WE LEARN TO BELIEVE

 

                            THE POWER OF BELIEVE

                         WHAT ADULTS TELL US AND WHAT WE LEARN TO PERCEIVE ABOUT OURSELVES AS CHILDREN HAS AN INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT EFFECT ON US. IT INFORMS WHAT WE BELIEVE ABOUT MOST OF WHAT IS GOING ON AROUND US, AND ALMOST EVEYTHIN THAT WE COME TO BELIEVE ABOUT OURSELVES.

                       I STILL REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN, AS A MIDDLE-SCHOOL STUDENT, I WANTED MORE THAT ANYTHING I COULD THINK OF TO PLAY A MUSICAL INSTRUMENT AND BE A MEMEBER OF THE SCHOOL BAND. ALONG WITH TEN OR TWELVE OTHER STUDENTS FROM MY CLASS, I DECIDE TO TRY OUT FOR THE BAND. AFTER BEING HANDED A COMPLETELY ALIEN MUSICAL INTRUMENT AND TRYING TO GET IT TGO MAKE MUSIC IN FRONT OF THE BAND INTRUCTOR, MY TEACHER, AND THE OTHER STUDENTS, I WAS DISMISSED.

                  I KNEW THAT I HAD ONE DONE WELL. BUT IT WAS AN HOUR LATER, AFTER THE LAST STUDENT OF THE DAY HAD PERFORMED, THAT I OVERHEARD THE BAND DIRECTOR TELLING MY TEACHER THAT NOT ONLY COULD I NOT PLAY IN THE BAND, BUT I ALSO NO MUSICAL ABILITY AND WOULD NEVER ABLE TO PLAY AN INSTRUMENT. WHAT INCREDIBLE PROGRAMMING FOR A TWELVE-YEAR-OLD BOY WHO HAD HIS HEART SET ON LEARNING HOW TO PLAY!

                IT WORKED. I HAD HEARD FROM SOMEONE ELSE THAT I HAD SO MUSICAL ABILITY, AND I BELIEVED IT. I ACCEPTED AS FACT THAT I HAD NO MUSICAL TALENT, AND THAT I NEVER WOULD. IT WASN'T UNTIL YEAR LATER THAT I FINALLY GOT UP ENOUGH COURAGE TO RENT A PIANO, LEARN SOME NOTES, AND PLAY IT SECRETLY WHEN NO ONE WAS AROUND TO REMIND ME THAT I COULD NOT PLAY. I NEVER DID DEVELOP THE SKILL I WANTED. BUT I LERNED, AFTER SOME TWENTY FRUSTRATING YEARS, THAT OUR SCHOOL BAND DIRECTOR WAS WRONG. AND I HAD BELIEVED HIM.

               HERE IS AN OPPOSITE EXAMPLE. MICHAEL, WHO AT THE AGE OF SIX OFTEN VISITED THE ELDERLY GENTLEMAN NEXT DOOR FOR AFTERNOON CHATS, WAS SAFELY OUT OF SIGHT BUT WITHIN HEARING DISTANCE AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS ONE EVENING, READY FOR BED, WHEN THE NEIGHBOR STOPPED BY. LITTLE MICHAEL OVERHEAD THE OLD MAN TELL HIM MOTHERTHAT MICHAEL WAS VERY CREATIVE, AND HE KNEW THAT MIKE WOULD GROW UP TO DO THINGS THAT WERE CREATIVE.

               DECADES LATER, MIKE VANCE WOULD BECOME DEAN OF DISNEY UNIVERSITY. LATER, THROUGH HIS PERSONAL CONSULTING AND HIS WORK WITH MAJOR CORPORATIONS AND ORGANIZATIONS THROUGHOUT THE WORLD, HE WENT ON TO BECOME ONE OF THE PREMIER CREATIVITY TRAINERS IN THE UNITED STATES, LITTLE MICHAEL, BY ACCIDENT, OVERHEARD ONE SMALL "PROGRAM" ABOUT HIMSELF. AND MICHAEL BELIEVED IT.

                   UNFORTUNATELY, LITTLE OF OUR OWN PROGRAMMING HAS DONE AS MUCH ON OUR BEHALF. CAN YOU IMAGINE THE NUMBER OF TIMES SOME CHILD WAS HEARD THE INNOCENT BUT THOUGHTLESS WORDS, "YOU'LL NEVER AMOUNT TO MUCH" OR WAS TOLD "THAT SPORT", THAT CARRER" JUST IMAGINE WHAT OUR EAGER AND OPEN YOUNG MINDS PERCEIVED AND BELIEVED.

 

                                UNCONSCIOUS CONDITIONING FROM OTHERS

                 SOME OF OUR PROGRAMMING IS OBVIOUS. BUT MOST OF IT IS NOT, MOST OF IT HAS BEEN MUCH MORE SUBTLE. EVERY DAY WE RECEIVE AND ENDLESS STREAM OF COMMANDS, DIRECTIVES, CONTROLS, INDUCEMENTS, AND EXPECTATIONS FROM OTHERS. EVERYTHING AROUND US NUDGES, DEMANDS, OR PERSUADES. EVEN AS ADULTS , WE ARE MET WITH A TORRENT OF INFULENCES, WE ARE NOT EVEN AWARE OF MOST OF THEM. WE ARE SHIPS WITH COUNTLESS CAPTAINS, ALL SEEKING TO DIRECT US ON THEIR OWN COURSES, FOR THEIR OWN PURPOSES, NOT EVEN KNOWING THEY ARE LEADING OUR SHIPS ASTRAY.

              AS LONG AS YOU AND I ALLOW OTHERS TO PROGRAM US IN A WAY THAT FITS THEIR CHOOSING, WE ARE, WITHOUT A DOUBT, OUT OF CONTROL, CAPTIVE TO THE WHIMS OF SOME UNKNOWN DESTINY, NOT QUITE RECOGNIZING THAT WHAT HANGS IN THE BALANCE IS THE FULLFILLMENT OF OUR OWN FUTURES.

                WHY DO SO MANY THERAPISTS TAKE THEIR PATIENTS BACK TO A TIME IN THEIR CHILDHOOD WHEN THE PROBLEM WAS FIRST CREATED ? BECAUSE THAT IS WHERE THE BELIEFS BEGAN. THAT IS WHERE THE FEAR, THE TRAUMA, OR THE SELF-IDENTITY FIRST BEGAN TO TAKE HOLD. OUT OF THOSE EARLY YEARS, EACH OF US FORMED A COMPOSITE PICTURE OF OURSELVES. IT MADE LITTLE  DIFFERENCE WHETHER   THE PICTURES OF OURSELVES THAT WE CREATED WERE TRUE OR NOT. OUR EXPERIENCES, BECAME THE FOUNDATION FOR THE MENTAL PROGRAMMING THAT DIRECTS US TODAY.

                 OF COURSE, NOT ALL OF OUR PAST PROGRAMMING HAS BEEN THE WRONG KIND. SOME OF IT HAS BEEN GOOD. MOST OF US HAVE EXPERIENCED THE LOE AND CARING OF OTHERS. AND MOST OF US HAVE TOUCHED FROM TIME TO TIME WITH VISIONS OF POSITIVE SELF-BELIEF. MANY OF US HAVE HAD PARENTS WHO COUNTERED THEIR MISGIVINGS WITH ENCOURAGEMENT. WE HAVE HAD COACHES, TEACHERS, AND FRIENDS WHO SAW THE BEST IN US. AS WE GREW, ALL OF US, FROM TIME TO TIME, HAVE HAD OUR SUCCESS.

                   BUT, AT OUR BEST, WE HAVE BEEN LIVING WITH ONLY A PART OF OUR LIFE'S PROGRAMS WORKING FOR US. IMAGINE THAT YOU COULD DO IF YOU COULD OVERRIDE THE PROGRAMS IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND, THOSE THAT STILL WORK AGAINST YOU, AND REPLACE THEM WITH A REFRESHING NEW SET OF PROGRAMS OF ABSOLUTE BELIEF, AN ALMOST UNCONSCIOUS, AUTOMATIC NEW SET OF PROGRAMS THAT WOULD GO TO WORK FOR YOU - REPLACING THE BARRIERS WITH A REFRESHING NEW LOOK AT THE LIFE YOU HAVE IN FRONT OF YOU.

                

                 THINK WHAT YOU COULD DO, BEGINNING TOMORROW, IF THE SHACKLES OF BAD HABITS, OLD CONDITIONING, AND SELF-DOUBT WERE SUDDENLY GONE.

                    I ONCE ASKED A WOMAN WHO HAD LOST 120 PONDS WHAT THE FELT LIKE AFTER SUCCEEDING IN HER GOAL TO LOSE THE WEIGHT, HER ANSWER WAS, I FEEL LIKE I'VE LOST A HUNDRED AND TWENTY POUNDS"! I UNDERSTOOD HER JOY. SOMETIME, WHEN YOU ARE A HEALTH SPA OR GYM, GO OVER TO THE WEIGHT-LIFTING SECTION AND TRY TO PICK UP 120 POUNDS.

                      AND THE MENTAL WEIGHT WE SO OFTEN CARRY WITH US I FAR HEAVIER TO BEAR. IMAGINE LOSING, EVEN FOR ONE DAY, ALL OF THE EXTRA WEIGHT OF SELF-DOUBT AND DISBELIEF WE CARRY WITH US. THINK HOW FAST YOU COULD RUN.

                     BECAUSE OF OUR BRAIN'S NEUROPLASTICITY, FREEDOM OF MIND IS POSSIBLE, AND NOT BEYOND THE REACH OF ANY OF US. NOT ONLY CAN YOU ACHIEVE THAT FREEDOM FOR YOURSELF, BUT WE ARE ABOUT TO SEE THT THERE ARE A FEW PRACTICAL STEPS YOU CAN TAKE TO MAKE THE FREEDOM OF A SELF-DIRECTED MIND A PERMANENT PART OF EVERY DAY OF YOUR LIFE.

                     YOU ALREADY HAVE ALL OF THE NECESSARY EDQUIPMENT. YOU WERE BORN WITH EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO LIVE YOUR LIFE IN A MOST EXCEPTIONAL AND WORTHWHILE WAY. IT MAKES NO DIFFERENCE WHAT YOU HAVE THOUGHT OR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE IN THE PAST. FROM THIS DAY ON, YOU CAN, IF YOU CHOOSE, CHANGE A LITTLE TO GAIN A LOT.

TRY IT

 

                             THE NEW WORK TO YOUR                                                           SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

                       I REALLY VERY SPECIAL. I LIKE WHO I AM AND I FEEL GOOD ABOUT                                     MYSELF.

                       ALTHOUGH I ALWAYS WORK TO IMPROVE MYSELF AND I GET BETTER EVERY DAY. I LIKE WHO I AM TODAY. AND TOMORROW, WHEN I'M EVEN BETTER, I'LL LIKE MYSELF THEN, TOO.

                       IT'S TIME THAT THERE REALLY IS NO ONE ELSE LIKE ME IN THE ENTIRE WORLD. THERE NEVER WAS ANOTHER ME BEFORE, AND THERE WILL NEVER BE ANOTHER ME AGAIN.

                      I AM UNIQUE - FROM THE TOP OF MY HEAD TO THE BOTTOM OF MY FEET. IN SOME WAYS I MAY LOOK AND ACT AND SOUND LIKE SOME OTHER BUT I AM NOT THEM. I AM ME.

                    I WANTED TO BE SOMEBODY - AND NOW I KNOW I AM. I WOULD RATHER  BE ME THAN ANYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD.

                   I LIKE HOW I FEEL AND I LIKE HOW I THINK AND I LIKE HOW I DO THINGS. I APPROVE OF ME AND I APPROVE AND I APPROVE OF WHO I AM.

                   I HAVE MANY BEAUTIFUL QUALITIES. I HAVE TALENTS AND SKILLS AND ABILITIES. I HAVE TALENTS THAT I DON'T EVEN KNOW ABOUT YET. AND I AM DISCOVERING NEW TALENT INSIDE MYSELF ALL THE TIME.

                  I AM POSITIVE. I AM CONFIDENT. I RADIATE GOOD THINGS. IF YOU LOOK CLOSELY, YOU CAN EVEN SEE A GLOW AROUND ME.

                  I AM FULL OF LIFE. I LIKE LIFE AND I'M GLAD TO BE ALIVE. I AM A VERY SPECIAL PERSON, LIVING AT A VERY SPECIAL TIME.

                 I AM INTELLIGENT. MY MIND IS QUICK AND ALERT AND CLEVER AND FUN. 

                I THINK GOOD THOUGHTS, AND MY MIND MAKES THINGS  WORK RIGHT FOR                    ME. 

              I HAVE A LOT OF ENERGY AND ENTHUSIASM AND VITALITY. I AM EXCITING                        AND I REALLY ENJOY BEING ME.O

               I LIKE TO BE AROUND OTHER PEOPLE AND OTHER PEOPLE LIKE TO BE AROUND ME. PEOPLE LIKE TO HEAR WHAT I SAY AND KNOW WHAT I THINK.

                I SMILE A LOT. I AM HAPPY ON THE  INSIDE AND I AM HAPPY ON THE OUTSIDE.

              I AM INTERESTED IN MANY THINGS. I APPRECIATE ALL THE BLESSINGS I HAVE, AND THE THINGS THAT I LEARN, AND ALL THE THINGS I WILL LEARN TODAY AND TOMMORROW AND TOMORROW AND FOREVER - JUST AS LONG AS I AM.

               I AM WARM, SINCERE, HONEST, AND GENUINE. I AM ALL OF THESE THINGS AND MORE. AND ALL OF THESE THINGS ARE ME. I LIKE WHO I AM, AND I AM GLAD TO BE ME.

                    WHAT A SIMPLE WORDS THEY ARE. WHAT TRUTHS THEY TELL US ABOUT THE SELVES WE CONTAIN INSIDE OF US. PLACED WITHIN  THE BELIEFS OF ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL, THOSE SIMPLE WORDS POSSESS A POWER THAT FEW OF US HAVE EVER HOPED TO ATTAIN. AND YET THAT SELF-BELIEF, THAT SENSE OF SELF-ESTEEM, IS AVAILABLE TO ALL OF US. CAN YOU IMAGINE LIVING THAT WAY EACH DAY - AND KNOWING IT?

                  IMAGINE CHILDREN GROWING UP WITH THOSE KINDS OF WORDS INDELIBLY INSTILLED IN THEIR BELIEVING, EAGER YOUNG  MINDS, IMAGINE BEGINNING TO BELIEVE THE VERY BEST ABOUT YOURSELF, EACH DAY, ALL OF THE TIME, IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, ALWAYS BEING SURE OF ATTITUDES THAT SUPPORT YOU, GIVE YOU FAITH, PROP YOU UP, AND GIVE YOU THE COURAGE AND THE CONVICTION TO LIVE LIFE IN ITS MOST FULFILLING, MOST POSITIVE WAY.

 

                IF THAT SOUNDS IMPROBABLE, LET ME REMIND YOU THAT IT IS YOUR OLD PROGRAMMING THAT TELLS YOU IT CAN'T WORK THAT WAY. THAT IS BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT IT WAS WIRED TO BELIEVE. AND IT IS WRONG.

                                      THE STOCK OF YOUR ATTITUDE

                    LOOK AT YOUR ATTITUDE. TAKE STOCK OF YOUR BELIEFS ABOUT YOURSELF. TAKE MENTAL INVENTORY OF YOUR ATTITUDE - GOOD AND HAD - AND DECIDE FOR YOURSELF WHICH OF THOSE ATTITUDE WORK FOR YOU AND WHICH DO NOT. THE ONES YOU DON'T WANT TO KEEP - THROW OUT. GET RID OF THEM. KEEP THE ONES YOU LIKE. CHANGE THE ONES YOU WANT TO CHANGE. TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR ATTITUDE. PUT YOURSELF BACK IN CONTROL. THE LEAST THAT COULD HAPPEN IS THAT YOU WOULD GET A LITTLE MORE OF YOUR REAL SELF BACK AGAIN.

                   START THE ADVENTURE. DISCOVER THE JEWELS AND GEMS THAT ARE PART OF YOUR OWN MIND. SEEK OUT AND FIND THE RICH RESERVE OF ATTITUDES WITHIN YOU HAVE BEEN WAITING TO STEP OUT AND LIVE AGAIN. START TALKING TO YOURSELF THE RIGHT WAY.

                      LITLE CHANGES IN ATTITUDE CAN MAKE BIG CHANGES IN LIFE. YOUR ATTITUDES AFFECT ALL OF THE IMPORTANT THINGS AROUND YOU. THEY AFFECT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSEFL. THEY AFFECT YOUR WORK, YOURF FRIENDS, AND YOUR LOVED ONES. WHEN YOUR ATTITUDES GET BETTER, SO DOES LIFE. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO MAKE A CHANGE OR TWO, FIXING AN ATTITUDE AND MAKING LIFE A LITTLE BETTER ISN'T BAD PLACE TO START.

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MINDFULLNESS THOUGHTS

 

                           LIFE CHANGING STATEMENT

                                   HERE IS A SHORT SUMMARY OF THE RULES OF SUCCESS THAT HAVE BEEN GIVEN TO US OVER THE YEARS. EACH OF THESE IDEAS IS DESIGNED TO HELP YOU CREATE POSITIVE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE. WE'VE LEARNED THAT IF YOU WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL, YOU SHOULD.

                  * BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

                  * KEEP YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT

                  * TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF

                  * CREATE YOUR OWN FUTURE

                  * MEDITATE DAILY

                  * PRACTICE MINDFULNESS

                  * FOCUS ON WHT YOU WANT

                  * ATTRACT WHAT YOU DESIRE

                  * LEARN TO VISUALIZE THE OUTCOME OF YOUR GOALS

                  * NEVER LET ANYONE CONTROL YOUR DESTINY FOR YOU

                  * BE CREATIVE

                  * THINK BIG

                  * CONTROL STRESS

                  * BE AGGRESSIVE AND ASSSERTIVE

                  * THINK POSITIVELY

                  * CHART YOUR OWN COURSE

                  * SET SPECIFIC GOALS AND REVIEW THEM OFTEN

                  * SPEND SOME TIME EACH DAY IMPROVING YOUR MIND

                  * SPEND SOME TIME EACH DAY IMPROVING YOUR MIND

                  * REVIEW YOUR RESULTS AND READJUST AS NECESSARRY

                  * BE TOLERANT

                  * DO EVERYTHING WITH LOVE

                  * DON'T HATE

                  *  HAVE COURAGE

                  * RECOGNIZE THAT MOST OF WHAT WE BELIEVE ABOUT LIFE IS AN ILLUSION

                  * BE HONEST 

                  * WORK HARD

                  * BELIEVE MONEY IS GOOD AND IT WILL COME TO YOU

                  * HAVE FAITH

                  * IF YOU AGREE TO DO IT, ENJOY IT

                  * BE STRONG

                  * SHOW AFFECTION

                  * MANAGE YOUR TIME

                  * DRESS RIGHT

                  * LEARN TO SELL YOURSELF

                  * TAKE TIME OFF

                  * BELIEVE IN A HIGHER SELF

                  * EAT RIGHT

                  * LIVE PRUDENTLY

                  * SEEK THE AID OF OTHERS WHO ARE IN SYMPATHY WITH YOUR GOALS

                  * GIVE ASSISTANCE TO OTHERS

                  * KEEP MOTIVATED

                  * BE OPTIMISTIC

                  * TRUST OTHERS AND BE WORTHY OF TRUST

                  * RECOGNIZE THAT SUCCESS BE WORTHY OF TRUST

                  * BE KIND

                  * SEE THE "BIG PICTURE"

                  * TAKE CARE OF THE DETAILS

                  * GET ORGANIZED

                  * DON'T PROCRASTINATE

                  * GET ORGANIZED

                   * DON'T PROCRASTINATE

                   * STAY IN CONTROL

                   * KEEP FIT

                   * SEE PROBLEMS AS "OPPORTUNITIES"

                   * LEARN EVERYTHING YOU CAN ABOUT YOUR JOB

                   * DON'T BE AFRAID OF SUCCESS

                   * BE GENEROUS TO OTHERS

                   * BELIEVE IN GOD

                   * REACH A LITTLE HIGHER THAN YOU THOUGHT YOU COULD

                   * SET YOUR SIGHTS

                   * TAKE ACTION

                    * NEVER GIVE UP

              THIS LIST OF SELF-IMPROVEMENT TEACHINGS SUGGESTS THAT WE'VE BEEN GIVEN MOST OF KEYS TO SUCCESS. IF YOU FOLLOW THOSE RULES, YOU SHOULD CREATE POSITIVE CHANGE, AND BY DOING THAT, BECOME SUCCESSFUL.

         

            OUR NEW UNDERSTANDING OF THE BRAIN'S NEUROPLASTICITY, HOWEVER, TELLS US THAT IN ORDER FOR THERSE RULES TO WORK - OR FOR THE CHANGES TO BECOME PERMANENT CHANGES - THERE ARE THREE ESSENTIAL INGREDIENTS THAT WILL ENSURE THAT THE IDEAS WILL BECOME A PERMANENT PART OF YOU.

                             1. THE FIRST INGREDIENTS IS IN ORDER TO WORK, AND KEEP WORKING, THE NEW IDEA (OR MESSAGE) HAS TO BECOME PHYSICALLY WIRED INTO YOUR BRAIN. UNLESS THE NEW MESSAGES OR DIRECIONS ARE ACTUALLY WIRED INTO YOUR BRAIN'S NEUTRAL NETWORKS, EVEN THE BEST OF THE IDEAS WILL WORK ONLY TEMPORAIRLY. 

                             2. THE SECOND INGREDIENT FOR CREATING LASTING, POSITIVE MENTAL CHANGES IS : UNDERSTANDING HOW YOUR BRAIN GETS WIRED, AND THE ROLE YOU PLAY IN THE WIRING PROCESS. AN UNDERSTANDING OF HOWS YOUR BRAIN GETS PROGRAMMED PUTS YOU IN DIRECT CONTROL OF THE PROCESS OF CREATING THE CHANGE AND MAKING IT LAST.

                           3. THE THIRD INGREDIENT FOR CREATING POSITIVE PERSONAL CHANGE - WHICH ALWAYS BEGINS WITH MENTAL CHANGE - IS A NEW, WORK-FOR-WORD SET OF DIRECTIONS, NEW PROGRAMMING TO BOTH YOUR CONSCIOUS AND SUBCONSCIOUS MINDS. THAT MEANS A SPECIFIC PROGRAMMING VOCABULARY, THAT IS WORDED IN SPECIFIC WAY, THAT ANYONNE CAN USE AT ANY TIME, TO REPLACE THE OLD NEGATIVE PROGRAMMING WITH POSITIVE, PRODUCTIVE NEW DIRECTIONS.                     

                "   THE ONLY SOLUTION THAT INCLUDES ALL THREE OF THE ESSENTIAL 

                   INGREDIENTS THAT CREATE LASTING CHANGE IN THE BRAIN IS 

                   SELF-TALK."

KNOCK ON YOUR DOOR

 

                    REPLACE THE OLD WITH THE NEW

                SO INSTEAD, LET US SAY THAT I KNOCK ON YOUR DOOR, AND I ASK YOU TO COME OUTSIDE. THERE STANDS A SHINY NEW DELIVERY TRUCK FULL OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL FURNITURE YOU HAVE EVER IMAGINED. FOR THE NEXT TWO OR THREE HOURS. I HELP YOU CARRY ALL OF THE BEAUTIFUL NEW FURNITURE, YOUR NEW POSITIVE SELF-TALK, INTO YOUR MENTAL APARTMENT. AND THIS TIME, WE DON'T STORE THE OLD NEGATIVE FURNITURE IN THE GARAGE, WE PILE IT UP AND A MATCH TO IT. WE GET RID OF IT. DON'T GIVE YOUR OLD FURNITURE TO SOMEONE ELSE - DON'T PASS ALONG YOUR NEGATIVE SELF-TALK TO SOMEONE ELSE. AFTER ALL, HOW YOU GOT IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. 

                  THIS TIME WHEN I LEAVE, YOU WALK THROUGH YOUR MENTAL APARTMENT AND LOOK AROUND YOU. WHAT AN INCREDIBLE SIGHT MEETS YOUR EYES! WHA TONCE WAS A PLACE OF TATTRED HOPES AND BROKEN. DOWN DREAMS IS NOW FILLED WITH THE BRIGHT NEW BEGINNINGS OF AN EXCITING NEW YOU. THE NEW MENTAL FURNITURE STANDS ON THE STURDY LEGS OF SELF-ASSURANCE, YOU HAVE REPLACED FRUSTRATION AND QUIET RESIGNATION WITH THE ENTHUSIASM OF PROMISE AND BELIEF.

                 THAT IS HOW POSITIVE THINKING SHOULD WORK. THAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN JUST BELIEVING IN POSITIVE THINKING AND ACTUALLY CREATING IN YOUR LIFE. IT IS FINE TO THROW OUT THE OLD - IT IS ESSENTIAL. BUT IT IS ALSO ESSENTIAL TO REPLACE THE OLD WITH NEW, WORLD BY WORD, THOUGHT BY THOUGHT.

                  THE PROBLEM HAS BEEN THAT IN THE PAST, NO ONE GAVE US THE WORDS. NO ONE GIVE US THE WORD-FOR-WORD VOCABULARY THAT WE NEEDED TO REPLACE THE NEGATIVE PROGRAMMING WE HAD LEARNED  SO WELL. THE RIGHT KIND OF SELF-TALK IS TO MAKING ALL POSITIVE THINKING WORK.

                   JUST WANTING TO BE A POSITIVE THINKER ISN'T ENOUGH. MAKING THE DECISION TO HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE ISN'T ENOUGH. YOU HAVE TO WIRE THE NEW HABIT INTO YOUR BRAIN. THE HUMA BRAIN SAYS, "GIVE ME THE DIRECTIONS, THE COMMANDS, THE PICTURE, THE SCHEDULE, AND THE RESULTS YOU WANT. THEN I WILL DO IT FOR YOU, GIVE ME THE WORD.

                                            HOW TO HAVE  MOTIVATE 

                                               YOURSELF INTERNAL

          

                  SINCE, AS I HAVE FOUND, THE MOST ACCURATE MEANING OF THE WORD "MOTIVATION" IS TO PUT INTO MOTION, IT SEEMS TO ME THAT WHEN  IT COMES RIGHT DOWN TO IF, IF A VOTE WERE TAKEN, MOST OF US WOULD RATHER DECIDE FOR OURSELVES WHAT SHOULD PUT US INTO MOTION THAN TO HAVE SOMEONE ELSE DECIDE FOR US.

                   IF YOU'D LIKE TO GET MOTIVATED - AND STAY MOTIVATED - YOU HAVE TO HAVE THE RIGHT SELF-TALK. THE RIGHT SELF-TALK CREATES INTERNAL MOTIVATION, WHICH BECOMES OF THE WAY THE BRAIN WORKS, IS THE ONLY KIND OF MOTIVATION THAT LASTS.

                  THE BEST SOLUTIO TO GETTING MOTIVATED AND STAYING MOTIVATED IS TO PRACTICE BEINNG YOUR OWN MOTIVATOR.

                   IMAGINE HAVING A COACH WHO STAYED WITH YOU, SEASON AFTER SEASON AND EVERY DAY IN BETWEEN. IMAGINE NOT NEEDING TO WAIT FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO GET YOU CHARGED UP AND MOVING. IMAGINE BEING ABLE TO RELY ON YOURSELF TO ALWAYS, ENERGIZE YOUR SPIRIT, FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION, AND KEEP YOU IN TUNE, ON TOP, IN TOUCH, AND GOING FOR IT. CAN YOU IMAGINE NEVER AGAIN NEEDING SOMEONE ELSE TO PROD OR PUSH YOU INTO ACTIVATING YOUR OWN BEST EFFORST.?

               YOUR OWN INTERNAL COACH WILL DO THAT, IF YOU WIRE YOUR BRAIN WITH THE RIGHT SELF-TALK AND TELL IT WHAT TO DO., YOUR INTERNAL COACH IS YOUR STRONGEST, BELIEVER. WITH THE RIGHT SELF-TALK AND THE RIGHT PROGRAMMING, THAT COACH WILL SHOW YOU THE BEST IN STRENGTHEN YOUR WILL, AND GIVE YOU BELIEF. IT SHOULD BECOME YOUR ULTIMATE MOTIVATOR . IT IS YOU.

GIVE YOUR NEW WORDS TO YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

 

                     GIVING LIFE TO YOUR SELF-TALK

                      WHEN YOU FIRST READ THESE NEW WORDS OF SELF-BELIEF AND SELF-MOTIVATION, THEY CAN LIE THERE ON THE PAGE, LOOKING LIKE NOT MUCH MORE THAN QUIETLY REASSURING INSPIRATIONAL THOUGHTS, BRING THEM TO LIFE. PULL THEM OFF THE PAGES. SHOUT THEM OUT TO YOURSELF IF YOU HAVE TO, BUT GRAB THEM, HOLD ON TO THEM, AND MAKE THEM YOUR OWN.

                      IF YOU'RE GOING TO SHOCK YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS WITH THE NEW WORDS, YOU MIGHT AS WELL GIVE IT A FULL DOSE. INSTEAD OF EVER LETTING THE DE-MOTIVATION IN YOUR LIFE WEAKEN YOU OR BRING YOU TO YOUR KNEES, EVEN FOR A MOMENT, KICK THEM OUR. STAND UP, FACE THEM, POINT TO THE DOOR, AND TELL THEM TO GET OUT OF YOUR LIFE. YOU'RE THROUGH WITH THEM, AND YOU DON'T NEED THEM ANY LONGER. STOY THEM IN THEIR TRACKS, OVERPOWER THEM.

                   JUST WHEN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS THINKS YOU'RE THROUGH, DON'T LET UP, GIVE IT SOME MORE. ADN THIS TIME START Y MAKING THE CONSCIOUS DECISION TO DEMAND THAT THE INTERNAL YOU LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY.

              I KNOW THAT GREATNESS BEGINS IN THE MINDS OF THE GREAT, I KNOW THAT WHAT I BELIEVE ABOUT MYSELF IS WHAT I WILL BECOME - SO I BELIEVE IN THE BEST FOR MYSELF.

              I AM PRACTICAL AND REALISTIC, AND I KNEW MY FEET ON SOLID GROUND. BUT I ALSO GIVE MYSELF THE FREEDOM TO LIVE UP TO MY FULLEST EXPECTATIONS.

            I NEVER LIMIT MYSELF BY THE SHORTSIGHTED BELIEFS OF OTHERS - INSTEAD I OPEN MYSELF UP TO THE BROAD HORIZONS OF UNLIMITED POSSIBILITY. WHEN SOMEONE SAYS I "CANNOT" I ANSWER, WHY NOT"? WHEN SOMEONE SAYS, "ITS IMPOSSIBLE", I ANSWER THAT NOTHING IS ANY MORE IMPOSSIBLE THAN I BELIEVE IT TO BE. I TRULY BELIEVE THAT WITH MY INDIVIDUAL FORTRESS OF FAITH IN ME, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. I HAVE DRIVE, SPIRIT, STAMINA, AND ENDURANCE. I HAVE A GOOD, STRONG WINNING ATTITUDE ABOUT MYSELF AND ABOUT EVERYTHING I POSSIBLE OUTOME OF ANY SITUATION.

               IF I HAVE EVER HAD ANY DOUBTS ABOUT MYSELF IN THE PAST, TODAY IS A GOOD DAY TO PUT THEM ASIDE. IT'S GOOD DAY TO THROW OUT ANY DISBELIEF THAT EVER HELD ME BACK.

               I KNOW THAT I AM HEADED IN THE RIGHT WINNING DIRECTIONS, AND I LOOK FORWARD THAT I AM NEVER LOOK BACK. I HAVE THE ABILITY TO FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME, SO I CONCENTRATE MY ATTENTION ON THE JOB AT HAND - AND I GET IT DONE.

            TODAY IS ONE OF THOSE DAYS WHEN NOTHING CAN STAND IN  MY WAY. WHEN I NEED EXTRA DETERMINATION. I'VE GOT IT. WHEN I NEED MORE ENERGY AND DRIVE, I'VE GOT IT. I'VE GOT THE POWER TO GET IT DONE AND THE PATIENCE TO SEE IT THROUGH, NO MATTER WHAT THE JOB OR CHALLENGE MAY BE.

             RIGHT NOW, EVEN WHILE I AN TELLING MYSELF THESE TRUTHS ABOUT ME, I KNOW THAT I CAN SUCCEED AND I AM SUCCEEDING. AT THIS MOMENT, IF I THINK OF ANY CHALLENGE IN FRONT OF ME.  I KNOW THAT I WILL BECOME EVEN MORE OF A WINNER BECAUSE OF IT.

               I KEEP MY CHIN UP, MY HEAD HELD HIGH. I LOOK, ACT, SOUND, THINK AND FEEL LIKE THE WINNER I AM. ANYTIME  PROBLEM STARTS TO GET ME DOWN, I GET MYSELF RIGHT BACK UP. I TACKLE PROBLEMS  AND I SOLVE THEM. WHEN FRUSTRATION OR DEFEAT THREATENS ME, I JUST BECOME THAT MUCH STRONGER, MORE POSITIVE, BETTER ORGANIZED, AND MORE DETERMINED THAN EVER.

              RIGHT NOW, TODAY THIS VERY MOMENT, I AM CAPABLE OF GIVING MYSELF THE GIFT OF ABSOLUTE SELF-ASSURANCE, SELF-BELIEF, AND POWERFUL NONSTOP CONFIDENCE IN MYSELF.

              NO MATTER WHAT IT SI THAT REQUIRES THE VERY OF ME, I CAN DO IT AND KNOW I CAN.

               TODAY IS A GREAD DAY. AND I'VE GOT WHAT IT TAKE. SO I CHOOSE TO DO IT RIGHT, DO IT WELL. I CHOOSE TO LIVE TODAY WITH JOY AND LOVE. 

                 I KNOW IT'S ALL UP TO ME. ONE HUNDREAD PERCENT. EVERY BIT OF IT. ALL OF IT IS IN HOW I LOOK AT IT AND WHAT I DO ABOUT IT. THAT'S WHAT WINNING IS. THAT'S WHY I AM A WINNER.

                I SET MY SIGHTS. I KEEP MY BALANCE. I DON'T HESITATE. I DON'T HOLD BACK. I KNOW THAT THE WORLD IS FULL OF OPPORTUNITIES. LOOK AT WHAT I CAN DO, LOOK AT WHERE I GO. LOOK AT WHERE I CAN GO. LOOT AT WHAT I CAN DO JUST BY SAYING, "YES" TO MYSELF.

               JUST LOOK AT WHAT I CAN DO TODAY.  I AM INCREDIBLE ... AND TODAY IS A GREAT DAY TO SHOW IT.

                   IT IS EASY TO SEE HOW THAT KIND OF SELF-DIRECTION CAN BE WORDED TO APPLY SPECIFICALLY TO ANY PART OF YOUR LIFE THAT NEEDS TO BE MOTIVATED.

                                            SELF - TALK FOR SELLING

                  ONE OF THE PROFESSIONS THAT RELIES HEAVILY ON MOTIVATION IS THE SALES FIELD. WE KNOW THAT SALES PEOPLE NEED TO MAINTAIN TO CONSTANT ATTITUDE OF SELF-BELIEF BECAUSE OF THE NUMBER OF TIMES THEY ARE TURNED OFF DOWN, EVERY TIME THE COMPETITION WINS, OR WHEN THE PROSPECT SAYS NO, THE SALESPERSON LOSSES. IN THE MIND OF THE SALESPERSON WHO LOST THE SALE, THAT LOSS REPRESENTS A FAILURE, BECAUSE OF THIS, THE FIELS OF SALES CREATES THE LARGEST DEMAND FOR SKILLED, PROFESSIONNAL MOTIVATORS.

                  IF YOU ARE IN A MANAGEMENT OR SALES POSITION, READ THIS NEXT EXAMPLE OF SELF-TALK CAREFULLY. BUT EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT IN THE FIELD OF PROFESSIONAL SALES, NOTICE HOW MUCH OF THE SELF-TALK CAREFULLY. BUT EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT IN THE FIELD OF PROFESSIONAL SALES, NOTICE HOW MUCH OF THE SELF-TALK FOR SELLING APPLIES EQUALLY AS WELL TO THE TIMES IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU WANT TO INFLUENCE OR PERSUADE SOMEONE ELSE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING OR DO SOMETHING THAT YOU WANT TO DO.

               FOR THIS EXAMPLE, I WILL COMBINE THE VARIOUS AREAS OF SALES SELF-TALK AND SHOW YOU JUST A FEW SAMPLES THAT ARE REPRESENTATIVE OF THE SELF-TALK FOR SELLING.

                    I BEGIN EACH DAY WITH A CLEAR MIND AND  SPECIFIC PLAN TO GET THE MOST FROM MY TIME AND MY EFFORT. I FOLLOW MY PLAN AND I REACH MY GOALS.

                    AN ACCURATE DESCRIPTION OF ME WOULD INCLUDE THE WORDS, "PROFESSIONAL, HARDWORKING, QUALIFIED, SKILLFUL, ENERGETIC, ENTHUSIASTIC, ORGANIZED, DETERMINED, AND HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL".

                  I AM GOOD AT PERSUADING OTHERS TO MY POINT OF VIEW. THAT IS BECAUSE I FIRST AND ALWAYS RECOGNIZE AND UNDERSTAND THE POINT OF VIEW OF THE INDIVIDUAL TO WHOM I AM PRESENTING MY IDEAS, MY PRODUCT, OR MY SERVICE.

                I KNOW HOW TO LISTEN - AND  I DO, I HAVE LEARNED TO NOT ONLY HEAR THE WORDS THAT ARE BEING SAID, BUT ALSO LISTEN TO THE UNSPOKEN THOUGHTS THAT LIE BEHIND HIM.

               I AM ALWAYS PREPARED. I TAKE THE TIME TO DO IT RIGHT. IN EVERYTHING I DO, I AM PREPARED, CONFIDENT, SELF-ASSURED, AND SUCCESSFUL.

               I ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF THE DETAILS IN MY WORK. I ENJOY THE DETAILS OF SELLING AND I ALWAYS TEND TO THEM ON TIME AND WITH FULL ATTENTION.

            I KEEP MYSELF "UP". I KNOW THAT MAKING GOOD SALES PRESENTATIONS MEANS KEEPING MYSELF UP, ENERGETIC, AND IN CONTROL. THAT IS EXACTLY THE WAY I AM, AND MY SALES PRESENTATION ARE ALWAYS PROFESSIONAL AND EFFECTIVE.

              I NEVER AVOID CONFRONTING A PROBLEM OR MAKING A SALES CALL OF ANY KIND. I KEEP MYSELF WORKING AND THAT KEEPS ME WINNING. 

              I DESERVE TO MAKE THE SALES I CREATE. I KNOW THAT SUCCESS IN SELLING STARTS WITH SEEING MYSELF AS THE CAPABLE, PRODUCTIVE INDIVIDUAL THAT I AM.

               I AM ALWAYS SINCERE AND HONEST. I BELIEVE THAT ALL ACHIEVEMENT IN SELLING BEGINS WITH TRUST, SKILL, DETERMINATIO. I ASK FOR THE ORDER FREQUENTLY AND WITHOUT HESITATION. AT EVERY "BUYING SIGNAL, "I ASK FOR THE ORDER - AND I CLOSE.

                 BEING TOLD' "NO" NEVER BOTHERS ME. INSTEAD, HEARING THE WORLD "NO" DOUBLES MY DETERMINATION AND ADDS TO MY POSITIVE ENTHUSIASM.

             

                  GIVEN THE TECHNICAL SKILLS TO MATCH, THE SALESPERSON WHO MENTALLY "BECOME" THE INDIVIDUALS WE HAVE JUST DESCRIBED, EVEN IN THOSE FEW SHORT SELF-DIRECTIVE, WOULD UNDOUBTEDLY RANK HIGH ON THE LIST OF SALES ACHIEVERS FOR ANY SALES ORGANIZATION. HAVING WORKED WITH MANY SALES PEOPLE IN THE PAST, I HAVE ALL TOO OFTEN HEARD QUITE THE OPPOSITE KINDS OF SELF-TALK.

                 BECAUSE OF OUR OWN PAST PROGRAMMING, IT IS ALL TOO EASY TO SLIP INTO USING THE OLD SELF-TALK DE-MOTIVATORS OF COMPLAINTS, EXCUSES, AND DOUBTS - ALL THE REASONS NECESSARY TO PLACE THE BLAME FOR FAILURE AND UNDERACHIEVEMENT ON SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE.  THE SALES MANAGER, THE COMPANY, THE LEADS, THE COMMISSION STRUCTURE, OR THE COMPETITION.

 

                INSTEAD OF IGNITING THE SPARK OF SELF-BELIEF, TOO MANY SALES PEOPLE, JUST LIKE MANY OF US IN OUR OWN CAREERS, SOLVE THE DAY'S PROBLEMS BY AVOIDING THE ACTIOB WE KNOW WE SHOULD TAKE. INSTEAD OF SPENDING OF FEW MINITES ENGAGED IN THE HIGHLY PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITY OF MOTIVATING OURSELVES TO TAKE ACTIONS, WE ENGAGE OURSELVES IN TALKING OURSELVES OUT OF ACTION. AND INTO HAVIG ANOTHER CUP OF COFFEE.

                                                      TIME TO BEGIN

               WE CAN LEARN TO MOTIVATE OURSELVES. WE CAN LEARN TO BECOME SELF-STRARTERS, DOERS, AND ACHIEVERS. TO DO THAT TAKES LESS TIME AND LESS TRAINING THAN ANY OTHER KIND OF MOTIVATIONAL DEVELOPMENT  I HAVE EVER ENCOUNTERED. WE NEED ONLY TO BEGIN, AND OUR INNERSELVES, THE PART OF US THAT WANTS TO ACHIEVE, WILL SOON BEGINN TO FOLLOW THE NEW LEAD THAT WE ARE GIVING IT.

PROBLEM SOLVING STATEMENT

 

                 THE POSITIVE STATEMENT FOR YOU

                            THE FOLLOWING ARE A FEW WORDS OF SELF-TALK FOR HOW TO DEAL WITH THE PROBLEMS OF SOLVING PROBLEMS.

                              I'M GOOD AT SOLVING PROBLEMS. I LIKE CHALLENGES AND I MEET THEM HEAM-ON.

                        PROBLEMS ARE MY TEACHER. THEY HELP ME TO LEARN TO GROW. WITHOUT THEM, I WOULD BE GOING NOWHERE. WITH THEM, I AM MOVING FORWARD IN THE DIRECTION OF MY OWN GOALS.

                        THERE IS NO PROBLEM THAT I CANNOT CONQUER. I AM STRONG IN MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT. MY WILL, MY STRENGTH, AND MY DETERMINATION ARE ALWAYS GREATER THAN THAN ANY PROBLEM I FACE.

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                       WHEN I MEET A NEW PROBLEM, I DO NOT SEE THE PROBLEMS AS MY ENEMY. I KNOW THAT FINDING THE SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEM WILL MORE ME FORWARD IN MY OWN PERONAL GROWTH.

                     BECAUSE I KNOW THAT PROBLEMS ARE KEY INGREDIENTS IN MY SPIRITUAL AND MENTAL EDUCATION AND PREPARATION. I RECOGNIZE THAT ALL PROBLEMS ARE IMPORTANT TO ME.

                    I DO NOT FEAR PROBLEMS, I SOLVE THEM. I DO NOT IGNORE PROBLEMS, I CONFRONT THEM. 

                  I KNOW THAT EVERY PROBLEM HOLD WITHIN ITSELF THE KEY TO ITS OWN SOLUTION. THEREFORE, THE BETTER I UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM, THE CLEARER I AM ABLE TO SEE ITS SOLUTION.

                     

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                   HAVING PROBLEMS IN NOT A PROBLEM FOR ME. I AM CONFIDENT, SELF-ASSURED, POSITIVE, AND DETERMINED I ALWAYS KNOW THAT I AM GOING TO OVERCOME ANY PROBLEM I ENCOUNTER - AND I ALWASY DO.

                  I AM GOOD AT BREAKING LARGE OBSTACLES DOWN INTO SMALLER PEIECES THAT ARE EASIER TO HANDLE. AND I NEVER MAKE ANY PROBLEM APPEAR TO BE LARGER THAN IT ACTUALLY IS.

                  I NEVER WORRY. I TURN, WORRY TIME, INTO POSITIVE, CONSTRUCTIVE "SOLUTION TIME, I KEEP MY MIND ALERT AND OPEN TO ALL SOLUTIONS - AND SOLUTIONS COME QUICKLY AND EASILY TO ME.

                  I HAVE LEARNED COME QUICKLY AND EASILY TO ME.

                  I HAVE LEARNED TO RECOGNIZE THAT MANY PROBLEMS CARRY WITH THEM BENEFITS AND POTENTIAL OPPORTUNITIES THAT WOULD NOT HAVE PRESENTED AND POTENTIAL OPPORTUNITIES THAT WOULD NOT HAVE PRESENTED THEMSELVES HAD THE PROBLEMS NOT OCCURED IN THE FIRST PLACE.

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                 I DO NOT SEEK TO LIVE A LIFE THAT IS FREE FROM ALL PROBLEMS. INSTEAD, I CHOOSE TO LIVE A LIFE OF FINDING SOLUTIONS AND ENJOYING THE BENEFITS THAT THOSE SOLUTIONS CREATE.

                   CHALLENGE, CONQUER, SOLUTION, AND WIN WORDS THAT I LIVE MY DAILY, CHALLENGE ARE OPPORTUNITIES, CONQUERING THEM IS THE INEVITABLE OUTCOME.SOLUTION ARE THE STEPPING - STONES TO MY SUCCESS. WINNING IS MY WAY OF LIFE.

                          I SUSPECT YOU WILL FIND THAT IF YOU WERE TO DO NOTHING MORE THAN READ THAT ONE EXAMPLE OF A SELF-TALK SCRIPTS TO YOURSELF THREE OR FOUR TIMES EACH DAY FOR A WEEK OR TWO, BY THE END OF THAT TIME YOU WOUL BEGIN TO SEE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS DIFFERENTLY - EVEN A SPECIFIC PROBLEM. IT DEALS ONLY WITH YOUR GENERAL APPROACH TO LOOKING AT PROBLEMS.

                    NOW LET'S BE MORE SPECIFIC. LETS IDENTIFY A PROBLEM - ONE THAT FOR MANY OF US HAS, AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, STOOD DIRECTLY IN THE WAY OF REACHING ALMOST ANY GOAL WE SET FOR OURSELVES THE PROBLEM OF BEING ORGANIZED - MANAGING OUR TIE AND OUR RESOURCES IN A MORE EFFECTIVE AND PRODUCTIVE WAY.

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                   THERE ARE MANY EXCELLENT BOOKS ON THE SUBJECT O FMANAGING TIME AND BECOMEING MORE ORGANIZED. BUT WHEN YOU READ THE BOOKS, THINK HOW MUCH BETTER A MORE RECEPTIVE MIND WOULD BE - A MIND THAT HAS BECOME REPROGRAMMED, FIRMLY CONVINCED, REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU MUGHT HAVE BELIEVED  IN THE PAST, TO NOW BELIEVE THAT BEING ORGANIZED IS A NATURAL WAY FOR YOU TO BE.

                    IF YOUR GOAL WAS TO ORGANIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, YOUR TIME, AND YOUR ACTIVITIES TO GET MORE DONE FOR YOU, AND HELP YOU REACH THE REST OF THE GOALS YOU HAVE SET FOR YOURSELF INSTEAD OF FOLLOWING THE OLD PROGRAMMING, IT IS JUST AS EASY AND FAR MORE EFFECTIVE TO US A DIFFERENT SET OF INTERNAL COMMANDS.

                                              ❤FREEDOM OF TALKS❤

              I NEVER WORRY. INSTEAD OF WORRYING, I FIND SOLUTIONS AND I ACT ON THEM.

              MY MIND IS CONSTANTLY IN TUNE WITH THE POSITIVE. IT IS BRIGHT, CHEERFUL, ENTHUSIASTIC, AND FULL OF GOOD, POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND IDEAS.

             I AM ABLE TO RELAX EASILY AND COMFORTABLY IN MY BODY AND IN MY MIND. I AM CALM, CONFIDENT, AND SELF-ASSURED.

 

             MY MIND IS ORDERLY AND WELL ORGANIZED. I CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE WHAT I THINK AND I ALWAYS CHOOSE THOSE THOUGHTS THAT ARE THE MOST POSITIVE AND BENEFICIAL FOR ME.

              ALL OF MY THOUGHTS CREATE HEALTHINESS WITHIN ME. MY MIND DWELLS ONLYON THOSE THOUGHTS THAT CREATE MORE HARMONY, BALANCE, AND WELL-BEING WITHIN ME AND IN THE WORLD AROUND ME.

              I AUTOMATICALLY, AND ALWAYS, THINK IN A DECISIVE AND DETERMINED WAY.

             I AM FULL OF RESOLUTION AND THE ABSOLUTE ASSURANCE OF THE BEST POSSIBLE OUTCOM IN EVERYTHING THAT I DO.

             I CHOOSE TO LOOK AT THE WORK AROUND ME IN THE BRIGHT, HEALTHY LIGHT OF OPTIMISM AND SELF-ASSURANCE.

             I DO ONLY THOSE THIGS THAT ARE BEST FOR ME. I CREATE THE BEST WITHIN MYSELF, I ATTRACT THE BEST IN OTHERS, AND I DIND THE BEST THE WORLD AROUND ME.

             I WILLINGLY, AND WITHOUT FAIL, TAKE CARE OF THE DUTIES AND OBLIGATION THAT I HAVE ACCEPTED FOR MYSELF.

            I COMMIT ONLY TO THOSE RESPONSIBILITIES THAT I KNOW I CAN FULLFILL. I FOCUS THE ATTENTION OF MY MIND ONLY ON THOSE THINGS THAT I CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT. IF I CANNOT AFFECT IT OR DIRECT IT - I ACCEPT IT. I KEEP MY MIND TOO BUSY THINKING GOOD, HEALTHY, POSITIVE, CONSTRUCTIVE, AND PRODUCTIVE THOUGHTS TO EVER HAVE ANY TIME FOR WORRY.

               I CONTROL THE THOUGHTS I CHOOSE. NO THOUGHTS, AT ANY TIME, CAN DWELL IN MY MIND WITHOUT MY APPROVAL OR PERMISSION I NEVER WORRY.

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               FOR EVERY HABIT YOU CAN COME UP WITH THAT SHOULD BE CHANGED, THERE IS THE RIGHT SELF-TALK TO CHANGE IT. BUT THE TWO EXAMPLES OF HABIT-CHANGING SELF-TALK WE HAVE JUST SEEN WILL GIVE YOU AND IDEA OF HOW SELF-TALK IS CONSTRUCTED AND HOW IT COVERS NOT ONLY IDEA OF HOW SELF-TALK IS CONSTRUCTED AND HOW IT COVERS NOT ONLY THE PROBLEM ITSELF, BUT HOW IT CREATES THE SURROUNDINGS MENTAL ENVIRONMENT THAT FEEDS AND SUPPORTS THE DECISION TO CHANGE.

               MOST OF THOSE THINGS WE CALL BAD HABITS ARE IN REALITY THE SYMPTOMS OF SOMETHING ELSE THAT IS GOING ON INSIDE OF US. THEY ARE THE RESULT OF A BROAD VARIETY OF BELIEFS WE HAVE ABOUT OURSELVES THAT, WHEN ALL LUMPTED TOGETHER, PUSH US INTO A PATTERN OF BEHAVIOR THAT ENDS UP CAUSING PROBLEMS FOR US. SELF-TALK LOOKS AT THE "WHOLE BEING" (ALL OF THE FURNITURE IN OUR MENTAL APARTMENTS) FROM A HOLISTIC POINT OF VIEW. IT DOESN'T JUST CURE THE SYMPTOM, IT CHANGES THE PROBLEMS THAT CAUSED THE SYMPTOMS IN THE FIRST PLACE.

SPEAK WITH POSITIVE WORDS

 

                                          POSITIVE ONE

                       ONE DAY I WAS HAVING LUNCH WITH A FRIEND IN A COFFE SHOP LOCATED IN A LARGE CONVENTION HOTEL. WHILE WE WERE WAITING FOR OUR LUNCH, WE WERE DISCUSSING NEGATIVE SELF-TALK AND COMMENTING ON HOW WE END UP BECOMING THE RESULT OF WHAT WE SAY TO OURSELVES. DURING OUR DISCUSSION, A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF THAT VERY THING HAPPENDED.

                   AS OUR WAITRESS APPROACHED OUR TABLE WITH BOTH ARMS FILLED WITH PLATES OF FOOD, SHE STUMBLED AND DROPPED AN ARMLOAD OF HOT FOOD ON THE TABLE AND FLOOR IN FRON OF US, AND EXCLAIMED LOUDLY, "OH, I'M SO CLUMSY!".

                  MY FRIEND AND I HAD WITNESSED A FIRSTHAND EXAMPLE OF THE RESULT OF THE SIMPLEST KIND OF NEGATIVE SELF-TALK. I DON'T KNOW HOW MANY TIMES BEFORE THAT WAITRESS HAD TOLD HERSELF SHE WAS CLUMSY. BUT SHE UNDOUDTEDLY SAID IT TO HERSELF OFTEN ENOUGH TO BELIEVE THAT IT WAS TRUE, AND TO MAKE IT HAPPEN.

                  AS ANOTHER EXAMPLE, LET'S TAKE SOMETHING AS COMMON AS THE PROBLEM OF NOT BEIG TO REMEMBER NAMES. FOR TWENTY-FIVE YEARS YOU MAY HAVE SAID TO YOURSELF" I CAN NEVER REMEMBER NAMES". THEN ONE EVENING YOU GO TO A PARTY. YOU ARE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE WHOSE NAME YOU WANT TO REMEMBER AND YOU SAY TO YOURSELF".I AM GOINT TO REMEMBER THIS PERSON'S NAME. WHAT HAPPENS TEN SECONDS LATER? YOU FORGET THE NAME. WHY? BECAUSE FOR THE PAST TWENTY-FIVE YEARS YOU HAVE BEEN TELLING YOURSELF THAT'S WHAT YOU'LL DO. YOU HAVE BEEN PROGRAMMING YOUSELF TO FORGET.

               MINUTES LATER, AT THE PARTY, YOU FIND YOURSELF STANDING THERE, A LITTLE EMBARRED, MENTALLY GOING THROUGH THE ALPHABET, TRYING TO REMEMBER THE PERSON'S NAME. AND MEANWHILE, AS YOU'RE FEELING FORGETFUL AND FOOLISH, YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS, FEELING VERY PROUND IS SAYING, "SEE, I DID WHAT YOU ME TO. I MADE YOU FORGET THE NAME".,

               IF YOUR SELF-TALK, THE DIRECTIONS, YOU WIRI INTO YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND, WILL DO THAT, DON'T YOU SUPPOSE IT WILL DO WHATEVER ELSE YOU TELL IT TO DO? IF YOU WERE TO REPROGRAM SOMEONE STRONGLY ENOUGH FOR THE TO BELIEVE THAT IT WAS SAFE TO DRIVE UP TO AN INTERSECTION AND TURN THE WRONG WAY INTO ONCOMING TRAFIC, THEY WOULD DO IT. THE HUMAN BRAIN WILL DO ANYTHING POSSIBLE YOU TELL IT TO DO IF YOU TELL IT OFTEN ENOUGH AND STRONGLY ENOUGH. IF YOU TELL IT THE WRONG THING ABOUT YOURSELF, THAT IS WHAT IT WILL ACCEPT - AND ACT UPON.

                THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND DOES NOT SEE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE STATEMENT THAT WE ARE CLUMSY AND THE STATEMENT THAT WE ARE GRACEFUL, WELL COORDINATED, AND IN CONTROL, IT DOES NOT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEING TOLD THAT WE ARE POOR, AND THE STATEMENT THAT WE ARE WEALTHY. IT ACCEPTS OUR PROGRAMMING JUST AS WE GIVE IT.

                OUR INTERNAL PROGRAMMING MECHANISM TREATS ANYTHING WE TELL IT WITH EQUAL INDIFFERENCE. AS A RESULT, WHEN WE CASUALLY STATE, NO MATTER WHAT I DO, I JUST CAN'T SEEM TO MAKE ENOUGH MONEY TO MAKE ENDS MEET". OUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND SAYS, OKAY, I'LL DO MEET". IN TURN IT WILL UNLEASH ITS POWERFUL CONTROL OVER OUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL SELF TO ACHIEVE THE RESULT IT WAS TOLD TO ACCOMPLISH.

                  I MET ONE GENTLEMAN WHOM I WOULD CONSIDER TO BE A FINE MAN, BUT UNFORTUNATE. AFTER TWENTY YEARS OF MARRIAGE, RAISING SEVERAL CHILDREN INTO THEIR TEENS, AND BUILDING A PROFITABLE BUSINESS TO HIS PARTNERS. WHAT INTRIGUED ME ABOUT HIS MAN'S STORY WAS THAT HE TALKED ONLY OF HIS FAILURES, HIS DEFEATS, HIS DOWNFALL, AND THE PROBLEMS HE ANTICIPATED FOR HIS FUTURE. IT WAS SAD TO SEE SOMEONE WITH HIS DEPTH, HIS WARMTH, AND HIS CAPABILITIES COMPLETELY SUBJECTED TO THE FAILURES HE HAD LONG AGO CREATED FOR HIMSELF IN HIS OWN MIND.

                AS WAS THE CASE WITH THAT INDIVIDUALS, OUR BRAINS WILL AFFECT AND INFLUENCE WHAT WE DO IN EVERY AREA OF OUR LIVES, THROUGH THAT COMPLEX PROCESS OF ELECTROCHEMICAL PHYSIOLOGICAL CONTROLS I DESCRIBED EARLIER. IT WILL DIRECTLY AFFECT EVERYTHING ABOUT US, FROM HOW WE GET ALONG WITH SOMEONE AT HOME TO THE AMOUNT OF MONEY WE EARN.

                  A TYPICAL  EXAMPLEOF THIS IS OUR OWN SELF-ACCEPTED BELIEFS ABOUT OUR PERSONAL FINANCIAL CAPABILITIES - OR LIMITATIONS, UNLESS WE CHANGE THE PROGRAMS WE GAVE TO OURSELVES, THE ONES THAT TOLS US WE CAN'T SEEM TO EARN ENOUGH MONEY, OUR SUBCONSCIOUS WILL SUCCESSFULLY ACCOMPLISH ITS PROGRAMMED TASK OF KEEPING US EARNING LESS THAN WE WOULD LIKE. HAD WE GIVEN IT THE RIGHT PROGRAMMING, THAT SAME SUBCONSCIOUS MIND, INSTEAD OF KEEPING US POOR OR OF AVERAGE MEANS, WOULD JUST AS GLADLY HAVE MADE US RICH IN EVERY WAY.

                                    THE MACHINE THAT NEVER SLEEPS

                        YOUR SUBCONSIOUS MIND IS WORKING RIGHT NOW. IT IS WORKING DAY AND NIGHT, TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU BECOME PRECISELY THE PERSON YOU HAVE UNCONSCIOUSLY DESCRIBED YOURSELF TO BE. IF YOUR PROGRAMS PICTURE YOU AS HAVING TROUBLE EARNING ENOUGH INCOME, YOUR SUBCONSIOUS MIND IS DOING EVERYTHING IT CAN, RIGHT NOW, TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE TROUBLE EARNING MORE MONEY. IF YOU HAVE CONDITIONED YOURSELF TO BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN'T STICK TO A DIET, YOU CAN BE SURE THAT YOUR SUBCONSIOUS MIND WILL MAKE SURE THAT NO DIET WILL WORK FOR YOU - AT LEAST NOT FOR LONG. YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS CAN ONLY DO FOR YOU WHAT YOU (AND OTHERS) TELL IT TO DO.

                     IN A PREVIOUS CHAPTER, I POITED OUT THAT DURING THE FORMATIVE YEARS OF OUR LIVES, EACH OF US IS TOLD "NO" OR WHAT WE CANNOT DO, MANY THOUSANDS OF TIMES. EACH OF THOSE "CANNOTS" WAS A DIRECTIVE TO OUR SUBCONSIOUS MINDS.

                     AND AS WE, BECAUSE OF OUR CONDITIONING, BEGAN TO FOLLOW SUIT AND SAY SIMILAR "CANNOTS" TO OURSELVES, WE FELL INTO THE UNCONSCIOUS HABIT OF PROGRAMMING OURSELVES IN THE SAME WRONG WAY AS DID OUR PARENTS, FRIENDS, AND OTHERS AROUND US. AND RIGHT NOW, AT THIS MOMENT, EACH OF OUR SUBCONSCIOUS MINDS IT WORKING TO MAKE SURE WE BECOME JUST AS THOSE TENS OF THOUSANDS OF NEGATIVE DIRECTIONS PROGRAMMED US TO BE.

                  SINCE THAT TIME, OF COURSE, WE HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE OURSELVES NEW PROGRAMS. THE EXAMPLES OF NEGATIVE STATEMENTS I GAVE YOU EARLIER ARE ONLY A FEW LEAVES IN A FOREST OF NEGATIVE SELF -TALK. INFACT, MOST OF OUR AVERAGE, HABIT-FORMED, EVERYDAY SELF- TALK IS MADE UP OF THE QUIET NUDGES OF SELF-DOUBT, THE UNSPOKEN FEARS OF LITTLE (OR GRAND) FAILURES, AND THE NAGGING DISCOMFORT OF KNOWING THAT THINGS AREN'T RIGHT.

                 WHEN WE TALK TO OUR FRIENDS, IT SOMETIMES SEEMS EASIER TO TALK ABOUT PROBLEMS THAN ABOUT EXCITING POTENTIAL. OUR DAILY CONVERSATION SCRIPTS OFTEN SOUND LIKE THEY WERE WRITTEN BY THE SAME EDITORS WHO WRITE THE HEADLINES FOR THE LATEST VIRAL BAD NEWS STORY. WE LIVE, IN OUR POORLY PROGRAMMED UNCONSCIOUS MINDS, IN THE DISQUIETING SHADOW-WORLD OF UNCERTAINLY BELIEVING THAT WE SHOULD BE ACHIEVING, BUT NOT KNOWING WHY, AFTER SO MUCH FRUSTRATION AND TRYING, WE ARE NOT.

                 BY THE TIME MOST OF US REACH ADULTHOOD, WE ARE SO CONDITIONED TO THINK IN A CERTAIN WAY THAT OUR PATTERN OF SELF-TALK BECOMES HABIT THAT IS PHYSICALLY WIRED INTO OUR BRAINS. IT IS FIXED. AND FOR MOST IT REMAINS THAT WAY. HOW WE LOOK AT LIFE, WHAT WE BELIEVE ABOUT OURSELVES, HOW WE VIEW ANYTHING, AND WHAT WE DO ABOUT IT. GETS FILTERED THROUGH OUR PRECONCEPTIONS.

                     WE HAVE TOLD OURSELVES OVER AND OVER, CONSCIOUSLY AND UNCONSCIOUSLY, WHAT DOES NOT WORK. IN THE PAST, TOO OFTEN WE LEARNED TO AUTOMATICALLY BELIEVE THE WORST FIRST, AND THE BEST LAST. BUT NOW WE HAVE LEARNED THAT IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THAT WAY. THERE IS SOMETHING, STARTING RIGHT NOW, THAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. IT IS THE KEY TO HOW YOU MANAGE YOURSELF, AND HOW YOU LIVE AND MANAGE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.