UNIVERSE IS ENDLESS

 

                          THE POWER AND CREATION 

                          EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE IS INFINITELY CREATIVE

                          AND THE UNIVERSE IS ENDLESSLY BOUNTIFUL. JUST PUT

                          FORTH A CLEAR ENOUGH REQUEST, AND EVERYTHING YOUR

                          HEART DESIRES MUST COME TO YOU.

                                                                                           ---- SHAKTI GOWAIN

                      IN THESE NEXT CHAPTERS YOU WILL LEARN HOW EASY IT IS TO HARNESS THE FORCE OF LOVE FOR MONEY, HEALTH, CAREER, BUSINESS, AND RELATIONSHIPS. WITH THIS KNOWLEDGE, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE INTO WHATEVER YOU WANT.

                     TO BRING A SPECIFIC DESIRE TO YOU, FOLLOW THE SIMPLE STEPS OF THE CREATION PROCESS. WHETHER IT'S BRINGING SOMETHING YOU WANT TO CHANGE SOMETHING YOU DON'T WANT, THE PROCESS IS ALWAYS THE SAME.

                             THE CREATION PROCESS

                     IMAGINE IT. FEEL IT. RECEIVE IT.

                  ❤   IMAGINE

                   USE YOUR MIND TO FOCUS ON AND IMAGINE WHAT YOU DESIRE. IMAGINE YOURSELF BEING WITH YOUR DESIRE. IMAGINE YOURSELF DOING THINGS WITH YOUR DESIRE. IMAGINE YOURSELF HAVING YOUR DESIRE.

                  YOUR IMAGINATION CONNECTS YOU TO WHAT YOU WANT. YOUR DESIRE AND FEEINGS OF LOVE CREATE THE MAGNETISM, THE MAGNETIC POWER, DRAWING YOUR DESIRE TO YOU. THIS COMPLETES YOUR PAST IN THE CREATION PROCESS.

              ❤     RECEIVE

                       THE FORCE OF LOVE WILL WORK THROUGH THE VISIBLE AND INVISIBLE FORCES OF NATURE TO BRING WHAT YOU DESIRE TO YOU. IT WILL CIRCUMSTANCES, EVENTS, AND PEOPLE TO GIVE WHAT YOU LOVE TO YOU.

                        WHATEVER YOU DESIRE YOU MUST WANT IT WILL ALL YOUR HEART. DESIRE IS LOVE, AND UNLESS YOU HAVE A BURNING DESIRE IN YOUR HEART, YOU WILL NOT HAVE ENOUGH POWER TO HARNESS THE FORCE OF LOVE. YOU MUST REALLY DESIRE WHAT YOU WANT, AS AN ATHLETE DESIRES TO PLAY A SPORT, A DANCER DESIRES TO DANCE, AND A PAINTER DESIRES TO PAINT. YOU MUST WHAT YOIU WANT WITH ALL YOUR HEART BECAUSE DESIRE IS A FEELING OF LOVE, AND YOU MUST GIVE LOVE TO RECEIVE WHAT YOU LOVE!

                      WHATEVER YOU WANT TO BE IN YOUR LIFE, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO IN YOUR LIFE, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO HAVE IN YOUR LIFE, THE CREATION PROCESS IS THE SAME. GIVE LOVE TO RECEIVE LOVE. IMAGINE IT. FEEL IT, RECEIVE IT.

                    WHEN USING THE CREATION PROCESS, IMAGINE AND FEEL THAT YOU HAVE WHAT YOU WANT ALREADY, AND NEVER DEVIATE FROM THAT STATE OF BEING. WHY? BECAUSE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION COPIES WHATEVER YOU GIVE, AND SO YOU MUST IMAGINE AND FEEL HAVING IT NOW!

                    IF YOU WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT, THEN GIVE LOVE BY IMAGINING AND FEELING YOURSELF WITH THE BODY YOU LOVE, INSTEAD OF IMAGINING AND FEELING THAT YOU'VE OVERWEIGHT EVERY SINGLE DAY. IF YOU WANT TO TRAVEL, THEN GIVE LOSE BY IMAGINING AND FEELING YOURSELF TRAVELING, INSTEAD OF IMAGINING EVERY DAY THAT YOU DON'T HAVE THE MONEY TO TRAVEL. IF YOU WANT TO IMPROVE YOURSELF IN A SPORT, ACTING, SINGING, PLAYING A MUSICAL INSTRUMENT, HOBBY, OR IN YOUR JOB, THEN GIVE LOVE FOR WHAT YOU WANT TO BE BY IMAGINING AND FEELING WHATEVER IT IS YOU WOULD LOVE TO BE. IF YOU WANT A BETTER MARRIAGE OR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYBODY, THEN GIVE LOVE BY IMAGINING AND FEELING WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE TO HAVE THAT RELATIONSHIP.

                    FAITH IS TO BELIEVE THAT WHICH YOU DO NOT YET SEE,

                    AND THE REWARD OF THIS FAITH IT TO SEE THAT WHICH

                    YOU BELIEVE.

                                                                      ----SAINT AUGUSTINE HIPPO

                       WHEN YOU BEGIN WORKING WITH THE CREATION PROCESS, YOU MIGHT TO START BY ATTRACTING SOMETHING UNSUAL. WHEN YOU SPECIFICALLY ATTRACT SOMETHING UNUSUAL, YOU WILL BE LEFT IN NO DOUBT ABOUT YOUR POWER WHEN YOU RECEIVE IT.

                     ONE YOUNG WOMAN BEGAN BY CHOOSING TO ATTRACT A SPECIFIC FLOWER, A WHITE CALLA LILY. SHE IMAGINED HOLDING THE FLOWER IN HER HAND, SMELLING THE FLOWER, AND SHE FELT HAVING THAT CALLA LILY. TWO WEEKS LATER SHE WANT TO A FRIEND'S HOUSE FOR DINNER, AND THERE IN THE CENTERPIECE OF THE TABLE WAS A BOUQUET O WHITE CELLA LILIES. THE VERY FLOWER AND COLOR SHE HAD IMAGINED. SHE WAS EXCITED TO SEE THE LILIES. BUT SHE DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING TO HER FRIEND ABOUT HER IMAGINED FLOWER. AS SHE WAS WALKING OUT THE DOOR AT THE END OF THE EVENING, HER FRIEND'S DAUGHTER SPONTANEOUSLY PLUCKED ONE WHITE CALLA LILY FROM THE VASE AND PUT IT IN HER HAND!

                           IMAGINATION IS THE BEGINNING OF CREATION

                           YOU IMAGINE WHAT YOU DESIRE, YOU WILL WHAT YOU

                           IMAGINE, AND AT LAST YOU CREATE WHAT YOU WILL.

                                                                                  --- GEORGE BERMARD JHAW

SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS

 

                                HOW TO BECOME 

                                    SUCCESSFUL BUSINESSMAN

                        YOU ARE YOUR MOST VALUABLE ASSET. YOUR LIFE, YOUR POTENTIAL, AND YOUR POSSIBILITIES ARE THE MOST PRECIOUS THINGS YOU HAVE. THUS YOUR GREAT GOAL IN LIFE SHOULD BE TO FULLFILL THAT POTENTIAL AND BECOME EVERYTHING YOU ARE CAPABLE OF BECOMING.

                          YOUR ABILITY TO LEARN, GROW, AND FULLFILL YOUR POTENTIALIS UNLIMITED. TODAY, PEOPLE ARE GRADUATING FROM HIGH SCHOOL AND COLLEGE IN THEIR SEVENTIES, LEARNING NEW SUBJECTS AND DEVELOPING NEW CAPABILITIES. YOUR ABILITY TO LEARN AND REMEMBER CAN CONTINUE THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE IF YOU KEEP YOUR BRAIN ALIVE, THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE IF YOU KEEP YOUR BRAIN ALIVE, AND FUNCTIONING AT ITS BEST.

                   YOUR MOST PRECIOUS FINANCIAL ASSET IS YOUR EARNING ABILITY. YOUR ABILITY TO WORK IS YOUR PRIMARY SOURCE OF CASH THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE. YOU COULD LOSE YOUR HOME, YOUR CAR, YOUR BANK ACCOUNT, AND EVERYTHING YOU OWN, BUT AS LONG AS YOU HAVE YOUR EARNING ABILITY, YOU EARN IT ALL BACK- AND MORE - IN THE MONTHS AND YEARS AHEAD.

                          YOUR BIGGEST INVESTMENT

                          MOST PEOPLE DON'T REALIZES THIS. THEY TAKE THEIR EARNING ABILITY FOR GRANTED. BUT IT HAS TAKEN YOU YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO DEVELOP YOUR EARNING ABILITY. EVERY BIT OF EDUCATION, EXPERIENCE, AND HARD WORK THAT YOU HAVE INVESTED IN LEARNING YOUR CRAFT AND DEVELOPING YOUR SKILLS HAS GONE INTO BUILDING THIS ASSET.

                      YOUR EARNING ABILITY IS VERY MUCH LIKE A MUSCLE. IT CAN INCREASE IN STRENGTH AND POWER YEAR BY YEAR AS THE RESULT OF REGULAR EXERCISE. LIKEWISE, THE OPPOSITE ABILITY, LIKE YOUR MUSCLES, CAN BECOME WEAKER OR EVEN DECLINE BECAUSE YOU HAVE SIMPLY FAILED TO UPGRADE IT CONTINUALLY.

                  IN OTHER WORDS, YOUR EARNING ABILITY CAN BE EITHER AN APPRECIATING OR A DEPRECIATING ASSET. AN APPRECIATING ASSET IS SOMETHING THAT GROWS IN VALUE AND CASH FLOW EVERY YEAR AS THE RESULT OF CONTINUAL INVESTMENT AND IMPROVMENT. A DEPRECIATING ASSET, ON THE OTHER HAND, IS SOMETHING THAT LOSES VALUE OVER TIME AND FINALLY REACHES THE POINT AT WHICH IT IS "WRITTEN OFF" BEING OF LITTLE OR ON FURTHER VALUE. THE CHOICES IS YOURS AS TO WHETHER YOUR EARNING ABILITY IS INCREASING OR DECREASING MONTH BY MONTH AND YEAR BY YEAR.

                              YOU ARE THE PRESIDENT

                           SEE YOURSELF AS THE PRESIDENT OF YOUR OWN "PERSONAL SERVICES CORPORATION". IMAGINE THAT YOU WERE GOING TO TAKE YOUR COMPANY PUBLIC ON THE STOCK MARKET. WOULD YOU RECOMMEND YOUR COMPANY AS A GROWTH STOCK, CONTINUALLY INCREASING ITS VALUE AND EARNING ABILITY EACH YEAR?

                          OR WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR COMPANY AS ONE THAT HAS LEVELED OFF IN THE MARKET PLACE, THAT IS NOT REALLY GOING ANYWHERE IN TERMS OF INCREASED VALUE AND INCOME? WOULD YOU RECOMMEND STOCK IN "YOU, INC." AS AN EXCELLENT INVESTMENT? WHY OR WHY NOT?

                                WHAT GOT YOU HAVE 

                           WON'T GET YOU ANY FURTHER

                        SOME PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY VALUE EACH YEAR, DECLINING IN EARNING ABILITY, BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CONTINUALLY UPGRADING THEIR KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS. THEY DON'T REALIZE THAT WHATEVER KNOWLEDGE AND SKILL THEY HAVE TODAY IS RAPIDLY BECOMING OBSOLUTE. IT IS BEING REPLACED BY NEW KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS THAT, IF YOU DON'T HAVE THEM AND SOMEONE ELSE DOES, YOU WILL BE IN DANGER OF BEING OVER TAKEN BY YOUR COMPETITION.

SUCCESS POINT FOR YOUR LIFE

 

                             DECISION MAKING IDEAS

               1. MAKE A DECISION TODAY THAT YOU ARE GOING TO BECOME ONE OF THE TOP 20 PERCENT OF PEOPLE IN YOUR COMPANY AND YOUR INDUSTRY. WHAT SHOULD YOU OR COULD YOU DO DIFFERENTLY?

               2. MAKE A LIST OF EVERYTHING YOU DO IN YOUR JOB AND THEN IDENTIFY THE THREE TASKS THAT CONTRIBUTE THE GREATEST VALUE TO YOUR WORK ANC COMPANY.

               3. SET A NEW WORK SCHEDULE FOR YOURSELF AND BEGIN TO START EARLIER, WORK HARDER, AND STAY LATER UNTIL IT BECOMES A HABIT.

                4. IDENTIFY THE MOST IMPORTANT RESULTS YOU ARE EXPECTED TO ACHIEVE IN YOUR JOB, AND THEN WORK ON THOSE RESUTLS ALL DAY LONG.

                5. DETERMINE TODAY THAT, FROM NOW ON, YOU ARE GOING TO ACTUALLY WORK ALL THE TIME YOU ARE AT WORK AND THAT YOU ARE GOING TO DEVELOP THE REPUTATION FOR BEING THE HARDEST WORKING PERSON IN YOUR COMPANY.

                 6. DECIDE TODAY THAT, FROM NOW ON, YOU ARE GOING TO ACTUALLY WORK ALL THE TIME YOU ARE AT WORK AND THAT YOU ARE GOING TO DEVELOP THE REPUTATION FOR BEING THE HARDEST WORKING PERSON IN YOUR COMPANY.

                 7. DETERMINE THE PERSON WHO IS THE BEST DRESSED AND GROOMED IN YOUR COMPANY, AND THEN RESOLVE TO USE HIM/HER AS A ROLE MODEL FOR YOUR OWN APPEARANCE.

                 8. DEVELOP A SENSE OF URGENCY. RESOLVE TO MOVE FAST WHEN YOU ARE GIVEN A JOB OR OPPORTUNITY. THIS CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

                 9. IDENTIFY ONE AREA IN YOUR LIFE IN WHICH YOU NEED TO PERSIST EVEN HARDER TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL, AND THEN TAKE ACTION IN THAT AREA.

                10. IDENTIFY A GOAL IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU DID NOT ACCOMPLISH BECAUSE YOU FAILED TO PERIST THROUGH TO COMPLETION. WHAT STEPS COULD YOU  TAKE TODAY TO SUCCEED IN THAT AREA?

                11. IDENTIFY ONE BIG GOAL IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU DID NOT ACCOMPLISH BECAUSE YOU FAILED TO PERSIST THROUGH TO COMPLETION. WHAT STEPS COULD YOU TAKE TODAY TO SUCCEED IN THAT AREA?

                  12. IDENTIFY YOUR THREE BIGGEST FEARS IN LIFE, RIGHT NOW. WHAT ARE THEY?

                 13. DETERMINE WHAT YOU WOULD DO IN EACH OF THESE SITUATIONS IF YOU WERE GUARANTEED OF COMPLETE SUCCESS. WHAT ACTIONS WOULD YOU TAKE?

                  14. WHAT HAVE YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO DO BUT BEEN AFRAID TO ATTEMPT? WHAT WOULD YOU DO DIFFERENTLY IF YOU WERE GUARANTEED SUCCESS?

                  15. IN WHAT THREE AREAS OF LIFE AND WORK DO YOU MOST EXPERIENCE THE FEARS OF FAILURE AND LOSS? WHAT STEPS COULD YOU TAKE IMMEDIATELY TO CONFRONT AND ELIMINATE THOSE FEARS?

                   16. IN WHAT THREE AREAS OF LIFE DO YOU MOST EXPERIENCE THE FEARS CONFRONT THESE FEARS ADN OVERCOME THEM?

                    17. WHAT ONE GREAT GOAL WOULD YOU SET FOR YOURSELF IF YOU KNEW YOU COULD NOT FAIL?

                     18. WHAT WOULD DO DIFFERENTLY IN LIFE IF YOU HAD 20 MILLION IN THE BANK, BUT ONLY TEN YEARS LEFT TO LIVE?

                           MOVE TOWARD THE FEAR

                         WHEN YOU IDENTIFY A FEAR AND DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO MOVE TOWARD IT, IT GROWS SMALLER AND MORE MANAGEABLE. WHAT'S MORE, AS YOUR FEARS GROW SMALLER, YOUR CONFIDENCE GROWS. SOON, YOUR FEARS LOSE THEIR CONTROL OVER YOU.

                       IN CONTRAST, WHEN YOU BACK AWAY FROM A FEAR-INDUCING SITUATION OR PERSON, YOUR FEAR GROWS LARGER AND LARGER. SOON IT DOMINATES YOUR THINKING AND FEELING, PREOCCUPIES YOU DURING THE DAY, AND OFTEN KEEPS YOU AWAKE AT NIGHT.

THE GOAL BE ONE HUNDRED

 

               

                                             YOUR GOAL

                              YOUR GOAL IN LIFE SHOULD BE TO ENJOY THE HIGHEST LEVELS OF HEALTH AND ENERGY POSSIBLE. THIS REQUIRES THAT YOU EAT THE RIGHT FOODS AND FEWER OF THEM. IT REQUIRES THATYOU GET REGULAR EXERCISE AND MOVE ENJOY JOINT OF BODY EVERY SINGLE DAY.

                               TO ENJOY SUPERB PHYSICAL HEALTH, YOU MUST GET LOTS OF REST AND RECREATION. ABOVE ALL, YOU MUST MAINTAIN A POSSITIVE  MENTAL ATTITUDE IN WHICH YOU LOOK FOR THE GOOD IN EVERY SITUATION AND REMAIN DETERMINED TO BE A COMPLETELY POSITIVE PERSON.

                            IN EACH OF THESE AREAS, THE EXERTION OF SELF-DISCIPLINE AND WILLPOWER WILL GIVE YOU PAYOFF THAT ARE FAR BEYOND THE EFFORT THAT YOU PUT PUT IN. YOU CAN LIVE LONGER AND BETTER THAN YOU EVER IMAGINED POSSIBLE. CHAPTER 17 PROVIDES EVEN MORE IDEAS, SPECIALLY FOCUSED ON EXERCISE AND BECOMING PHYSICALLY FIT.

                                    ACTION EXERCISE 

                  1. IDEALIZE WITH REGARD TO YOUR HEALTH. IF YOU COULD WAVE A MAGIC WAND AND MAKE  YOUR HEALTH  PERFECT IN EVERY WAY, HOW WOULD IT BE DIFFERENT FROM TODAY?

                 2. RESOLVE TO MAKE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE THE BEST OF YOUR LIFE. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD CHARGE OR DO?

                 3. GET A COMPLETE MEDICAL EXAMINATION AND ASK YOUR DOCTOR FOR ADVICE ON HOW TO ENJOY SUPERB LEVELS OF PHYSICAL HEALTH. THEN FOLLOW THAT ADVICE.

                 4. DETERMINE YOUR IDEAL WEIGHT AND SET IT AS A GOAL.  USE THE GOAL-SETTING PROCESS YOU LEARNED IN CHAPTER 4 TO MAKE A PLAN TO ACHIEVE IT AND KEEP IT THERE FOR LIFE.

                 5. USE MINDSTORMING (DESCRIBED IN CHAPTER 4) AND WRITE OUT A LIST OF AT LEAST TWENTY ANSWERS TO THE QUESTIONS, WHAT CAN I DO EVERY DAY TO ENJOY SUPERB LEVELS OF HEALTH AND ENERGY?

                6. REVIEW THE HEALTH HABITS AND RESERCH DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAPTER AND GIVE YOURSELF A GRADE RANGING FROM ONE TO TEN ON HOW WELL YOU ARE PRACTICING THEM.

                7. DECIDE ON ONE SPECIFIC ACTION THAT YOU ARE GOING TO TAKE IMMEDIATELY TO ENSURE THAT YOU LIVE TO BE AGE EIGHTY, NINETY, AND BEYOND.

                GET YOUR WEIGHT UNDER CONTROL

                       THE BIGGEST SINGLE PROBLEM WITH SELF-DISCIPLINE THAT PEOPLE HAVE TODAY IS OVEREATING AND BECOMING OVERWEIGHT. MORE THAN 60 PERCENT OF AMERICANS ARE OFFICIALLY OVERWEIGHT, AND MORE THAN 30 PERCENT ARE OBESE, WHICH IS DEFINED AS BEING MORE THAN 30 PERCENT ABOVE THEIR NORMAL WEIGHT. THERE IS NO AREA IN WHICH SELF-DISCIPLINE IS MORE NECESSARY THAN IN GETTING YOUR WEIGHT UNDER CONTROL AND THEN KEEPING IT UNDER CONTROL FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

                     YOU HAVE HEARD IT SAID THAT  "DIET DON'T WORK. WHAT THIS REALLY MEANS IS THAT WHEN YOU STARVE YOURSELF TO LOSE WEIGHT, YOU WILL TEND TO PUT THE WEIGHT BACK ON ALMOST AS QUICKLY AS YOU LOST IT. THERE ARE MANY REASONS FOR THIS. 

                     EACH PERSON HAS A CERTAIN METABOLIC RATE. THIS  IS THE RATE AT WHICH YOU BURN ENERGY. THIS METABOLIC RATE IS SET  OVER THE COURSE OF YOUR LIFETIME BY THE AMOUNT OF EXERCISE YOU DO TO WORK IT OFF.

                    IN ADDITION TO YOUR METABOLIC RATE, YOU HAVE WHAT IS CALLED A "SET POINT". THIS IS WHERE YOUR WEIGHT IS SET, LIKE A THERMOSTAT, AND TO WHICH IT RETURNS NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TAKE OFF AS THE RESULT OF CRASH DIETING.

THE ATTITUDE

 

                                    RESPONSIBILITY

                       IF WE THINK FOR ANY REASON THAT OTHERS ARE BETTER THAN US, WE UNCONSCIOUSLY ASSUME THAT WE MUST BE WORSE THAN THEY ARE. IF THEY ARE "WORTH MORE" THAN WE ARE, WE ASSUME THAT WE MUST BE "WORTH LESS". THIS FEELING OF INADEQUENCY OR WORTHLESSNESS LIES AT THE ROOT OF MOST PERSONALITY PROBLEMS IN OUR LIVES AS WELL AS MOST POLITICAL AND SOCIAL PROBLEMS IN OUR WORLD, BOTH NATIONALLY AND INTERNATIONALLY.

                    TO ESCAPE FROM THESE FEELINGS OF GUILT AND WORTHLESSNESS THAT HAVE BEEN INSTILLED IN US AS THE RESULT OF DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM IN CHILDHOOD, WE LASH OUT AT OUR WORLD, OTHER PEOPLE, AND SITUATIONS. IN ANY PART OF OUR LIFE WITH WHICH WE ARE UNHAPPY OR DISCONTENTED, OUR FIRST REACTION IS TO LOOK AROUND AND ASK, "WHO'S TO BLAME?

                   MOST RELIGIONS TEACH THE CONCEPT OF SIN, WHICH STATES THAT WHENEVER SOMETHING GOAS WRONG, SOMEONE IS TO BLAME. SOMEONE HAS DONE SOMETHING BAD. SOMEONE IS GUILTY. SOMEONE MUST BE PUNISHED. THIS WHOLE IDEA OF GUILT PUNISHMENT LEADS TO EVER-INCREASING FEELINGS OF ANGER, RESENTMENT, AND IRRESPONSIBILITY.

                   AN ATTITUDE OF IRRESPONSIBILITY

                       OUR COURTS TODAY ARE CLOGGED WITH THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE DEMANDING REDRESS AND PAYMENT FOR SOMETHING THAT WENT WRONG IN THEIR LIVES. BACKED UP BY AMBITIOUS PLAINTIFF LAWYERS, PEOPLE GO TO COURT DEMANDING COMPENSATION, EVEN IF THEY THEMSELVES ARE COMPLETELY AT FAULT FOR WHAT HAPPENED - ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE AT FAULT.

                    PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY. PEOPLE SPILL HOT COFFEE ON THEMSELVES AND SURE THE FAST FOOD RESTAURANT THAT SOLD THEM THE COFFEE IN THE FIRST PLACE. PEOPLE GET DRUNK AND DRIVE OFF THE ROAD AND THEN TURN AROUND AND SURE THE MANUFACTURER OF THE FIFTEEN-YEAR -OLD CAR THEY WERE DRIVING. PEOPLE CLIMP UP ON A STEPLADDER AND LEAN OVER TOO FAR, FALLING TO THE GROUND. THEY THEN SUE THE LADDER MANUFACTURER FOR THEIR UNJURY. IN EACH CASE, PEOPLE ARE ATTEMPTING TO ESCAPE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN BEHAVIOURS BY BLAMING SOMEONE ELSE, MAKING EXCUSES, AND THEN DEMANDING COMPENSATION.

                   ELIMINATING NEGATIVED EMOTIONS

                  THE COMMON DENOMINATOR OF ALL PEOPLE IS THE DESIRE TO BE HAPPY. IN ITS SIMPLEST TERMS, HAPPINESS ARISES FROM THE ABSENCE OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. WHERE THERE ARE NO NEGATIVE EMOTIONS, ALL THAT IS LEFT IS POSITIVE EMOTIONS. THEREFORE, THE ELIMINATION OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS IS YOUR GREAT BUSINESS IN LIFE IF YOU TRULY WISH TO BE HAPPY.

                THERE ARE DOZENS OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. ALTHOUGH THE MOST COMMON ARE GUILT, RESENTMENT, ENVY, JEALOUSY, FEAR, AND HOSTILITY, THEY ALL ULTIMATELY BOIL DOWN TO A FEELING OF ANGER, DIRECTED EITHER INWARD OR OUTWARD.

                ANGER IS DIRECTED INWARDLY WHEN YOU BOTTLE IT UP RATHER THAN EXPRESSING IT CONSTRUCTIVELY TO OTHERS. ANGER IS DIRECTED OUTWARDLY WHEN YOU CRITICIZE OR ATTACK OTHER PEOPLE.

                             PSYCHOSOMATIC ILLNESS

                    NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE THE MAJOR CAUSES OF PSYCHOSOMATIC ILLNESS. THIS OCCURS WHEN THE MIND (PSYCHO) MAKES THE BODY (SOMA) SICK. NEGATIVE EMOTIONS, ESPECIALLY AS EXPRESSED IN THE FORM OF ANGER, WEAKEN, YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM SYSTEM AND MAKE YOU SUSCEPTIBLE TO COLDS, FLU, AND OTHER DISEASES. UNCONTROLLED BURSTS OF ANGER CAN ACTUALLY BRING ABOUT HEART ATTACKS, STROKES, AND NERVOUS BREAKDOWNS.

                   HERE IS THE GREAT DISCOVERY; ALL NEGATIVE EMOTIONS, ESPECIALLY, ANGER, DEPEND FOR THEIR VERY EXISTENCE ON YOUR ABILITY TO BLAME SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE FOR SOMETHING IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU ARE NOT HAPPY ABOUT.

                 IT TAKES TREMENDOUS SELF-DISCIPLINE FOR YOU TO ACCEPT COMPETE RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERYTHING YOU ARE, EVERYTHING YOU BECOME,AND EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO YOU. EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT DIRECTLY RESPONSIBLE FOR SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS, LIKE HURRINCANE  KATRINA, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR RESPONSES, FOR WHAT YOU DO AND SAY FROM THAT MOMENT FORWARD. IT TAKES TREMENDOUS SELF-MASTERY FOR YOU TO TAKE COMPLETE CONTROL OF YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND AND DELIBERATELY CHOOSE TO THINK POSITIVE, CONTRUCTIVE THOUGHTS THAT ENHANCE YOUR LIFE AND IMPROVE THE QUALITY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND RESULTS. BUT THE PAYOFF IS TREMENDOUS.

PROBLEM SOLVING TIPS

 

                                    THE METHOD TO 

                               SOVLE YOUR PROBLEMS

                      THOUGHTS ARE CAUSES AND CONDITION ARE EFFECTS. THEREFORE, THE QUALITY OF YOUR THINKING LARGELY DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE. THE GREATEST MENTAL PRINCIPLES IS THAT "YOU BECOME WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT MOST OF THE TIME".

                        TOP PEOPLE IN EVERY FIELD ARE INTENSIVELY SOLUTION ORIENTED. THEY THINK ABOUT SOLUTIONS MOST OF THE TIME, INSTEAD OF GETTING BOGGED DOWN IN WHO DID OR DIDN'T DO SOMETHING OR OTHER, THE MOST SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE IN EVERY FIELD CONCENTRATE ON THE SOLUTIONS AND WHAT CAN BE DONE TO SOLVE THE PROBLEMS.

                         THE SUFI PHILOSOPHER IZRHAT KHAN ONCE SAID, "LIFE IS A CONTINOUS SUCCESSION OF PROBLEMS, LIKE WAVES FROM THE OCEAN. THEY NEVER STOP. THIS MEANS THAT YOUR ABILITY TO PRACTICE SELF-DISCIPLINE, SELF-MASTERY, AND SELF-CONTROL WHEN FACED WITH THE NEVER-ENDING FLOW OF PROBLEMS, DIFFICULTIES, SETBACKS, AND TEMPORARY FAILURES YOU WILL EXPERIENCE IS ESSENTIAL TO YOUR SUCCESS IN BUSINESS AND IN LIFE.

                                THE TONS OF PROBLEMS

                     THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE, YOU WILL FACE A RIVER OF PROBLEMS PHYSICAL, FINANCIAL, FAMILY, BUSINESS, AND POLITICAL. THE ONLY BREAK IN THIS NEVER-ENDING CHAIN OF PROBLEMS WILL BE THE OCCASIONAL CRISIS. IF YOU ARE LIVING A NORMAL LIFE, YOU WILL PROBABLY EXPERIENCE A CRISIS EVERY TWO OR THREE MONTHS. AND IT IS IN THESE CRISES THAT YOU TRULY DEMONSTRATE THE QUALITY OF YOUR PERSONALITY AND THE STRENGTH OF YOUR CHARACTER.

                     IT IS ONLY WHEN YOU FACE UNEXPECTED REVERSALS AND SETBACKS THAT YOU SHOW THE WORLD WHAT YOU ARE TRULY MADE OF. ALL OF LIFE IS A "TEST". THE ONLY QUESTION FOR YOU IS DO THE PASS OR FAIL?

                      BY THEIR VERY NICE, CRISES COME "UNBIDDEN". YOU HAVE NO WARNING OR ABILITY TO ANTICIPATE THEM IN ADVANCE. IF YOU DID, IT WOULDN'T BE A CRISIS IN THE FIRST PLACE- OBVIOUSLY OR YOU WOULD ALREADY BE PREPARED. WHEN THE INEVITABLE CRISIS OCCURS, MORE THAN AT ANY OTHER TIME, SELF DISCIPLINE IS REQUIRED  SO YOU CAN REMAIN CALM AND CLEAR HEADED IN ORDER TO DEAL WITH THE CRISIS EFFECTIVELY.

                  THE DETERMINANT OF YOUR SUCCESS

                       IN YOUR WORK, YOUR PROBLEM-SOLVING ABILITY LARGELY DETERMINES EVERYTHING YOU ACCOMPLISH. PEOPLE WHO ARE GOOD AT SOLVING PROBLEMS ARE SOME OF THE MOST VALUABLE AND RESPECTED PEOPLE IN EVERY AREA. FOR THIS REASON, SUCCESS HAS BEEN DEFINED AS "THE ABILITY TO SOLVE PROBLEMS". THIS ALSO MEANS THAT HAPPINESS ISTHE ABILITY TO SOLVE PROBLEMS. LEADERSHIP IS TEH ABILITY TO SOLVE PROBLEMS.

                     WHEN YOU PRACTICE SELF-DISCIPLINE AND SELF-CONTROL IN FACE OF THE INEVITABLE AND UNAVAITABLE PROBLEMS AND CRISES OF DAY-TO-DAY LIFE, YOU BECOME MORE COMPETENT AND EFFECTIVE IN EVERYTHING YOU DO. YOU WILL BE RESPECTED AND ESTEEMED BY EVERYONE AROUND YOU. YOU WILL EXPERIENCE A TREMENDOUS FEELING OF PERSONAL POWER AND COMPETENCE. IN NO TIME AT ALL, YOU WILL BECOME ONE OF THE MOST VALUABLE PEOPLE IN YOUR ORAGANIZATION.

                                  ACTION EXERCISES

              1. SOLVE PROBLEMS IS LIKE SOLVING MATHEMATICAL EQUATIONS. IT IS LEARNABLE WITH PRACTICE AND REPETITION. START BY DETERMINING THE BIGGEST PROBLEMS FACING YOU TODAY.

              2. ACCEPT COMPETE RESPONSIBILITY FOR SOLVING THE PROBLEMS YOU ENCOUNTER IN YOUR DAILY WORK, AND THEN THINK ABOUT THE SOLUTIONS.

              3. DEFINE YOUR BIGGESTOR PERSONAL PROBLEM CLEARLY. WRITE IT DOWN. WHAT EXACTLY IS THE PROBLEM?

               4. WHY IS THIS A PROBLEM? COULD IT BE A OPPORTUNITY IN DISGUISE? IF SO, WHAT OPPORTUNITY OR LESSON COULD THIS PROBLEM CONTAIN?

               5. WHAT ELSE IS THE PROBLEM? PERHAPS THE REAL PROBLEM IS SOMETHING ELSE, SOMETHING YOU MIGHT NOT WANT TO FACE?

                6. WHAT ARE THE POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS? WHAT ELSE COULD BE A SOLUTION?

                7. SELECT THE BEST SOLUTION THAT IS AVAILABLE TO YOU RIGHT NOW, AND TAKE ACTION IMMEDIATELY.

LEADERSHIP

 

                 

                      SELF-DISCIPLINE AND LEADERSHIP

                         "NOTHING IS MORE HARMFUL TO THE SERVICE

              THEN THE NEGLECT OF DISCIPLINE, FOR IT IS DISCIPLINE MORE THAN

                           NUMBERS THAT GIVES ONE ARMY SUPERIORITY OVER ANOTHER".

                                                                                                       -----GEORGE WASHINGTON

                   LEADERSHIP AND SELF-DISCIPLINE GO HAND IN HAND. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO IMAGINE AN EFFECTIVE LEADER WHO LACKS SELF-DISCIPLINE, WILLPOWER, SELF-CONTROL, AND SELF-MASTERY, THE OVERARCHING CHARATERISTIC OF A LEADER IS THAT HE IS IN COMPLETE CONTROL OF HIMSELF AND OF EVERY SITUATION.

                   THERE HAS SELDOM BEEN A TIME IN HISTORY WHEN LEADERS WERE SO NEEDED AND SO MUCH IN DEMAND AS TODAY.  WE NEED LEADERS AT EVERY OF SOCIETY, BOTH IN THE PROFIT AND NONPROFIT SECTORS. WE NEED LEADERS IN OUR FAMILIES, BUSINESS, PLACES OF WORSHIP, COMMUNITY ORGANIZATIONS, AND, ESPECIALLY, POLITICS. WE NEED MEN AND WOMEN WHO TAKE THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES SERIOUSLY AND ARE WILLING TO STEP FORWARD TO TAKE COMMAND OF THE SITUATION.

                  FORTUNATELY, LEADERSHIP IS LEARNABLE. LEADERS NOT DEVELOPED - USUALLY SELF-DEVELOPED - OVER TIME THROUGH HARD WORK, EXPERIENCE, AND TRAINING. AS PETER DRUCKER ARE SO FEW OF THEM, THAT THEY MAKE NO DIFFERENCE IN THE GREAT SCHEME OF THINGS".

                    FOUR STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT

                      IN YOUR CAREER IN BUSINESS, YOU PROGRESS THROUGH FOUR LEVELS OF ACTIVITY AND ATTAINMENT. FIRST, YOU START OFF AS AN EMPLOYEE, WITH LIMITED KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE. THEN, AS YOU GROW, LEARN, AND DEVELOP THE ABILITY TO GET RESULTS, YOU EVOLVE UPWARD AND BECOME A SUPERVISOR, WITH RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE PERFORMANCE AND RESULTS OF OTHER PEOPLE.

                   AS YOU CONTINUE TO MOVE UP THE SCALE OF SUPERVISION, IMPROVING YOUR ABILITY TO GET THINGS DONE THROUGH OTHERS FROM DIRECTLY OVERSEEING THE WORK OF EMPLOYEES, YOU BECOME A MANAGER, SOMEONE WHO ASSIGNS WORK TO PEOPLE WITH DEMONSTRATED COMPETENCE IN CERTAIN AREAS. MANAGERS HAVE A LARGER VIEW, AND THIS COMESWITH GREATER RESPONSIBILITIES.

                AS YOU MOVE UP THE SCALE OF MANAGEMENT, BECOMING MORE KNOWLEDGE AND EFFECTIVE AND GETTING MORE AND BETTER RESULTS FROM MORE AND DIFFERENT PEOPLE, YOU REACH THE HIGHEST LEVEL, THAT OF A LEADER. AT THIS STAGE, YOU ARE RESPOSIBLE FOR DETERMINING WHAT IS TO BE DONE RATHER THAN HOW IT IS TO BE DONE.

                 IT IS SAID THAT "SOME LEADERS ARE MADE, SOME ARE BORN, AND SOME PEOPLE HAVE LEADERSHIP THRUST UPON THEM".

                  LEADERS EMERGE OR ARE PROMOTEDTO DEAL WITH A SITUATION REQUIRING LEADERSHIP ABILITY. IN ITS SIMPLEST TERMS, THE ROLE OF THE LEADER IS TO "TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR RESULTS".

                  THE PRIMARY REASO THAT PEOPLE ARE PROMOTED INTO INCREASINGLY HIGHER LEVELS OF LEADERSHIP IS THAT THEY DEMONSTATE THE ABILITY TO GET THE REQUIRED RESULTS AT EACH LEVELS.

                THE ONGOING QUESTION OF THE LEADER IS ALWAYS. WHAT RESULTS ARE EXPECTED OF ME? CLARITY IS ESSENTIAL.

               THE MAIN REASON THAT SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT PROMOTED  INTO GREATER LEADERSHIP POSITION - OR PERHAPS THEY ARE EVEN FIRED - IS BECAUSE  OF FAILURE TO EXECUTIVE". THEY DO NOT DO THE MOST IMPORTANT JOBS EXPECTED OF THEM, DO THEY GET THE RESULTS DEMANDED OF THEM.

                                LEADERS HAVE VISION

                        THE FIRST QUALITY OF LEADERSHIP, BASED ON 3,300 STUDIES OF LEADERS DONE BY JAMES MACPHERSON, IS THE QUALITYOF VISION. LEADERS HAVE VISION. THEY HAVE THE ABILITY TO PROJECT FORWARD INTO THE FURNITURE AND DEVELOP A CLEAR PICTURE OF WHERE THEY WANT THEIR ORGANIZATIONS TO GO. THEY THEN HAVE THE ABILITY TO SHARE THIS VISION WITH OTHERS AND GAIN OTHER'S COMMITMENT TO MAKE THIS VISION A REALITY.

                    YOU BECOME A LEADER WHEN YOU ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR RESULTS. YOU BECOME A LEADER WHEN YOU BEGIN TO THINK, ACT, AND TALK LIKE A LEADER. YOU BECOM A LEADER WHEN YOU DEVELOP A VISION FOR YOURSELF AND FOR YOUR COMPANY, YOUR LIFE, OR YOUR AREA OF RESPONSIBILITY.

                  THERE ARE HUNDREDS OF BOOKS WRITTEN ABOUT LEADERSHIP AND THE IMPORTANCE OF VISION. YET THEY CAN BE BOILED DOWN TO A SINGLE PRINCIPLE. A MILITARY LEADER HAS A VISION OF VICTORY, FROM WHICH HE NEVER DEVIATES. A BUSINESS LEADER HAS A VISION OF SUCCESS FOR THE BUSINESS BASED ON EXCELLENT PERFORMANCE, TO WHICH HE OR SHE IS COMPLETELY COMMITTED.