HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT MONEY

 

                            

                                THE POWER OF MONEY

                                         "POVERTY CONSISTS IN FEELING POOR"

                                                                                           --- RALPH WALDO EMERSON

                    

                           HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT MONEY? MOST PEOPLE WOULD SAY THEY LOVE MONEY, BUT IF THEY DON'T HAVE ENOUGH, THEY DON'T FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT AT ALL. IF A PERSON HAS ALL THE MONEY THEY NEED, THEN MOST CERTAINLY THEY FEEL GOOD ABOUT MONEY. SO YOU CAN TELL HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT MONEY, BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T HAVE ALL YOU NEED, THEN YOU DON'T FEEL GOOD ABOUT MONEY.

                           IF YOU LOOK OUT INTO THE WORLD, YOU WILL SEE THAT THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE DON'T FEEL GOOD ABOUT MONEY, BECAUSE THE MAJORITY OF THE WORLD'S MONEY AND RICHES IS IN THE HANDS OF ABOUT TO PERCENT OF THE PEOPLE. THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE WEALTHY PEOPLE AND EVERYONE ELSE IS THAT THE WEALTHY PEOPLE GIVE MORE GOOD FEELINGS ABOUT MONEY THAN THEY DO BAD FEELINGS. IT'S AS SIMPLE AS THAT.

                       WHY IS IT THAT SO MANY PEOPLE FEEL BAD ABOUT MONEY? IT'S NOT BECAUSE THEY HAVE NEVER HAD MONEY, BECAUSE MOST OF THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE MONEY BEGAN WITH NOTHING. THE REASON WHY SO MANY PEOPLE FEEL BAD ABOUT MONEY IS THAT THEY HAVE NEGATIVE BELIEFS ABOUT MONEY, AND THOSE NEGATIVE BELIEFS WERE FED INTO THEIR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND WHEN THEY WERE CHILDREN. BELIEFS LIKE "WE CAN'T AFFORD THAT, "MONEY IS EVIL, "RICH PEOPLE MUST BE DISHONEST", WANTING MONEY IS WRONG AND IT'S NOT SPIRITUAL", HAVING PLENTY OF MONEY MEANS HARD WORK".

                       WHEN YOU'RE A CHILD, YOU ACCEPT JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING YOUR PARENTS, TEACHERS, OR SOCIETY TELL YOU. AND SO WITHOUT REALIZING IT, YOU GROW UP HAVING NEGATIVE FEELINGS ABOUT MONEY, THE IRONY IS THAT, AT THE SAME TIME THAT YOU'RE TOLD THAT WANTING MONEY IS WRONG, YOU ARE TOLD THT YOU HAVE TO EARN A LIVING, EVEN IF IT MEANS DOING WORK YOU DON'T LOVE. MAYBE YOU WERE EVEN TOLD THAT THERE ARE ONLY CERTAIN JOBS YOU CAN DO TO EARN A LIVING, THAT IT'S A LIMITED LIST.

                            NONE OF THESE THING IS TRUE. THE PEOPLE WHO TOLD YOU THESE THINGS IS TRUE. THE PEOPLE WHO TOLD YOU THESE THINGS ARE INNOCENT BECAUSE THEY WERE PASSING ON WHAT THEY BELIEVED AND FELT WAS TRUE, BUT BECAUSE THEY BELIEVED IT, THE LAW OF ATTRACTION MADE IT TRUE IN THEIR LIVES. NOW YOU ARE LACK MONEY IN YOUR LIFE, IT IS BECAUSE YOU ARE GIVING OUT MORE BAD FEELINGS THAN YOU ARE GIVING GOOD FEELINGS ABOUT MONEY.

                        " WHEN YOU REALIZE THERE IS NOTHING LACKING

                           THE WHOLE WORLD BELONGS TO YOU".

                                                                                    --- LAO LZU

                       HOW TO CHANGE THE WAY YOU FEEL ABOUT MONEY

 

                          WHEN YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU FEEL ABOUT MONEY, THE AMOUNT OF MONEY IN YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE. THE BETTER YOU FEEL ABOUT MONEY, THE MORE MONEY YOU MAGNETIZE TO YOURSELF.

                            IF YOU DON'T HAVE MUCH MONEY, THEN RECEIVING BILLS WON'T MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD. BUT THE MOMENT YOU REACT NEGATIVELY TO A BIG BILL, YOU GIVE BAD FEELINGS, AND MOST SURELY YOU WILL MOST IMPORTANT THING IS THAT WHEN YOU PAY YOUR BILLS, YOU FIND A WAY, ANYWAY, TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. NEVER PAY YOUR BILLS WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL GOOD, BECAUSE YOU WILL JUST BRING BIGGER BILLS TO YOU.

                        TO CHANGE WHAT YOU'RE GEELING, YOU NEED TO USE YOUR IMAGINATION TO TURN YOUR BILLS INTO SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER. YOU CAN IMAGINE THEY'RE NOT REALLY BILLS AT ALL BUT INSTEAD YOU'VE DECIDED TO DONATE MONEY TO EACH COMPANY OR PERSON OUT OF THE GOODNESS OF YOUR HEART, BECAUSE OF THE WONDERFUL SERVICE THEY PROVIDE.

                    IMAGINE YOUR BILLS ARE CHECKS YOU'RE RECEIVING. OR USE GRATITUDE AND GIVE THANKS TO THE COMPANY WHO SENT YOU THE BILL, BY THINKING ABOUT HOW YOU'VE BENEFIED FROM THEIR SERVICE FOR ELECTRICITY OR BEING ABLE TO LIVE IN A HOME. YOU CAN WRITE ACROSS THE FRONT OF A BILL WHEN YOU PAY IT, THANK YOU- PAID". IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE MONEY TO PAY THE BILL RIGHT AWAY, WRTE ACROSS THE FRONT OF IT, "THANK YOU FOR THE MONEY". THE LAW OF ATTRACTIO DOESN'T QUESTION WHETHER WHAT YOU IMAGINE AND FEEL IS REAL OR NOT. IT RESPONDS TO WHAT YOU GIVE PERIOD.

                            "YOU ARE REWARED NOT ACCORDING TO YOUR WORK OR

                              YOUR TIME BUT ACCORDING TO THE MEASURE OF YOUR LOVE".    

                                                                                                       -- SAINT CATHERINE OF SIENA

                          WHEN YOU RECEIVE YOUR SALARY, BE GRATEFUL FOR IT SO IT MULTIPLES! MOST PEOPLE DON'T EVEN FEEL GOOD WHEN THEY ARE PAID, BECAUSE THEY'RE SO WORRIED ABOUT HOW TO MAKE THEIR SALARY LAST. THEY MISS AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY TO GIVE LOVE EVERY TIME THEY'RE PAID. WHEN SOME MONEY COMES INTO YOUR HANDS, NO MATTER HOW LITTLE IT IS, GRATEFUL! REMEMBER, WHATEVER YOU'RE GRATEFUL FOR MULTIPLIES. GRATITUDE IS THE GREAT MULTIPLIER!

                   POINTS :

                   * IT'S THE ATTRACTIVE FORCE OF LOVE THAT MOVES ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD, AND WHOEVER IS GIVING LOVE BY FEELING GOOD IS A MAGNET FOR MONEY.

                   * YOU CAN TELL YOU FEEL ABOUT MONEY, BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T HAVE ALL YOU NEED, THEN YOU DON'T FEEL GOOD ABOUT MONEY.

                   * LOVE IS THE ATTRACTIVE FORCE THAT BRINGS MONEY, AND LOVE IS ALSO THE POWER THAT MAKES MONEY STICK.

                  * WHEN YOU PAY YOUR BILLS, FIND A WAY, ANY WAY, TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. IMAGINE YOUR BILLS ARE CHECKS YOU'RE RECEIVING. OR USE GRATITUDE AND GIVE THANKS TO THE COMPANY WHO SENT YOU THE BILL.

                 *WHEN SOME MONEY COMES INTO YOUR HANDS, NO MATTER HOW SMALL IT IS, BE GRATEFUL ! REMEMBER GRATITUDE IS THE GREAT MULTIPLIER.

                 * FEEL LOVE WHEN YOU PAY FOR ANYTHING INSTEAD OF FEELING BAD BECAUSE YOU HAVE LESS MONEY. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO IS THED DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAVING PLENTY OF MONEY, AND STRUGGLING WITH MONEY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

                  *USE PHYSICAL MONEY AS YOUR CUE TO REMEMBER TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT PLENTY OF MONEY. IMAGINE THE FRONT OF EACH BILL AS THE POSITIVE SIDE, WHICH REPRESENTS PLENTY OF MONEY. EACH TIME YOU HANDLE MONEY, DELIBERATELY FLIP THE BILL SO THE FRONT IS FACING YOU.

                    * IF YOU FEEL REALLY OOD ABOUT SUCCESS, NO MATTER WHOSE SUCCESS IT IS YOU STICK SUCCESS TOYOU!

                     * GIVE IN EQUAL VALUE TO THE MONEY YOU RECEIVE THROUG PROFITS OR YOUR SALARY. IF YOU GIVE MORE VALUE THAN THE MONEY YOU'RE RECEIVING YOUR BUSINESS AND CAREER WILL TAKE OFF.

                    * MONEY IS ONLY A TOOL FOR YOU TO EXPERIENCE THE THINGS YOU LOVE IN LIFE. THE ATTRACTIVE FORCE OF LOVE HAS UNLIMITED WAYS FOR YOU TO RECEIVE WHAT YOU WANT, AND ONLY ONE OF THOSE WAYS INVOLVES MONEY.

                    * IMAGINE BEING WITH WHAT YOU LOVE, DOING WHAT YOU LOVE, AND HAVING THE THINGS YOU LOVE, BECAUSE YOU WILL FEEL FOR MORE LOVE THAN YOU WILL IF YOU ONLY THINK ABOUT MONEY.

                     * THE BEAUTY OF LIFE IS THAT WHAT YOU PUT LOVE FIRST, ALL THE MONEY YOU NEED TO LIVE A FULL LIFE COMES TO YOU.

HOW TO SALE YOUR PRODUCT

 

                              THE DISCIPLINE OF SALES

                         THE MOST IMPORTANT ELEMENT IN BUSINESS SUCCESS IS SELLING. NOTHING HAPPENS UNTIL A SALE TAKE PLACE. ALL THE FACTORIES, BUSINESS, OFFICESS, AND PRODUCES OF GOODS AND SERVICES LEAP INTO ACTION ONLY WHEN SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE MAKES A SALE TO SOMEONE.

                         SELLING IS ONE OF THE HARDEST PROFESSIONS IN AMERICA. IT IS ALSO THE ONLY PROFESSION IN WHICH A PERSON CAN START WITH LIMITED SKILLS TO ACHIEVE ONE OF THE HIGHEST INCOMES IN OUR ECONOMY. MOVING ONWARD AND UPWARD IN SALES IS LIKE DRIVING ON THE AUTOBAHN IN GERMANY. THERE ARE NO SPEED LIMITS. YOU CAN GO AS FAR AND AS FAST AS YOU WANT BY STEPPING ON THE ACCELERATOR OF YOUR OWN AMBITION AND DETERMINATION TO EXCEL IN THE PROFESSION OF SALES.

                      DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO MAKE YOUR FIST CALL EARLY IN THE MORNING, 7.00 OR 8.00 AM. WHEN YOU START  YOUR DAY WITH A FACE-TO-FACE SALES CALL, YOU WILL BE MOST ENERGIZED AND MOTIVATED TO CONTINUE SELLING ALL DAY LONG.

                      DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO CLUSTER YOUR CALLS IN A SMALL GEOGRAPHICAL AREA SO THAT YOU CAN GET FACE WITH MORE PEOPLE IN A SHORTER AMOUNT OF TIME. MANY SALES PEOPLE, BECAUSE OF THEIR FEAR OF REJECTION, SPREAD THEIR CALLS OUT BECAUSE OF THEIR FEAR OF REJECTION, SPREAD THEIR CALLS OUT OVER A LARGE GEOGRAPHICAL AREA THEN CONVINCE THEMSELVES THAT THEY ARE ACTUALLY WORKING WHEN THEY ARE REALLY SIMPLY DRIVING FROM CALL TO CALL.

 

                        REMEMBER: YOU ARE WORKING ONLY WHEN YOU ARE EAR TO EAR TO FACE TO FACE WITH SOMEONW WHO CAN AND WILL BUY WITHIN A REASONABLE PERIOD OF TIME. AT ALL OTHER TIMES, YOU ARE "UNEMPLOYED".

                                 SET HIGHER STANDARDS FOR YOURSELF

                           DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO ACT EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY AS IF EVERYONE WERE WATCHING YOU. OUTSIDE SALESPEOPLE REQUIRE  A HIGHER LEVEL OF DISCIPLINE THAN PEOPLE WHO WORK IN THE OFFICE WHERE EVERYONE CAN SEE THEM. BECAUSE SALESPEOPLE ARE ON THEIR OWN, LIKE GUERILLA FIGHERS IN THE SALES JUNGLE, THE TEMPTATION IS NEVER ENDING TO SLACK OFF, TO TAKE IT EASY, OR TO GO FOR COFFEE OR LUNCH RATHER THAN T MAKE SALES CALLS.

                           TO PERFORM AT YOUR BEST, YOU MUST DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO WORK THROUGHOUT THE DAY - AS THOUGH YOUR SALES MANAGER WAS DOING A "RIDE-ALONG". IMAGINE THAT YOUR SALES MANAGER IS SITTING NEXT TO YOU ALL DAY LONG. HOW WOULD YOUR WORK DIFFERENTLY IF SOMEONW WERE ACCOMPANING YOU AND OBSERVING EVERYTHING YOU DID THROUGHOUT THE DAY? WHATEVER YOUR ANSWER THAT IS HOW YOU SHOULD WORK - EVEN WHEN NO ONE ELSE IS AROUND.

                                 ALL SALES SKILLS ARE LEARNABLE

                  TO BECOME ONE OF THE HIGHEST PAID SALESPEOPLE IN YOUR INDUSTRY, YOU MUST DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO PRACTICE CONTINOUS PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT. READ IN YOUR FIELD EVERY DAY. LISTEN TO EDUCATIONAL AUDIO PROGRAMS IN YOUR CARAS YOU DRIVE ALONG. ATTEND EVERY SALES SEMINAR YOU CAN, WHETHER SPONSORED BY YOUR COMPANY OR NOT. DEDICATE YOURSELF TO CONTINOUS LEARNING AS IF YOUR FUTURE DEPENDS ON IT - BECAUSE IT DOES.

                    THE TURNING POINT IN MY LIFE WHEN  I WAS A YOUNG SALESMAN - FRUSTRATED AND UNHAPPY, GOING IN CIRCLES, AND BARELY MAKING A LIVING - WAS WHEN I LEARNED THE LAW OF CAUSE AND EFFECT. I LEARNED THAT "IF YOU DO WHAT THE MOST SUCCESSFUL SALESPEOPLE DO, OVER AND OVER, THERE IS NOTHING THAT CAN STOP YOU FROM EVENTUALLY ACHIEVING THE SAME RESULTS AND REWARDS THAT THEY DO."

                    I LEARNED THAT EVERY SALESPEOPLE IN THE TOP PERCENT STARTED IN THE BOTTOM  10 PERCENT. EVERYONE WHO IS DOING WELL TODAY WAS AT ONE TIME DOING POORLY. EVERY PERSON AT THE TOP OF YOUR FIELD WAS AT ONE TIME NOT IN YOUR FIELD AT ALL AND DID NOT KNOW THAT IT EXISTED.

                    I LEARNED THAT ALL SALES SKILLS ARE LEARNABLE. YOU CAN LEARN ANY SALES SKILL YOU NEED TO LEARN TO ACHIEVE ANY SALES GOAL YOU CAN SET FOR YOURSELF. THERE ARE NO LIMITS EXCEPT THE LIMITS YOU PLACE ON YOURSELF WITH YOUR OWN THINKING.

                    WHEN YOU DISCIPLINED YOURSELF TO BECOME ONE OF THE TOP SALESPEOPLE IN YOUR FIELD, YOU WILL FIND THAT YOU WILL HAVE TURED AN IMPORTANT CORNER IN YOUR CAREER. MOST SALESPEOPLE DO ONLY WHAT THEY HAVE TO DO TO KEEP THEIR JOBS. BUT THOSE PEOPLE WHO RESOLVE TO BECOME THE BEST IN THEIR FIELDS ACCOMPLISH FAR MORE THAN ANYMORE ELSE.YOUR JOB IS TO BE ONE OF THEM.

                  IN THE NEXT CHAPTER, WE WILL TAKE ABOUT MONEY AND HOW THE PRACTICE OF SELF-DISCIPLINE IN THIS AREA CAN DRAMATICALLY INCREASE YOUR LIKEHOOD OF ACHIEVING ALL YOUR FINANCIAL GOALS.

 

                    POINTS 

                1. SEE YOURSELF AS THE PRESIDENT OF YOUR OWN PERSONAL SALES CORPORATION, COMPLETELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SALES RESULTS. THIS IS THE ATTITUDE OF THE HIGHEST PAID SALESPEOPLE.

                 2. SET CLEAR, WRITTEN INCOME GOALS FOR YOUSELF FOR THE NEXT TWELVE MONTHS AS WELL AS GOALS FOR EACH MONTH OF THE YEAR.

                 3.DETERMINE EXACTLY HOW MUCH OF YOUR PRODUCT OR SERVICE YOU WILL HAVE TO SELL IN ORDER TO EARN THAT DESIRED INCOME. 

                  4. DETERMINE HOW MANY INDIVIDUALS SALES YOU WILL HAVE TO MAKE, BASED ON YOUR AVERAGE SIZE OF SALE AND AMOUNT OF COMMISSION EARNED.

                  5. DETERMINE HOW MANY PROSPECTS YOU WILL HAVE TO CALL ON, BASED ON YOUR CURRENT EXPERIENCE, TO MAKE THIS NUMBER OF SALES.

                 6. DEDICATE YOURSELF TO CONTINUOUS IMPROVMENT IN SALES BY READING EACH DAY, LISTENING TO AUDIOS IN YOUR CAR, AND ATTENDING SALES SEMINARS.

                   7. SPEND EVERY MINUTES OF EVERY SALES SAY GETTING FACE TO FACE WITH PEOPLE WHO CAN AND WILL BUY FROM YOU IN THE NEAR FUTURE.

TIME MANAGEMENT TIPS

 

                                YOU CAN'T SAVE TIME

                         THERE IS PERHAPS NO AREA OF YOUR LIFE IN WHICH SELF-MANAGE YOUR TIME. TIME MANAGEMENT IS A CORE DISCIPLINE  THAT LARGELY DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE. AS PETER DRUCKER SAID, "YOU CANNOT MANAGE TIME, YOU CAN ONLY MANAGE YOURSELF".

                          TIME MANAGEMENT IS REALLY LIFE MANAGEMENT, PERSONAL MANAGEMENT, MANAGEMENT OF YOURSELF RATHER THAN OF TIME OR CIRCUMSANCES.

                          TIME IS PERISHABLE, IT CANNOT BE SAVED. TIME IS TRUE IRREPLACEABLE, NOTHING ELSE WILL DO. TIME IS IRRESTRIEVABLE, ONCE IT IS GONE OR WASTED, YOU CAN NEVER GET IT BACK. FINALLY, TIME IS INDISPENSABLE, ESPECIALLY FOR ACCOMPLISHMENTS OF ANY KIND. ALL ACHIEVEMENT, ALL RESULTS, ALL SUCCESS REQUIRES TIME. 

                          THE FACT IS THAT YOU CANNOT SAVE TIME, YOU CAN ONLY SPEND IT DIFFERENTLY. YOU CAN ONLY REALLOCATE YOUR TIME USAGE FROM AREAS OF LOW VALUE TO AREAS OF HIGH VALUE. HEREIN LIES THE KEY TO SUCCESS, AND THE REQUIREMENT FOR SELF-DISCIPLINE.

                         TIME MANAGEMENT IS THE ABILITY TO CHOOSE THE SEQUENCE OF EVENTS. BY EXERTING YOUR SELF-DISCIPLINE WITH REGARD TO TIME, YOU CAN CHOOSE WHAT TO DO FIRST, SECOND, AND NOT AT ALL. AND YOU ARE ALWAYS FREE TO CHOOSE.

                      YOU REQUIRE TREMENDOUS SELF-DISCIPLINE TO OVERCOME THE PROCRASINATION AND DELAY THAT HOLDS MOST PEOPLE BACK FROM GREAT SUCCESS. A NATIVE INDIAN ONCE TOLD ME THAT "PROCRASTINATION IS THE THIEF OF DREAMS".

                       THE PARETO PRINCIPLE, THE 80/20 RULE, SAYS THAT 20 PERCENT OF THE THINGS YOU DO ACCOUNT FOR 80 PERCENT OF THE VALUE WHAT YOU ACCOMPLISH. THIS MEANS THAT 80 PERCENT OF WHAT YOU DO IS WORTH 20 PERCENT OR LESS OF THE VALUE OF WHAT YOU ACCOMPLISH.

                                             ACCESS THE TRUE VALUE 

                                                      OF EVERYTHING YOU DO

                        SOME THINGS YOU DO ARE FIVE TIMES AND EVEN TEN TIMES MORE VALUABLE THAN OTHER THINGS, EVEN THOUGH THEY TAKE THE SAME NUMBER OF MINUTES AND HOURS. THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS YOU DO- THE TO 20 PERCENT - ARE USUALLY BIG, DIFFICULT, AND DAUNTING. IN CONTRAST, THE 80 PERCENT OF THINGS THAT YOU DO THAT MAKE OR NO DIFFERENCE TO YOUR LIFE ARE USUALLY FUN, EASY, AND ENJOYABLE,

                          YOU CAN TELL THE VALUE THAT SOMETHING HAS TO YOU BY THE AMOUNT OF YOUR TIME YOU INVEST IN IT. YOU ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION TO AND SPEND TIME ON WHAT YOU MOST VALUE, WHETHER IT IS YOUR FAMILY, YOUR HEALTH, YOUR SOCIAL OR SPORTS ACTIVIITIES, OR YOUR MONEY AND  CAREER. IT  IS ONLY BY LOOKING AT HOW YOU SPEND YOUR TIME THAT YOU (AND EVERYONE ELSE) KNOW WHAT IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO YOU.

                      SOME PEOPLE SAY THAT CAREER SUCCESS IS MOST IMPORTANT TO THEM, AND THEN THEY GO HOME AND WATCH TELEVISION SEVERAL HOURS PER DAY. SOME PEOPLE SAY THEIR FAMILIES ARE IMPORTANT TO THEM, AND THEN THEY GO OUT SOCIALIZING OR PLAYING GOLF. ONLY YOUR ACTIONS TELL YOU - AND OTHERS - WHAT YOU TRULY VALUE.

                     THE ESSENCE TO TIME MANAGEMENT IS FOR YOU TO DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO SET CLEAR PRIORITIES - AND THEN SICK TO THOSE PRIORITIES. YOU MUST CONSCIOUSLY AND DELIBERATELY SELECT THE MOST VALUABLE AND IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU COULD BE DOING AT ANY GIVEN TIME, AND THEN DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO WORK SOLELY ON THAT TASK.

                                         PERSONAL STRATEGIC PLANNING

                          IN CORPORATE STATEGIC PLANNING, THE MAIN FOCUS IS ON INCREASING THE "RETURN ON EQUITY". EQUITY IN A BUSINESS IS DEFINED AS THE AMOUNT OF MONEY INVESTED IN THE BUSINESS BY THE OWNERS (ASIDE FROM DEBT AND MONEY HORROWED). THE PURPOSE OF STRATEGIC PLANNING IS TO FIND WAYS TO ORGANIZE AND REORGANIZE THE BUSINESS IN SUCH A WAY THAT THE COMPANY IS ACHIEVING A HIGHER RATE OF RETURN ON THIS EQUITY THAN IT WOULD BE IN THE ABSENCE OF THE PLANNING PROCESS. 

                      COMPANIES INVEST FINANCIAL CAPITAL, BUT INDIVIDUALS INVEST "HUMAN CAPITAL". COMPANIES DEPLOY FINANCIAL ASSETS, BUT YOUR MOST VITAL ASSETS ARE YOUR MENTAL, EMOTIONAL, AND PHYSICAL ENERGIES. HOW YOU INVEST THEM DETERMINES YOUR ENTIRE QUALITY OF LIFE.

                       IN PERSONAL STRATEGIC PLANNING, YOUR GOAL IS TO GET THE HIGHEST, "RETURN ON ENERGY" FROM YOUR ACTIVITIES. KEN BLANCHARD REFERS TO THIS AS GETTING THE HIGHEST "RETURN ON LIFE".

                    JUST AS YOU WOULD BE CAREFUL ABOUT INVESTING YOUR MONEY SO AS TO ENSURE THAT YOU GET THE HIGHEST RATE OF RETURN, YOU MUST BE EQUALLY CAREFUL WHEN YOU INVEST YOUR TIME. YOU MUST BE SURE THAT YOU EART THE HIGHEST LEVEL OF RESULTS, REWARDS, AND SATISFACTION FROM THE LIMITED AMOUNT OF TIME YOU HAVE.

PRACTICE FORGIVENESS

 

                             THE LAW OF FORGIVENESS

                     THE HEIGHT OF SELF-DISCIPLINE IN SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT IS THE PRACTICE OF FORGIVENESS. THE LAW OF FORGIVENESS SAYS THAT "YOU ARE MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY TO THE DEGREE THAT YOU CAN FREELY FORGIVE ANYONE WHO HAS HURT YOU IN ANY WAY".

                    EVERY PERSON - INCLUDING YOU - HAS EXPERIENCED, DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM, NEGATIVE TREATEMENT, UNKINDNESS, RUDENESS, UNFAIRNESS, BETRAYAL, AND DISHONESTY FROM OTHERS OVER THE YEARS. THESE EVENTS, ARE UNFORTUNATE, BUT THEY ARE AN INEVITABLE AND UNAVOIDABLE PART OF BEING A MEMEBER OF THE HUMAN RACE. THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN AVOID THE PROBLEMS AND DIFFICULTIES OF LIVING IN A BUSYT SOCIETY WITH MANY DIFFERENT KINDS OF PEOPLE IS TO LIVE IN A CAVE.

                     THE ONLY QUESTION YOU NEED TO ASK AND ANSWER AFTER YOU HAVE HAD A NEGATIVE EXPERIENCE IS , "HOW LONG WILL IT TAKED ME TO GET OVER THIS EVENT AND GET ON WITH MY LIFE?, THIS IS A DECISION ONLY YOU CAN MAKE IT. IT IS ONE OF THEM IMPORTANT TYPES OF DECISIONS THAT YOU MAKE IN YOU OWN LIFE IF YOU TRULY WANT TO BE HAPPY. WHAT'S MORE, IT IS A TRUE TEST OF YOUR MENTAL AND SPIRITUAL DISCIPLINE.

                                                    THE FORGETTING CURVE

                       EACH PERSON HAS A "FORGETTING CURVE", OR WHAT IS OFTEN CALLED A "FORGIVENESS CURVE". THIS CURVE MEASURES HOW QUICKLY YOU FORGIVE AND FORGET A NEGATIVE EXPERIENCE, AND IT DETERMINES HOW MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY YOU REALLY ARE.

                      IMAGINE A RECTANGLE WITH A SCALE FROM ZERO TO ONE HUNDRED ASCENDING THE LEFT SIDE OF THE RECTANGLE. THIS IS THE SCALE OF THE INTENSITY OF THE NEGATIVE EMOTION YOU EXPERIENCE WHEN YOU ARE HURT OR OFFENDEND IN SOME WAY. ACROSS THE BOTTOM OF THIS GRAPH ARE THE MONTHS AND YEARS OF YOUR LIFE.

                    YOU CAN HAVE EITHER A FLAT FORGIVENESS CURVE OR A STEEP, DOWNWARD SLOPING FORGIVENESS CURVE. IF YOUR FORGIVENESS CURVE IS FLAT, THIS MEAS THAT YOU CONTINUES TO BE ANGRY FOR LONG TIME, SOMETIMES FOR YEARS OR EVEN DECADES AT THE SAME LEVEL AS WHEN THE EVENT OCCURED.

                   THERE ARE COUNTLESS PEOPLE WHO ARE STILL ANGRY ABOUT SOMETHING ONE OF THEIR PARENTS DID OR SAID TO THEM DECADES AGO. FURTHERMORE, THEY WILL TELL YOU ABOUT IT AT THE DROP OF A HAT. THEY WILL REACH INTO THEIR GUNNUYSACK OF UNFORGIVENESS EVENTS AND PULL OUT THEIR CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES AND SHARE THEM WITH YOU.

                  

                     EVERY PSYCHOLOGIST AND PSYCHIATRIST WHO DEAL WITH UNHAPPY PEOPLE ARE EMPLOYED BECAUSE THEIR PATIENTS HAVE FLAT FORGIVENESS CURVES. THEIR PRIMARY CONVERSATION IN THERAPY IS TALKING ABOUT WHAT SOMEONW DID OR DIDN'T DO TO THEM OR FOR THEM AT SOME POINT IN THE PAST - AND HOW UNHAPPY THAT PERSON STILL FEELS ABOUT IT TODAY.

                                        GET OVER IT AND GET ON WITH IT

                            TRULY HEALTHY PEOPLE, ON THE OTHER HAND, HAVE DOWNWARD SLOPING FORGIVENESS CURVES. THEY HAVE HAD JUST BUT MANY DIFFICULTIES AND PROBLEMS INLIFE AS ANYMORE ELSE, BUT THEY HAVE DISCIPLINED THEMSELVES BY RESOLVING TO FORGIVE AND FORGET QUICKLY SO THEY CAN GET ON WITH THEIR LIVES.THEY REFUSE TO GUNNYSACK LET THEM GO AND TURN THEIR ATTENTION TO THE THINGS THAT MAKE THEM HAPPY.

 

                           THE DISCIPLINE OF FORGIVENESS IS THE KEY TO THE SPIRITUAL KINGDOM. IT IS ONLY POSSIBLE FOR YOU TO ENJOY HIGH LEVELS OF PEACE MIND WHEN YOU DEVELOP THE HABIT AND DISCIPLINE OF FREELY FORGIVING OTHER PEOPLE FOR EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING THAT THEY HAVE DONE TO HURT YOU.

                                                  FORGIVENESS IS SELFISH

                 SOME PEOPLE ARE CONFUSED ABOUT THE CONCEPT OF FORGIVENESS. THEY THINK THAT FORGIVING SOMEONE ELSE FOR HAVING HURT THEM IS THE SAME AS CONDOMING THAT BEHAVIOR, OR EVEN APPROVING OF IT.  QUITE THE CONTRARY. FORGIVNESS IS A PURELY SELFISH ACT. FORGIVENESS HAS NOTHING WHATEVER TO DO WITH THE OTHER PERSON. YOU FORGIVE OTHERS SO THAT YOU YOURSELF CAN BE EMOTIONALLY FREE, SO THAT YOU NO LONGER CARRY THAT BAGGAGE AROUND WITH YOU. 

               YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL MIND. YOU ARE INCREDIBLY INTELIGENT AND INSIGHTFUL. YOU CAN USE YOUR MIND ON YOUR BEHALF IN ORDER TO HELP YOU TO BE JOYOUS AND HAPPY OR YOU CAN USE IT AGAINST YOURSELF. THE WAY YOU USE YOUR MIND AT THE HIGHEST LEVEL IS TO FIND REASONS TO FORGIVE OTHERS. INSTEAD OF REHASHING AND DISSECTING A PAST EVENT, LOOKING FOR REATIONZALIZATION, JUSTIFICATIONS, AND REASONS TO TAKE SOMETHING PERSONALLY, USE YOUR INTELLIGENTS TO FIND REASONS TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY AND LET GO OF THE NEGATIVE SITUATION.

                                  ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY AND FORGIVE 

                                      THE INSTANT YOU ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY AND FORGIVE EVERYONE FOR AYTHING THAT THEY EVER DID TO HURT YOU IN ANYWAY, YOU LIBERATE YOURSELF COMPLETELY. ALL YOUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS DISSAPEAR. INPLACE OF INNER PEACE, LOVE, HAPPINESS, AND JOY.

                                    THE PAYOFF FOR USING YOUR SELF-DISCIPLINE TO PRACTICE FORGIVENESS ON AN ONGOING BASIS IS EXTRAORDINARY. WHEN YOU USE YOUR INCREDIBLE ABILITIES OF SELF-CONTROL, SELF-MASTERY, AND DETACHMENT TO SEPERATE YOURSELF EMOTIONALLY FROM SITUATIONS THAT WOULD OTHERWISE MAKE YOU UNHAPPY, THE ENTIRE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE IMPROVES IN A WONDERFUL WAY.

                            POINTS :

                1. TAKE THE FORGIVENESS TEST. DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY?

                2. IDENTIFY THE PEOPLE FROM YOUR PAST WHO YOU FEEL HAVE HURT YOU IN ANY WAY, AND THEN MAKE A DECISION TODAY TO FORGIVE THEM AND LET GO OF THOSE NEGATIVE FEELINGS.

                3. FIND REASONS NOT TO JUSTIFY YOUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS OF BLAME OR ANGER, AND INSTEAD, USE YOUR INTELLIGENCE TO ACCEPT EMOTIONS.

                 4. SET PEACE OF MIND AS YOUR HIGHEST GOAL, AND THEN RESOLVE TO LET GO OF ANY THOUGHTS OR EMOTIONS THAT DISTURB YOU IN ANY WAY.

                 5. BEGIN TODAY TO READ SOMETHING SPIRITUAL AND UPLIFTING EACH MORNING BEFORE YOU BEGIN YOUR DAY.  THIS HABIT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

                  6. FROM NOW ON, REFUSE TO TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY. ASK YOURSELF HOW MUCH IT WILL MATTER FIVE YEARS FROM OTHERS.

                  7. PRACTIVE THE BUDDIST METHOD OF DETACHMENT FROM MONEY AND MATERIAL THINGS, AND REFUSE TO BECOME UPSET OR WORRIED ABOUT ANYTHING.

PEACE OF YOUR MIND

                                         SELF-DISCIPLINE

                         " MEN ARE ANXIOUS TO IMPROVE THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES, BUT ARE UNIWILLING TO IMPROVE THEMSELVES, THEY THEREFORE REMAIN BOUND. THE MAN WHO DOES NOT SHRINK FROM SELF-CRUCIFIXON CAN NEVER FAIL TO ACCOMPLISH THE OBJECT UPON WHICH HIS HEART IS SET. THIS IS TRUE OF EARTHLY AS OF HEAVENLY THINGS. EVEN THE MAN WHOSE OBJECT IS TO ACQUIRE WEALTH MUST BE PREPARED TO MAKE GREAT PERSONAL SACRIFICES BEFORE HE CAN ACCOMPLISH HIS OBJECT, AND HOW MORE SO HE WHO WOULD REALIZE A STRONG AND WELL-POISED LIFE."

                                                                                                   ---- JAMES ALLEN

                                  YOU REQUIRE HIGH LEVELS OF SELF-DISCIPLINE IF YOU TRULY DESIRE TO DEVELOP ALL YOUR INNER RESOURCES AND FULLFILL YOUR TRUE POTENTIAL. THROUGHOUT THE AGES, IN ALL RELIGIONS AND PHILOSOPHIES THE HIGHEST HUMAN GOOD OR IDEA HAS BEEN PEACE OF MIND. YOUR ABILITY TO ACHIEVE YOUR OWN PEACE OF MIND IS THE TRUE MEASURE OF YOUR SUCCESS AND THE KEY DETERMINE OF YOUR HAPPINESS.

                            TO DEVELOP SPIRITUALLY, AND TO BECOME A FULLY FUNCTIONING PERSON, YOU MUST REGULARLY APPLY SELF-DISCIPLINE AND SELF-CONTROL TO YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND ACTIONS, AND ACTIONS. SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT, INNER PEACE, AND THE EXPERIENCE OF JOY ALL REQUIRE SELF-MASTERY AND SELF-CONTROL.

                                               OUTER VERSUS INNER SUCCESS

                        TO SUCCEED IN THE "OUTER WORLD" YOU MUST DISCIPLINE YOURSELFTO FOCUS AND CONCENTRATE, WORK HART AT YOUR JOB, TAKE CONTINOUS ACTION TOWARD YOUR GOALS, AND BECOME BETTER AND MORE CAPABLE AS YOU MORE ONWARD AND UPWARD IN LIFE.

                         TO SUCCEED IN THE "INNER WORLD", HOWEVER, REQUIRES ALMOST THE OPPOSITE ABILITIES. TO ACHIEVE INNER PEACE, YOU MUST DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO LET GO OF EVERYTHING THAT CAN DISRUPT YOUR SENSE OF INNER PEACE AND CONTENTMENT.

                       ZEN BUDDHISM TEACHES THAT THE MAIN CAUSE OF HUMAN SUFFERING AND UNHAPPINESS IS " ATTACHMENT", PEOPLE BECOME ATTACHED TO IDEAS, OPINIONS, AND MATERIAL THINGS, AND THEN THEY ARE RELUCTANT TO LET GO OF THEM. SOMETIMES PEOPLE BECOME SO PREOCCUPIED WITH THESE EXTERNAL FACTORS THAT IT AFFECTS THEIR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH - EVEN KEEPING THEM AWAKE AT NIGHT.

                      WHEN YOU PRACTICE DETACHMENT, SEPARATING YOURSELF EMOTIONALLY FROM THINGS OR OUTCOMES, THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS INVOLVED STOP AS WELL, LIKE UNPLUGGING A LIGHT FROM THE SOCKET.

                                                    THE NEED TO BE RIGHT

                   MOST PEOPLE HAVE A DEEP DOWN NEED TO BE RIGHT. HOWEVER, WHEN YOU STOP CARING IF YOU ARE RIGHT OR WRONG, ALL THE EMOTIONS SURROUNDING THIS NEED FOR RIGHTNESS DISAPPEAR. DR.GERALD JAMPOLSKY ASKED THE GREAT QUESTION, "DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT, OR DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY?

                   SOME PEOPLE BECOME PASSIONATE ABOUT THEIR POLITICAL OR RELIGIOUS BELIEFS, ALL OF WHICH HAVE BEEN LEARNED FROM SOMEONE ELSE IN SOME WAY. BUT WHEN YOU PUT THOSE BELIEFS ASIDE FOR A WHILE, THEY LOSE THEIR ABILITY TO STIR YOUR EMOTIONS OR TO INFLAME YOUR ANGER.

                    I HAVE FRIEDS AND MEET PEOPLE AND MEET PEOPLED WITH IDEAS AND OPINIONS THAT RANGE ALL OVER THE POLITICAL AND RELIGIOUS SPECTRUMS. IN MOST CASES, WE GET ALONG WELL TOGETHER BECAUSE WE SIMPLY PUT ASIDE THE DELIBERATELY DISCIPLINE OURSELVES TO DETACH FROM THESE IDEAS, WE FOCUS INSTEAD ON SUBJECTS THAT WED AGREE ON AND IN WHICH WE SHARE COMMON INTERESTS.

                                 REFUSE TO BLAME ANYONE FOR ANYTHING

                            THE CHIEF CAUSE OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AND THE PRIMARY DESTROYER OF INNER PEACE IS BLAME. AS I MENTIONED EARLIER IN THE BOOK, IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A NEGATIVE EMOTION WITHOUT HAVING SOMEONE OR SOMETHING TO BLAME IS SOMEWAY OR FOR SOMETHING.

                            BLAME REQUIRES ONE OR BOTH OF TWO FACTORS TO EXIST. THE FIRST IS IDENTIFICATION. THIS OCCURS WHEN YOU TAKE SOMETHING PERSONALLY. YOU IDENTIFY WITH IT. AS SOON AS YOU DECIDE TO FEEL THAT SOMEONE HAS DONE OR SAID SOMETHING NEGATIVE THAT AFFECTS, YOUR PERSONAL INTERESTS IN SOME WAY, YOU IMMEDIATELY BECOME ANGRY AND BLAME THAT PERSON.

                             EVEN IF SOMEONE WHO IS HURRYING TO WORK, COMPLETELY PREOCCUPIED, AND WHO MAY HAVE JUST HAD A FIGHT WITH HIS OR HER SPOUSE ACCIDENTLY CUTS YOU OFF IN TRAFFIC, YOU CAN IMMEDIATELY, BECOME ANGRY AT THAT PERSON, A COMPLETE STRANGER, BECAUSE YOU TOOK HIS DRIVING BEHAVIOR PERSONALLY.

                          BUT WHEN YOU DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO DETACH AND STOP TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY, THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL CHARGE CONNECTED WITH THE PERSON OR INCIDENT STOPS ALMOST IMMEDIATELY. FOR EXAMPLE, WHEN SOMEONE CUTS YOU OFF IN TRAFFIC, YOU CAN DETACH FROM THE SITUATION EMOTIONALLY BY SAYING TO YOURSELF, "OH WELL, HE'S PROBABLY IN A HURRY TO GET TO WORK. MAYBE HE'S LATE".

                                 THE MINUTE YOU SAY THAT TO YOURSELF, ALL NEGATIVITY ASSOCIATED WITH THE EVENT VANISHES AND YOU BECOME CALM, RELAXED, AND POSITIVE ONE MORE.

THE POWER OF LISTENING

 

                      THE DISCIPLINE OF LISTENING

                          LISTEN ATTENTIVELY. THE FIRST DISCIPLINE IS TO LISTEN ATTENTIVELY, WITHOUT INTERUPPTING. LISTEN AS THOUGH THE OTHER PERSON IS ABOUT TO REVEAL A GREAT SECRET OR THE WINNING LOTTERY NUMBER AND YOU WILL HEAR IT ONLY ONCE.

                         WHEN SHE WANTS TO TALK TO YOU, IF YOU ARE A MAN, PUT ASIDE ALL POSSIBLE DISTRACTIONS. TURN OFF THE TELEVISION OR RADIO. PUT DOWN THE NEWSPAPER OR MAIL. FACE HER DIRECTLY, LEAN SLIGHTLY FORWARD, AND CONCENTRATE SINGLE-MINDEDLY ON WHAT SHE IS SAYING.

                        THE BOOK HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS POINTS OUT THAT THE MOST IMPORTANT NEED THAT A WOMAN HAS FROM A MAN IS AFFECTION. AFFECTION IS EXPRESSED BY PAYING TOTAL ATTENTION TO HER WHEN SHE SPEAKS. SINCE YOU ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU MOST VALUE, WHEN YOU PAY CLOSE ATTENTION TO ANOTHER PERSON WHILE SHE SPEAKS, YOU TELL THAT PERSON THAT SHE IS OF GREAT VALUE TO YOU. THIS SATISFIES THE DEEPEST SUBCONSCIOUS NEEDS OF A WOMAN - TO FEEL VALUABLE, IMPORTANT, AND RESPECTED.

                          PAUSE BEFORE REPLYING. THE SECOND DISCIPLINE OF LISTENING IS TO PAUSE BEFORE REPLYING. TAKE A FEW SECONDS TO CAREFULLY CONSIDER WHAT HE OR SHE HAS SAID. WHEN YOU PAUSE, YOU AVOID THE RISK OF INTERUPPTING THE OTHER PERSON IF SHE IS JUST REFORMULATING HER THOUGHTS. YOU TELL THAT YOU VALUE WHAT SHE SAID THAT YOU ARE GIVING HER WORDS CAREFUL CONSIDERATION.

                         ANOTHER ADVANTAGE OF PAUSING, OF ALLOWING A SILENCE IN THE CONVERSATION, IS THAT IT ENABLES YOU TO HEAR NOT ONLY WHAT YOU SAID, BUT ALSO WHAT WAS NOT SAID OR WHAT WAS SAID BETWEEN THE LINES. THE ACTUAL MESSAGE SOAKS INTO A DEEPER LEVEL OF YOUR MIND, ENABLING YOU TO UNDERSTAND BETTER AND TO THEREFORE RESPOND WITH GREATER AWARENESS AND SENSITIVITY.

                    

WHAT YOU THINK YOU WILL BECOME

 

                                   LIFE FOLLOWS YOU

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                   DESTINY IS NO MATTER OF CHANCE. IT IS A MATTER

                   OF CHOICE.

                                                                                   --- VILLIAM JENNINGS BRYAN

                                                                                     UNITED STES POLITICAL LEADER

                        LIFE FOLLOWS YOU. ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING YOU EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE IS A RESULT OF WHAT YOU HAVE GIVEN OUT IN YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS, WHETHER YOU REALIZE YOU HAVE GIVEN THEM OR NOT. LIFE IS NOT HAPPENING TO YOU ... LIFE IS FOLLOWING YOU. YOUR DESTINY IS IN YOUR HANDS. WHATEVER YOU THINK, WHATEVER YOU FEEL, WILL DECIDE YOUR LIFE.

                       EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS PRESENTED TO YOU FOR YOU TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU LOVE ! LIFE IS A CATALOGUE, AND YOU ARE THE ONE WHO CHOOSES THE THINGS YOU LOVE OR ARE YOU TOO BUSY JUDGING AND LABELING THE BAD THINGS? IF YOUR LIFE IS FAR FROM WONDERFUL, THEN YOU'VE INADVERTENTLY BEEN LABELLING ALL THE BAD THINGS. YOU'VE ALLOWED THE THINGS YOU THINK ARE BAD TO DISTRACT YOU FROM THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE. BECAUSE THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE IS NO LOVE! THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE IS JOY. THE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE IS TO CHOOSE THE THINGS YOU LOVE AND TURN AWAY FROM THE THINGS YOU DON'T LOVE SO YOU DON'T CHOOSE THEM.

                                                   CHOOSE WHAT YOU LOVE

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                     WHEN YOU SEE YOUR DREAM CAR GO WHIZZING DOWN THE STREET, LIFE IS PRESENTING THAT CAR TO YOU! HOW YOU FEEL WHEN YOU SEE YOUR DREAM CAR IS EVERYTHING, BECAUSE IF YOU CHOOSE TO FEEL NOTHING BUT LOVE FOR THAT CAR, YOU ARE BRINGING YOUR DREAM CAR TO YOU. BUT IF YOU FEEL ENVY OR JEALOUSY BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE IS DRIVING YOUR DREAM CAR, YOU JUST GONGED YOURSELF OUT OF HAVING YOUR DREAM CAR. LIFE PRESENTED THE CAR TO YOU SO YOU COULD CHOOSE. AND YOU CHOOSE IT, BY FEELING LOVE. DO YOU SEE THAT IT DOESN'T MATTER WHETHER SOMEONE ELSE HAS SOMETHING AND YOU DON'T? LIFE IS PRESENTING EVERYTHING TO YOU, AND IF YOU FEEL LOVE FOR IT, YOU ARE BRINGING THE SAMETHING TO YOU.

                       WHEN YOU SEE A HAPPY COUPLE MADLY IN LOVE, AND YOU DESPERATELY WANT A PARTNER IN YOUR LIFE, LIFE IS PRESENTING THE HAPPY COUPLE TO YOU - FOR YOU TO CHOOSE. BUT IF YOU FEEL SAD OR LONELY WHEN YOU SEE THE HAPPY COUPLE, YOU JUST GAVE OUT NEGATIVITY, AND IN EFFECT SAID, "I WANT TO BE SAD AND LONELY". YOU HAVE TO GIVE LOVE FOR WHAT YOU WANT. IF YOU ARE OVERWEIGHT AND YOU'RE WALKING DOWN THE STREET AND A PERSON WITH A PERFECT BODY PASSES YOU BY, HOW DO YOU FEEL? LIFE IS PRESENTING THE GREAT BODY TO YOU FOR YOU TO CHOOSE, AND SO IF YOU FEEL BAD BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE THAT BODY, YOU JUST SAID, "I DON'T WANT A BODY LIKE THAT, I WANT THE OVERWEIGHT BODY I HAVE". IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING WITH SOME KIND OF DISEASE, AND YOU SURROUNDED BY HEALTHY PEOPLE, HOW DO YOU FEEL? LIFE IS PRESENTING HEALTHY PEOPLE TO YOU SO YOU CAN CHOOSE HEALTH, AND SO WHEN YOU FEEL LOVE FOR THE HEALTH AROUND YOU, MORE THAN YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT A LACK OF HEALTH, YOU ARE CHOOSING HEALTH FOR YOURSELF.

                  WHEN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT ANYTHING ANY PERSON HAS, YOU ARE BRINGING IT TO YOU. WHEN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT THE SUCCESS OF ANOTHER PERSON, THE HAPPINESS OF ANOTHER PERSON, OR ALL THE GOOD THINGS ANYONE ELSE HAS, YOU ARE CHOOSING THOSE THINGS FROM THE CATALOGUE OF LIFE, AND YOU ARE BRINGING THEM TO YOURSELF.

                  IF YOU MEET SOMEONE WHO HAS QUALITIES YOU WISH YOU HAD, LOVE THESE QUALITIES AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT THOSE QUALITIES IN THAT PERSON, AND YOU ARE BRINING THOSE QUALITIES TO YOURSELF. IF SOMEONE IS SMART, BEAUTIFUL, OR TALENTED, LOVE THOSE QUALITIES AND YOU CHOOSE THOSE THINGS FOR YOU!

                  IF YOU WANT TO BECOME A PARENT AND YOU;VE BEEN TRYING FOR A LONG TIME, THEN GIVE LOVE AND FEEL GOOD EVERY SINGLE TIME SEE A PARTNER WITH A CHILD! IF YOU FEEL DEPRESSED WHEN YOU SEE CHILDREN BECAUSE AWAY FROM YOU. LIFE IS PRESENTING CHILDREN TO  YOU EACH TIME SEE THEM, SO YOU CAN CHOOSE.

               WHEN YOU'RE PLAYING A SPORT AND ANOTHER PERSON WINS, WHEN A WORK COLLEAGUE TELLS YOU THEY GOT A PAY RAISE, WHEN SOMEONE WINS THE LOTTERY, WHEN A FRIEND TELLSYOU THAT THEIR SPOUSE GAVE THEM A SURPRISE GIFT OF A WEEKEND AWAY, OR THAT THEY BOUGHT A BEAUTIFUL NEW HOUSE, OR THAT THEIR CHILD WON A SCHOLARSHIP, YOU SHOULD BE AS EXCITED AS THEY ARE. YOU SHOULD BE AS EXCITED AND HAPPY AS THOUGHT IT HAS HAPPENED TO YOU, BECAUSE THEN YOU ARE SAYING YES TO IT, THEN YOU ARE GIVING LOVE TO IT, AND YOU ARE BRINGING IT TO YOU!

                  WHEN YOU SEE YOUR DREAM CAR, A HAPPY COUPLE, THE PERFECT BODY, CHILDREN, GREAT QUALITIES IN A PERSON, OR WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT, IT MEANS YOU ARE ON THE SAME FREQUENCY AS THOSE THINGS! BE EXCITED, BECAUSE YOUR EXCITEMENT IS CHOOSING IT.

                EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS PRESENTING ITSELF TO YOU SO YOU CAN CHOOSE WHAT YOU LOVE AND WHAT YOU DON'T LOVE, BUT ONLY LOVE BRINGS WHAT YOU WANT TO YOU. LIFE'S CATAGUE CONTAINS MANY THINGS YOU DON'T LOVE, SO DON'T CHOOSE THEM BY GIVING BAD FEELINGS. JUDGE ANOTHER PERSON AND THINK THEY'RE BY GIVING BAD, AND YOU BRING NEGATIVITY TO YOU. FEEL ENVIOUS OR JEALOUS OF SOMETHING ANOTHER PERSON HAS, AND YOU BRING NEGATIVITY TO YOU WHILE PUSHING AWAY THE VERY THING YOU WANT WITH A MIGHTY FORCE. ONLY LOVE BRINGS WHAT YOU WANT TO YOU!

               " THIS IS THE MIRACLE THAT HAPPENS EVERY TIME

                 TO THOSE WHO REALLY LOVE, THE MORE THEY GIVE,'

                 THE MORE THEY POSSESS".

                                                                                       ---- RAINER MARIA RILKE

                                                                                          AUTHOR AND POET