HAPPY LIFE

                                                 FEEL HAPPY😇😇😇

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                   WE LIVE IN A TIME WHEN THINGS CHANGE AT A PACE MUCH FASTER THAN WE CAN IMAGINE. ALL ALONG,  WE THOUGHT IF WE MANAGE TO HAVE A GOOD HOUSE, A NICE AUTOMOBILE, PLENTY OF MONEY TO ENJOY A COMFORTABLE LIFESTYLE, AN UNDERSTANDING AND LOVING PARTNER, A NICE FAMILY, AND REGULAR VACATIONS, WE ARE DONE, EVERYTHING OVER AND BEYOND WILL BE A BONUS. GUESS WHAT? OUR NEEDS ARE NEVER - ENDING AND RIGHTFULLY SO - IT SHOULD NOT END OR WE WILL HAVE NO GOAL TO PURSUE.

              IN THE PAST, WE WERE HAPPY WITH A FIVE HUNDREDSQUARE-FEET HOUSE FOR A FAMILY OF SEVEN. TODAY, EVEN A ONE THOUSAND - FIVE HUNDRED-SQUARE-FEET HOURSE IS NOT ENOUGH FOR A FAMILY OF FOUR. ONECE, A NICE TELEVISION COUND SURVIVE FOR A DECADE, AND TODAY, EVEN THREE FLAT - SCREEN TELEVISIONS ARE NOT ADEQUATE DESPITE BEING CHANGED EVERY FEW YEARS. SUCH EXAMPLES ARE NUMEROUS. LET'S NOT FORGET THE EVERCHANGING MOBILE PHONE MODELS-OUR LIFE COMES TO A STANDSTILL IF WE WITHOUT ONE FOR MORE THAN AN HOUR.

            SURE, IT IS A LAW OF NATURE - TODAY IS BETTER THAN YESTERDAY, AND TOMARROW WILL BE BETTER THAN TODY. WE ARE LIVING A BETTER LIFE THAN THE PREVIOUS GENERATION, AND THE NEXT GENERATION WILL LIVE AN EVE BETTER ONE. WE ARE LIVING IN THE INFORMATION AGE, AND THE YOUNGER GENERATION IS BECOMING SMARTER BY THE DAY. YOU MAY ASK WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING - IT IS THE WAY TO MOVE FORWARD.

                           TODAY IS BETTER THAN YESTERDAY, AND TOMARROW WILL 

                            BE BETTER THAN TODAY.

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                 THE QUESTION IS HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH-IN OTHER WORDS, ARE YOU CONTENT WHILE STRIVING TO GET MORE ? ARE YOU SMELLING THE ROSES ON YOUR PATH WHILE CHASING YOU DREAM OF A BETTER TOMARROW? OR, ARE YOU CONSTANTLY TRAPPED UNDER FEELINGS OF INFERIORITY, ANXIETY, RESTLESSNESS, INSECURITY, AND INADEQUACY? IN SIMPLE TERMS, ARE YOU LOSING YOUR HAPPINESS?

             BE TRUE OF YOURSELF - STRIVE TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS, SET HIGHER GOALS, GO AFTER THEM PASSIONATELY, AND DO NOT TAKE "NO" FOR AN ANSWER. DO ALL OF THESE AND MORE! AFTER ALL, WE ARE DESIGNED TO GROW. DON'T CONFUSE COMPLACENCY WITH BEING CONTENT. YOU CAN CONTINUE TO FEEL CONTENT WHILE STILL WORKING TOWARDS YOUR GOALS. WHEN YOU BECOME COMPLACENT HOWEVER, YOU END UP STAGNATING IN THE SAME PLACE WITH NO GROWTH AT ALL.

            

                      DON'T CONFUSE COMPLACENCY WITH BEING CONTENT

                    IF YOU SO NOT LEARN TO BE CONTENT, YOU CAN ACHIEVE MANY THINGS IN LIFE AND STILL BE UNHAPPY AS THAT BECOMES YOUR SECOND NATURE.  IF WAS NOT EASY FOR ME TO UNDERSTAND THIS THROUGHOUT MY LIFE. MY WIFE COULD UNDERSTAND ME MUCH BETTER THAN ANYBODY ELSE COULD.

                SHE MONITORED ME CLOSELY AND TOLD ME TO WORK ON MY STATE OF MIND. SHE HAD NOTICED I WAS GETTING ANXIOUS ABOUT ACHIEVING MY GOALS. SHE ALSO TOLE ME THAT WITH SUCH A STATE OF MIND, EVEN IF I DID ACHIEVE MY GOALS AND HAD PLENTY OF MONEY, I WOULD NOT BE HAPPY AND AT PEACE WITH MYSELF. BEING THE KIND OF PERSON. I AM, I DID NOT BUT INTO THIS ARGUMENT AND CONTINUED IN THAT RESTLESS STATE OF YEARS.

                   HOWEVER, I WAS ALWAYS WORKING ON MYSELF AND WILLING TO LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES - THANKS TO MY HABIT OF READING SELF - HELP BOOKS FOR MORE THAN TEN YEARS. EACH OF THOSE GREAT AUTHORS HAS HELPED ME GROW INCH MY INCH. I STARTED REALISING THAT I COULD NOT PUT MY HAPPINESS ON HOLD, THINKING THAT I CAN BE HAPPY ONCE I HAVE PLENTY OF MONEY, RETIRE, BE FREE OF MY JOB, AND BE ABLE TO DO WHATEVER I WANTED THEN.

                 WHAT A FOOLISH THOUGHT! BUT, YES, I LIVED LIKE THAT FOR MANY YEARS, AND I WANT TO LEARN FROM MY EXPERIENCE. THIS IS SOMETHING THAT IS NOT JUST MY PERSONAL EXPERIECE AND AUTHORS WHO HAVE CHANGED THOUSANDS OF LIVES. I HAVE LISTED SOME OF THE BOOKS THAT CONTRIBUTED TO TRANSFORMING MY LIFE AT THE END OF THIS BOOK. I URGUE YOU TO READ THEM AT SOME POINT IN YOUR LIFE.

             PRACTICE THA BELOW MENTIONED GUIDELINES, WHICH ARE PROVEN AND TIME-TESTED SPIRITUAL LAWS OF WHOLESOME SUCCESS.

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1. THANK GOD EVERY DAY FOR WHAT YOU HAVE. LIKE HOW YOU NEED FOOD AND A BATH EVERY DAY, YOUR SOUL NEEDS CLEANSING. WHAT COULD BE A BETTER WAY THAN TO THANK GOD FOR WHAT YOU HAVE AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU HAVE FAITH IN HIM FOR YOU TO SUCCEED AND ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS. YOU ARE HERE FOR A REASON, AND YOU DREAMS ARE IMPLANTED IN YOU BY HIM - SO, RELAX AND SURRENDER YOURSELF TO THE ALMIGHTY WHO BROUGHT YOU INTO THIS WORLD.

2. WHILE YOU MAY OR MAY NOT YET BELIEVE IN YOUR DREAM/GOALS, WRITE THEM DOWN AND VERBALISE AS IF YOU HAVE ALREADY ACHIEVED IT. FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER, SAY. "THAN YOU, GOD, FOR BRINGING THE RIGHT PARTNER INTO MY LIFE", ALOUD. IF YOU WANT TO SUCCEED IN YOUR BUSINESS, SAY "THANK YOU, GOD FOR BRINGING THE RIGHT OPPORTUNITY IN FRONT OF ME AND FOR MAKING ME DO THE RIGHT THINGS IN ORDE TO SUCCEDD". THERE ARE SOME GREAT BOOK ON THE POWER OF SELF-TALK- YOU CAN FIND AND READ IT.

3. WATCH YOUR WORDS OF DISBELIEF - FOR EXAMPLE, EVEN THOUGH YOU MAY WANT TO SAY POSITIVE THINGS, DEEP DOWN YOU MAY NOT QUITE BELIEVE OR FEEL IT IS GOING TO HAPPEN. IT IS IKAY TO FEEL THAT WAY - JUST LET IT REMAIN THERE, LET IT NOT COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH. ONCE IT COMES OUT, YOU ARE INVITING THINGS YOU DON'T WANT INTO YOUR LIFE.

4.  LIVE IN THE MOMENT - IF YOU WANT TO FEEL GOOD AND BE HAPPY, FEEL SO RIGHT NOW - DON'T POSTPONE YOUR HAPPINESS. THIS IS KEY TO EVERYTHING ELSE THAT HAPPENS IN YOUR LIFE. JUST LIVE FOR THE MOMENT, AND AS YOU PRATICE THIS, IT WILL BECOME YOUR HABIT, MOREOVER, DID YOU KNOW THAT UNIVERSAL POWERS ARE ATTRACTED TO HAPPY PEOPLE EASILY?

5. GET RID OF YOUR EGO AT ONCE- THIS SINGLE ELEMENT CAN RELIVE YOU OF MOST OF YOUR BURDEN. HERE ARE A COUPLE OF SIMPLE EXAMPLES OF YOUR EGO AT PLAY. IF YOU ARE SHY TO SPEAK IN PUBLIC, IT IS BECAUSE YOU DO NOT WANT PEOPLE TO LAUGH AT YOU, WHICH HURTS YOUR EGO. OVERCOME THAT, AND YOU WILL MAKE GREAT STRIDES. ANOTHER EXAPLE IS THE TEMPTATION TO INTERRUPT SOMEONE WHILE HE/SHE IS TALKING BECAUSE YOU WANT YOUR POINT TO BE HEARD FIRST OR BECAUSE YOU DISAPPROVE OF THE PERSON WHO IS TALKING. THUS. YOUR EGO COULD BE THE BIGGEST OBSTACLES TO YOUR GROWTH.

6. GET OUT OF THE IF-THEN SYSDROME, - IF I GET THE RIGHT PARTNER, THEN I WILL BE HAPPY, IF RETIRE, THEN I WILL  BE HAPPY, IF MY INCOME DOUBLES, THEN I WILL BE HAPPY, IF I WIN THIS MATCH, THEN I WILL BE HAPPY, ISTEAD SAY, "THANK YOU GOD,"! I AM PUTTING MY BEST FOOT FORWARD WITH YOUR BLESSINGS, AND I KNEW YOU WILL LEAD ME TOWARDS WHAT IS BEST FOR ME.

7. BE HAPPY FOR OTHERS- IF SOMEONE SUCCEEDS, BE HAPPY FOR THEM AND SAY, "THAN GOD IT IS RANING BLESSINGS, MY TURN WILL SURELY COME NEXT."

8. DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY, LEARN TO LAUGH AT YOUR MISTAKES. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO LEARN TO KEEP QUIET WHEN SOMEONE ID MAD AT YOU.

9. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS- YOU ARE WHO ARE ARE, AND YOU ARE BEST THE WAY YOU ARE. THIS IS BECAUSE GOD HAS MADE YOU, AND HE KNOWS WHAT TO DO WITH YOU!

10.  STOP BEING JEDGEMENTAL- JUDGE NOBODY, AND JUDGE NOTHING. YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO JUDGE ANYBODY ELSE- IT IS OT UNDER YOUR JURISDICTION. PEOPLED ARE PEOPLE, AND EACH ONE HAS HIS/HER OWN JOURNEY. EVEN IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THE WAY THEY TREAT YOU OR THE WAY THEY BEHAVE, LEARN TO IGNORE IT. THINK ABOUT IT IN THIS WAY-YOU HAVE MANY CHARACTERISTICS THAT MAY NOT BE LIKED BY MANY, HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF THEY STARTED JUDGING YOU?

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ATTTUDE IS EVERYTHING

                            ADJUST YOUR ATTITUDE AND TURN INTO OWNERSHIP

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                    LET ME SHARE A PERSONAL EXAMPLE TO DEMONSTRATE THE POWER OF OUR THOUGHTS. IN THE 1970S AND EARLY 1980S, I OBSERVED MANY PEOPLE IN MY AREA (LONG ISLAND, NEW YORK) WHO WERE MAKING A LOT OF MONEY BY PURCHASING HOMES FOR INVETMENT PURPOSE-AND RENTING THEM OUT. THE HOMES WERE APPRECIATING IN VALUE CONSIDERABLY EACH YEAR. SURE, THERE WERE THE USUAL HEADACHE OF HAVING A DEAL WITH TANANT PROBLEMS, BUT THE RETURN THESE INVESTORS WERE GETTING WAS INCREDIBLE!

                WELL, KEPT THINKING THAT I SHOULD START BUYING SOME INVESTMENT HOMES. BUT I NEVER TOOK ANY ACTION BECAUSE I CONTINUED TO DOUBT MYSELF. MY THINKING WAS DOMINATED BY ALL OF THE THINGS THAT COULD GO WRONG. SIMPLY PUT, I HAD A LOUSY ATTITUDE. AND WITH A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE, IS IT ANY WONDER THAT I NEVER TOOK THE FIRT STEP?

               HOWEVER, AFTER I STARTED READING BOOKS AND LISTENINGTO TAPES ON THE POWER OF ATTITUDE AND BELIEF, I DECIDED TO CHANGE MY ATTITUDE ABOUT REAL ESTATE INVESTMENT. IN THE SUMMER OF 1986, I DECIDED THAT BEFORE THE END OF THE YEAR I WOULD PURCHASE TWO INVESTMENT HOMES. THIS TIME, I WASN'T GOING TO ALLOW ANY NEGATIVE THOUGHTS TO CREEP INTO MY MIND.

              FOR SIX MONTHS, I FOCUSED MY THINKING ON ONE THING - OWNING TWO INVESTMENT HOMES. I WROTE DOWN MY GOALS SEVERAL TIMES EACH DAY AND REFERED TO THEM OFTEN. I BELIEVED AT THE DEEPEST LEVEL OF MY BEING, THAT I'D OWN TWO HOME BEFORE THE END OF THE YEAR. IN THE EVENINGS AND ON WEEKENDS, I WENT WITH REAL ESTATE AGENTS TO LOOK AT HOMES. I PERSONALLY VISITED ABOUT 100 HOMES AND RESEARCHED HUNDREDS OF OTHERS.

            IN THE FALL OF 1986, I PURCHASED AN INVESTMENT PROPERTY. WHAT A GREAT FEELING OF ACCOMPLISHMENT - TO DO SOMETHING THAT I WOULDN'T ALLOW MYSELF TO DO BEFORE. BUT I STILL HAD WORK TO DO. AND ON DECEMBER 29, JUST TWO DAYS BEFORE THE END OF THE YEAR. I REACHED MY GOAL AND BOUGHT THE SECOND INVESTMENT HOME.

           AS I LOOK BACK AT WHY I WAS ABLE TO PURCHASE THE REAL ESTATE IN 1986, WHILE I COULDN'T DO IT IN THE YEARS BEFORE THEN, THE ANSWER IS CLEAR. IN 1986, I BELIEVED THAT I COULD DO IT. I HAD AN UNSHAKABLE POSITIVE ATTITUDE THAT PROPELLED ME FORWARD TO REACH MY GOAL.

          THIS ENTIRE EXPERIENCE WAS TREMENDOUSLY VALUABLE TO ME. IN FACT, IT WAS PRICELESS... BECAUSE IT TAUGHT ME THAT YOU ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL WHEN YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS FOCUSED ON THE POSITIVE.

                                                           ATTITUDE VS ACTION

 

              I'VE BEEN TAKING A LOT ABOUT THINKING AND YOU MIGHT BE WONDERING WHERE ACTION FITS INTO THIS PROCESS. ITS TRUE THAT YOU DON'T GET RESUTS WITHOUT ACTION, BUT RECOGNIZE THAT THOUGHT PRECEDES ACTION. I ALWAYS KNEW THE ACTIONS THAT I'D HAVE TO TAKE TO BUY THOSE INVESTMENT PROPERTIES- CONTACT REALTORS, VISIT PROPERTIES, REVIEW NEWSPAPER LISTINGS AND SO ON. BUT I NEVER TOOK THE FIRST STEP AS LONG AS I HAD A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE. THE INSTANT I CHANGED MY ATTITUDE, I FELT COMPELLED TO TAKE ACTION... AND NOTHING WAS GOING TO STOP ME!

                 THAT'S WHY A POSITIVE BELIEF SYSTEM IS THE STARTING POINT FOR THE ACHIEVEMENT OF ANY GOAL. WHEN YOUR DOMINANT BELIEF IS THAT YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL, YOU BEGIN TAKING THE ACTIONS NECESSARY TO MOVE IN THAT DIRECTION.

 

            YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES REFLECT WHAT YOU'VE BEEN THINKING ABOUT

                 FACE THIS FACT: YOUR BELIEFS BROUGHT YOU TO WHERE YOU ARE TODAY, AND YOUR THINKING FROM THIS POINT FORWARD WILL TAKE YOU TO WHERE YOU'LL BE IN THE FUTURE.

                 IN FACT, YOUR RESULTS IN EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE REFLECT YOUR DEEPLY HELD THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF. CONSIDER YOUR FINANCES. WHAT ARE YOUR BELIEFS IN THIS AREA? ARE YOU CONSTANTLY THINKING ABOUT NOT HAVING ENOUGH MONEY? DWELL ON THAT THOUGHT (A LACK OF FUNDS) AND YOU BLOCK THE FLOW OF MONEY TO YOU.

                  AND THEN, THERE'S THE MATTER OF RELATIONSHIPS. IF YOU THINK THAT YOU DON'T DESERVE MUCH, YOU ATTRACT FRIENDS AND PARTNERS INTO YOUR LIFE WHO WON'T TREAT YOU VERY WELL. I'LL BET YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO ALWAYS SEEMS TO GO OUT WITH THE WRONG PERSON. INFACT, THE LAST 29 PEOPLE THEY'VE GONE OUT WITH WERE WRONG FOR THEM. DO YOU THINK THIS IS A MERE COINCIDENCE? OH NO, THERE IS A DEEPL HELD BELIEF INSIDE THAT INDIVIDUAL THAT ATTRACTS THESE PEOPLE INTO IS OR HER LIFE.

                  AND WHETHER WE'RE TALKING ABOUT FINANCES, RELATIONSHIPS OR CAREERS, THE FACT REMAINS, IF YOUR THOUGHTS DON'T CHANGE YOUR RESULTS WON'T CHANGE.

                                                         CHANGE YOUR THINKING

                 FORTUNATELY, THERE'S EXCITING NEWS. YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, THEREBY CHANGING YOUR RESULTS! HERE'S HOW. FOR STARTERS, BECOME AWARE OF WHAT YOU SAY TO YOURSELF ALL DAY. EACH OF U HAS AN INTERNAL VOICE, IN OTHER WORDS, WE TALK  TO OURSELVES, TOO OFTEN, HOWEVER WHAT WE SAY IS NEGATIVE, CRITICAL AND SELF - LIMITING, PERHAPS YOU FIND YOURSELF THINKING. I CANT DO THIS OR I ALWAYS MESS THINGS UP. THSE THOUGHTS WORK AGAINST YOU. INSTEAD, REPEAT TO YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN AND WILL ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOAL.

                AS WE'LL DISCUSS MORE FULLY IN PART 2, OF THIS IT'S ALSO IMPORTANT TO BECOME AWARE OF THE WORDS YOU USE ON A REGULAR BASIS. FOR EXAMPLE, DO YOU PUT YOURSELF DOWN OR TALK ABOUT THE THINGS YOU COULD NEVER HAVE OR ACHIEVE? YOUR MIND HEARS EVERY WORD YOU SPEAK - AND LIKE, A MAGNET, YOU'LL UNTIMATELY ATTRACT THE EVENTS AND CIRCUMSTANCES THAT CORRESPOND TO YOUR DOMINATNT BELIEFS. SO MAKE SURE TO USE POSITIVE WORDS ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR GOALS.

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USES OF POSITIVE LANGUAGE

                                             WHEN YOU SPEAK IN POSITIVITY

                 WHEN I SPEAK ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF USING POSITIVE LANGUAGE TO MOVE YOU TOWARD YOUR GOALS, SOME OF YOU MAY BE WONDERING, "JEFF" DO I SAY THESE POSITIVE WORDS TO MYSELF OR DO I ALSO SAY THESE WORDS TO OTHER PEOPLE?. YOU MAY BE AFRAID THAT IF YOU TELL OTHER ABOUT YOUR GOALS, THEY'LL THINK YOU'RE BEING CONCEITED - AND THEY MAY EVEN LAUGH AT YOU.

                ALLOW ME TO SUGGEST  A FEW GUIDELINES IN THIS AREA, WITH THE UNDERSTANDING THAT THERE ARE NO "HARD AND FAST" RULES - AND YOU SHOULD DO WHAT WORDS BEST FOR YOU.

               TO BEGIN IWTH, USE POSITIVE SELF-TALK OFTEN AS POSSIBLE. IN MY VIEW, THE MORE MERRIER. AFTER ALL, YOU'RE TALKING TO YOURSELF, SO YOU DON'T HAVETO WORRY ABOUT OTHERS HEARING YOUR COMMENTS. THE KEY IS THAT YOU HEAR THIS POSITIVE INPUT AGAIN AND AGAIN... AND IT BECOMES DEEPLY ROOTED IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.

            WHETHER TO SHARE YOUR GOALS WITH OTHER PEOPLE IS A MUCH TRICKIER ISSUE. ONE THING I'VE LEARNED IS THIS. NEVER DISCUSS YOUR GOALS WITH NEGATIVE POEPLE. ALL THEY'LL DO IS ARGUE AND POINT OUT ALL THE REASONS WHY YOU WON'T BE SUCCESSFUL. WJHO NEEDS THAT ? OFTEN, THESE "NEGATIVE NELLIES" ARE THE ONES WHO DO LITTLE OR NOTHING IN THEIR OWN LIVES. THEY HAVE NO GOALS OR DREAMS - AND THEY DON'T WANT ANYONE ELSE TO SUCCEED, EITHER.

            

YET, THERE ARE SOME INSTANCES WHEN YOU CAN BENEFIT BY TELLING OTHERS ABOUT YOUT GOALS. FIRST OF ALL, MAKE SURE THAT YOU'RE SPEAKING WITH SOMEONE WHO'S EXTEMELY POSITIVE AND TOTALLY SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR EFFORTS. THIS SHOULD BE THE KIND OF PERSON WHO WOULD BE ABSOLUTELY DELIGHTED IF YOU ACHIEVED THIS GOAL... AND WOULD DO ANYTHING IN HIS OR HER POWER TO ASSIST YOU. YOU MAY HAVE A FRIEND OR COLLEAGUE THAT FITS THIS ROLE- OR CERTAIN FAMILY MEMBERS.

 

IT'S ALSO IMPORTANT TO SHARE YOUR GOAL WITH OTHERS WHO ARE WORKING WITH YOU TO ACHIEVE THAT OUTCOME. FOR EXAMPLE, IF A SALE MANAGER WANTS TO INCREASE SALES IN THE COMING YEAR BY 20 PERCENT, HE OR SHE WOULD MAKE THIS GOAL KNOWN TO EVERYONE ON THE STAFF. THEN, EVERYONE CAN WORK TOGETHER TO ACHIEVE IT.

EVEN THOUGH I'M ENCOURAGING YOU TO USE POSITIVE WORDS TO MOVE YOU TOWARD YOUR OBJECTIVES, I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT YOU IGNORE THE OBSTACLES THAT YOU MAY FACE - OR THAT YOU DISCOURAGE FEEDBACK FROM OTHER PEOPLE. BEFORE EMBARKING ON ANY GOAL, YOU WANT TO PREPARE FOR WHAT MAY BE COMING DOWN THE ROAD. PERSONALLY, I PREFER TO DISCUSS FEEDBACK INCLUDES CREATIVE SOLUTIONS TO THE DIFFICULTIES THAT MAY ARISE.

FURTHEREMORE, I'LL ONLY DISCUSS MY PLANS WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE QUALIFIED TO RENDER AN INTELLIGENT OPINION ON THE SUBJECT. IF YOU'RE THINKING OF GOING INTO YOUR OWN BUSINESS, IT SIMPLY MAKES NO SENSE TO CONSULT WITH YOUR UNCLE ELMER, ESPECIALLY IF UNCLE ELMER IS NEGATIVE AND WORKED FOR SOMEONE ELSE ALL OF HIS LIFE. WHAT DOES HE KNEW ABOUT OWNING A BUSINESS? HE'LL GIVE YOU A LIST OF REASONS NOT TO GO INTO BUSINESS FOR YOURSELF. AFTER YOUR LITTLE CHAT WITH UNCLE ELMER, YOU'LL START TO DOUBT YOURSELF. YOU DON'T NEED THAT KIND OF HELP!

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THERE'S ANOTHER REASON WHY, IN SOME CASES, YOU MIGHT DECIDE TO SHARE YOUR GOAL WITH SOMEONE ELSE. AND THAT'S FOR ACCOUNTABILITY, IN OTHER WORDS, IF I TELL OTHERS I'M GOING TO DO SOMETHING, THENI HAVE TO GO AHEAD AND DO IT! THINK OF THIS APPROACH AS "BURNING YOUR BRIDGES".

LET ME ASSURE YOU I'M NOT A BELIEVE IN "BURNING BRIDGES" WHEN IT COMES TO PERSONAL OR BUSINESS RELATIONSHIPS. BUT SOMETIMES THE ONLY WAY TO MOVE FORWARD IN LIFE - AND TO ACHIEVE AN AMBITIOUS GOAL - IS TO CUTT OFF ALL AVENUES OF RETREAT.

THIS CAN BE A VERY USEFUL STRATEGY. WE MAY TELL A FRIEND THAT WE'RE GOING TO WORK OUT AT THE GYM THREE TIMES THIS WEEK - KNOWING THAT AT THE END OF THE WEEK, THIS FRIEND WILL AS WHETHER WE DID, IN FACT, GO TO THE GYM THREE TIMES!

AN EVEN MORE DRAMATIVE EXAMPLE IS THAT OF WELL - KNOW MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER ZIG ZIGLAR. ZIGLAR DECIDED TO GO ON A DIET AND REDUCED HIS WEIGHT FROM 202 POUND TO 165 POUNDS. AT THE SAME TIME, HE WAS WRITING HIS BOOK SEE YOU AT THE TOP.

ZIGLAR INCLUDED A STATEMENT THAT HE GOT HIS WEIGHT DOWN TO 165 POUNDS. THIS WAS 10 MONTHS BEFORE THE BOOK WENT TO PRESS. AND THEN HE PLACED AN ORDER WITH THE PRINTER FOR 25000 COPIES! NOW, REMEMBER, AT THE TIME HE WROTE THESE WORDS, ZIGLAR ACTUALLY WEIGHED 202. HE PUT HIS CREDIBILITY ON THE LINE WITH 25000 PEOPLE!

BY INCLUDING A STATEMENT THAT HE WEIGHED 165 POUNDS, ZIGLAR KNEW THAT HE HAD TO LOSE 37 POUNDS THE BOOK WAS PRINTED. AND, HE DID!

USE THIS STRATEGY SELECTIVELY. LIMIT IT TO THOSE GOALS THAT ARE VERY IMPORTANT TO YOU-AND WHERE YOU'RE COMMITTED TO GO THE DISTANCE. IS IT RISKY? YOU BE IT IS. BUT IT'S A TREMENDOUS MOTIVATOR!

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WHEN YOU SPEAK IN PUBLIC - NOTE THIS

                            

                                  HOW TO MAKE YOUR MEANING CLEAR

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          "BE BRIEF, BE POINTED, LET YOUR STAND LUCID IN ORDER, SOLID AND AT HAND,             SPEND YOUR WORDS ON TRIFLES BUT CONDENSE, STRIKE WITH THE MASS OF                 THOUGHT, NOT DROPS OF SENSE, PRESS TO THE CLOSE WITH VIGOR, ONCE                         BEGUN,  AND LEAVE - HOW THE TASK"

             A FAMOUS ENGLISH BISHOOP, DURING THE LAST WAR, SPOKE TO SOME UNLETTERED NEGRO TROOPS. THEY WERE ON THEIR WAY TO THE TRENCHES, BUT A VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE OF THEM HAD ANY ADEQUATE IDEA THEY WERE BEING SENT. I KNOW, I QUESTINED THEM.  YET THE LORD BISHOP TALKED TO THESE NEGROES ABOUT "INTERNATIONAL AMITY" AND "SERVIA'S RIGHT TO A PLACE IN THE SUN".

          WHY, THE HALF OF THE THOSE NEGROES DID NOT KNOW WHETHER SERVIA WAS A TOWN OR A DISEASE. HE MIGHT A SONOROUS EULOGY ON THE NEBULAR HYPOTHESIS. HOWEVER, NOT A SINGLE TROOPER LET THE HALL WHILE HE WAS SPEAKING, THE MILITRAY POLICE WITH REVOLVES WERE STATIONED AT EVERY EXIT TO PREVENT THAT CONSUMMATION.

         I DO NOT WISH TO BELITTLE THE BISHOP. HE IS EVERY INCH A SCHOLAR, AND BEFORE A BODY OF COLLEGIATE MEN HE WOULD PROBABLE HAVE BEEN POWERFUL, BUT HE FAILED WITH THESE NEGROES, AND HE FAILED UTTERLY, GE DID NOT KNOW HIS AUDIENCE, AND HE EVIDENTLY KNEW NEITHER THE PRECISE PURPOSE OF HIS TALK NOR HOW TO ACCOPLISH IT.

       WHAT DO WE MEAN BY THE PURPOSE OF AN ADDRESS? JUST THIS, EVERY TALK, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THE SPEAKER REALIZE IT OR NOT, HAS ONE OF FOUR MAJOR GOALS, WHAT ARE THEY?

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        1. TO MAKE SOMETHING CLEAR.

        2. TO IMPRESS AND CONVINCE.

        3. TO GET ACTION.

        4. TO ENTERTAIN.

               ❤  LET US ILLUSTRATE THESE BY A SERIES OF CONCRETE EXAMPLES  ❤

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                 LINCOLN, WHO WAS ALWAYS MORE OR LESS INTERESTED IN MECHANICS, ONCE INVENTED AND PATENTED A DEVICE FOR LIFTING STRANDED BOATS OFF SAND BARS AND OTHER OBSTRUCTIONS. HE WORKED IN A MECHANIC'S SHOP NEAR HIS LAW OFFICE, MAKING A MODEL OF HIS APPARATUS. ALTHOUGH THE DEVICE FINALLY CAME TO NAUGHT, HE WAS DECIDEDLY ENTHUSIASTIC OVER ITS POSSIBILITIES. WHEN FRIENDS CAME TO HIS OFFICE TO VIEW THE MODEL, HE TOOK TO END OF PAINTS TO EXPLAIN IT. THE MAIN PURPOSE OF THOSE EXPLANATIONS WAS CLEARNESS.

               WHEN HE DELIVERED HIS IMMORTAL ORATION AT GETTYSBURG, WHEN HE GAVE HIS FIRST AND SECOND INAUGURAL ADDRESSES, WHEN HENRY CLAY DIED AND LINCOLN DELIVERED AND EULOGY ON HIS LIFE - ON ALL THESE OCCASIONS, LINCOLN'S MAIN PURPOSE WAS IMPRESSIVENESS AND CONVICTION. HE HAD TO BE CLEAR OF COURSE, BECAUSE HE COULD BE CONVINCING, BUT, IN THESE INSTANCES, CLEARNESS, WAS NOT HIS MAJOR CONDIDERATION.

              IN HIS TALKS TO JURIES, HE TRIED TO WIN FAVOURABLE DECISIONS, IN HIS POLITICAL TALKS, HE TRIED TO WIN VOTES. HIS PUPOSE, THEN, WAS ACTION.

           TWO YEARS BEFORE HE WAS ELECTED PRESIDENT, LINCOLN PREPARED A LECTURE ON INVENTIONS. HIS PURPOSE WAS ENTERTAINMENT. AT LEAST, THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN HIS GOAL, BUT HE WAS EVIDENTLY NOT VERY SUCCESSFUL IN ATTAINING IT. HIS CAREER AS A POPULAR LECTURER WAS, IN FACT, A DISTINCT DISSAPOINTMENT. IN ONE TOWN, NOT A PERSON CAME TO HEAR HIM.

         BUT HE DID SUCCEED AND HE SUCCEEDED FAMOUSLY IN THE OTHER SPEECHES OF HIS I HAVE REFERRED TO. AND WHY? BECAUSE, IN THOSE INSTANCE, HE KNEW HIS GOAL, AND HE KNEW HOW TO ACHIEVE IT. HE KNEW WHERE HE WANTED TO GO AND HOW TO GET THERE. HE KNEW WHERE HE WANTED TO GO AND HOW TO GET THERE. AND BECAUSE SO MANY SPEAKERS DON'T KNOW JUST THAT, THEY OFTEN FLOUNDER AND COME TO GRIEF.

       FOR EXAMPLES, I ONCE SAW A UNITED STATES CONGRESS MAN HOOTED AND HISSED AND FORCED TO LEAVE THE STAGE OF THE OLD NEW YORK HIPPODROME, BECAUSE HE HAD - UNCONSCIOUSLY NO DOUBT, BUT NEVERTHELESS, UNWISELY - CHOSEN CLEARNESS AS HIS GOAL. IT WAS DURING THE LAST WAR. HE TALKED TO HIS AUDIENCE ABOUT HOW THE UNITED STATES WAS PREPARING. THE CROWD DID NOT WANT TO BE INSTRUCTED. THEY WANTED TO BE ENTERTAINED. THEY LISTENED TO HIM PATIENTLY,  POLITELY, FOR TEN MINUTES, A QUARTER OF AN HOUR, HOPING THE PERFORMANCE WOULD COME TO A RAPID END. BUT IT DIDN'T. HE RAMBLED ON AND ON, PATIENCE SNAPPED AND THE AUDIENCE WOULD NOT STAND FOR MORE. SOMEONE BEGAN TO CHEER IRONICALLY. OTHERS TOOK IT UP. IN A MOMENT,  A THOUSAND PEOPLE WERE WHISTLING AND SHOUTING. THE SPEAKER OBTUSE AND INCAPABLE AS HE WAS OF SENSING THE TEMPER OF HIS AUDIENCE, HAD THE AS HE WAS OF SENSING THE TEMPTER OF HIS AUDIENCE, HAD THE BAD TASTE TO CONTINUE. THE AROUSED THEM. A BATTEL WAS ON. THEIR IMPATIENCE MOUNTED TO IRE. THEY DETERMINED TO SILENCE HIM. LOUDER AND LOUDER GREW THEIR STORM OF PROTEST. FINALLY, THE ROAR OF IT, THE ANGER OF IT DROWNED HIS WORDS - HE COULD NOT HAVE BEEN HEARD TWENTY FEET AWAY. SO HE WAS FORCED TO GIVE UP, ACKNOWLEDGE DEFEAT, AND RETIRE IN HUMALIATION.

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PROFIT BY HIS EXAMPLE. KNOW YOUR GOAL. CHOOSE IT WISELY BEFORE YOU SET OUT TO PREPARE YOUR TALK. KNOW HOW TO REACH IT. THEN SET ABOUT IT, DOING IT SKILLFULLY AND WITH SCIENCE.

 

ALL THIS REQUIRES KNOWLEDGE, SPECIAL AND TECHNICAL INSTRUCTION. THE REMAINDER OF THIS CHAPTER WILL SHOW YOU HOW TO MAKE YOUR TALKS CLEAR.

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TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

                                                             YOUR LIFE

               I APPLAUD YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ THIS BOOK. IT SHOWS THAT YOU'RE TRULY INTERESTED IN DEVELOPING YOUR INCREDIBLE POTENTIAL. YET, READING THIS BOOK IS ONLY THE FIRST STEP TO LIVING THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE. WHEN YOU FOCUS ON THESE IDEAS - AND TAKE ACTION TO IMPLEMENT THEM - YOU'RE ON THE WAY TO CREATING SOME EXCITING BREAKTHOUGHTS IN YOUR LIFE.

          YOU MAY HAVE SEEN STATTISTICS THAT ONLY ABOUT FIVE PRECENT OF THE POPULATION REACHES A HIGH LEVEL OF SUCCESS. WHY IS THAT? AFTER 20 YEARS OF RESEARCH, I'M CONVINCED IT COMES DOWN TO THIS.

          IT'S THE RARE INDIVIDUAL WHO CONSISTENTLY MAINTAINS A POSITIVE ATTITUDE, KNOWING THAT HIS THOUGHTS WILL BECOME HIS REALITY.

         IT'S THE RARE INDIVIDUAL WHO WATCHES THE WORDS HE USES,KNOWING THAT HE'S PROGRAMMING HIS MIND FOR SUCCESS, MEDIOCRITY OR FAILURE. IT'S THE RARE INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS THE GUTS TO CONFRONT HER FEARS, BECUAUSE THAT'S WHERE HER POTENTIAL WILL BE DEVELOPED - BY DOING THINGS SHE'S AFRAID TO DO.

       IT'S THE RARE INDIVIDUAL WHO LOOKS FOR THE SILVER LINING IN EVERY DARK CLOUD.

       AND IT'S THE RARE INDIVIDUAL WHO MAKE A COMMITMENT, FOLLOWS THROUGH WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE ... AND HAS THE PERSISTENCE TO GET THE JOB DONE.

        I CHALLENGE YOU TO BE ONE OF THOSE RARE INDIVIDUALS.

       YOU HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO BECOME MORE THAN YOU EVER DREAMED. YOU HAVE GREATNESS WITHIN YOU... AND YOUR ATTITUDE IS THE KEY TO UNLOCKING THAT POTENTIAL. CHANGING MY ATTITUDE CHANGED MY LIFE. AND IF A BETTER ATTITUDE CAN WORK MIRACLES IN MY LIFE. IT CAN WORK MIRACLES IN YOURS!

       I'D LIKE TO SHARE WITH YOU THESE WORDS FROM DR. CHARLESS SWINDOLL, WHO CAPTURED THE ESSENCE OF ATTITUDE - AND HOW IT DOMINATES THE DIRECTION OF OUR LIVES.

      THE LONGER I LIVE, THE MORE I REALIZE THE IMPACT OF ATTITUDE ON LIFE. ATTITUDE, TO ME, IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN FACTS. IT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE PAST, THAN EDUCATION, THAN MONEY, THAN CIRCUMSTANCES, THAN FAILURES, THAN SUCCESSES, THAN WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OR SAY OR DO . IT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN APPEARANCE, GIFTEDESS OR SKILL. IT WILL MAKE OR BREAK A COMPANY ... A CHURCH... A HOME.

             THE REMARKABLE THING IS WE HAVE A CHOICE EVERY DAY REGARDING THE ATTITUDE WE WILL EMBRACE FOR THAT DAY. WE CANNOT CHANGE OUR PAST... WE CANNOT CHANGE THE FACT THAT PEOPLE WILL ACT IN A CERTAIN WAY. WE CANNOT CHANGE THE INEVITABLE. THE ONLY THING WE CAN DO IS PLAY ON THE ONE STRING WE HAVE, AND THAT IS OUR ATTITUDE.

           I AM CONVINCED THAT LIFE IS 10 PERCENT WHAT HAPPENS TO ME AND 90 PERCENT HOW I REACT TO IT. AND SO IT IS WITH YOU ...  WE ARE IN CHANGE OF OUR ATTITUDES.

          PRETTY POWERFUL WORDS, AREN'T THEY? DO WHAT CHARLESS SWINDOLL SUGGESTS AND "PLAY ON THE ONE STRING YOU HAVE" - YOUR ATTITUDE. 

         NOW IS THE TIME TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR ATTITUDE. NOW IS THE TIME TO START CREATING MIRACLES IN YOUR OWN LIFE.

         GO AHEAD - BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. HAVE THE COURAGE AND PERSISTENCE TO FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS. AND ABOVE ALL, NEVER, NEVER FORGET THAT... ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING !

                                MAY GOD BLESS YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY....

                                                 LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE

                SURE, YOU'LL HAVE YOUR SHARE OF PROBLEMS AND ADVERSITIES IN LIFE. I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT WHEN TRAGEDY STRIKES YOU DENY YOUR EMOTIONS OR REFUSE TO FACE REALITY. WHAT I MA SAYING IS DON'T IMMEDIATELY JUDGE YOUR SITUATION AS A TRAGEDY AND DWELL ON HOW HAD OFF YOU ARE. SOMETIMES YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO INSTANTLY SPOT THE BENEFIT THAT WILL COME FROM BEING IN YOUR SITUATION ... BUT IT DOES EXIST.

        YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE. YOU CAN VIEW YOUR PROBLEMS AS NEGATIVE AND BECOME GLOOMY AND DEPRESSED ABOUT THEM. LET ME ASSURE YOU THIS APPROACH WILL ONLY MAKE THINGS WORSE. OR, YOU CAN SEE EVERY SEEMINGLY NEGATIVE EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE AS AN OPPORTUNITY.. AS SOMETHING YOU CAN LEARN FORM... AS SOMETHING YOU CAN GROW FROM. BELIEVE IT OR NOT. YOUR PROBLEMS ARE THERE TO SERVE YOU - NOT TO DESTROY YOU!

          SO, THE NEXT TIME YOU SUFFER A PROBLEM OR SEBACK IN YOUR LIFE, DON'T  GET DISCOURAGED OR GIVE UP. DON'T LET PROBLEMS CLOUD YOUR ATTITUDE WINDOW FOREVER. CLEAR OFF THAT CLOUDY WINDOW. YOU MAY FIND, AFTER THE DUST SETTLES, THAT YOU CAN ACTUALLY SEE BETTER THAN YOU DID BEFORE ! JUST REMEMBER THE WORDS OF NAPOLEON  HILL.

          EVERY ADVERSITY CARRIS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EQUIVALENT OR GREATER BENEFIT. CONTINUALLY ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU'VE LEARNED FROM YOUR TRYING EXPERIENCE AND FOCUS ON MOVING FORWARD AND GROWING AS A PERSON. IT TIMES OF CRISIS, ALWAYS STRIVE TO MAINTAIN AN OPTIMISTIC ATTITUDE AND AN OPEN MIND - FOR THIS IS THE ENVIRONMENT THAT WILL ALLOW YOU TO FIND THE BENEFIT IN YOUR DIFFICULTY.

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THE BENEFIT OF BACKING AWAY FROM YOUR FEARS

                                                              FEARS....

              WHEN CONFRONTED WITH AN ENXIETY - PRODUCING EVENT, MOST PEOPLE WILL RETREAT TO AVOID THE FEAR AND ANXIETY. THAT'S WHAT I USED TO DO. YOU SEE, BACKING AWAY DOES RELIEVE THE FEAR AND ANXIETY THAT WOULD HAVE RESULTED IF YOU FOLLOWED THROUGH WITH  THE ACTIVITY. FOR INTSTANCE, IF SOMEONE ASKS YOU TO MAKE A PRESENTATION WITHIN YOUR COMPANY, AND YOU DECLINE, YOU SAVE YOURSELF THE SLEEPLESS NIGHTS YOU'D HAVE WORRYING ABOUT IT.. AND THE NERVOUSNESS YOU'D EXPERIENCE IN THE DAYS LEADING UP TO THE PRESENTATION.

          IN FACT, I'VE FOUND THAT'S THE ONE AND ONLY BENEFIT YOU GET BY RETREATING - A MOMENTARY AVOIDANCE OF ANXIETY.

         THINK ABOUT IT FOR A MOMENT. CAN YOU LIST ANY OTHER BENEFITS THAT PEOPLE GET WHEN THEY REFUSE TO CONFRONT THEIR FEARS? I'VE ASKED THAT QUESTION OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE, AND NOBODY HAS BEEN ABLE TO COME UP WITH ANY ADDITIONAL BENEFITS. FOR GOOD REASON - THERE ARE NONE!

                                MOVING FORWARD EVEN WHEN YOU'RE AFRAID

                 FOR INSTANCE, LET'S ASSUME YOU'RE AFRAID TO SPEAK IN PUBLIC, BUT YOU CONFRONT YOUR FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY. THE MOMENT YOU GET UP AND SPEAK BEFORE THE AUDIENCE, YOU'RE A WINNER. YOU KNEES MAY BE SHAKING AND YOUR VOICE MAY BE QUIVERING. THAT DOESN'T MATTER. YOU FACED YOUR FEAR AND ACCEPTED THE CHALLENGE. CONGRAGULATIONS ARE IN ORDER. THE LIKELY RESULT IS THAT YOU SELF - ESTEEM WILL BE ENHANCED AND YOU'LL FEEL EXHILARATED.

           ON YOUR FIRST ATTEMPT, YOU WON'T BE HAILED AS THE WORLD'S FINEST SPEAKER. SO WHAT? LET'S FACE IT. YOU CAN'T EXPECT TO BE AN ACCOMPLISHED SPEAKER DURING YOUR FIRST PRESENTATION. WERE YOU A GREAT TENNIS PLAYER AFTER YOUR FIST GAME ? OR A GREAT SWIMMER THE FIRST TIME YOU ENTERED THE WATER? DEVELOPING ANY SKILL TAKES TIME.

           I REMEMBER MY FIRST MOTIVATIONAL SPEECH. THAT WAS IN 1988.. AND MY PERFORMANCE WAS NOTHING TO WRITE HOME ABOUT! I GAVE A FREE TALK TO A GROUP OF REAL ESTATE SALESPEOPLE, AND LET ME TELL YOU, I WAS TERRIFIED. I COULDN'T TAKE MY EYES OFF MY NOTES. FORTUNATELY, THE CONTENT OF MY PRESENTATION WAS VERY SOLID AND THE AUDIENCE RESPONDED WELL. BUT I HAD A LONG WAY TO GO BEFORE I COULD CALL MYSELF A GOOD SPEAKER.

          ON THE SECOND PRESENTATION, I WAS A LITTLE BETTER. AND WHEN I HAD DONE FIVE OR SO PRESENTATION, I BEGAN TO RELY LESS AND LESS ON MY NOTES, AND TO DEVELOP A STRONGER CONNECTION WITH THE AUDIENCE. FOR A PEOPLE OF 20 YEARS I GAVE PRESENTATION TO THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE EACH YOUR THROUGHOUT THE UNITED STATES AND ABROAD.

          BUT LET'S NOT FORGET THAT IT  ALL STARTED WITH A SCARED GUY WHO GAVE A VERY UNIMPRESSIVE TALK IN 1988.

                                                             THE COMFORT ZONE

           WHEN YOU'RE GRIPPED BY FEAR AND ANXIETY, IT'S USUALLY BECAUSE YOU'RE STEPPING OUT OF YOUR CONFORT ZONE. LET'S TAKE SOME TIME TO DISCUSS THIS IMPORTANT CONCEPT - AND HOW IT RELATES TO YOUR SUCCESS AND THE DEVELOP OF YOUR POTENTIAL.

         EACH OF US HAS A COMFORT ZONE, A ZONE OF BEHAVIOR THAT IS FAMILIAR TO US AND WHERE WE FEEL COMFORTABLE AND SAFE. THINK OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AS THE INSIDE OF A CIRCLE.

          THE ACTIVITIES AND SITUATIONS THAT LIE INSIDE THE CIRCLE ARE NON THREATENING AND FAMILIAR. THEY'RE ROUTINE, PART OF YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE - THE THINGS YOU CAN DO WITH NO SWEAT. IN THIS CATEGORY ARE TASKS SUCH AS SPEAKING TO YOUR FRIENDS OR CO-WORKERS OR FILLING OUT THE DAILY PAPERWORK AT YOUR JOB.

          HOWEVER, YOU OCCASIONALLY FACE EXPERIENCE OR CHALLENGES THAT ARE OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE. THESE ARE REPRESENTED BY THE "XS" ( X-TERRIFIED, X-SLIGHTLY AFRAID) . THE FARTHER THE "X" IS FROM THE CIRCLE, THE MORE AFRAID YOU ARE TO PARTICIPATE IN THAT ACTIVITY.

            WHEN FACED WITH SOMETHING OUTSIDE YOUR CONFORT ZONE, YOU SUDDELY FEEL NERVOUS. YOUR PALMS BECOME SWEATY AND YOUR HEART POUNDS. YOU BEGIN TO WONDER.

                     " WILL I BE ABLE TO HANDLE IT?

                      " WILL OTHERS LAUGH AT ME?

                      " WHAT WILL MY FRIENDS AND RELATIVES SAY"?

            AS YOU LOOK AT THE DIAGRAM ABOVE, WHAT DOES THE "X" REPRESENT FOR YOU ? IN OTHER WORDS, WHAT FEAR IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM REACHING THE NEXT LEVEL  OF SUCCESS OR FULFILLMENT IN YOUR LIFE?

                 * IS IT FEAR OF APPROACHING NEW PROSPECTS?

                 * IS IT FEAR ABOUT CHANGING CAREERS?

                 * IS IT FEAR ABOUT LEARNING NEW SKILLS?

                 * IS IT FEAR OF GOING BACK TO SCHOOL ?

                 * IS IT FEAR OF TELLING OTHER PEOPLE WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?

                 * IS IT FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING?

                   WHATEVER THAT "X" REPRESENTS FOR YOU, JUST BE HONEST AND ADMIT IT. MY GUESS IS THAT THOUSANDS, IF NOT MILLIONS OF PEOPLE HAVE THE VERY SAME FEAR YOU HAVE! IN FACT, LET'S TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT WHAT MOST PEOPLE ARE AFRAID OF.

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LISTEN YOUR WORDS - WHEN YOU SPEAK

                                                   WHEN YOU SPEAK

               LET'S TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR LIFE FOR A MOMENT. ARE THERE ANY AREAS WHER YOU'VE BEEN USING PHRASES LIKE "I CANT" I AM NO GOO AT --------- AND ITS IMPOSSIBLE? WE ALL KNOW PEOPLE WHO MAKE STATEMENTS LIKE THESE:

             * I CAN'T DRAW.

             * I'M NO GOOD AT MATH.

             * I CAN'T REMEMBER NAMES.

             * IT'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO MAKE THAT KIND OF MONEY.

                 WHEN YOU MAKE THESE COMMENTS DAY IN AND DAY OUT FOR 10, 20,OR 30 YEARS, YOU'RE PROGRAMMING YOUR MIND FOR FAILURE! IT ALL COMES BACK TO YOUR ATTITUDE. EVERY ONE OF THESE EXAMPLES REFLECTS A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE. AND IF YOU SEE THE WORLD THROUGH A SMUDGED WINDOW, YOU;RE GOING TO USE NEGATIVE LANAGUAGE... AND GET DISAPPOINTING RESULTS.

              FORTUNATELY, YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR WORDS- WHICH MEANS THAT YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO BUILD A POSITIVE BELIEF SYSTEM... AND TO PRODUCE THE RESULTS YOU WANT. THE FIRST STEP IS AWARENESS. LET'S EXAMINE THE PHRASES YOU'VE BEEN USING IN FOUR KEY AREAS OF YOUR LIFE - RELATIONSHIPS, FINANCES, CAREER AND HEALTH.

                                                              1. RELATIONSHIPS

                    DO YOU SAY THINGS LIKE "ALL THE GOOD MEN (OR WOMEN ) ARE TAKEN !" OR PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF ME! IF YOU DO, YOU'RE LITERALLY PROGRAMMING YOURSELF FOR UNHAPPY RELATIONSHIPS. YOUR MIND HEARS EVERY. WORD YOU SPEAK AND IT SET OUT TO PROVE YOU RIGHT. WITH REGARD TO OUR ABOVE EXAMPLES, YOUR MIND WILL SEE TO IT THAT YOU ATTRACT ONLY THOSE PERSONS WHO WILL DISAPPOINT YOU OR TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU. IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT ? IF NOT, STOP REPEATING (AND CAUSING YOUR MIND TO FOCUS ON) SUCH NEGATIVE STATEMENTS!

        

                                                                       2. FINANCES

                  WHAT WORDS DO YOU USE ON A REGULAR BASIS TO DESCRIBE YOUR CURRENT FINANCIAL SITUATION AND YOUR PROSPECTS FOR THE FUTURE ? PHRASES SUCH AS "I'M ALWAYS IN DEBT" THE ECONOMY IS LOUSY, OR NO ONE IS BUYING , WORK AGAINST YOU. FOR BETTER TO CHOOSE LANGUAGE WHICH REAFFIRMS PROSPERITY AND BETTER ECONOMIC TIMES. OF COURSE, YOU WON'T NECESSARILY HAVE ABUNDANT WEALTH WITHIN A FEW DAYS AFTER CHANGING THE WAY YOU SPEAK. BUT THE PHYSICAL CONDITIONS CAN CHANGE ONLY AFTER YOUR BELIEFS HAVE ALTERED. CLEARING UP YOUR LANGUAGE IS AN IMPORTANT FIRST STEP!

             ALTER ALL, THE PEOPLE WITH WEALTH IN THIS WORLD DIDN'T GET THAT WAY BY MOANING ABOUT BEING IN POVERTY. AND THE PEOPLE  WHO ALWAYS TALK ABOUT A LACK OF MONEY GENERALLY DON'T ACCUMULATE MUCH OF IT.

                                                                     3. CAREER

              IF I WERE TO ASK YOU ABOUT YOUR CAREER PROSPECTS OVER THE NEXT FIVE TO 10 YEARS, HOW WOULD YOU RESPOND? BE HONEST. WOULD YOU SAY THAT THINGS WILL PROBABLY REMAIN THE SAME AS THEY ARE NOW? OR WOULD YOU DESCRIBE A HIGHER POSITION WITH MORE CHALLENGES, MORE RESPONSIBILITIES AND INCREASED FINANCIAL REWARDS? IF YOU RESPOND "I DONT KNOW WHER I'M GOING IN MY CAREER", CHANCES ARE NOT MUCH WILL CHANGE. YOUR LANGUAGE REFLECTS YOUR LACK OF VISION AND DIRECTION. IF, ON THE OTHER HAND, YOU HAVE A CLEAR GOAL WHICH YOU CAN (AND DO) ARTICULATE FAIRLY OFTEN, EVEN IF ONLY TO YOURSEFL - YOU STAND AN EXCELLENT CHANCE OF REACHING THAT GOAL.

             THE SAME OF COURSE, HOLDS TRUE IF YOU HAVE YOUR OWN BUSINESS. DO YOU USE LANGUAGE THAT IS CONSISTENT WITH THE GROWTH OF YOU BUSINESS? OR DO YOU CONSTANTLY TALK ABOUT HOW YOU'LL NEVER GET TO THE NEXT LEVEL? 

                                                                         4. HEALTH

                WITHOUT QUESTION, OUR WORDS HAVE PROFOUND IMPACT ON OUR HEALTH. FOR EXAMPLE, IMAGINE THAT A GROUP OF US SAT DOWN TO WHAT SEEMED TO BE A PERFECTLY WHOLESOME AND DELICIOUS MEAL. THEN, TWO HOUR LATER I CALLED AND TOLD YOU THAT EVERY PERSON WHO ATE WITH US HAD BEEN RUSHED TO THE HOSPITAL AND TREATED FOR FOOD POISONING! SUPPOSE THAT YOU FELT PERFECTLY FINE BEFORE I CALLED. HOW WOULD YOU REACT AFTER HEARING MY INFORMATION?

                   MOST LIKELY, YOU'D CLUTCH YOUR STOMACH, GET PALE AND FEEL VERY ILL. WHY? BECAUSE MY WORDS INSTILLED A BELIEF IN YOU WHICH, IN TURN, YOUR BODY STARTED ACTING UPON. THIS SAME BODILY REACTION WOULD HAVE OCCURED EVEN IF I WAS PLAYING A CRUEL JOKE AND WAS LYING ABOUT THE HOLE SITUATION! YOUR BODY RESPONDS TO WORLDS IT HEARS YOU AND OTHER PEOPLE SAY. THAT'S WHY IT MAKES ABSOLUTELY NO SENSE TO KEEP REPEATING THAT YOU HAVE "CHRONIC BACK PAIN THAT WILL NEVER GO AWAY " OR THAT YOU GET "THREE OR FOUR BAD COLDS EVER YEARS" BY UTTERING THESE STATEMENTS, YOU ARE ACTUALLY INSTRUCTING YOUR BODY TO MANIFEST PAIN AND DISEASE!

            PLEASE DON'T MISUNDERSTAND. I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT YOU DENY PAIN OR DESEASE - OR THAT YOU CAN OVERCOME ANY ILLNESS - BUT THRE'S CERTAILY NOTHING TO BE GAINED (AND MUCH HARM THAT CAN FLOW) FROM USING LANGUAGE THAT REINFORCES SUFFERING AND INCURABILITY.

                                                           YOU HAVE A CHOICE

                   WELL, HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT THE WORDS YOU USE IN THESE FOUR AREAS OF YOUR LIFE? WHEN WE REPEAT CERTAIN PHRASES OVER AND OVER, ITS AS IF A GROOVE IS FORMED IN OUR BRAIN. WE KEEP REPLAYING THE SAME OLD REFRAIN IN OUR HEADS LIKE BROKEN RECORD. THE TROUBLE IS, WHENEVER YOU SAY THESE WORDS YOU JUST DEEPEN THE GROOVE, REPLAYING THE SAME OLD MYTHS IN YOUR MIND, STRENGHENING THE SAME OLD BELIEFS .... AND GETTING THE SAME OLD RESULTS.

                RECOGNIZE, HOWEVER, THAT JUST BECAUSE YOU'VE SAID THINGS IN THE PAST THERE'S NO REASON TO BLINDLY CONTINUE DOING SO. WHILE IT TAKES SOME DISCIPLINE AND VIGILANCE ON YOUR PART TO MAKE CHANGES IN YOUR LANGUAGE, IT'S WELL WORTH THE EFFORT! SO FROM NOW ON, CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE WORDS THAT WILL POINT YOU IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR GOALS. ASK A FRIEND TO REMIND YOU WHEN YOU SLIP.

           REMEMBER, IT'S UP TO YOU TO SPEAK IN A WAY THAT WILL MOVE YOU TOWARD WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE. THEREFORE, USE WORDS THAT ARE CONSISTENT WITH THE PATH YOU TRULY WISH TO BE ON... TAKE ACTION ALONG THOSE LINES.... AND WATCH YOURSELF BEGIN TO TRAVEL IN THAT WONDERFUL DIRECTION!

               

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