE DON'T IS BECAUSE WE TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED AND HAVE SIMPLY FORGOTTEN THAT THEY EXIST AROUND US. OUR MIND IS CLUTTERED WITH THE NUMBER OF ACTIVITIES WE HAVE TO DO DURING OUR WORKING DAYS. WE ENJOY NATURE AND EVERYTHING AROUND US ONLY WHEN WE ARE ON HOLIDAY WHAT A PARADOX!

           YOU CAN NEVER DEFINE HOW MUCH MONEY IS ENOUGH IF YOU ARE CONSTANTLY DRIVEN BY IT. A BETTER HOUSE, MORE EXPENSIVE CLOTHES, RESTAURANTS, FANCY AUTOMOBILES, EXOTIC VACATIONS, WEEKEND HOUSE, ETC. THE LIST GOES ON. THE MONEY YOU EARN WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH TO FULFILL THESE NEVER- ENDING AND CREATED DEMANDS THAT WE ARE TRAPPEN IN.

         JUST THINK ABOUT IT. WHY DO WE DO WHATEVER IT IS WE DO? WHAT IS OUR ULTIMATE GOAL IN ANYTHING WE DO? WE WANT TO FEEL NICE, WE WANT TO FEEL GREAT, WE WANT TO FEEL BLISSFUL - ISN'T THIS SO? ARE WE DOING ANY OF THESE THINGS TO ADD PAIN, ANXIETY, SICKNESS, AGONY, ANGER, STRESS, UNPLEASANT FEELINGS, ETC. IN OUR LIVES- DEFINITELY NOT, RIGHT?

            THE IRONY IS WE WANT THE JOY, PLEASURE, AND BLISS OF LIFE AS OUR ULTIMATE GOAL BUT WE GET CAPTIVATED BY THE MEANS THAT WE THINK WILL GET US THERE. WE HAVE CREATED THE FALLACY THAT ONLY IF WE HAVE THIS AMOUNT OF MONEY, WE WILL GET JOY AND BLISS IN LIFE - MAY GOD BLESS ALL OF US AND FINE -TUNE OUR THINKING.

            NOW, IF YOU APPRECIATE SPIRITUALLITY, YOU MAY REALISE THAT ALL THESE MAYA OR ATTACHMENTS ARE A TEST CREATED BY NATURE. WE HAVE TO LIVE AROUND THEMAND STILL BE DETACHED FROM THEM. IF YOU PASS THE TEST, BINGO! YOU WILL HAVE RECEIVED THE KEY OF HAPPINESS, AND IF YOU HAVE NOT, GOD BLESS YOU UNTIL YOU GET THERE!

             CONSIDER IT AS A MAZE- YOU CAN TAKE DIFFERENT ROUTES TO SOMEHOW COME OUT OF IT - IT IS UP TO YOU TO COME OUT OF IT BY GOING THROUGH THE PAIN AND ANXIETY OR AS IF YOU ARE TALKING A STROLL IN A BEAUTIFUL GARDEN.

           SO, MY SUGGESTION IS - LET US TAKE THIS LIFE AS A MAZE, SMELL THE ROSES WITHOUT GETTING ATTACHED TO THEM, AND COME OUT OF IT WITHOUT ANY ANXIETY. YOU WILL DEFINITELY COME OUT THROUGH ONE OF THE PATHS THAT NATURE HAS DESINGED FOR ALL OF US. DO YOUR DUTIES AND EVERYTHING THAT IS REQUIRED TO BE DONE BUT DISCARD THIS FALLACY OF BUYING PLEASURE THROUGH MONEY.

      

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HOW SHOULD BEING A TEACHER AND A STUDENT

                                               💪   LEADERSHIP JOURNEY 💪

                    GOOD LEADERS ARE GOOD READERS- THIS MEANS THAT LEADERS ARE CONSTANLY LEARNING ALL THE TIME. ONLY IF YOU ARE A GOOD STUDENT, CAN YOU BE A GOOD TEACHER. AS THEY SAY, WALK THE TALK. LEADERS LEARN AND LEARN AND LEARN, AND ONECE THEY REAC MINIMUM UNDERSTANDING, THEY APPLY THEIR LEARNING, EVOLVE THERI BEINGS, AND START SHARING, IT IS A SIMPLE AS THAT.

                  KNOWLEDGE SHARED IS KNOWLEDGE GAINED. WHEN YOU TEACH SOMEONE, THE FIRST PERSON WHO LEARNS FROM IT IS YOURSELF. EVERY WORD THAT COMES OUR OF YOUR MOUTH IS FIRST HEARD BY YOU. THIS REINFORCES YOUR OWN KNOWLEDGE, UNDERSTANDING, AND BELIEF. ONCE THAT HAPPENS, YOUR MESSAGE GETS RELAYED WITH CONVICTION, AND YOU MAKE AN IMPACT.

               👀 LET US BREAK SOME MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT LEADERSHIP 👀

      LEADERSHIP IS NOT ABOUT THE TITLE AND DESIGNATION YOU HOLD. LEADERSHIP IS NOT ABOUT DICTATORSHIP. LEADERSHIP IS NOT ABOUT DOMINANCE. LEADERSHIP IS NOT ABOUT HOW BIG OR SMOOTH YOU TALK. LEADERSHIP IS NOT ABOUT HOW BIG YOUR OFFICE OR HOME IS.

           SIMPLY STATED, LEADERSHIP IS ALL ABOUT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY -RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS YOUR OWN SELF, YOUR LIFE, WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE, AND THE IMPACT IT MAKES ON OTHERS. A BEATIFUL BOOK WRITTEN BY ROBIN SHARMA TITLED THE LEADER WHO HAD NO TITLE. A MODERN FABLE ON REAL SUCCESS IN BUSINESS AND IN LIFE EXPLAINS THIS CONCEPT VERY NICELY. I RECOMMEND THIS BOOK STRONGLY AS IT WILL HELP YOU THROW AWAY YOUR MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT LEADERSHIP

                      ❤  LEADERSHIP IS ALL ABOUT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY  ❤ 

         ONCE YOU BECOME RESPONSIBLE, YOUR FOCUS WILL SLOWLY BE SHIFTED AWAY FROM YOURSELF TO OTHERS AROUND YOU. THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU WILL CARE LESS ABOUT YOURSELF - YOU WILL CONTINUE TO IMPROVE YOURSELF ALL THE TIME SUBSONSCIOUSLY (AS THOUGH ON AUTOPILOT) WHILE REMAINING FOCUSED ON IMPROVING THE LIVES OF OTHERS AROUND YOU.

             THE IMPACT IS SO PROFOUND THAT GOOD LEADERS ATTRACT PEOPLE TO THEM LIKE MAGNERS. EVERYTHING A GOOD LEADER DOES, EVERY WORD AND EVERY ACT, BECOMES IMPORTANT. GOOD LEARNERS WILL WANT TO ASSOCIATE WITH THEM NOT AS MERE FOLLOWERS BUT AS ACTIVE PARTICIPANTS AND GAIN KNOWLEDGE TO IMPROVE THEIR OWN LIVES AS THEY WILL BE LEADERS THEMSELVES EVENTUALLY.

           A GOOD LEADER WILL NEVER PREACH. THEY WILL DO THE RIGHTTHING, PRACTICE IT IN THEIR OWN LIVES, AND LET THEIR ACTIONS SPEAK. THEY WILL NOT GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO TEACH YOU BUT IF YOU ARE WILLING TO LEARN FROM THEM, THEY WILL SHARE EVERYTHING THEY HAVE LEARNT WITHOUT HESITATION. AS THEY SAY, THE TEACHER WILL APPEAR WHEN THE STUDENT IS READY.

         ALL  SPIRITUAL LEADERS HAVE FOUND THEIR GURUS BY ACCIDENT BECAUSE THEIR DESIRE TO LEARN WAS SO INTENSE THAT GURUS HAD TO APPEAR IN FRONT OF THEM. COSMIC ENERGY ATTRACRED THEM TO EACH OTHER. WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IN IT OR NOT, COSMIC ENERGY IS REAL AND CAN DO  WONDERS IF YOU UNDERSTAND IT.

         HOWEVER, THAT IS A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT SUBJECT, AND WE WILL TOUCH UPON IT IN A LATER CHAPTER. FOR NOW, IF YOU WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE IN YOUR LIFE AND IN WHAT YOU DO (IN OTHER WORDS, IF YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD LEADER), DO THE FOLLOWING:

          1. DEFINE THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE. IT MAY BE NOT BE AS SIMPLE AS IT SOUNDS - GREAT LEADERS HAVE SPENT THEIR ENTIRE LIVES TRYING TO UNDERSTAND IT.

        2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND IN WHAT YOU DO. EXCEL IN WHATEVER YOU DO. EXCEL IN WHATEVER YOU DO. IF YOU ARE DOING WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING, CHANGE IT NOW. DO WHAT YOU LOVE, AND LOVE WHAT YOU DO.

       3. WALK YOUR TALK- DO NOT DO THINGS YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN. DO NOT PREACH ABOUT THE THINGS YOU DON'T DO. DO NOT BECOME A BLABBERING MACHINE.LET YOUR ACTIONS DO THE TALKING.

      4. REMAIN A STUDENT THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE. NEVER FALL PREY TO THE "ARRIVAL SYNDROME" - NEVER THINK THAT YOU HAVE REACHED YOUR DESTINATION AND ALL THAT IS LEFT FOR YOU IS PREACHING. KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ENJOY UNTIL YOUR LAST BREATH ON THIS EARTH. REMEMBER THAT A.P.J. ABDULKALAM WAS DELIVERING A LECTURE IN A CLASSROOM WHEN HE TOOK HIS LAST BREATH. SHARINGTHE KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM HE GAINED OVER THE YEARS WAS HIS MISSION, AND HE DID IT PASSIONATELY UNTIL HIS LAST MOMENT ON EARTH- WHAT A GREAT LEADERSHIP QUALITY TO FOLLOW!

     5. NEVER JUDGE PEOPLE BY THE WORK THEY DO, THE TITLE THEY HOLD, OR THEIR OUTER APPEARANCE - IT COULD BE GROSSLY MISLEADING.

    6. THANK EVERYBODY FOR ALL THEIR ACTIONS. APPRECIATE THEIR GOOD WORK EVERY TIME.

   7. ASSOCIATE WITH PEOPLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS. APPRECIATE THEIR GOOD WORK EVERY TIME.

   8. READ AND LEARN FROM BOOKS /MAGAZINES/ AUTOBIOGRAPHIES/ SEMINARS/ CONFERENCE IN YOUR FIELD OF WORK OR INTEREST - YOU WILL FIND PRICELESS TREASURES OF WISDOM THROUGH THESE MEDIA.

  9. SHARE THE KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM YOU HAGVE GAINED WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE WILLING TO LEARN FROM YOU.

  10. LAST, BUT NOT THE LEAST, LIVE A DISCIPLINED LIFE. WATCH WHAT YOU ARE DOING, WHAT YOU ARE EATING, WHAT YOU ARE TALKING, YOUR DAILY ROUTINE, YOUR PUNCTUALITY, HOW YOU ARE TREATING YOUR BODY, AND WHOM ARE YOU ASSOCIATING WITH MOST.

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                              TRAIN YOUR MIND TO TAKE SMALL ADVENTURES

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     TRAIN YOUR MIND TO TAKE SMALL ADVENTURES, AND LET IS UNDERSTAND THAT NOTHING BAD WILL HAPPEN - IT IS ALL IN YOUR MIND.

       1. TAKE THAT AMUSEMENT RIDE THAT YOU WERE ALWAYS AFRAID TO TAKE.

       2.TAKE A DIFFERENT ROUTE WHILE DRIVING LONG DISTANCES IN YOUR CAR - GET LOST, AND FIND A  NEW WAY.

      3. TALK IN PUBLIC IF YOU HAVE A FEAR OF SPEAKING IN PUBLIC - THIS WILL TRAIN YOUR MIND TO GET USED TO THE FACT THAT NOTHING WILL HAPPEN EVEN IF YOU FAIL.

     4. LOOK STUPID IN A GROUP BY SHARING A LAME JOKE - THIS WILL HELP YOU STOP FEELING SELF - CONSCIOUS AND COME OUT OF THE "LOOKING- GOOD SYNDROME".

     5. GO ON A VACATION WITHOUT BOOKING A HOTEL BEFOREHAND - THIS WILL TRAIN YOUR MIND TO EXPLORE AND KNOW THAT YOU CAN DEAL WITH UNCERTAINTY.

     6. GO SCUBA DIVING, IF YOU DON'T KNOW SWIMMING, TO OVERCOME YOUR FEAR OF WATER.

    7. SLEEP ALONE AT HOME IF YOU ARE AFRAID TO DO SO - IT WILL HELP YOU LEARN  THAT NOTHING BAD WILL HAPPEN.

    8. PLAY THE VIDEO GAMES YOUR KID PLAYS ALL THE TIME - IT DOES NOT MATTER IF YOUR SPEED IS A HUNDRED TIMES LESSAR THAN YOUR KID'S.

   9. CHANGE YOUR JOB JUST FOR THE SAKE OF IT IF YOU THINK THAT YOU CAN NEVER BE PAID AS WELL AS YOU ARE RIGHT NOW OR IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE TO OTHER OPTION BUT TO STICK AROUND.

  10. CHANGE YOUR HOUSE OR CITY IF YOU FEAR LOSING NEIGHBOURS - TURNING YOUR LIFE UPSIDE DOWN WILL HELP YOU GET USED TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS.

  11. STAY ALONE FOR A FEW DAYS, OR BETTER STILL, TAKE A TEN - DAY VIPASSANA COURSE IF YOU THINK YOU ARE SOCIAL ANIMAL WHO CAN NEVER BE ALONE OR LIVE WITHOUT TALKING TO OTHERS FOR A DAY - YOU WILL LEARN TO BE SPEECHLESS FOR TEN DAYS!

           ONCE YOU GO THROUGH SOME OF THESE OR SIMILAR EXPERIENCES, YOU WILL FIND IT EASY TO TRAIN YOUR MIND TO OVERCOME FEAR. GOOGLE DEFINES FEAR "AS UNPLEASANT EMOTION CAUSED BY THE THREAT OF DANGER, PAIN, OR HARM."

          THIS MEANS THAT ONCE YOU OVERCOME THIS, YOU WILL HAVE KILLED THE BASIC CAUSE OF ANXIETY.

          IN MOST CASES,IT IS FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN THAT LEADS TO ANXIETY. SO, ONCE YOU FACE IT, YOU WILL BE AT HOME WITH IT, SEE IT THROUGH A NEW PERSPECTIVE, ENVISION NEW POSSIBILITIES, AND EXPERIENCE A DIFFERENT AND NEW WORLD. GO FOR IT! IT IS DEFINITELY WORTH IT - THIS IS SO TRUE.

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SHARPENING OUR TOOLS

                                        ❤  WHAT WE WANT OUR LIFE ❤

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                 WE LIVE IN AN ERA OF CUTTING EDGE TECHNOLOGY AND ARE SURROUNDED BY GADGETS, TECHNOLOGY, TOOLS, RAPID FLOW OF INFORMATION, AND SKILLED AND TALEDTED PEOPLE ALL AROUND - IT IS SHEET COMPETITIVENESS EVERYWHERE.

                 WHEN YOU TAKE YOUR BOAT OUT INTO THE WORLD, ARE YOU OVERWHELMED BY THIS ERA OR DO YOU FEEL EMPOWERED BY IT? PAUSE FOR A WHILE DWELL OVER IT, AND BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. THIS IS THE STARTING POINT AND AN OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU TO DO SOME RETROSPECTION SO, BE TRUTH FUL HERE.

               IF YOU SENSE CORRECTLY, YOU CAN CONTROL BETTER, IF YOUR INPUT READING IS WRONG, YOU WILL NEVER HAVE THE RIGHT CONTROL - MY FELLOW SCIENCE AND ENGINEERING GRADUATES WILL APPRECIATE THIS CONCEPT. BUT, EVEN FOR A LAYMAN, THIS IS EASY ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND.

            IT IS LIKE CONTROLLING THE TEMPORATURE OF AN AC. FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOU FEEL HOT, YOU SWITCH ON THE AC, AND THE AC CONTROLS THE TEMPERATURE  BY SENSING HOW COLD IT IS FIRST. IF IT DOES NOT HAVE THE ABILITY TO SENSE THE ACTUAL TEMPERATURE OF THE ROOM, IT WILL SIMPLY  START AND GO ON AND ON WITHOUT ANY CONTROL - SOON, YOU WILL BE FREEZING.

          THIS IS OUR LIFE. WE FIRST NEED TO HAVE A SENSE OF WHERE WE ARE AND WHERE WE WANT TO GO, AND THEN, WE SHOULD CONTROL OUR ACTIONS AGAINST OUR SET POINT SO THAT THEY DO NOT GO OUT RANGE. ONCE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT FROM LIFE AND ONCE YOU HAVE DEVELOPED THE ABILITY TO SENSE WHERE YOU ARE AT THE MOMENT, YOU WILL LEARN HOW MUCH ENERGY IS REQUIRED TO REACH WHERE YOU WANT TO GO.

           YOU BEGIN BY DEVELOPING THAT ENERGY, POWER OF KNOWLEDGE AND THE NEXT STEP IS TO MONITOR AND CONTROL YOUR MOVES BY MEANS OF A SET POINT. ELSE, YOU MAY DRIFT AROUND AIMLESSLY. SETTING A FIXED POINT HELPS YOU REMAIN ON COURSE. ON THE OTHER HAND, YOUR SENSE ENSURES THAT YOUR CURRENT STATE IS MEASURED CONSTANTLY SO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH ENERGY IS REQUIRED TO REACH THE SET POINT AND HOW MUCH ENERGY IS REQUIRED TO HELP YOU REMAIN THERE ONCE IT IS REACHED.

               WHETHER YOU ARE PART OF A CORPORATE WORLD OR RUNNING YOUR OWN BUSINESS, THE TECHNOLOGY, TOOLS, MARKET DYNAMICS, EVER - CHANGING TRENDS, CUT - THROAT COMPETITION, CREATIVITY, AND INNOVATION ARE ALL SO FIERCE TODAY. IF YOU DO NOT PRAY ATTETION AND ARE NOT WILLING TO LEARN, IT VAN OVERWHELM YOU, AND SOON, YOU WILL BE OUT OF BUSINESS.

               THE ALTERNATIVE IS TO BE OPEN - MINDED, HAVE NO BIAS, LEARN AND USE ALL THE TECHNOLOGY AVAILABLE, BE RESOURCEFUL ENOUGH TO NAVIGATE AND ADOPT NEW TECHNOLOGY, OR LEARN FROM FRIENDS AND ASSOCIATES WHO ARE MORE COMFORTABLE WITH TECHNOLOGY AND THE TRENDS. IN SHORT, MAKE USE OF ALL THE AVAILABLE TOOLS TO EMPOWER YOUR BUSINESS AND THE WAY YOU DO THINGS, ELSE YOU WILL BE LOST IN THIS DYNAMIC OCEAN OF THE INFORMATION AGE.

            SECONDLY, IF YOU ARE WORKING WITH A BIG CORPORATION LIKE I WAS, YOU ALSO NEED TO UNDERSTAND HUMAN TECHNOLOGY - DONT BE PUZZLED BY THIS NEW TERM. LIKE TECHNOLOGY , TRENDS, AND TOOLS, HUMAN BEINGS ARE ALSO A COMPLEX AND DYNAMIC MACHINERY. IF YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND THEM, THEY WILL OVERWHELM YOU, YOU NEED TO BE OPEN - MINDED AND OBSERVANT TO UNDERSTAND EACH MACHINE AS THEY ARE ALL UNIQUE!

           YOU WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH A NUMBER OF MACHINES (HUMAN BEINGS) AND EACH HAS A DIFFERENT OPERATING SYSTEM, SPEED, PROCESSING POWER, ABILITY TO UNDERSTAND, ADAPTABILITY TO CHANGE, ETC, IF YOU TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED, YOU WILL SOON BE EMOTIONALLY CHARGED AND FRUSTRATED AT NOT KNOWING WHAT DO WITH THESE COMPLEX MACHINES.

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          ❤   SO, RELAX, REMEMBER THE SENSOR AND SET POINT CONCEPT ? ❤  

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       IT'S TIME TO APPLY IT IN YOUR LIFE. SHIFT YOUR MEASUREMENT TOOLS FROM YOURSELF TO THE MACHINE YOU ARE DEALING WITH. SPARE SOME TIM TO LEARN ABOUT EACH MACHINE, OBSERVE HOW THEY BEHAVE IN CERTAIN CONDITIONS, NOTE WHEN THEY PERFORM  AT THEIR PEAK AND WHEN THEY GO HAYWIRE, FIGURE OUT HOW FREQUENTLY THEY NEED MAINTENANCE, AND SO FORTH. 

           ONCE YOU HAVE LEARNT THIS AND HAVE PRACTISED HOW TO USE THE SENSOR AND SET POINT TECHNIQUE EFFECTIVELY, YOU ARE IN CONTROL. SO, DID YOU CONTROL THE MACHINE ? NO, YOU JUST CONTROLLED YOUR OWN SYSTEM, EMOTIONS, AND MOOD. IF THE OTHER PERSON DID NOT BEHAVE NICELYOR DID SOMETHING NOT IN LINE WITH YOUR EXPECTATIONS, YOU RESPONDED INSTEAD OF REACTING. THIS HELPED YOU IMPROVE YOUR COMPATIBILITY/RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH MACHINE.

             DOES THIS MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO INVEST TIME TO LEARN ABOUT EACH MACHINE? YOU BET IT DOES! YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY SET ASIDE TIME TO LEARN ABOUT EACH PART OF THE TEAM AS YOU NEED TO WORK WITH ALL OF THEM.

            IMAGINE YOU ARE A SALES PERSON, AND A NUMBER OF PEOPLE ARE ASKING YOU FOR A VARIETY OF REPORTS THEY NEED - ORDER FORECAST, REVENUE FORECAST, STATUS OF ACCOUNTS RECEIVABLE, MARKET TRENDS, OPEN OPPORTUNITIES, COMPETITION INFORMATION, MARKET SHARES, BUYING PATTERN OF AN ACCOUNT, CONSUMPTION OF SPECIFIC TYPE OF PRODUCT TO PLAN PURCHASE OR PRODUCTION, ETC. YOU CAN EITHER BE OVERWHELMED BY THESE NEVER - ENDING DEMANDS OR BE CLEVER, ORGANISE YOUR ACT, CAPTURE THE DATA ONLINE SYSTEMATICALLY, TABULATE IT, PLUG IT IN A RUDIMENTARY OR SOPHISTICATED CRM (CUSTOMER RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT) TOOL, AND BE READY TO FLASH THE DATA EVERY TIME IT IS ASKED FOR. THIS IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF BEING OVERWHELMED AND EMPOWERING YOURSELF TO OVERCOME IT.

           LET ME SHIFT GEARS FROM A COMPLEX WORK ENVIRONMENT TO A  SIMPLE EVERYDAY EXAMPLE - TAKE THE EXAMPLE OF NEVER - ENDING TRAFFIC ON ROADS. IF YOU LIVE IN MUMBAI, YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. BANGALORE, DELHI, AND MANY OTHER UPCOMING CITIES IN INDIA ARE NO DIFFERENT. YOU MIGHT ESTIMATE A TRAVEL TIME OF THIRTY MINUTES FOR A DISTANCE OF FIFTEEN KINOMETERS, AND YOU WILL  END UP TAKING MORE THAN ONE HOUR EASILY ON NORMAL DAYS. IF THE TRAFFIC BAD,IT CAN TAKE YOU UP TO TWO HOURS!

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           IF YOU ARE AN OUTSIDER TRAVELLING IN MUMBAI, YOU WILL BE AMUSED AT HOW MUMBAIKARS DO NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT IT, PEOPLE CONTINUE LISTENING TO THE RADIO, CHATTING, EATING, AND SO ON AD IF EVERYTHING IS FINE. THIS IS SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY HAVE FACED THIS SITUATION FOR YEARS.  THEY SCREAMED, SHOUTED, RAISED THEIR VOICES, DID EVERYTHING THEY COULD, AND FINALLY UNDERSOOD THAT THIS WAS IT.

            NOW, THEY HAVE STARTED PLANNING THEIR SCHEDULES BETTER, ARE SMARTER AT ESTIMATING TRAVEL TIME BEFORE COMMITTING TO MEETINGS, KEEP OTHER MENBER AT THE MEETINGS INFORMED ABOUT THE POTENTIAL DELAY TO BE CONSIDERED IN CASE THEY GET STUCK IN TRAFFIC ETC.

            WHAT HAPPEND HERE? YES, YOU GUESSED IT RIGHT! THEY APPLIED THE SENSOR AND SET POINT TECHNIQUE TO KEEP THEIR MOOD IN CONTROL!

             SO, IN SUMMARY, DO NOT FORGET THESE TERMS "SENSOR" CONTROL AND SET POINT - IT WILL CHANGE EVERY FACET OF YOUR LIFE SIGNIFICANTLY.

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ALIGN YOUR HEART AND MIND

                                   💖    YOUR HEART AND MIND     💖

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                  DEAR READERS, I SEEK YOUR SPECIAL ATTETION ON THIS TOPIC - IF YOU GET THIS RIGHT, A NUMBER OF OTHER THINGS WILL FALL IN PLACE. THIS IS KEY TO BEING HAPPY IN ALL SITUATIONS.

               WE LIVE WITH OUR FAMILY BUT SPEND MOST OF OUR TIME WITH COLLEAGUES/CUSTOMERS/FRIENDS - IN SHORT, OUR SOCIAL CIRCLE. WE ATTEMPT TO BE NICE TO THEM AND PUT ON A COAT TO LOOK GOOD, SMELL, GOOD, AND BEHAVE GOOD ALL THE TIME.

               FINALLY, WHEN WE ARE HOME, WE SUDDENLY BECOME DIFFERENT CREATURES. WE THINK THAT BECAUSE WE ARE HOME, WE CAN JUST BE OURSELVES - DO WHATEVER WE ARE HOME, WE CAN JUST BE OURSELVES, DO WHATEVER WE ARE HOME, WE CAN JUST BE OURSELVES - DO WHATEVER WE WANT - AND THAT IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO BECAUSE WE WANT TO UNWIND AND RELAX WITHOUT HAVING TO PLEASE ANYBODY.

              GET READY TO FACE SOME UNPLEASANT FACTS. WE WANT TO BE GOOD IN FRONT OF THE WORLD BY TELLING OURSELVES THAT WE ARE GOING OUT AND DOING ALL THESE THINGS TO EARN SOME MONEY, SOCIAL STATUS, AND PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY. THEN, WHEN WE COME BACK TO OUR FAMILY. WE THINK THAT WE ARE DONE BECAUSE WE HAVE ALREADY PROVIDED THE MONEY TO RUN THE HOUSE - WHAT AN IRONY!

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              YES, MONEY IS ONE OF THE THINGS A FAMILY NEEDS BUT MORE THAN THAT, THEY WANT US TO BE A PART OF THE FAMILY. THEY WANT US TO ENJOY THEIR COMPANY, THEY WANT US TO LISTEN TO THEIR STORIES, THEY WANT US TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR LIVES, THEY WANT OUR UNINTERUPTED TIME, AND SO ON. ALL THESE THINGS ARE REVEALED WHEN WE SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH THEM.

             YOU MAY WONDER HOW YOU CAN MANAGE TO DO THAT - YOU ONLY HAVE 24 HOURS A DAY, AND YOU SPEND A GOOD TWELVE TO FOURTEEN HOURS A DAY WORKING, INCLUDING COMMUTE TIME. GETTING READY AND SLEEPING TAKES AWAY NEARLY TEN HOURS - YOU ARE LEFT WITH TWO HOURS, WHAT CAN YOU DO IN THOSE TWO HOURS, NOT COUNTING THE ENDLESS INCOMING CALLS DURING THAT TIME?

           THIS IS THE REASON WHY YOUR HEART AND MIND SHOULD BE ALINGNED - ONCE THE GAP IS REDUCED BETWWEN YOUR WORK AND HOME PERSONALLITY, YOU WILL BE FREED OF HAVING TO WEAR AN EXTRA COAT AND HAVING TO REMIND YOURSELF TO BEHAVE IN A SPECIFIC FASHION AT EITHER WORK OR HOME.

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            ONCE YOU ARE ENJOYING YOUR WORK AND ARE TRUE TO YOURSELF, YOU WILL NOT BE STRESSED OUT. YOU WILL BE HAPPY WHEN YOU ARE AT WORK AND WHEN YOU ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY. ONCE YOU REALISE THAT FAMILY IS AN INTEGRAL PART OF YOUR BEING, YOU WILL NOT HAVE TO FIND TIME FOR IT, IT WILL AUTOMATICALLY BECOME A PART OF YOUR ROUTINE.

          THE WAY YOU PLAN YOUR WORK AND FAMILY AFFAIRS WILL BECOME ROUTINE, AND BRINGO! YOU WILL NOT HAVE TO WEAR TWO DIFFERENT CAPS. ENSURE YOUR LIFE IS AN OPEN BOOK - KEEP NO SECRETS AND MAINTAIN AS MUCH TRANSPERENCY AS YOU CAN IN WORK AND AT HOME - THE LESSER THE BAGGAGE OF SECRECY, THE HIGHER THE PIE OF HAPPINESS. CONSTANTLY REMIND YOURSELF OF THIS MANTRA.

                                          

STOP PLEASING AND LEARN TO SAY "NO"

                                  🙏WHEN YOU HAVE TO PLEASE🙏

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                        WE ARE ALL SURROUNDED BY A CLUSTER OF RELATIONSHIPS- IN ADDITION TO OUR OWN FAMILY, THERE ARE EXTENDED FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES, BUSINESS ASSOCIATES, ACQUAINTANCES, SERVICE PROVIDERS, NEIGHBOURS,CLUB MEMBERS, AND SO ON. IF YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON AT HEART AND HAVE NOT FELT THE PRESSURE OF TIME CRUNCH YET, I AM CAUTIONING YOU - BE PRPARED TO FACE IT SOONER OR LATER.

                       YOU MIGHT WISH TO BE AVAILABLE TO ONE AND ALL WHEN THEY ASK FOR FAVOURS OR HELP FROM YOU. YOU MIGHT FEEL THAT YOU CAN MANAGE IT AND THAT IT IS NOT A BIG DEAL BUT MORE PEOPLE WILL CONTINUE TO COME FOR YOUR HELP. ONE DAY, SUDDENLY, YOU WILL REALISE THAT YOUR LIFE IS A MESS AND THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE ADEQUATE TIME FOR YOU OWN FAMILY OR FOR THINGS MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU.

                  YOU WILL BE SOMEBODY ELSE' AGENDA, BUT, WHAT ABOUT YOUR OWN ? IF YOU ARE PART OF A LARGE ORGANISATION OR FAMILY. YOU WILL KEEP COMING ACROSS HELP SEEKERS FREQUENTLY, AND IF YOU START PLEASING EVERYBODY, YOU WILL ONLY REMAIN AS A TASKMASTER HELPING EVERYBODY COMPLETE THEIR JOBS. YOU WILL BE STRANDED WAITING TO FIND SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF, WHICH WILL NEVER COME.

                  YOU MAY ASK HOW I KNOW THIS - YES, YOU GUESSED IT RIGHT - I WAS ONCE IN THAT SITUATION. I SPEND MOST OF MY TIME PLEASING MY SUBORDINATES, PEERS, AND BOSSES (NOT FOR RISING HIGHER IN THE ORGANISATION, JUST TO FEEL GREAT ABOUT MYSELF ), I WAS PART OF A LARGE ORGANISATION SO YOUCAN IMAGINE THE AMOUNT OF TIME I HAD TO INVEST. I SPENT ENDLESS NIGHTS/WEEKENDS/HOLIDAYS TO PLEASE PEOPLE. IT COULD BE GENUINELY REQUIRED SOMETIMES BUT MOSTLY WAS TO BE NICE TO OTHERS,

                  I SACRIFICED TIME WITH MY FAMILY MORE OFTEN THAN NECESSARY, AND IT WAS BY NO MEANS WORTH IT. MAYBE YOU ARE NOT IN A SIMILAR SITUATIOJ OR MAYBE YOUR WORK CIRCLE IS LIMITED AND YOU ARE NOT PART OF A LARGE ORGANISATION - IF SO, THAN GOD!

                 THERE ARE OTHER PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT PART OF LARGE ORGANISATIONS BUT HAVE WIDE SOCIAL CIRCLES - THEY HAVE TOO MANY FRIENDS WHOM THEY TRY TO PLEASE ALL THE TIME. MANY FEMALE READERS MIGHT RELATE TO THIS. I HAVE SEEN A NUMBER OF FEMALE GROUPS ENGAGED IN FREQUENT LUNCHES / DINNERS / BIRTHDAYS / NEW YEAR PARTIES, AND THEY ALWAYS HAVE A NUMBER OF EXCUSES AND REASONS TO GET TOGETHER.

                  AN ENDLESS AMOUNT OF TIME IS SPENT IN SHOPPING AND ORGANISING GIFTS TO BE PRESENTED TO THEIR FRIENDS. THIS IS ALL WELL, BUT, HOLD ON! WATCH THE AMOUNT OF TIME / MONEY / ENERGY YOU SPEND IN THESE ACTIVITIES, AND CHECK IF YOU ARE COMPROMISING ON ANYTHING - MAYBE YOU ARE EXTERNALLY MOBILEAND MODERN BUT ARE YOU INTERNALLY HAPPY? ARE YOU DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ? ARE YOU INVESTING ENOUGH TIME IN YOURSELF? ARE YOU RUSHING BEHIND ARTIFICIAL HAPPINESS? 

                IF YOU FEEL THAT EVERYTHING AROUND YOU IS GOING WELL AND THAT THERE ARE NO COMPROMISES - GREAT, GO ON!  I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK.

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                                                              LEARN TO SAY "NO"

     

                     BY AND LARGE, WE ARE ALL VICTIMES OF THIS, AND WE ALL HAVE REASONS JUSTIFYING WHY WE CANOOT SAY "NO" TO SOMEONE. WELL, THIS POINT IS INTERLINKED WITH THAT OF A PLEASING PEOPLE AREOUND YOU. SOMEHOW, WE HAVE NOT DEVELOPED THIS MUST HAVE HABIT OF KNOWING WHEN AND HOW TO SAY "NO".

               WE ALL HAVE ONLY SO MANY HOURS IN A DAY. WE SIMPLY DO NOT HAVE TIME TO KILL. I DO UNDERSTAND THAT WE ARE SOCIAL ANIMALS AND THAT WE NEED TO DO SEVERAL THINGS WE MAY NOT NECESSARILY LIKE OR HAVE TIME FOR. WE DO TRY TO BE CLEVER, UNDERSTAND OUR PRIORITIES, AND ALLOCATE TIME APPROPRIATELY FOR BREAKS, SOCIAL ENGAGEMENT, COMMUNITY, SOCIETY, ETC.

               HOWEVER, ANY UNPLANNED UNTERUPPTION IS TO BE THOROUGLY ASSESSED. YOU SHOULD BE WISE ENOUGH TO DECIDE IF IT SUPPORTS YOUR SET AGENDA AND GOALS OF IF IT MERELY INTRUDES ON YOUR TIME AND DERAILS THE PROGRESS OF YOUR TASKS ON HAND. YOU MAY NOT REALISE IT BUT EVEN THE SMALL PORTION OF TIME SPENT ON THAT INTERRUPTION GETS ACCUMULATED, AND WITHOUT YOUR KNOWLEDGE, IT BEOMES MONTHS AND YEARS!

             WELL, THAT'S ENOUGH OF TELLING YOU WHY YOU NEED TO SAY "NO" WHEN NECESSARY - NOW, LET ME TELL YOU THE TECHNIQUE TO DO SO IF YOU HAVE NOT LEARNT THIS THUS FAR. FIST, PRACTICE IT WITH YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS- THOROUGHLY EXPLAIN TO THEM WHY YOU ARE DOING THIS- AND THEN,  PRACTICE THIS IN YOUR DAILY LIFE.

              I HAVE SEEN MANY PEOPLE WHO FOLLOW THE OTHER EXTREME - THEY ALWAYS SAY "NO" FIRST BEFORE EVEN ASSESSING THE REQUEST AND LATER, TURN AROUND AND DO IT ANYWAY. DO NOT LET YOURSELF FALL INTO THAT CATEGORY AS WELL.

             THE TRICK IS TO SAY "NO" BY SAYING "YES" FIRST - WHEN YOU SAY "NO" FIRST, IT MEANS THAT YOU ARE NOT ACKNOWLEDGING THE NEEDS OF THE OTHER PERSON OR EVEN IGNORING THAT PERSON COMPLETELY. AT LEAST, IT IS PERCEIVED IN THAT MANNER BECAUSE WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS WHO HAVE THIS STRANGE, HABIT OF TAKING "NO" PERSONALLY.

                                              SAY "NO" BY SAYING "YES" FIRST

         SO, WHEN YOU GET A REQUEST FOR SOMETHING, WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS :

 

      1. LISTEN TO THE REQUEST ACTIVELY

      2. ACKNOWLEDGE IT BY SAYING THAT YOU UNDERSTAND IT IS IMPORTANT FOR THAT PERSON AND YOU RESPECT THAT.

     3. THEN, SAY THAT YOU ARE INCIDENTALLY OCCUPIED WITH MORE PRESSING THINGS THAT NEED YOUR ATTENTION AT THE MOMENT AND HENCE, YOU ARE SORRY AND ARE NOT IN A POSITION TO FULLFILL THE REQUEST.

             ANY REASONABLE PERSON WILL UNDERSTAND THIS AND DROP THE MATTER. NOW, IF SOMEONE IS PRESSING YOUR FURTHER, YOU KNOW THAT THE PERSON IS BEING UNREASONBLE, AND YOU MUST GIVE IMPORTANT TO THE REQUEST ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT PERSON.

           FOR EXAMPLE, IF IT HAPPEN TO BE YOUR BOSS, YOU HAVE  TO HANDLE IT VERY DELICATELY AND WEIGH THE PROS AND CONS. IF IT'S YOUR FAMILY MEMBER, YOU HAVE TO ASSESS THE PRIORITY AND URGENCY OF THE REQUEST. IF IT'S YOUR KIDS, YOU NEED TO DETERMINE THE EXTENT OF YOUR PARENTING DEPENDING ON THE TYPE OF THE NEED. IF IT'S A VERY  CLOSE FRIEND, LEARN MORE ABOUTTHE SITUATION AND UNDERSTAND WHETHER YOU ARE GENUINELY REQUIRED OR MERELY DRAGGED IN.

             THERE ARE NO CONCRETE OR CAST-IN-IRON WAYS TO DEAL WITH THIS - IT IS MORE OF A ARE THAN SCIENCE. THE MORE YOU PRACTICE, THE BETTER YOU WILL BECOME AT SAYING "NO" GO FOR IT, IT 'S WORTH IT.

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